Top 56 Valuable Lessons from the 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer

Top 56 Valuable Lessons from the 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer

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Top 56 Valuable Lessons from the 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer

Joyce and Dave Meyer have been married for over 56 years. In their Video, Talk It Out, they share candidly about the highs and lows of their journey together. Joyce notes early on in their 5-date courtship, they didn’t truly know each other. Yet through divine intervention, they found themselves bonded for life.

Based on this conversation with celebrated life coach and bestselling author Joyce Meyer and her husband Dave, here are some invaluable insights on how to build a strong, God-honoring marriage.

1. Joyce and Dave Meyer discuss the ups and downs of their early marriage and how their thinking has changed over the years.

2. Dave knew marriage was forever so he never thought about changing Joyce or leaving if things didn’t improve.

3. They had to learn about each other through experiences and God helped Dave deal with difficult situations. Over decades, Joyce and Dave Meyer learned to accept each other fully as God designed.

4. Dave applies relevant scriptures like Ephesians 5:28 to situations rather than dwelling on problems.

5. Joyce explains she came from a difficult childhood which manifested in erratic, emotionally volatile behaviors in their first years of marriage. She recalls giving Dave the silent treatment for weeks at a time when upset.

6. Dave remained steadfast, understanding where Joyce’s hurt originated while navigating ups and downs to learn about her. He displayed remarkable strength and commitment to their vows.

Common Mistakes in Marriage.

7. Trying to change your spouse instead of letting them be who they are. Realizing their unique qualities complement one another affirms God’s plan for oneness in marriage.

8. Joyce acknowledges trying to change Dave was misguided since transformation must come from within.

9. From the start, Dave viewed marriage as permanent, avoiding the “threat” mindset some have of changing or divorcing a spouse.

10. Focusing on what’s wrong with your spouse instead of what’s right is a common mistake.

11. Thinking you have to be happy for your spouse to be happy instead of each being responsible for their own happiness.

Handling Differences of Opinion.

12. It’s normal to have different opinions and likes in a marriage.

13. Compromise by allowing each person to decorate their own space.

14. It’s okay to disagree as long as you don’t think your spouse is wrong for having a different view.

15. Joyce recommends couples make a side-by-side list of each other’s positive and negative traits. For her and Dave, the good vastly outweighed the bad. By shifting mental focus to a spouse’s virtues, small flaws seem insignificant.

Dealing with Financial Disagreements.

16. Joyce and Dave Meyer advised that you talk through finances and goals before marriage to avoid surprises.

Joyce and Dave Meyer

17. Needs can change over time so revisit financial agreements.

18. Understand each other’s perspectives and fears around money.

Dave’s Experience with Saving Money as a Youth.

19. Dave shares how he learned the value of saving money from a young age. He explains how at 16 years old, he saved one thousand dollars cutting grass and selling items to buy his first car.

20. Dave emphasizes the importance of prioritizing spending money on important goals.

Accepting Each Other as God Made Us.

21. Joyce and Dave Meyer are different. Dave is more logical while Joyce processes things verbally.

22. One frequent source of disagreement between spouses is having differing communication styles.

23. Joyce mentioned how she likes to verbally process situations by talking through all the angles, while Dave prefers a more direct, logical approach. It’s not that either way is wrong, but recognizing these distinctions is important. They’ve realized God made them this way and focusing on each other’s strengths has helped.

24. When Joyce was unhappy, Dave modeled finding joy regardless through stable faith.

25. As Christians, we are not to let others dictate our moods but lead by example. Joyce was inspired to mirror Dave’s contentment.

26. Misunderstandings often arise when partners don’t understand each other’s methods of thinking and reasoning through problems.

27. Surrender fully to God’s design for oneness. Appreciate differences as completing each other.

28. Apply biblical solutions in tough times, not human reasoning. Prioritize your spouse’s well-being through humility, patience, and consistent prayer.

We will continue with Part 2 of Top 56 Valuable Lessons from the 56-Year Marriage of Joyce and Dave Meyer tomorrow.


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The Top Ten Secrets Couples Keep from Singles

The Top Ten Secrets Couples Keep from Singles

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The Top Ten Secrets Couples Keep from Singles

There are so many things that couples know that singles don’t have a clue about. I know some singles won’t agree…until they marry!

Being in a committed relationship can be a unique and transformative experience. Here are the top ten things that couples know that singles may not have an idea of.

1. Love is a Choice.

Couples know that love is not just a feeling, but a conscious decision to prioritize and commit to each other every day. Singles think they will forever feel love towards their spouse after the wedding! Should we tell them? The reality is that you will wake up some days and won’t feel an iota of love. Love then becomes a choice, a decision you make, not because of what you feel. Feelings are fleeting and fickle, so you cannot rely on them.

2. Communication is Key.

Couples understand that effective communication is crucial for building trust, resolving conflicts, and deepening their connection. Couples know they have to keep talking whether they like it or not. Singles think they will naturally flow all the time, but sometimes a spouse wants to be alone. Effort must be made to sustain communication at such times.

