There are certain rules that govern the affairs of any successful marriage. These rules or laws can be applied by any person. That is why someone who is not a Christian can have a good marriage if she/he applies these rules. That is the secret of some of our old parents who despite all, kept their marriage.
Wisdom such as
* When angry don’t talk.
* Calm down and don’t overreact
* When one person is angry the other person should try and keep calm
* A soft response always saves the day.
* Good food is the way to a man’s heart
All these are natural wisdom but have their root in biblical truths.
Let’s check out two of these biblical facts and truth.
This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
Gal 5:16 [KJV]
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
Rom 8:1
It is actually in the marriage that you can practice walking in the spirit the most. That’s why it is said that marriage is for the spiritual and the matured.
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When we say you should be spiritual, it is for your good and for the good of your marriage.
Man has no original thoughts. Every thought is either from the devil or from God. When you are spiritually minded, you mind the things that pertain to God.
If you are carnally minded, you mind the things that pertain to the flesh. So you walk in the flesh when you give mind to the thoughts of the flesh.
For example, your flesh wants to curse, fume, and fight back when you are abused and pushed to the wall. Your flesh wants to fight to finish and have to last word.
Whereas, when you are spiritually minded and led by the spirit of God and yield to the dictates of the spirit, you want to do things that are contrary to what your flesh wants you to do.
It is actually wise to be controlled and allow yourself to be influenced by the Holy Spirit. When the Holy Spirit dictates to us how to live and we yield to Him, we experience peace and joy. He makes all things work together for our good.
When the Holy Spirit leads us to pray instead of talking back in anger, when he tells us to smile back at our spouses’ rude response, when we find the strength to labor out of love and not out of annoyance etc then God can work on our behalf to give us a miracle in our home and marriages
May God give us the strength to always yield and listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit in our marriages.
God bless our marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I walk in the spirit and so I do not walk according to the dictates of my flesh
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to continually follow after your voice in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
To enjoy rest means to be peaceful on all sides, having everything falling in the right places. My children have rest.
But now the Lord my God has given me rest on every side, so that there is neither adversary nor evil confronting me.
1kings 5:4 [AMP]
To enjoy rest, one must be at the center of God’s will, that is, living righteously. Enjoying rest also means, sickness and diseases are far away from us.
See what the scriptures says somewhere else.
And ye shall serve the LORD your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee.
Exodus 23:25[KJV]
Rest also means to be physically refreshed.
Even Jesus rested immediately after creation.
And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made.
Genesis 2:2 [KJV]
We should always pray that our children will enjoy rest in every area of their lives and that no adversary or evil will confront them, in Jesus’ name; Amen
PRAYER: Lord, help me to rest when I should.
ACTION PLAN: Decide to take adequate rest today.
DECLARATION: My children enjoy all round rest. No sickness is found in or around them.
Everybody reading this, including myself would have done some foolish things in time past, so nobody is really exempt and this is not to condemn or indict anybody.
Every man has his share of mistakes, but the wisdom in past foolishness is learning from them and adjusting accordingly. So the pertinent question this morning is, “Am I doing something foolish presently unknowingly? Have I been entangled in the web of foolishness without knowing?”
It is important to take an inventory of yourself because the foolishness of the foolish does not allow him to identify his foolishness, he sometimes thinks, the wise are the foolish ones!
Sometimes, you need the help of another to be able to see your foolishness because foolishness blinds.
In Matt. 23:17, 19, Luk.11:40 and Luk. 24:25, Jesus actually referred to some people as fools.
So, who is a foolish man? Who will God call a foolish man or woman? Let’s learn a few things from Solomon, a once wisest man on the planet. We cannot exhaust all but here are a few.
1. A foolish lover despises wisdom and instruction
The reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord is the beginning and the principal and choice part of knowledge [its starting point and its essence]; but fools despise skillful and godly Wisdom, instruction, and discipline.
Pro 1:7 AMP
A wise man knows that the starting point of life is to be a God worshipper and a lover of God. He is apt to want to learn the things of God. A foolish man on the other hand will not appreciate or value wisdom.
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2. A foolish person makes fun of God and dislikes knowledge
“How long will you childish people love your childish ways? How long will you rude people enjoy making fun of God and others? How long will you foolish people hate knowledge?
