Accountability and Falling In Love. Ade and Sally were crazily in love. It was like love out of the novels. They were so much into each other. But they kept their love life secret. In no time, situations beyond them arose, and they are unable to handle it, so the relationship was ruined. You see, life has a way of dealing you things beyond your wisdom and often people who have gone through what you are going through are the ones that can help.
The Johnsons who are married found each other in similar scenario. The husband believes there should be no third party. In the end, the wife felt oppressed and their relationship nosedived quickly, enveloped with attitudes, withdrawals, and sexlessness too!
Accountability and Falling In Love.
I remember I was accountable as a student when I fell in love on campus in 1996. Even though our pastor was a student then, we still remained accountable. Before I asked my wife out, I informed our fellowship pastor and he encouraged me! May God not send you to a person who will talk you out of God’s plan for your life. Many people’s dreams have been killed by the people they trusted. Mephibosheth was entrusted to his nurse, but the nurse “dropped” him and he became lame!
Accountability is a spiritual exercise that protects your relationship. When you are accountable, it helps you to be cautious and to consciously stay away from pre-marital sex. It also helps you to report each other or even report yourself.
Most sexual sins are perpetuated when your relationship is shrouded in secrecy. The moment one party is saying you should not tell anybody, then something is wrong somewhere.
Accountability and Falling In Love.
After the wedding, accountability continues. It is a powerful principle you shouldn’t joke with. The couple should agree on who will mentor them. In marriage, when there are issues, it is wrong to pick up your phones and report each other to your parents or friends. When you do that, the situation will aggravate. Parents will be biased towards their children, friends will also be biased. You need somebody who has nothing to lose, is not biased, and is ready to be truthful to the two of you.
As couples, do you have somebody you can call on the phone when there are issues behind you? I do that for a lot of couples around the world, and situations that have degenerated into serious issues for days are often resolved in minutes, not so much because I know so much, but because of the grace of God upon my life.
As I conclude on Accountability and Falling In Love, I have discovered that if a couple can do these three things, all other issues are just minor.
These three things are
1. Stay away from cheating and unfaithfulness
2. Forgive each other quickly and stay accountable
3. Pray together regularly I pray that God will grant you more understanding.
Were we attracted to each other? Yes, and certainly! A lot of deeply spiritual folk will tell you that attraction doesn’t matter, but I am telling you right now, it matters.
Marriage is truly made in heaven, but it is lived here on earth. You can receive your spouse from heaven, but both of you will eventually tabernacle here on planet earth!
After marriage, all other people will not suddenly become ugly. That is why people who have no fear of God still go into extra-marital relationships.
Attraction Factor In Relationships and Marriages
I have had to counsel people who are in a relationship and would say they didn’t really like their partner but since God said he or she is the one. You see, something is obviously missing here. God is not an author of confusion, and He would not lead you to somebody you dislike forever.
Yes, it is possible you do not resonate with a particular person God leads you to when you are busy looking elsewhere, but the moment you embrace God’s plan, you will indeed love the person.
But there would never be a situation where God forces you to marry somebody you don’t like or somebody you hate.
A situation where you get depressed over how your spouse looks three days after the wedding needs not happen!
You won’t believe that the reason a lot of people are scared about asking God for who to marry is that they don’t want God to lead them to somebody they will hate. God is intelligent, much more intelligent than all the intelligence of the entire brains of the human race combined!
Attraction Factor In Relationships and Marriages
It is only God that knows the person who will be attracted to you and you will be attracted to, not just today, but also in some ten and twenty years’ time. People change over time.
Beyond physical attraction, therefore, there must be an inner attraction. Beyond the fact that she is thin or slim or lepacious, you must love her because, over time, a lepacious woman can become orobo! Figure eight can fast become figure football! What happens after that?
The reality you must accept is that your spouse will not look the same after twenty or thirty years of marriage. Attraction must be deeper than physical appearance because appearance changes over time!
For me, I have remained slim like I used to be, I only added a little and my tummy has been trying to come out, but I have been casting out all the calories. My wife is more rounded, but she has been trying to lay aside the weight as well.
Attraction Factor In Relationships and Marriages
As married couples, do not look on when you see the weight is traveling to where you don’t want to camp. Follow her to the gym if you have to. Take precautions. Do not eat late. Reduce taking “swallow” if you have to! Stay with each other and walk the walk together.
As married couples, keep the attraction on fire. Keep dressing for him within and without the home. He is moved by sight! Never forget that! Good morning
I am carried! You are carried. How many times have you spoken against God because of some little pressure? How many times have you had emotional outbursts at God because you don’t understand what you are going through? Watch the short video below before you read on. Respond accordingly to the prayers if you need to do so before you read on!
Look at the scripture again:
Isa 46:4 (AMPC) Even to your old age I am He, and even to hair white with age will I carry you. I have made, and I will bear; yes, I will carry and will save you.
Gid promised to carry you! No wonder at those times you went through the most difficult times, the times you were suicidal, the times you were sure you would die, the times you fell so deep into the dark pit with no flicker of light, the times you went through grief that seemed to lead to the grave, and yet, you came out alive…it is because you are carried! I am carried!
God has been carrying you all along! The Message translation says God will carry you on His back! Wow!
A quarter of what you went through sent others six feet below and you are thinking it is because you are strong? No, you are carried?
