How To Handle An Affair –Part 2

How To Handle An Affair –Part 2

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4. Attach Pain To The Experience Of Having An Affair

Until an affair is associated with pain in the mind and the brain, a thorough work is not done. The erring couple must have several quiet moments of self-talk and deep ruminating of the issue. That’s why depending on the situation, the erring spouse must be left alone to have some sober reflections.

These sober reflections are necessary for certain positive conclusion to be made. Also, a lot of prayers are needed in this period. The support of the other spouse is also needed by not criticizing, nagging and not showing rage or irritability.

A lot of love, emotional support, care and reassuring words should be given to the erring spouse at such times as this.

A spouse should come out of this ordeal stronger, better and bigger, ready to help those on the same predicament.
That’s the way God organized things in the kingdom. What you have overcome, you have the Grace to help set others free from.

5. Change The Environment

It might be necessary to change that environment where the affair happened. However, this may not always be possible. If you can’t change your environment, you can at least change what you do within that compromising environment.

If you have lunch breaks together alone with a particular lady, you have to change this.
Note that an affair is not necessarily sexual, it could be an emotional affair. Don’t be deceived, an emotional affair is as serious as a sexual affair, in the sight of God, they are the same.

But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. –Matthew 5:28 (NLT)

6. Make Sure You Don’t Play The Blame Game.

What has happened has happened. Don’t cry over spilt milk, don’t wallow in self-pity. That is the devil’s domain; you don’t want to cooperate with the devil to make your freedom difficult. You must embrace Gods free gift of forgiveness and obey all His principles. Don’t go to the extreme of condemning yourself.

David committed adultery and murder, yet God called him a man after his own heart. God restored him, and he was one of the most famous kings on earth.

Don’t doubt Gods love, when He says He has forgiven you, He means exactly that.
Embrace His love and His forgiveness.

I believe you have found these steps helpful. May God enlighten our darkness in Jesus name.

God bless your marriage!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
My marriage is blessed and fruitful

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Ask for the grace to be a good spouse

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
I bless GOD every chance I get; my lungs expand with his praise. –Psalms 34:1 (MSG)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Put the above points to practice

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Job 5-6

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How Best To Handle An Affair

How Best To Handle An Affair

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There are certain challenging situations that may arise in marriage. One of this is handling an affair. There are two sides to this situation; there is the part of the erring spouse and that of the other spouse.

In an affair or adultery, the bulk of the work lies on the spouse that had an affair, the responsibility is on him/her. The responsibility of the other spouse is just to be supportive and to forgive.

The erring spouse has the responsibility of being brutally truthful, sincere and repentant.

There are some scenarios that the spouse is under demonic influence and finds it difficult to be sincere or truthful. Prayers to God for healing by giving him/her a new and clean heart will be necessary; this is because to successfully handle an affair squarely requires sincerity and truthfulness.

Let’s see some practical steps in handling an affair.

1. Confrontation

The first step to handling an affair is confronting it. What you don’t confront, you can never change. The erring spouse should come to a place where he/she knows that having an affair is an attempt of the devil to steal, kill and destroy you.

You should call it a sin and not just a mistake; it is not confrontation when you still make excuses or when you explain.

2. Ask For Forgiveness

There is no forgiveness until there is a willingness to turn around from your sins. The erring spouse should acknowledge that he/she needs to be forgiven.

3. Seek Help And Support

That an affair has taken place shows that there are principles you don’t know, or there are principles you are taking for granted. You need to be educated and informed.

This is the time to search for books that talks about how to handle lust, how to handle affairs, how to set healthy boundaries, how to love and satisfy your spouse, etc.

What reading along this line does is that you get enlightened; when light comes, ignorance vanishes. It is also good to learn how you fell, because recognizing the pit-fall will help you avoid such next time.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I choose to honor my marriage vows.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Oh Lord, help me to Bea faithful spouse.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
I bless GOD every chance I get; my lungs expand with his praise. –Psalms 34:1 (MSG)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Follow the above steps of you are guilty.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Job 5-6

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The Honour Code For Wives

The Honour Code For Wives

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I am sure Peter must have settled a lot of quarrels for many wives. Many felt invaded or, cheated, and that it’s just not fair being a woman.

They felt they had no rights and they are being trampled upon. Apostle Peter must have had compassion for them. Trying to solve their problems; which varied in dimensions, and seemly complicated.