Pro 1:22 NIrV
A foolish man laughs at the things and ways of God. He practically hates knowledge. He never reads any books. He or she prefers to spend time jesting, watching films lazily, and such things rather than seeking to improve himself.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I do not do things foolishly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me wisdom for living.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 1:7 [NET]Fearing the Lordis the beginningof moral knowledge, butfoolsdespisewisdom and instruction.
Yes, you’ve got to celebrate yourself on your way to becoming better. God thinks you are a big deal, so don’t let the devil suggest to you otherwise.
You are very special to God and He loves you so much. Stop focusing on your failures and shortcomings. God understands our frail humanity. He knows our daily struggle against sin and the devil.
God says we should confess and repent of our sins and He will forgive us and remember them no more. He will blot out our sins and it will be like we never committed any sin.
That is good news. No matter how bad we may have been, God forgives and gives us another chance until we get it. God never gives up on us, instead, He celebrates us.
We should learn to enjoy the love, goodness, and mercy of God. A songwriter calls it the ‘overwhelming, never-ending love, reckless love of God. God’s love is so extravagant and reckless.
He pours His love and His power to forgive us in a reckless manner. We should take time to celebrate this love because we are the object of His love. In all of creation, He chose us as the focus of His love.
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Celebrate your victories no matter how little they are. Learn to pause and thank God because He has a plan for your life. He is taking you somewhere glorious and He is not done with you.
As you celebrate yourself, it becomes easy for you to celebrate your spouse and what God is doing in their lives as well.
All of us are a work in progress. God does not make failures and so we are sure we are not going to fail.
As you trust God to become better and to move on to maturity in the things of God, celebrate yourself and give thanks to God. This attitude of celebration is needed to keep us going.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate myself and my spouse and keep rejoicing.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me focus on what you are doing in my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 139:14[NKJV]I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Look for ten things to celebrate in your life
One thing we can equate the growth of our children to is that of a garden. My Children are as a well nurtured garden.
The bible tells us that;
May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace;
Psalms 144:12 (ESV)
A well-nurtured garden is always pleasant to look at or to relax in, but no one will desire to stay in an untidy garden. A garden is not left all by itself to be well nurtured, it takes a conscious effort.
Likewise, for our children, we must work towards nurturing them by teaching them the word of God, praying for them, and believing in God to become what he has created them to be.
We should always pray that our children will be strong and straight and pointed toward heaven. Not dwarfed by bad habits or foolish choices, not choked out by the weeds of the world, but they will be of visible character who stands alone, strong enough to withstand the storms of life.
Also pray that God grants them visible strength, godly character, and the beauty of full development.
Prayer: Oh Lord, cause my children to be as healthy as a well-nurtured garden; Amen
Action plan: Read and study more of God’s word
Declaration: My children are blessed to flourish at an early age so that they bring forth the good fruit of godly character.
Somebody said the most complex being that God created is a woman. I am not sure whether to agree to that. I leave you to conclude and be the judge. Perhaps, people will have different opinions based on their experiences.
I believe every lady has a key. And you don’t need to search for the keys of every woman. You only need one key, the one for your spouse! That’s all.
Once you have that key, you are good. Now, this key is not meant to be used to manipulate her emotions, where you become the master puppeteer with all the strings.
What we are talking about is having your fiancee’s password, learning it, using it to please her, and seeking to understand the great help that God is bringing into your life.
Our culture or environment might be saying you are doing a woman a favour when you marry her, but it is the other way round.
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When you find a woman, you find good and you bring favour into your life. Good things will begin to aggregate in your life!
That is why I normally pray for people, “You will not Shi-Marry! Bad English, good prayer! Because when you get married to the right woman, good things will happen to you. Conversely, if you get married to the wrong woman, it is like inviting a nemesis into one’s life!
May your path not cross with a strange woman who flatters with her mouth and whose path leads to hell. That is exactly what the scripture says!
It will do you well to understand the lady in your life, whether you are single or married.
Here are two things every lady wants her man to do daily.
1. Pray for or with her daily
That is very important. Thank God for your six-packs, but without some spiritual perks, you are finished.
Thank God for your phonetics, but if you don’t know how to speak in tongues, you are not ready to face the battles that come with raising a family and overcoming them.
Thank God for your bank account, but if you are spiritually bankrupt and you don’t know how to lead your family as a priest, trouble looms ahead.
