Continued from yesterday. You can read Part 2 HERE
Make sure he knows God. Make sure he loves God. Make sure his priorities are that of the Lord. That way, you will serve God gladly and not be persecuted all the days of your marriage.
You really don’t want to get married to someone who tells you after your wedding that you should try out a threesome! You really don’t want to get married to a man who says he loves it in the anal.
That is out rightly demonic and as a wife, you don’t have to risk your health and life! Seek counsel and don’t die in silence! You really don’t want to get married to a man who brings out ropes and other sadistic objects and says he doesn’t really feel it until he ties you up!
For those who are already married and are caught in this thicket of obeying God and disobeying him or obeying him and disobeying God, thereby kicking against the pricks, I want to offer a piece of advice.
First of all, the scripture says you should submit to your own husband. So we see right away that it is wrong for you to listen to one man, maybe your boss, against your husband.
You are to submit to your own husband, not another woman’s husband. Your boss is another woman’s husband.
So when he is making advances at you, you are to gladly and boldly disobey him. You don’t try to keep a job and then lose your joy!
Then the next thing is that you are to submit as unto the Lord.
What does that mean?
Let’s take a look at other translations.
Wives understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. – Ephesians 5:22 (MSG)
Whatever will not show your support for God should not be done.
You should politely, “submissively” refuse anything that will violate your conscience, that will set you against your maker and that will give access to the hordes of hell to plummet your destiny!
For example, he asks you to follow him to a herbalist. That is a direct affront between the kingdom of light and darkness. You are probably the last hope of that family and the last ounce of strength the children are looking up to, so you refuse! If you “submit” to such, it would not be as unto the Lord, and that might put the whole family in eternal danger.
So, what do you do in such cases?
You seek counsel. You pray in the Spirit. You keep walking in love and refuse to enter into strife.
If you do this, you will eventually have the victory and your husband will respect you more for this because he will realize it later. But if you listen to him, he will blame you when he realizes his mistakes; he will blame you for not stopping him from plunging the whole family into regrettable depths!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, lead me to that person you have designed for me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Wives understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. – Ephesians 5:22 (MSG)
We started this topic a few on the things that the husband will want his wife to do for him days back. We looked at
1. Lovingly ask your husband what his present needs are and how you can meet them.
Today we will look at
2. Be ready to offer him help.
I know some women could be saying, I need help also let him help himself, is he a baby?
And yes, it could be overwhelming. When you work at a job, care for the house, the children, go to the market, do the laundry sometimes, there seems to be no time to take care of yourself, let alone help him out.
I always tell people, God is asking you to be everything. He is asking to be all that is needed par time with the strength He supplies.
This help could be as simple as being a good listener, who offered support.
There is capacity inside every woman to function as a helper. This is an unselfish role. You must be willing to the embassy this role and put on the garment of a helper.
Remember: you want to be a wife that will be celebrated, whose rewards will be obvious to all.
3. Pray for you husband
Some people believe that when you pray you are being fanatical. Well, try functioning without oxygen and see how far you can go. It’s almost impossible.
You pray not only because you have a problem. Develop a relationship with the Father. In that case you learn to talk with Him about everything, especially about your husband.
Pray for his protection in this evil world. Pray for his job. You can make use a daily praying guide.
Remember, when you are praying for your husband, you are praying for yourself.
4. Submission is a vital part of the deal
The word submission have been abused and it’s intention has been reduced to merely that of the lord and servant.
Submission and love go hand in hand. A wife that is loved, will definitely be submitted.
The role of a woman viz a viz that of a man requires her to be submissive.
She is not inferior to her husband, but positionally, she occupies the second position.
For any woman or wife to make the home and marriage worthwhile, she has to be submissive to her own husband.
5. Respect him.
There is no husband who does not like being respected. If you think respect is no big deal to your husband, wait till someone else gives him respect and see what happens.
If your husband is not making a big deal of you respecting him, wait till a few more years. It will be as if your husband has changed from who he was. So it’s better to begin now, practicing respecting him.
Respect can be seen in almost everything. From how you prepare his food, to the way it is served, how you talk to him and talk about him in private and public, all reveal the way you value and respect him.
I believe if we can do these things, we will be loved, cherished and valued more by our husband.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the spirit to know how to meet my husband’s needs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father Lord, teach me to be patient enough to listen to your guidance
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 31:10-11 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start practicing these things
Yes, I am talking about Sarah Abraham of the Bible. Have you ever wondered what Sarah’s secret was?
We have today Victoria’s Secret, which has to do with the secret in the beauty world. Today, we want to learn the secret behind this woman, Sarah.
She was a typical no-nonsense lady, the prim and proper type of lady that tends to correct and put everyone on their toes. With 380 servants that were born in their house, I’m sure she had a very big house.
Sarah was the CEO, MD of Abraham holdings. She was an ironwoman who knew her onions. She was both feared and respected.
She was not the only good woman in the Bible, so what qualified her to be mentioned among the hall of fame of Hebrew 11?
How many of us knew Sarah as not always being submissive? It was recorded that she resulted to taking things into her hands and decided to help God, and gave Abraham her Servant, Haggai in Gen 16: 1-4.
Abraham was the typical phlegmatic, cool and God fearing husband. He was a lover of peace and so we could conclude that he had left the leadership of running the home to Sarah, who was capable.
It was possible she was bitter against God and some times, her husband. It is possible it was her bitterness that closed her womb for so long, before God changed her name from Sarai (contentious) to Sarah (princess).
It was at this point when there was a divine visitation and her contention confronted (Gen 18:12-13) that she dared to believe God and judge Him faithful. The Bible recorded in Heb 11:11 that Sarah herself received strength to bear a son.
It was also at this junction she became submissive to Abraham and bible says she called him lord.
1Pet3:5-6 (GNB) For the devout women of the past who placed their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful by submitting themselves to their husbands. Sarah was like that; she obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are now her daughters if you do good and are not afraid of anything.
Sarah’s secret was that even though it was not her natural tendency to be submissive, when she knew it was God’s will for her, she repented. She submitted so much, she started calling her husband ‘my lord’.
What a woman! She moved from being contentious to becoming a princess. That became the secret of her beauty and youthfulness. Not her cream, beauty routine or makeup. Her real secret was in her meek and a quiet spirit.
She had to change! She was willing to drop her old self and embrace who God says she is. Her reward; she was blessed beyond measure. She was blessed and protected every where she went because God was with her.
Dear wife, if you want to be like Sarah, you can be like her. She was willing to change and repent. She submitted to her Lord and Abraham her lord. That my dear lady was Sarah’s secret.
God bless our homes.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love and respect my husband
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom to build your home
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Study the life and times of Sarah