Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love. Love comes with heartbreaks Marital crashes often occur on the high road of romance and love. ! There are those moments when the eyes are red, and the tears flow endlessly and you just couldn’t be consoled enough.
For singles, it could be those times of rejection, when the one you love walks away or you are even the one who needed to walk away. Either way, walking away is not always a pleasant experience.
It could be those times you suddenly feel betrayed when you discover that the one you have been loving all your life is loving another!
It could be those times when you feel neglected and it seems nobody is looking your way. All the guys seemed blind, and they can’t see you unless for those who wanted a ride!
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love
For the married, it could be those times when all your expectations have been disappointed and what you see in marriage is far from what you think it should be.
It could be those times when you feel misunderstood and your spouse isn’t lifting a finger to understand your feelings.
It could be those times when you are so deeply hurt that it reaches to the bone and marrows when the one you love and trust has broken your trust, caught red-handed frolicking with the opposite sex.
Or it could just be any of the days when there are no stars in the sky, and the moody mushy thing envelopes you and you don’t want to talk to anybody including GOD.
It could be times of going through a midlife crisis when all the cruises are gone and all that is left are crashes.
In any of those sad unhappy times, what do you do?
Sing. Rejoice. Dance. Jubilate!
What?
Isa 54:1 (KJV) Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the LORD.
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love
That is what you do. Do the opposite of what your flesh wants. And then, in an incredible turn of events, you will see God’s intervention and justice system in that situation and you will have victory and rejoice at the last.
Do not grumble. Do not get bitter. Do not fight back.
Leave all the fights to God.
Rom 12:19 (MSG) Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.”
And when you do this, get ready to rejoice, because there is a REJOICING after the rejoicing.
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions. Here are some distinctions between singles and married that will communicate some wisdom to you.
1. The single person is just simply “selfish”
They think of themselves and no other. However, once married, they have to move from that point of “self” to “us’ for the marriage to be successful.
The singles have to train themselves to be selfless, to think of the other people around them, and learn to show some empathy and care because that is what marriage is all about.
In marriage, it’s all about pleasing one another. After pleasing God, the next person you want to please is your spouse!
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions
2. The singles are to stay away from pre-marital sex.
After the wedding, the couple is licensed to have sex. Even if they wanted it ten times a day, the angels will be clapping for them. But for singles involved in pre-marital sex, the angels will flap their wings and escape so that their eyes will not behold evil. Lol.
However what do we have, we are admonishing singles to wait and not be sexually involved, while we are begging married couples to have sex!
This is simply the ploy of the devil. While single, it looks like sex is the ultimate. Not really. Food is even more important than sex. You can’t do without food for a year, but I lived without sex for twenty-seven years. The very first time was after my wedding!
What about those who are already sexually active? Don’t beat yourself hard. Return to God. Let God help you and teach you how to put your body under. You must discipline your body and not respond to lust because a wedding doesn’t solve the lust problem! That is why some married folk cheat on each other!
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions
3. Use your season wisely.
As singles, you have all the time in the world to pray, so use that season of your life wisely. As couples, you are not going to have as much time, however the advantage you will have is the power of agreement. You will be able to join hands together and move mountains.
And this is also why you must avoid strife and quarrels like a plague so that you can properly harness the power of agreement.
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love. A true genuine love doesn’t just want to get, it wants to give!
Let’s go even further. A true love doesn’t want to give to get, it just wants to give!
There are men who will give just anything and yet it won’t still be true love!
There are men who will fund girls and yet would refuse to pay their children’s school fees, and yet it is not true love! That is just giving to get and at the height of it, it is still manipulative and unhealthy!
True love is sacrificial. True love wants the best for their lover. They don’t want them hurt in any way. They won’t violate them to fulfill the rush of their adrenaline.
True love considers their partner. True love wants the other person to be happy and joyful.
True love is not a user. True love is not manipulative or controlling.
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love
In marriage, true love wants their spouse to be happy and joyful. True love wants to please their spouse all the time.
True love will never cheat on their spouse! They love their spouse too much to desecrate their marital covenant or jeopardize their precious union.
True love wants the best for one another. Even when there are some quarrels or disagreements, it’s all resolved quickly because true love can’t successfully stay away emotionally from their lover for too long.
True love forgives quickly and rapidly because camaraderie, intimacy, loving communication, and romantic collaboration is priority!
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love
True love is not interested to the point of pursuing another person. True love is focused.
True love believes in the best and prays the best into one another.
True love looks out for one another, solving problems for one another and doing things that make them happy!
True love has the fear of God. The fear of God under guards true love and supplies the strength needed to do the needful and avoid the harmful.
Misconceptions in Relationships and Marriages. It is no secret that there have been numerous misconceptions surrounding relationships and marriages in recent years. These misconceptions have led many astray and caused irreparable damage to relationships. In this devotional, we seek to shed light on some of these misconceptions and correct them with the truth of God’s word.