2. Tell her “I love you” regularly, and mean it!
How can this be on the list? Well, that is very important to every lady. Women go through a variety of complex emotions that are often accompanied by self esteem issues, they just needed to be affirmed over and over again especially by the one they love!
Don’t allow people outside to help you complement your loved one outside lest she becomes distracted. How long do I have to do that daily? Well, maybe as often as you can. Do it as often as you have the opportunity.
Your fiancee lives on words. That is why average, women talk more than men. An average man speaks ten thousand words daily while an average woman is doing twenty-five thousand! Isn’t that huge?
She loves to be tickled with words. She might be acting like she is not enjoying it, but in reality she is. She is putting up that attitude because she wants more.
So when you tell your lady “I love you,” She goes like, hmmm…as if she is doubting you. In reality, within her, she doesn’t want you to stop and she wants you to repeat it again.
Let me pray for you this morning: I come against that wrong spirit in your relationship, I curse the spirit behind misunderstanding, quarrels, bitterness and acrimony. I destroy their powers in the name of Jesus. I release over you the balm of Gilead and I ask for healing over every hurt and wounds in the name of Jesus.
By the strength of my call, I ask that the love of God be shed abroad in your heart right now, I command every veil to be removed and I speak healing over your relationship/marriage in Jesus name! I declare you are free from that attack in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will love my spouse in God’s terms
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to end all issues leading to constant strife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground.” (1Pe 3:7, MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read, comment, and share today’s devotional.
Most of the time, we get so much information that we do not care to be grounded in what we think we know and sometimes, head knowledge is different from real knowledge. You don’t know something until you are doing it.
So please don’t get itching ears as the Bible says for just what’s new. Let’s take time to be grounded and think about what I am writing about.
We have looked at
1. Know your spouse’s temperament
2. Don’t take each other for granted.
We will look at:
3. Don’t waste your energy being overly angry at your spouse.
We all get angry at our spouses. Our spouses do things we consider childish, silly, stupid, annoying, disobedient, etc, but please don’t fuss over any matter for so long.
The Bible told us to be angry but not to sin. Let the sun not go down on your anger.
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Eph 4:26
When we have these negative emotions, they do more harm than good. We are to forgive our spouse and not allow a root of bitterness.
Don’t let us dwell on the negative things they do. If not we give place to the devil and we will allow unforgiveness, hatred, suspicions, malice, wrath, etc
Anger in marriage weakens our bonds in marriage. We all can testify to the time we were angry at our spouses and would not talk to them. Sometimes, we are even on the same bed but wouldn’t talk to each other.
You may feel justifiable but you know what, little demons are rejoicing and having a nice time in your home and marriage. If this is not controlled on time, it may lead to some other negative effects.
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Take time to think about what we are angry about. Really some of the time, it is not worth it. We want to get rid of as many negative emotions as possible from our lives.
Be angry if you must be but please get over it on time and move on to becoming a better person with a good attitude. After all, we are all a work in progress.
May God grant us more understanding.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY We root out negative emotions from our marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me, Lord to extend Mercy to my spouse in forgiveness
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Forgive your spouse on time and don’t be angry
My children Are untouchable! This is still part of the blessing recorded in Deuteronomy chapter 28. It is good we know the promises of God.
When we know the promises of God, it becomes easier for us to claim these promises for ourselves and our children.
Then everyone on earth will know that you belong to the LORD, and they will be afraid of you.
Deut 28:10 CEV
This is a promise of protection, that our children are untouchable.
When our children love the Lord, they become untouchable to the world.
Prayer: Pray that your children become untouchable. Amen
Action point: Read the promise again and again till it stays.
Declaration: My children are protected, saved and secured because the Lord takes care of them. The people of the earth are afraid of them because they belong to the Lord.
When you are in love with one that beats you and then sleeps with you and you are not yet married, you don’t need to pray. You just need to pack your things and leave that guy or lady alone! A lady can also abuse a guy in some extreme cases, not really beating with her hands, but with her money!
You don’t even need counseling, you just need common sense!
But Pastor, it is not easy! Okay, so it is easy to be beaten daily? And then be seen as a sex toy to satisfy the lust and the cravings of a depraved person who will not eventually marry you?
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“Oh Pastor, he is actually a nice person! It’s just that he has anger issues” Really? So who says you are the recipient of the anger tantrums whose cause you know nothing about? All in the name of love? Nah! It is not so from the beginning! God never meant for any of us to find ourselves in some abusive, manipulative, and basest of all lust! That is not love!