3. Intimacy Goes Beyond Sex.

This is one of the secrets couples keep from singles. Couples know that intimacy encompasses emotional vulnerability, trust, and a deep sense of connection that transcends physical intimacy. Couples know that intimacy is not all about marriage; they know that beyond intimacy, there are deeper cords that bind the couple together.

4. Compromise is Essential.

Couples have learned that finding common ground and compromising is vital for navigating differences and building a strong partnership. Singles can stubbornly stay with their opinion and think that is the way it is generally. But couples know you have to find a middle ground within the context of God’s word most of the time.

5. Independence is Important.

Couples recognize that maintaining individuality and personal interests is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. This is what will prevent unnecessary meltdowns during mid-life crises.

6. Fights are Inevitable and Necessary.

Couples know that disagreements are a natural part of any relationship and can actually strengthen their bond if navigated constructively. Singles can sweep things under the carpet or even pretend to be nice. But in marriage, things happen live in 3D! Good couples have learned to disagree without being disagreeable. Some singles are under the illusion that they will never disagree because they are “in love.”

7. Supporting Each Other’s Growth.

Couples understand the importance of supporting each other’s personal growth, goals, and aspirations. Couples know they are limited when they are not together. They know the reality of one chasing a thousand and two chasing ten thousand. Couples know they have to be on the same page.

8. Vulnerability is a Strength.

Couples have learned that being vulnerable and open with each other is a sign of strength, not weakness. Couples have realized the importance of the following scripture:

Jas 5:16 (TPT) Confess and acknowledge how you have offended one another and then pray for one another to be instantly healed, for tremendous power is released through the passionate, heartfelt prayer of a godly believer!

They know that vulnerability is strength! Period! It requires courage to peel back the layers, revealing one’s true self to another.

9. Relationships Take Work.

This is another one of the secrets couples keep from singles. Couples know that relationships require effort, patience, and dedication to maintain and deepen their connection. Some singles are living on fantasy island. Couples know they have to work on their marriage. They know that marriage only works when they have decided to work at it. Like tending to a delicate garden, they nurture the seeds of love and tend to its growth, watering it with kindness, understanding, and unwavering devotion.

10. Unconditional Love is Real.

Couples have experienced the transformative power of unconditional love and acceptance, which can bring a profound sense of security and joy to their relationship. It is a love that transcends flaws, imperfections, and the changing tides of life. Couples know that a love that is not selfish but selfless is what will get the job done.

By recognizing and embracing these truths, couples can build a strong, resilient, and loving partnership that brings happiness and fulfillment to both individuals.


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How To Resist The Devil in Your Relationship – Part 2

How To Resist The Devil in Your Relationship – Part 2

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SINGLES – How To Resist The Devil

Continued from yesterday…

It goes on and on. The underlying thing I want you to see is that the moment God’s word is being challenged on any level; know that the devil is at work. The Holy Spirit will never come to counteract God’s word or debunk it; He only comes to expound it.

Never yield ground to the devil. Resist him as Jesus Christ did and he will flee.

Adam and Eve yielded to the devil and lost the fullness of God’s plan.

Jesus came to restore that loss, but he would have failed if he yielded to the devil when he was being tempted.

Every compromise you cooperate with alters something in the spirit realm. Make up your mind to resist the devil every day and consciously with the help of the Holy Spirit.

You cannot be yielding to your flesh and the devil every time if you want to go far! You cannot be saying some girl seduced you all the time while you sleep around recklessly. You cannot be saying a man forced you into compromise with his money.

The devil is not that powerful, he is as powerful as you allow him in your life. He needs your permission before he can trip, and trap you. Never allow him again. Don’t give him an inch!

Do it God’s way. There will no longer be delays in Jesus name. God will perfect everything in your relationship as you make up your mind to resist the devil.

Never forget this, if you can keep feeding your spirit with God’s word daily and consistently, and you believe His word, that same word of the Lord will keep you!

That is why we have created this online Club for you! Visit it daily and keep learning all you can. Keep encouraging each other! Stay on your toes and be alert.

I pray that you will have a higher revelation of the person and the principles of our Lord Jesus Christ! Victory is yours this year!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
In all things, I give thanks, including for the priceless gift of being good a spouse and helper. I will not allow the devil, pride, pressures of life, and ignorance direct, and lead me astray.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, give me your wisdom to be a good partner to my future spouse

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Do you see what we’ve got? An unshakable kingdom! And do you see how thankful we must be? Not only thankful, but brimming with worship, deeply reverent before God. For God is not an indifferent bystander. –Hebrews 12:28 (MSG)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Make up your mind to stand strong in God

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Genesis 12-15




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What Singles Can Learn From Joseph – Part 3

What Singles Can Learn From Joseph – Part 3

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SINGLES – What Singles Can Learn From Joseph

3. Joseph refused to sin!

This is a major one! He was offered free intercourse, but he ran away! He refused to get bitter about God because of his experiences and did not allow depression and conflicting emotions to push him into the clutches of available compromise with Potiphar’s wife!

