How to handle doubts about your lover is a skill you need, to have a successful relationship. Emeka and Sandy are seeing each other, but there is a nagging feeling within her that brings doubts every time. She didn’t know what to do with the doubts.
What do you do with doubts? Doubts will always come. You can’t prevent it. I think the first question is “Why do doubts spring up in a relationship that is looking so promising?
There are several scenarios that can elicit doubts. Let’s take a look at some of them.
1. Doubts can come quickly to shatter the delicate glass of romance when your expectation of a lover are unrealistic and are not being met
2. When your lover is not God’s choice for you, God will allow the doubts to rush at you in order to get your attention.
3. Conversely, when the devil wants to dissuade you about your lover, he can bring doubts, his aim being to make you miss out on God’s plan for your marriage.
There are more ways to identify doubts in order to know how to handle doubts about your lover.
4. When there is sexual compromise, the beautiful romantic story God is writing can quickly become one with nasty twists and turns. This is what sin does, particularly sexual sins, it seeks to bring confusion to the soul.
5. When you rush into a relationship with a lover without duly seeking God’s direction, every events in the relationship will be a spring board of doubt, simply because you are not sure.
6. When you shift the responsibility of finding out God’s plan to some prophet or seer, doubt will arise along the way and you will quickly drift off, since there was never a personal conviction.
7. When all respected people and authority figures around you are against the choice of your lover, doubts, like bandits, are waiting and lurking in the next junction of romantic journey.
8. When storms arise, and winds blow, and dusts rise to blur the romantic journey, doubts can quickly emerge from within the turbulence.
After knowing How To Handle Doubts About Your Lover, the next question then will be “What do I do when these doubts come? How can I guard against unnecessary doubts? How can I be really sure?
This is where we will continue from tomorrow! Don’t miss it!
Tonight, Tue 19th July, we will be having School of Relationship and Marriage and Pastor Sophia and I will be teaching you! It will take place on YouTube. You can subscribe ahead and click on notification bell to know when we go live by 6.00pm. Use this link HERE
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not doubt. I have God’s Spirit in me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will bring His wisdom to your life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:14 (KJV) For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment? Marriage is a beautiful experience when we go by God’s dictate. People can make their wedding day more beautiful than their marriage. They attach more priority to the wedding day than they do the marital life. Every one loves a beautiful wedding day. From the bride’s gorgeous dress, to the maids of honours’ outfits, to the flowers, the well decorated hall, the music and the joyous atmosphere. We plan for the wedding day for months forgetting the marriage which is more important!
My question to us this morning is simple. Is your marriage a reward or an assignment? For some people, marriage is a reward, a prize and they want to sit back and enjoy their reward.
Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment? For some others, marriage is an assignment. A calling to work and labor. To the wives, a call to be an helpmeet, to respect and to be forgiving. To the husband, a call to love like Christ loves the church.
What a great assignment we have on our hands. We will keep on learning, unlearning and relearning to fulfil this assignment. It is actually a life long assignment we will never graduate from.
God’s standards are defined and it is to him we are accountable. He is the one to mark our scripts. So husbands and wives, be diligent to do your assignment.
God bless our marriages. Is Your Marriage a Reward or an Assignment?
Tonight, Tue, 19th July, we will be having School of Relationship and Marriage and Pastor Sophia and I will be teaching you! It will take place on YouTube. You can subscribe ahead and click on notification bell to know when we go live by 6.00pm. Use this linkHERE
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am focused on my God given assignment
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me grace to give my assignment all it takes to make a success of it in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAYRom 8:13 (KJV) For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about working on your marriage
Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? I will be fifty this years old this year, and I tell you, a lot has taken place in the last few decades!
My wife and I were campus sweethearts, falling in love while in school and getting married while she was serving!
Things have changed rapidly over the years. They changed so fast and everybody in my generation witnessed the unveiling of another era. As a matter of fact, some people are still caught in the analog years as their brains refused to cooperate with the present realities.
I recall with nostalgia, how there were no smart phones, there was no Facebook, no Instagram, as a matter of fact there was no internet while I was in courtship with my wife.
Let me make it worse, there were no emails. The first time I heard the word, “e-mail” I had already graduated from the University and the fellow who told me wanted to charge me three thousand to create email for me! I gladly declined. I was not about to pay for something I couldn’t fathom!
Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? The present day singles are beleaguered with Social Media life and the pressure is intense.
From IG to TikTok, it’s a race to be relevant, to be an influencer and to make money!