Why subject yourself to such harrowing experiences? Common, free yourself as a bird and flee away! That is why God gave you legs! Run! Run run! There is fire on the mountain and that fire burns!
Go and wait for God’s plan for your life rather than trying to create a plan for yourself!
Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped.
Psa 124:7 (KJV)
You can only pray in this scenario if you are already married because God’s first option is not always to divorce! And if the abuse continues unrepentantly to the point your life is threatened, then you have a decision to make.
I pray for you this morning and every area of your life where you need to make a decision in other to please God, God will strengthen you in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to run away from
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your relationship in light of the above.
We started yesterday on this topic and we have looked at
1. Know your spouses temperament:
This will reduce a lot of tension, hurt and frustrations in marriage.
Today, we will be looking at
2. Don’t take yourselves for granted.
Our needs differ from each other. Part of the reasons we married was for companionship. We have to be gentle and patient when dealing with each other.
We must take time off our busy schedule to be with each other. Just sit around your spouse and talk.
Talking could be therapeutic and prevent certain bodily ailments. Before any issue gets out of hands, we should have talked about it.
Let nothing mean more than our spouses. Some have valued business, office projects, friends, money, party etc more than our spouse.
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Every other thing we achieve and do, the wealth we amass and the associate or business partner we get will all leave us, but the one person who will faithfully stay with us is our spouse.
Let us all build long lasting and strong relationship of love, respect and understanding. It is going to take hard work on our part but on the long run it will be worth it.
Take time to know the state of your spouse. Some people just sleep and wake up together, they don’t know their spouse, their challenges or what is going on with them.
If and when our relationship with our spouse is good and cordial, God will ensure that we prosper. The Holy Spirit will grant us the wisdom and give us divine connections to prosper us.
God help us all as we make efforts to meet each other’s needs.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am becoming more loving and caring to my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me, Lord to take time out to love my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Think of ways you could be more loving
4. When you are in love with your Pastor who is married
This one may sound ridiculous, but trust me, it happens every day, I am a counselor!
A lot of ladies fall in love easily with their pastor because he is anointed and they listen to him every time. It is so easy to fall in love with your pastor, but when a Pastor who is married has fallen in love with you as well, it is better and wise to leave that church as soon as possible, because if you don’t, you will ruin yourselves!
By the time he is making advances at you, you should find another church! There is a difference between a hireling and a pastor! Don’t bother to pray that God should work it out! Are you praying that God should kill the Pastor’s wife?
If you have been sexually involved or manipulated by your pastor, leave that church. He might be a prophet or an apostle, if you are sleeping together, leave that church and leave that man!
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You say he is a spiritual father, he is married and yet sleeping with you? He is not a spiritual father; he is a spiritual nemesis! Run away! Avoid him!
Don’t bother praying. It is like both of you are sitting on a bomb, and it is better to disappear from that church! Don’t waste your time asking for His will. His will is clear, disconnect from such a relationship so that you will not delay yourself in your marital journey!
He is never going to leave his wife as he is promising you. All those lies are manipulations to keep you down in the sexual adventure.
At such scenarios, you don’t deceive yourself, you tell yourself the truth so that the truth can set you free.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to avoid in life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your relationship in light of the above and mark out those to avoid.
So many times our marriage is not what we would have wanted it to be.
Most of us have childhood dreams of a wonderful family, loving and understanding spouse, a beautiful peace to live in and everything rosy.
In our imagination of marriage and family life, we never dreamt or thought of hardship, lack, quarrels, arguments and problems. We sometimes think to ourselves, ‘I never bargained for this in marriage’.
God never promised us that life (marriage inclusive) was going to be a smooth ride. He only promised us ‘he will be with us’. He said ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’ Heb 13:5
He has promised us all that we need to weather the storm. He promised wisdom, Grace, peace, His word, the blood of Christ etc. But we have to make up our minds to use all these.
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Here are few helpful hints you can use as a married couple
1. Know your spouses temperament.
I will suggest every couple read about temperaments. Know what your temperament is and endeavor to know your spouse temperament is.
You cannot run away from who you are. You can only improve on it and become spirit controlled temperament.
I remember reading TimLahaye, it literally changed the way I saw myself and my husband. I know why I behave the way I do and I know why my husband behave the way he does. Knowing your temperaments, you can now work on improving yourself.
