Dear Lady, What Is Your Price? We live in a world today where human dignity has been eroded to the point where perversion and things unheard of have become the order of the day!
I am writing to both singles and married this morning!
Let’s go with the singles first. What is your price? As in, how much are you? Interesting question, right?
Well, the reality is that men are constantly pricing you, and you know what, men know how to price you so low, sometimes even take you without a dime!
Maybe the first question is should you even ever be for sale?
In the days gone yonder, they would parade girls naked and prize them as slaves, to be used as sex slaves or some more demeaning use. The buyers would literally move around to check the body and choose a fellow human being like they are buying a goat!
This still happens today, in the world of prostitution!
What is your price?
In the scriptures, Jacob worked for fourteen years to win his true love, Rachael!
Today, some guys are willing to work for less than two minutes before taking ladies to bed, and the crazy part, there are ladies who are ready for such as a result of battered self-esteem, ignorance, and sometimes sex addiction.
Dear Lady, What Is Your Price? What should your price be?
Pro 31:10 (KJV) Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Your price is far above Naira and Dollar! If you can know the worth of the blood of Jesus, then you can know the price of God’s daughters!
1Pe 1:18-19 (MSG) It cost God plenty to get you out of that dead-end, empty-headed life you grew up in. [19] He paid with Christ’s sacred blood, you know. He died like an unblemished, sacrificial lamb.
That was how you got out of the dead end! By His precious blood! It was costly!
Dear Lady, What Is Your Price?
How dare you open your laps for some sweet-tongued fellow in less than an hour? No, he should come and request the “flower” from your parents! He shouldn’t site your cleavage not to talk of rummaging through the inner crevices of your pleasure zones! Sounds archaic? Well, it is the way to life and peace with God!
No level of perversion will make God review His word! Do you find yourself too far gone? Sex? Oral Sex? Masturbation? and many more? God’s everlasting arm of love is opened to accept you back and give your life meaning and purpose when you return to Him! He would clean you up, wipe your slate clean and give you a new beginning!
My point is made with the singles! Now to married couples, after the wedding, your body is no longer yours, it belongs first to God as the temple of the Holy Spirit, and then to your spouse for consistent and unhindered sexual gratification!
Sex in marriage is not a reward nor is it a punishment tool! It’s a duty!
1Co 7:4 (AMPC) For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband [has his rights]; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights].
The Lady, Her Lover, And Her Lord. Sally is a child of God, but she has also recently fallen in love with George. George’s starry eyes were always probing into forbidden regions. Sally truly loved him but she knew she would not be able to give him what he really wanted. She hates to let him go, but she loves her God more than to offend Him!
Mrs. Johnson is caught between pleasing the Lord and pleasing her husband. She must submit to her husband while she must not violate God’s injunctions!
Life often pulls in different directions by the various relationships and responsibilities that we have. We have relationships with our family, our friends, our colleagues, and perhaps most importantly, with ourselves.
But one of the most complex and multifaceted relationships that we can have is the one between a lady, her lover, and her Lord.
The Lady, Her Lover, And Her Lord.
The lady here is the central figure, the one who must navigate the complex dynamics between her lover and her Lord.
Her lover represents the passion, excitement, and emotional fulfillment that she seeks in life. He is the one who brings joy to her heart and light to her eyes. He is the one that causes the butterflies to flap their wings within her crevices.
But while her lover is a critical part of her life, he is not the only one.
Her Lord, on the other hand, represents a different kind of love. It is a love that is rooted in spiritual and moral values, and that calls her to live a life of purpose and meaning. Her Lord provides her with guidance, wisdom, and comfort, and helps her to see beyond the immediate to the greater good.
Her Lord must not be violated in order to please her lover!
So what happens when these three entities intersect? When the lady, her lover, and her Lord come together, a delicate balance must be struck.
A tripartite role must be fulfilled. The lady must find a way to honor both her lover and her Lord, to find a way to satisfy the emotional needs of her heart while also fulfilling the spiritual and moral obligations of her soul.