He, by the Holy Spirit’s inspiration, gave this one all-purpose solution. If every wife follows this instruction they will solve all their marital issues and problems.

I got to a point in my life where I realized this very truth.

The instruction is in 1 Peter 3: 1-6, it is what I call the Honor code for all wives.

In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives, When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband]. Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes; But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God. For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to them as themselves secondary and dependent upon them]. It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him Lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you]. -1Peter 3: 1-6 (AMP)

The instructions here are very profound, yet simple and well spelled out.

I want to admit it won’t come naturally to obey this. You will only obey when you give heart to it, study it and spend time meditating on it, study every word and prayerful soak them onto your spirit.

I pray God grants us strength to be doers and not hearers only deceiving ourselves.

God bless your marriage

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am a wise wife, I obey the scriptures, and I honour my husband

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, please work on my heart not to reject your word at any point in time

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.  -1 Peter 3:1-3 (NIV)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Meditate on 1Peter 3: 1-6

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Exodus 49-50

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The Effect of Faith In Marriage –Part 2

The Effect of Faith In Marriage –Part 2

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Continued from yesterday.

Let’s look at this scripture below well. We will see the faith process. Whether you are believing God for babies, contract, prosperity, or general well-being the process of faith must be completed.

For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. –Mark 11:23 (KJV)

Let me analyze the faith process here.

1. You must speak to your mountain. Don’t speak about it, speak to it. Address it because you have authority.

2. Speak and give direction to the mountain.

3. Don’t allow doubt in your heart.

4. Believe that you have what you SAY.

5. Then, You will have what you say.

6. Thank God in advance. The faith process is not complete until you thank God by faith for your answers.

The big question is, what are you saying about the situation you are trusting God to see changes?

Do you pray?  Declare God’s word and then begin to worry?

Its time as believers to begin to exercise our faith against the attacks of the enemy. Any issue the enemy brings our way is an attack on our faith.

We can deal with the enemy by exercising our faith.

Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.  –Ephesians 6:16 (KJV)

With our shield of faith we quench every fiery darts the wicked one throws at us.

When we have issues in our marriage, issues with our spouse, or our in-laws, it is not the person that is the issue. It is the wicked one stirring up issues to steal your joy, peace, prosperity and health.

Rise up in the authority of the Lord and hold up the shield of faith against the fiery darts of the wicked one. There is victory on the other side of faith.

God bless your marriage in Jesus name.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have faith in God, my words align with what I believe God for

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray and ask God to give the grace to be steadfast in faith

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith. –Romans 1:17 (KJV)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Study Hebrews 11

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Exodus 5-6

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The Effect of Faith In Marriage

The Effect of Faith In Marriage

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COUPLES – The Effect of Faith In Marriage

The message of faith is fast giving way to other popular messages, especially now. I think in my own opinion that we heard more of ‘how to live by faith’ messages than we do now.

Yet, faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God. As a single lady when I was in the university, we were taught how to trust and believe God for stuff. Then we listened to Papa Kenneth Hagin, the Copelands, Creflo and Taffi Dollars, Jerry Savel, Jesse Duplantis, and Bishop Oyedepo. We saw living by faith as a necessity and we had no options but to live by our faith.

It seems to me that as we got married and life began to happen to us, we allow the message of faith to slip by. At that time, we were working-class people, so we didn’t believe in God for stuff as much as we did before.

We simply waited for the next paycheck.

When we felt symptoms in our bodies, we simply notify our HMO, and we get free access to health care. We even felt it was our right to use the hospital since it’s deducted from our salaries.

The problem is that we are gradually losing our cutting edge in exercising our faith.

As believers, we need to exercise our faith daily.

For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith. –Romans 1:17 (KJV)

Our righteousness in God is revealed by our faith. To live a righteous life, to live victorious over fear, a disease, attacks of the enemy, and much more requires faith.

We can never be too mature to use faith. We can never graduate from the school of faith. We have to live by faith. Our existence must be by faith.

Our prayers get answered by faith. We receive our answer to our prayers by faith. There are some issues that will happen in marriage that your way to experience victory will be only when you learn to exercise your faith.

To be continued.         

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have faith in God, my words align with what I believe God for

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray and ask God to give the grace to be steadfast in faith

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith. –Romans 1:17 (KJV)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Study Hebrews 11

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Exodus 3-4

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