And you know what? God isn’t the one to drop you! God is not like the Nurse that dropped Mephibosheth!
2Sa 4:4 (KJV) And Jonathan, Saul’s son, had a son that was lame of his feet. He was five years old when the tidings came of Saul and Jonathan out of Jezreel, and his nurse took him up, and fled: and it came to pass, as she made haste to flee, that he fell, and became lame. And his name was Mephibosheth.
Oh yeah, men will dop you! They are not designed to be able to carry you for long! Sugar Daddies can’t carry you for long, they are only looking for the Sugar in you. Like the nurse, they will drop you at the last!
The only one who will carry is God. Like an eagle, He would bear you up! I am carried!
Deu 32:11 (MSG) He was like an eagle hovering over its nest, overshadowing its young, Then spreading its wings, lifting them into the air, teaching them to fly.
I only have one piece of advice for you this morning, dear singles and married!
Don’t jump off his back! So many things will endear you in order to entrap you, don’t jump! Hold him tight! Let His love radiate and envelope you. Let His glory surround you!
Don’t jump off at the beckon of the mammon spirit. Don’t jump off at the lure of lustful spirits.
Let Him carry you! And while at it, give Him thanks! Stop complaining and let God do His work in your life! I am carried!
I pray for you, God will intervene in that situation in Jesus’ name! If you need some repenting to do because you’ve spoken against Him, use the video above!
Good morning! I am carried! Did you get blessed? Hit the share button! Send to WhatsApp too and reach others! God bless you as you do so!
Who are you voting for? The Batists, the Artikulates, or the Obidients? In Nigeria’s political landscape today, we have three main contenders and they have creatively given themselves brand names, as derived from the names of the presidential aspirants.
The populace is divided into these three camps, and sentimentally too.
So, Who are you voting for?
Whoever you vote for or whoever has the most votes will become the president of this nation. His ideas would be foisted over 200 Million people.
His policies will be given the time of day! He will decide for us. He will rule over us.
The populace will leave through his ideas and policies. We will be constrained by his intellect and thought patterns.
He will decide for us. He will sign papers that might be beneficial or detrimental to us and our generations!
Before you vote, think!
But that is not where I am going this morning, the Nigerian political landscape is just helping me to arrive at a spiritual landscape.
Who you vote for takes control of your life via police and decisions at the National level.
So this is where I am going. Who are you voting for?
Rom 6:12 (MSG) That means you must not give sin a vote in the way you conduct your lives. Don’t give it the time of day.
Don’t give sin a vote! If you do, sin will take control of your life! Sin will dictate the direction of your life and will keep you bound, often leading you to where don’t want to go! You remember “They are carrying me to where I want to go o!”
That is exactly what sin does. It holds you by the jugular and leads you into dark areas of life.
But I want to be free! I want to leave my life! Let me freely vote for who I want.
Well, here is the response:
Romans 6:16 (MSG) Hardly. You know well enough from your own experience that there are some acts of so-called freedom that destroy freedom. Offer yourselves to sin, for instance, and it’s your last free act. But offer yourselves to the ways of God and the freedom never quits. All your lives you’ve let sin tell you what to do.
Voting for sin becomes your last free act, just as voting for aspirants becomes your last free act for the next four or eight years! They take charge after that. That is what sin does!
God wants you back! Will you consecrate yourself afresh this morning? Will you stay away from that sexual sin? Will you focus on your spouse and stop dining with the devil on the adulterous dining table?
Who are you voting for?
I choose to vote for God like Joseph did when Mrs. Potiphar wanted to fry his destiny! He ended up in the palace.
I choose not to vote for sin as Samson did and his freedom was taken when his eyes were gouged out! He ended up taking his life!
Don’t Lose Hope Now! Hey, dear Singles and Couples! So, God has helped us and it has been over two decades of marriage! But to tell you the truth, it has not been one straight road. There have been bends, curves, potholes, and more! But His goodness, love, and benevolence never left us once!
So many crooked ways along the way, but God did promise to make the crooked places straight! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
Isa 45:2 (KJV) I will go before thee, and make the crooked places straight: I will break in pieces the gates of brass, and cut in sunder the bars of iron:
So much heat along the way, enough heat to dry up every ounce of marital ecstasy, but God did promise that the heat will not smite us!
Psa 121:6 (KJV) The sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night.
Marital waters so deep we thought we would be drowned and completely submerged but God did not allow it!
So much fire, so intense and fiery we thought we will come out completely baked into some burnt loaves that couldn’t be served, but we are still fresh like the five loaves, Jesus was still handing us out to be blessings because he said the fire would not burn us! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
Isa 43:2 (KJV) When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
Turns, twists, and meanders that navigated into the wilderness, and all ways seemed blocked, but they were momentary, the GOD GPS system worked right there, and the course was charted!
Isa 43:2 (KJV) When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
I can go on and on, but I am simply here this morning to let you know, that God is with you and will not leave you alone.
The challenges as a single are overwhelming, I know, the situation as a couple is intense and fiery, yes I know, but do not lose hope in Him. His love for you is eternal, His assurance for you is steadfast, His grace for you is unlimited and His mercy is everlasting! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
Heb 10:35 (KJV) Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward.
Call upon Him now! He promised to listen! Yes, He promised to listen! Have a conversation with Him. Consecrate yourself this morning and start over with Him. He will hold you by the right hand, strengthen you from within, and carry you into victory! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