One of the most important things that the lady can do is to be true to herself. She must be honest with herself about her needs and desires, and she must seek to understand the motivations of both her lover and her Lord. By doing so, she can begin to build a foundation of mutual respect and understanding, which will help her to navigate the complexities of her relationships.
Another important factor is communication. The lady must be open and honest with both her lover and her Lord, and she must strive to build a relationship of trust and understanding with each of them. This means being willing to listen, flexible, and to find common ground where she can, without offending God.
The Lady, Her Lover, And Her Lord.
Ultimately, the lady, her lover, and her Lord are all critical components of a fulfilled and meaningful life. As the lady seeks to understand and honor each of these relationships, she will find that they can complement and enrich each other, rather than competing or conflicting.
By striving to live a life that is true to herself, and that is guided by her Lord, she will find the peace, happiness, and fulfillment that she desires.
It is noteworthy that there is no wife who passionately seeks to submit and please her husband while also pleasing the Lord that will not in the process discover her purpose and fulfillment in life! It is a powerful system that God has put in place!
In conclusion, the relationship between the lady, her lover, and her Lord is a complex and multifaceted one. With the help of the Holy Spirit and by His grace, she can execute this relationship balance without neglecting any. May we all strive to live our lives in such a way that brings joy, peace, and fulfillment to ourselves and those around us in Jesus’ name!
How To Deal With One-Sided Love. When love is one-sided, it can be difficult and painful for the person who is not reciprocating the feelings. It’s important to remember that love is not something that can be forced or controlled. Here are a few things that can be done when love is one-sided:
1. Accept the situation As singles in a dating situation or courtship, It’s important to accept the reality of the situation, that the feelings are not mutual, and move on. There is no point beating a dead body, once the love is not mutual and you have to pursue, run after, give your eyeballs, and yet you won’t get love, just move on! Don’t even think if you give sex, anything will change. You simply end up giving your body for nothing while also getting into disfavour with God because we all know, right, that premarital sex is not what God advocates!
For those who are married, accepting the situation simply means you start digging in to know why it is so and what you can do to correct the marital anomaly! You want to be in a marriage with the one you love and who loves you!
How To Deal With One-Sided Love
2. Reflect on yourself Take the time to reflect on what you may have done differently and how you can improve yourself in future relationships. What caused it? What could be responsible? Why am I unlovable or why can’t I love properly?
3. Practice loving yourself first! Nobody will love you if you don’t love yourself! For singles, take care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically in order to heal and move on if you need to. It is important you love yourself! Embrace your imperfections and learn to love yourself for who you are, rather than constantly striving for perfection in the flesh. Stay away from sin and trust the Holy Spirit to give you the grace to get better by the day in that relationship or marriage!
4. Talk to someone Talking to a trusted Pastor or a therapist can be helpful in processing your feelings and getting a different perspective.
Jas 5:16 (MSG) Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed. The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with.
How To Deal With One-Sided Love
5. Be honest with the person If you are the one unable to love the other person, decide to tell the person how you feel, be honest but also be prepared for the possibility that they may not feel the same way. Rather than stay in the relationship and struggle through with the possibility of continued struggling even after the wedding, it is better to open up and move on!
If you are married, you are not opening so that you can leave, because you are already married. You are opening up so that you can both get help. If you think your partner will not be able to handle it, then seek help first all by yourself once you see the issue is from your end! It is important to confront the issue!
These five ways about How To Deal With One-Sided Love are by no means exhaustive, but will guide you in taking the right steps!
The Lonely Side Of Love: One-Sided Relationships. George is head over heels for Sally! However, Sally is indifferent to the whole romantic saga. George tried all the love gymnastics but Sally is unmoved.
On the other hand, it is Mrs. Johnson that really loves her husband. All her love expressions were never reciprocated.
One-sided love can be painful in any relationship or marriage!
Can Love Be One-Sided?
Yes, love can be one-sided. This means one person in a relationship can have stronger love for the other person than the other person feels for them. This can lead to imbalances and difficulties in the relationship, and may eventually cause the relationship to end if the imbalance is not addressed.