Joyce Meyer put it like this, “we are all a work in progress and we can enjoy our lives and marriage on our way to becoming a better you”
I will continue tomorrow by God’s Grace. God bless our home and marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am becoming a better me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Give me understanding oh Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Hebrews 13:5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
Yesterday, we talked about knowing God and walking with Him. Today we will be talking about PRAYER. You should learn how to engage the force of prayer.
Jeremiah 29:12 [ESV] Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you.
Prayer is an art of communication. That means, you are talking to God and God will also talk to you.
Children, learn to talk to God about anything and everything. He listens and will also talk back to you.
We receive solutions to issues when we pray. Miracles happen when we pray.
Children, learn to pray to God always.
Rather than complain, pray. Instead of worrying, pray. Instead of grumbling, pray.
We have a prayer answering God, isn’t that awesome?
Prayer for the day: My children will engage the force of prayer in Jesus name. Amen
Action point: Pray about everything.
Declaration: My children learn to pray to God always.
2. When you are in love with a married man or woman
If you have found yourself to have fallen in love with a married person, it will be good for you to also try and rise out of that love as soon as possible. It just would not work!
Oh, Pastor, it is just that married people are more mature in their thinking and know how to take care of someone. Is that all? What about the heartache and the agony a side chick will cause the rightful owner of the man? What about the unnecessary warfare emanating from the rightful owner that would be entered into?
When you are involved with a married person, chances are that you will soon be sexually involved, and that simply translates to adultery. It is graduation into unimaginable afflictions both for the man and the woman involved.
God will never answer those prayers when the prayer is indirectly saying that a person’s marriage should crash so that you can have your way! Adultery is a stupid sin because one loses at the end!
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
(Proverbs 6:32 KJV)
Here is the Message translation, which I like most
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;
3. When you are in love with an unbeliever
When you have fallen in love with an unbeliever, it is better you run away from such a person.
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It directly violates the principles of God and it is not just going to work out. Ok, you can say you will convert him later, but you are not the Holy Spirit. It is the Holy Spirit that convicts.
You can say, he is so caring, he is this and that…but when the chips are down, an unbeliever is capable of doing anything because he is under an influence.
Everybody you see on earth is under an influence, and it can either be positive or negative! The reason you find it difficult to leave such people is that you have been sexually involved.
A soul tie has been established and it should be broken in the name of Jesus.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage. I receive the strength to run away from every wrong relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to run away from
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your thought pattern in light of the above and run away where necessary.
We must have heard someone telling us to mind our business. We have always thought it to mean focusing our attention on our own business. Well, there is more to this than just focusing on your own business.
I will like to give attention to engaging our minds in unleashing the unlimited power embedded in our minds. I once read a caption many years ago that read, ‘The mind is a terrible thing to waste’. This caption is very true and we need to find ways of putting our minds to help us in achieving our expected goals as it relates to our marriage.
Our minds seats our thoughts, and our thoughts have a lot to do with the outcome of our marriage. No matter how loving your spouse is and how much they are trying their best to make you happy, your thoughts can work against you.
The difference between what you are experiencing now and what you desire to see in your relationship is in the way you have been using your mind.
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Check out the kind of conversations you have with yourself. What is your monologue like?
If you have thoughts like ‘I will never be happy in this marriage’, ‘ My spouse does not understand me’, I will end up heart-broken”, we can never be happy together, ‘I am trying so hard to please him/her but we are so different’, and so on, such thoughts will never make you enjoy the bliss of marriage.
You have to replace these thoughts of defeat with that of winning and victory. Be intentional about living. Focus and reprogram your mind to have that marriage of your dreams. Focus on a specific vision, be committed to it, pursue it, and be resolute because it is achievable.
Purposeful living is engaging your mind to live intentionally in your marriage.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will give attention to my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for Grace to ‘mind your marriage.’
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 12:2 [KJV]And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your thought pattern in light of the above.
There is ‘how to know God More.’ In one of the past devotionals, we talked about having confidence in God because, with Him, our glorious future is secured.
We should seek to know God more, pleasing Him in all ways.
Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you.
Jeremiah 29:12 ESV
If you want to know God more, you should always do the following;
Read and meditate
2. Pray
3. Confess the Word of God
4. Obey
Reading and meditating on God’s word involves you always asking the Holy Spirit to teach you and grant you understanding through the word of God.