Filled with all manner of sexually appealing content, the extent of unreal life can be overwhelming.
However, you are not going to live a social media life, you are not going to have a TikTok wife, and YouTube children. You are going to have a real human being as spouse and the reality goes beyond the world of social media. There is a difference between Real Love Or Social Media Illusions?
Take a look at the scripture: Mat 6:2 (MSG) “When you do something for someone else, don’t call attention to yourself. You’ve seen them in action, I’m sure—’playactors’ I call them—treating prayer meeting and street corner alike as a stage, acting compassionate as long as someone is watching, playing to the crowds. They get applause, true, but that’s all they get.
Every time you seek attention and “likes” on social media as against pleasing God, you already got your reward for all you do! Every time you do stuffs for the sake of being noticed, you are defeating the original purpose.
It is important to take your root downward in God’s word, be an authentic person and be spiritual in your dealings with God and man!
Scrolling through a payer app, is not prayer, listening to a YouTube worship is not practicing God’s presence, and so on and so forth!
Learn to drop the phones for a while and be spiritually authentic! Connect with God. When the chips are down, TikTok or IG would be unable to cast out a demon!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I value God and his word. I prioritise God and I please Him always
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will leek you focused on Him and Him only
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:3 (CEV) When you give to the poor, don’t let anyone know about it.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence today.
We want to learn How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage this morning. Marriage is a mystery as it is likened to the relationship between Christ and the church .
The love between a husband and his wife can make them do crazy stuffs when they are in love.
Flip the coin the other way and what you have are deep seated offenses that you wonder, “were they ever in love?” Can love to turned to hatred? Yes, it can be. This is evident in the rate of divorce out there. A husband and his wife that were once in love and can’t seem to get their hands off each other can’t stand each other’s presence now. They must learn How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage
The truth is that marriage cannot be done in the flesh. It takes the two parties involved, walking in the spirit and deciding to crucify their flesh. Love itself is not a natural virtue, it is a spiritual virtue. Both husband and wife can be naturally selfish. We want our ways. We don’t want to serve each other, rather we want to be served. We can be revengeful, and most times, our flesh doesn’t want to forgive.
God proffered a once and for all solution,’Crucify the flesh.’ Mortify the deeds of the flesh in you. Walk in the spirit and you will not gratify the deeds of the flesh.
Be a doer of the word.
Rom 8:13 (KJV) For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
Take a look at the Message Translation: Rom 8:13 (MSG) There’s nothing in it for us, nothing at all. The best thing to do is give it a decent burial and get on with your new life.
God bless your marriage. As couples, we should know How To Crucify The Flesh In Marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a doer of the word. I put to death the works of my flesh.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me grace to crucify my flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:13 (TPT) For when you live controlled by the flesh, you are about to die. But if the life of the Spirit puts to death the corrupt ways of the flesh, we then taste his abundant life.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be intentional about walking in the spirit.
How Do Men Decline Wedding Without Talking? This is our subject of discourse this morning.
Well, He has not said anything, but I think he loves me!
Don’t try that with guys! Guys are very logical, if a guy loves you he will verbalize it or show it. Men are natural hunters in the forest of love. They are pursuers, the pursuit gives them energy.
The only snag is that men allow the hunter in them to die after marriage, and it should not be so, because that in itself has contributed to a lot of crash in marriages.
So, a man will always speak up when there is some commitment there!
His silence should not be misconstrued. A man can sometimes frustrate a lady with silence and cold treatment with the intention to make the lady back out.
So, he doesn’t pick your calls regularly again
He doesn’t call you. He says he is busy!
Easily irritated at you.
He’s refusing to talk about wedding plans or simply avoiding conversations around that area.
He refuses to meet your parents and pastors.
The only thing he wants is probably sex.
Now, that is a defective and manipulative relationship
All the above attitudes and body language are indicative that he is not interested.
Whenever a guy is like this, don’t try to resort to begging him, because the reality is often that he has left several weeks or months before you start noticing the attitudes and tendencies.
If you beg him and the relationship ensues, it is usually for a while and that is mostly because the guy perceives that he has some benefits coming out if the relationship. However, wedding is far from his plans. The next time a guy grows cold on you for months without any change, just know what he is saying. This is How Men Decline Wedding Without Talking
God bless you. Have a great service today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be confused. I have light and direction.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will lead you always in your relationship
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 4:20 (BBE) My son, give attention to my words; let your ear be turned to my sayings.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a good book on relationships today