The Lonely Side Of Love: One-Sided Relationships
Let’s Rephrase. Should Love be one-sided?
No, love should not be one-sided!
Love should ideally be mutual, in which both persons in the relationship or marriage feel the same level of love and affection for each other.
Son 2:16 (KJV) My beloved is mine, and I am his: he feedeth among the lilies.
Son 7:10 (KJV) I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me.
One-sided love can lead to feelings of rejection and hurt for the person who is not reciprocating the same level of love. It is essential for both parties to communicate their feelings and work towards creating a balance of love and affection in the relationship.
The Lonely Side Of Love: One-Sided Relationships
What are the causes of one-sided love?
1. Unrequited feelings One person has feelings for the other, but those feelings are not reciprocated.
2. Incompatible goals or values One person wants a deeper commitment than the other person is willing to provide.
3. Trauma or past experiences One person has unresolved emotional baggage from past relationships that affect their ability to fully open up to another person. Also, personality traits or past experiences may make someone more susceptible to being in a one-sided relationship
4. Lack of communication or effort One person puts in more effort or expresses their feelings more clearly than the other, leading to an imbalance in the relationship.
5. A lack of emotional reciprocation A person may lack the capacity to respond emotionally to love for various actors.
6. A lack of physical attraction Lack of physical attraction will certainly manifest itself in the inability to reciprocate love appropriately! Nobody has any business marrying someone he is not attracted to in the first place!
7. Low self-esteem Low self-esteem can make a person pursue a relationship where they are only giving and not receiving any love back.
8. Fear of being alone This can contribute to someone choosing to stay in a one-sided relationship.
What do you do if you find yourself in a one-sided relationship or marriage? Tomorrow, I will continue from here and let us in on what can be done to solve the issues of one-sided love.
Lover Boy of the Bible: Physical Attraction. This book is written by one of the greatest lover boys of the Bible! Here are ten lessons from the Song of Solomon on dating, marriage, and sex.
Lover Boy of the Bible: Physical Attraction
Son 1:5 (MSG) I am weathered but still elegant, oh, dear sisters in Jerusalem, Weather-darkened like Kedar desert tents, time-softened like Solomon’s Temple hangings.
Lover Boy of the Bible: Physical Attraction
I have told singles over and over again! Make sure you marry someone you are attracted to! After the wedding, you are not going to become blind, you will see other people you will still like, so it’s important that you really “like” and “love” the person you are going to live with for the rest of your life! That way, there will be fewer distractions!
You don’t want to see someone’s face early in the morning and scream “the blood of Jesus,” rather you want to look at that delectable face and “sing in tongues” and thank God for the day you met them!
Now, get this straight, nobody is ugly! Beauty is in the beholder’s eyes, and we all have “funny” things we are looking for in a man or woman!
There is that special someone somewhere who will love you passionately as you are! Don’t let the devil “body shame” you or “soul-shame” you!
You are handsome as you are and you are beautiful as you are!
Heb 10:5 (KJV) Wherefore when he cometh into the world, he saith, Sacrifice and offering thou wouldest not, but a body hast thou prepared me:
God gave you your body. Love yourself or else, nobody has any business loving you!
Lover Boy of the Bible: Physical Attraction
For married couples, you have to keep working at looking great for your spouse! Pay attention to what they want and don’t take them for granted!
Particularly, men are moved by sight, so you don’t want to dress carelessly all the time at home!
Dress deliberately to tantalize him when you are alone in the house! Get lingerie and bum shorts that will fire up his blood! Don’t be wearing Jeans and sweaters up and down the house! For what? Lol…
As a matter of fact, it’s okay to walk around with nothing on you when you are both alone. Discover yourselves and be intoxicated with each other! Ha Pastor, where are all these in the scriptures? I will show you and I will close there and continue tomorrow.
Pro 5:18-19 (GW) Let your own fountain be blessed, and enjoy the girl you married when you were young, [19] a loving doe and a graceful deer. Always let her breasts satisfy you. Always be intoxicated with her love.
Wow! Be intoxicated with the love of your spouse! Selah!