1. Judging a Person by Their Sexual Performance
One of the most common misconceptions is that a person’s sexual performance is a reliable indicator of their character. This is not only false but also degrading. It reduces a person to the level of a prostitute.
In reality, there are numerous variables that one should consider when determining a person’s character. These variables may include integrity, vision, life principles, and so on. It is essential to evaluate a person as a whole rather than zeroing in on just one aspect of their physical life. Doing so can lead to a complete misconception of who that person truly is.
In marriage, young couples should understand that sex gets better with time. Older wine tastes better. So do not quickly conclude that your spouse is boring in bed. The Bible tells us the Holy Spirit teaches us all things, and that does not exclude the bedroom.
Misconceptions in Relationships and Marriages
2. Pre-Marital Sex as a Means of Securing a Relationship
Another misconception is that engaging in pre-marital sex is a way of consummating a relationship before marriage. However, this is nothing but a compromise. The moment you compromise, you reduce the chances of your getting married because you are no longer going to have God’s support and favor.
God has a standard, and compromising it is not an option. Everyone may be doing it, but it doesn’t make it right. You should not base your resolve to live a righteous life on the people around you but on your faith in God’s word.
Married couples should go beyond bedroom intimacy to 24/7 intimacy, Try non-sexual touches and communicate to your spouse that you want their person and not just the sex.
3. Once is Enough
Another misconception is the belief that engaging in pre-marital sex just once is okay. This is not true, and it is a dangerous mindset to have. Beyond the physical aspect, there is a spiritual influence that keeps you tangled and looking for more.
Once is bad enough, and people don’t die twice. A demonic influence only needs once! This negative spiritual influence can only be truncated by the anointing of God and the renewal of your mind in God’s word. However, note that if you make a mistake, God will forgive you!
Married couples should enjoy themselves and not allow persistent quarrels to tear them apart.
Misconceptions in Relationships and Marriages
4. Your Body is Not Collateral
Your body is not collateral for a relationship or marriage. Giving in to a partner’s desire to secure a relationship is a terrible idea. It is wise to do things God’s way; otherwise, you will keep securing what will never work at the end of the day. The problem is that you keep securing until there is nothing left to secure!
Married couples, your body does not belong to you after the wedding! Take note!
1 Corinthians 7:4 (TPT) Neither the husband nor the wife have exclusive rights to their own bodies, but those rights are to be surrendered to the other.
Sade is head over heels in love with Andy. They were both excited about getting married. But she has reservations in her heart. She had no idea what to do with her doubts.
George and Sandy are having an affair. Sandy is gorgeous to him, but he has this nagging feeling that something isn’t quite right.
Betty and Buddy have gotten married. They had a son, and everyone thought their marriage was beautiful, but they are beginning to wonder if they are destined for each other.
This morning, I want to talk about doubts in marriage. What are you going to do about your doubts?
Conquering Doubts In Your Love Life
When do questions arise in a relationship or marriage? These are some examples.
1 When a connection is not of God and God is attempting to draw your focus to Himself.
2 When a relationship is of God, but the devil wishes to mislead you in order for you to miss God’s will.
3 When your marriage expectations are unrealistic and your expectations are not satisfied.
4 When you engage in sexual sins, turmoil enters the soul because God’s order has been broken. Unless you swiftly ask God for forgiveness and then truly repent, the adversary will take advantage of the circumstance and cause misunderstanding.
5 When you have a distorted view of life and marriage, you will have questions about a relationship or marriage, even if it is God’s purpose.
6 When you begin a relationship or enter into a marriage without first seeking God’s guidance.
7 When the only thing you did before entering a relationship or marriage was seek some prophet or advice without a personal inner conviction.
8 When you start a relationship or get married as an escape from what you’ve recently been through.
9 When every authority figure in your life is opposed to your relationships and marriage. Doubts will occur along the road.
10 When major obstacles emerge and you are unable to handle them appropriately, you will begin to doubt.
Conquering Doubts In Your Love Life
The next question is whether or not doubt can be entirely eradicated.
The answer is emphatically NO! You see, you are still in your flesh, and doubts will try to enter your heart, but once you have heard God, you can simply eliminate the doubt!
Do you remember Jesus Christ? When the agony of what was to come overtook him in the Garden of Gethsemane, doubts began to creep in.
The second issue is, what can I do to avoid doubts?
1 Never take a step until you are certain it is God’s will.
When doubts occur, you will be able to immediately identify the source and deal with it. You will recognize that uncertainty is attempting to pull you away from God’s will, and you will oppose it.
However, when you are doubtful if it was God or not in the first place, and when doubts occur along the way, you are confused about how to address them since inner conviction is lacking.
2. Don’t be too hasty. Don’t fall in love rashly.
3 Listen to all authoritative figures in your life, including pastors, parents, mentors, and so on.
4 Learn to read and study God’s word on a regular basis.
It provides you wisdom, which helps to balance your soul.
