This is Part 2. I started writing on this topic yesterday. This morning, I will conclude. If you missed the first part, you can read it HERE
6. Don’t hold your lover in unforgiving mode. I learnt from my dad how to forgive quickly. He doesn’t know how to get bitter, and that has prolonged his life. You need that attitude in your relationship or marriage. You have to learn to lovingly overlook mistakes and errors and not be unnecessarily judgmental.
7. Do not feed your weaknesses Your strength is to provide needed balance in your marriage so that your strength will cover for her weaknesses and vice versa. Deliberately avoid feeding each other’s weaknesses. That way, you will grow faster.
8. Do not correct to hurt or in anger. Let affirmations be the landing place for your corrections. Learn how to correct in love!
O LORD, correct me, but with judgment; not in thine anger, lest thou bring me to nothing.
Jer 10:24 (KJV)
This is how God corrects and this is what we need to imbibe as well.
9. Do not lead your lover into sin You are the greatest influence on your lover. Most of the time, he or she will do what you want or what you approve of. Do not lead each other or encourage each other into iniquity. Be circumspect.
10. Do not ignore the wisdom of mentors and superiors. God will usually surround you with mentors and pastors that can help you out in your marital journey. Ignoring them could be at your peril. The wisdom you will need in navigating the path of a successful courtship and eventually marriage is usually domiciled in your mentors around you.
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.
Pro 20:5 (KJV)
Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP) Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
Mr. and Mrs. George are two of a kind. They both have short fuses. They get angry so easily and frequently. As a result, they live in cycles of quarrels and strife. Before the last quarrel was settled, two fresh ones have started. As a result, they never really get to enjoy their married life. They were both swimming in the slimy waters of strife and perpetual bitterness and their arrogance blinded them to what they were missing with that posture.
Their prayers remained largely unanswered. Their peculiarity was that both of them were getting angry at the same time. Two guys were like that in the scriptures. They were eventually scattered.
Simeon and Levi are two of a kind, ready to fight at the drop of a hat. I don’t want anything to do with their vendettas, want no part in their bitter feuds; They kill men in fits of temper, slash oxen on a whim. A curse on their uncontrolled anger, on their indiscriminate wrath. I’ll throw them out with the trash; I’ll shred and scatter them like confetti throughout Israel.
Gen 49:5-7 (MSG)
That would be the end, scattered. Usually, these quick expressions of anger are a result of unresolved issues. This is why it is good and healthy to talk about issues troubling you and not sweep them under the carpet.
Nothing is swept under the carpet really, they only go into the depth of the belly, like magma within the crust of the earth, breathing, hot, and mad, waiting for an appropriate provocation to explode in a volcanic eruption.
As couples, ensure both of you do not get angry at the SAME TIME!
In fits of anger, poor judgment results, twisted conclusions are reached and very regrettable words are spoken.
When your spouse is angry, try and control yourself as much as you can so that the event in question is not escalated unnecessarily.
May God grant you more wisdom!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not controlled by anger
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to control my emotions.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Genesis 49:5-7(KJV)Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall.Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
Today, we are on September To Remember – Day 16. September To Remember Fasting was called by God to cause us a birthing
Scriptures for Today
September To Remember – Day 16
Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee.
Isa 60:1 (KJV)
ARISE [from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you–rise to a new life]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you!
Isa 60:1 (AMPC)
And the Gentiles shall come to thy light, and kings to the brightness of thy rising.
Isa 60:3 (KJV)
And the sons of strangers shall build up thy walls, and their kings shall minister unto thee: for in my wrath I smote thee, but in my favour have I had mercy on thee.
Isa 60:10 (KJV)
Prayer Points
September To Remember – Day 16
1. Go ahead and thank God for the sixteenth day of the fast.
2. Begin to pray that the glory of the LORD rises from within you and becomes expressed in your life.
3. Pray against any form of depression or discouragement that the devil wants to bring into your life.
4. Begin to pray that God will straighten you up in the areas where circumstances has made you to be bent over.
5. Begin to pray that your light gets brighter in the spirit realm, attracting kings and every helper you need to you.
6. Pray for the strength and wisdom to keep learning and sharpening the skills that will set you apart in this world.
7. Begin to cry for the mercy of God to fill up your life.
8. Begin to invoke the favour of God upon your life, that will make strangers help you build and kings to minister to you.
9. Lift up your voice and raise your request to God.
10. Go ahead and begin to thank the Lord.
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 15
I am a shinning light. My light has come. My life is full of God’s glory. I will no long be depressed. I will no longer be given to offence. I will no longer be sad and gloomy. I rise to a new life in Christ. I am radiating his glory. People seek for my knowledge from far and near. My name is on the lips of many for good. Wealth and increase come to me from afar. For my business and the works of my hands, I receive favor from the Lord. My relationship/marriage moves to the next level by the mercy of the Lord. So shall it be, Amen.
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Most times, we need to be reminded not just what to do, but what not to do in a relationship that will lead to marriage. God is clear in His word regarding the Don’ts. It is your ability to stay within the parameters of God’s word that will guarantee a great relationship that will lead to a wedding. Here are those things you need to pay attention to.
1. Do not stop praying for each other Hear this again and again, in addition to working on your relationship, you are going to need a lot of prayers. You are going to need that spiritual energy to sustain the relationship. The devil doesn’t want you to get married! He is going to do everything possible to throw tantrums and bring confusion into the relationship. When you pray constantly, you will not enter into his temptation and traps!
2. Do not ignore each other Stay in touch through calls and chats. If there is someone not to ignore, it’s your loved one! Ignoring each other will open the door for the devil to feed your souls with assumptions; and assumptions are the lowest forms of knowledge.
3. Do not stop buying gifts for each other. Gifts should not be one sided. There is nowhere in the scripture where it says it is the destiny of guys to buy gifts while the ladies collect. It should be mutual. You will always be creative with giving gifts to the one you really love.
4. Do not stop sharing spiritual truths. Talk to each other from time to time about your dealings with God. Whatever God is sharing with you in your personal closet, share the same with your spouse. This will enable you to be on the same page. In the coming days when you forget, your spouse is the one that will remind you.
5. Do not discourage each other Don’t wear each other out with criticism and discouraging words. Do not disparage each other. Rather, invest in each other’s esteem and build yourselves up in God. Say good words and prophesy unto yourselves! It works!
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP)Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