When you do this, the light of God will fill your heart.
This is because we receive revelation and instructions when we read God’s word.
God gave each of us a brain so that He can rest. There are some things you should not pray about. There are people you should not fall in love with and in case you do, the only reasonable thing for you to do is to disconnect from them.
Don’t bother praying that God should approve your decision, which is clearly at loggerheads with His principles. God will not answer such prayers because He will not contradict His word.
Here are the scenarios that don’t need prayers or fasting. Don’t waste your time on them.
1. When you are in love with more than one person at a time
There is nothing as confusing and as unwise than to fall in love with more than one person at a time! The person involved will be disoriented, defocused, and disorganized.
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You will become deceptive in order to cover up. Then you will need to tell more lies in order to cover up the cover-ups!
God has not called you to this kind of lifestyle, and there is no way God will answer you when you start praying in such state of heart.
The first thing to do is to disconnect from both or all of them because, in reality, it could be one of the people you have fallen in love with or NONE of them!
But when you are asking God to approve what you have decided, something is wrong with that process and it doesn’t work that way! God is never mocked.
In the same way, married people are to focus on their spouse only and not direct their love to anybody aside from their spouses.
The main focus and intention of God for marriage is that the couple bond. Bonding is a strong word and we need to take note of it.
The whole essence of marriage is that the husband and wife bond together, spirit, soul and body.
That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.
Gen 2:24 CEV
Bonding is both a spiritual act and a process.
It is God that takes care of the spiritual aspect. The process aspect of bonding is our responsibility to fulfill.
Both the husband and wife have various and different role to achieving bonding – a state of becoming one flesh, as a person.
I will like to mention 3 secret that helps us in becoming one flesh continuously.
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1. Proximity 2. Jeru trip 3. Food
1. Proximity If bonding and one flesh is to be achieved, then couples will have to be close to each other. The first step to bonding is ‘leaving to cleave’. There must be a physical cleaving. Husband and wife should be close to each other.
Every opportunity to be together should be maximized. Couple need to fight against whatever might want to keep them separate.
Some jobs are anti marriage. They don’t value or respect your marriage vows.
You have to make choices and honor what God honors. Some promotions and transfer should be rejected and God will honor us for choosing God rather than wealth or riches or the worlds standard.
My mum had opportunity to travel out for a nursing job, but she refused. She said she would rather stay with her young family than leave us vulnerable and exposed.
Thank God for her sacrifice then, we are a product of her sacrifice.
As couples, we have to pay the price for proximity.
There are some transfer or staying apart that are very necessary. You must be willing to make sacrifices and go the extra mile to ensure you are close. (Just be led by God’s Spirit.)
You must be willing to spend more money on calling each other everyday, do video calls.
Some couples are near yet far from each other. Be on the same page with your husband. Don’t take each other for granted. It is a continuous working to keep both husband and wife together.
Let our aim in our marriage be ‘to become one flesh’ and the Lord will help us in Jesus name.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I become one flesh with my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me understanding to take this up as my priority above all else.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 2:24 CEV That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to work at being close with each other.
Learning to treat people well is very important. Do you like to be shoved away, kicked, punched, pinched, teased, mocked, bullied, and lied at? These are just some terrible things that can happen to you.
Other children or even adults can do these wicked things to you just because they can or they think you deserve it. How would you feel? Really ask yourself this question.
On the other hand, you could be the one doing these same unfair acts to other children. Maybe in collaboration with other children, you could be bullying a classmate who has bushy eyebrows. You could mock them with a name like “the bush”, “bushbrows”, “bushy” or any other name you think is cool. Do you think they would like that? Really ask yourself this.
You definitely won’t like to be on the receiving part and shouldn’t do that to another person. They also won’t like it. If you won’t like it, they most likely won’t like it too.
Jesus condemned treating people wrongly and told those around him to not do so. He was teaching them to value others with respect, love, and care.
“And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.”
Luke 6:31
He was saying that you should treat others the way you want to be treated. If you want to be treated well, treat people well. That’s the right thing to do.
May you receive the strength to treat people well. Amen
Prayer: Lord Jesus, I obey your command and will treat everyone well. Strengthen me for this task. Amen.
Action point: You can start by apologizing to the people you have treated badly in the past. Then begin to treat other people well.