(7) As time went on, his master’s wife became infatuated with Joseph and one day said, “Sleep with me.”(8) He wouldn’t do it. He said to his master’s wife, “Look, with me here, my master doesn’t give a second thought to anything that goes on here–he’s put me in charge of everything he owns.(9) He treats me as an equal. The only thing he hasn’t turned over to me is you. You’re his wife, after all! How could I violate his trust and sin against God?”(10) She pestered him day after day after day, but he stood his ground. He refused to go to bed with her.(11) On one of these days he came to the house to do his work and none of the household servants happened to be there.(12) She grabbed him by his cloak, saying, “Sleep with me!” He left his coat in her hand and ran out of the house. – Gen 39:7-12 MSG

Joseph said; I cannot sin against God! He had the fear of God. This is one of the reasons he became the greatest in Egypt! From prison to a ruler! What Singles Can Learn From Joseph

You see, righteousness exalts! Never ever allow the devil to tell you that you are missing out because you are a child of God. Never envy those who don’t have a relationship with God. David made that mistake too and he envied unbelievers, but he said when he got into God’s presence, then he understood their ends.

Joseph ran away! This is what you do in the face of sexual compromise! That is not the time to start speaking in tongues when he or she has removed his or her clothes! Run away! Flee! That is why God created legs for you!

Don’t come around and say somebody seduced you. Run! Five minutes before the compromise, you will always know what is about to happen. Don’t wait there trying to see what will happen when all the angels have already fled so that their eyes will not behold evil!

What else will happen between a guy and a lady alone in the room, with no light and no candles around 9.00 pm? Run! That is how to preserve your destiny! Run! That is how to fulfill your destiny! Run! Pack out of the house, you are not yet married! Run away because your destiny is greater than the compromise you are entangled with! Free yourself by God’s Spirit and run!

Take a cue from Joseph. But if I leave him, he won’t give me money again! If I leave him, he won’t pay my school fees again, and so on and so forth. That was also the place Joseph found himself. He ran away, and then seemed to land in the prison! But God did not leave him and that is the important thing. Righteousness will eventually exalt you and give you a better platform than exchanging your body for some paltry sums!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am a dreamer. I will not stop dreaming! 

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will give the strength to say No in the face of compromise

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Gen 39:2 KJV And the LORD was with Joseph, and he was a prosperous man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Study the life of Joseph

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Gen 43-45




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Can I Kiss My Fiancé or Fiancée? – Part 3

Can I Kiss My Fiancé or Fiancée? – Part 3

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SINGLES – Dear Pastor, Can I Kiss My Fiancé or Fiancée?

If you are in courtship, be careful. Don’t let the devil trap you. The raging fire in your body will not be doused with kissing; it will only rekindle it until you want to explore more!

In the scripture, When Joab wanted to kill Amasa, he deceived him with a kiss!

And Joab said to Amasa, Art thou in health, my brother? And Joab took Amasa by the beard with the right hand to kiss him. But Amasa took no heed to the sword that was in Joab’s hand: so he smote him therewith in the fifth rib, and shed out his bowels to the ground, and struck him not again; and he died. So Joab and Abishai his brother pursued after Sheba the son of Bichri. – 2Sa 20:9-10 KJV

Yes, it will look harmless. It will sound logical. But it can destroy destinies.

Jesus Christ was betrayed with a kiss!

But Jesus said unto him, Judas, betrayest thou the Son of man with a kiss? – Luk 22:48 KJV

Isn’t something inappropriate with a lady who is leading the church in worship, but who the previous night had been in an intense kissing session with the brother who led opening prayer that same morning?

Live right, for God is not mocked!

There is nothing wrong with a light hug. There is nothing wrong with a light peck by the cheek if that was how you were raised up, but it is better to just stay away! But the problem is will you stop at that stage? Your body will crave more and if you lack self-control, you will yield to it. There are some brothers that can’t talk to a lady unless they touch her or place their hands on her shoulder. Must they tap current before they can talk?

That kissing, touching, and petting you do behind doors will get you into trouble sooner than you think if you don’t put your feet down now. Don’t dabble into those terrains because the song afterward is always, ‘we didn’t want to go all the way,’ but the mistake would have been made.

Resolve to do it right and you will enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings.

I pray God gives you more understanding and help you to stop every form of compromise!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
Lord, I receive wisdom to discern between positive and negative influences in my life and grace to avoid the negative.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
In Jesus’ name, I resist the power of negative influence over my life.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Rom 7:25 MSG The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does. He acted to set things right in this life of contradictions where I want to serve God with all my heart and mind, but am pulled by the influence of sin to do something totally different.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Cut off your association with any person, place, or thing that is influencing you negatively.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Gen 30-32




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