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A Guide For Conflict Resolution

Most relationships and marriages are so riddled with unnecessary quarries and bickering. Some of these altercations are actually needless and totally avoidable. 

On our WhatsApp Singles’ Hub and Couples’ Hub, we looked at this topic yesterday

I want to quickly share with you a few things I discussed yesterday! 

I will talk about one of the principles you can apply to reduce quarrels to the barest minimum. 

A Guide For Conflict Resolution

The 15 – 1 Principle

This is talking about the scripture in Proverbs 15:1 

Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

In eliminating unnecessary quarrels, you have to learn how to respond with soft answers. You don’t have to sound angry and caustic every time, for those only stir up the heat.

I love the way the Message Translation puts it:

Proverbs 15:1 (MSG)
A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.

A Guide For Conflict Resolution

Anger is like a bomb! But a gentle response can defuse it. You never see a person defusing a bomb with aggression. They do it gently and with the highest level of caution.

You can learn from this principle. You don’t have to put your “spouse in their place” every time. 

Allow them to be themselves and make mistakes. 

Have you ever wondered how your spouse has been existing so many years before you met? And they have not managed to “destroy” themselves all the while. God who has kept them will continue to keep them! Why do you think your spouse is the zenith of carelessness and you must keep correcting every time like it’s a ministry?

As a matter of fact, you don’t have to answer every statement. Neither should you respond when you know where it will lead.

I put a caption on social media some days ago. I said the things that you are seriously fighting about now, you will laugh over them in some years to come and wonder why you have to make a big deal out of such things.

The things that are drawing the most intense arguments now will not even draw a comment in some years to come.

Learn from this and apply it to your life! Once again, Happy New Month! 


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