Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
Marriage is an institution that has existed for thousands of years. It’s a union between two people who commit themselves to one another in the most intimate and personal way possible. The fact that it’s lasted this long suggests there is something about marriage itself that we value. But what, exactly?
Here are a few thoughts on what makes a good marriage.
A good marriage is based on respect
A good marriage is based on respect. Respect is a two-way street. It means that each partner respects the other person’s feelings and opinions, as well as their own.
This doesn’t mean that couples are never at odds with one another. Conflict is inevitable in any healthy relationship, but it should never be allowed to escalate into disrespect of one another.
The partners need to be open to speaking frankly with one another, while also listening attentively to one another and understanding the other person’s perspective or point of view.
Communication is key
It sounds very cliché, but it’s true: communication is key to achieving a good marriage. You have to talk to each other and work on the problems together.
There’s nothing worse than being married and not knowing what your spouse feels like because they don’t talk to you.
One of the most important aspects of a successful marriage is good communication.
There are many ways to communicate, but it’s particularly important for both parties to share their feelings and thoughts with one another.
For example, if one partner feels neglected and begins to withdraw from the relationship, it’s vital that they tell the other person how they feel.
Communication creates understanding and can help prevent problems before they escalate.
To have a good marriage, you need to be committed
The commitment is the key ingredient for a good marriage. Successful marriages are about two people who are willing to commit to one another and work together through the good times and bad times.
It’s also so important that both partners are committed to the relationship. If one person isn’t committed, then it could doom the marriage from the start.
A good marriage isn’t perfect
The first thing to keep in mind about marriage is that it’s not perfect. Even when two people are deeply committed to one another, there will be times where you disagree and times where you might feel unhappy. But with a good marriage, these disagreements are just part of the process.
In fact, research suggests that a marriage can grow stronger after a disagreement has taken place because the couple knows they have each other’s back. This type of relationship is better able to withstand the inevitable challenges life throws at it.
Marriage is work
Marriage is work. It’s not just a piece of paper you sign to make it valid. Marriage takes commitment and sacrifice – but the rewards are worth it.
You have to make time for one another
Marriage is all about commitment, and making time for one another is a big part of it. Too many couples put everything else in their lives ahead of their significant others. That’s not what marriage is about! You need to make time for your spouse or you will lose them.
Love is also an important aspect of a good marriage. If you don’t love each other, get divorced. Marriage should be about more than just living together and having kids. It should be about loving each other unconditionally and doing whatever you can to make the other person happy.
Lastly, take care of yourself as well as your spouse, do things that make you happy without feeling guilty!
This will help ensure that your marriage lasts longer because it won’t feel like a burden or obligation anymore.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is a blessing
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, do a miracle in my marriage today.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use.
We started on this topic of what every husband must do his wife yesterday, I’m sure we’re being blessed and are learning. Let’s continue…
3. Husbands, know that your wife is vital to your success and progress.
She was taken out of you and so provides the other side to make you balanced. The man is logical but the woman is emotional.
She is given to details. When she is part of your success and progress, then the success is well-rounded, not loop-sided.
Your wife is a co-heir of the divine grace of life, she is vital to your destiny.
She is an important entity and her input is relevant in the equation of your life. This is important so that your prayers will not be hindered. Even God recognizes the vital role your wife plays.
Husbands, you have to treat your own wives well according to the scriptures.
Be a friend. Provide a conducive atmosphere for her to communicate and express her innermost thoughts to you.
She is your helper, let her function in her role. If she is not able to function well, the loss is yours, but if she is given the opportunity to function maximally, it is to your benefit.
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4. She wants you to know that she looks forward to your leadership.
God has placed the man in a leadership position over the woman in their relationship. He has been given what it takes to lead the woman because he has the map of their destination.
The woman needs a good head for her to function maximally. She is meant to follow but needs someone to provide that good leadership.
It is important that husbands know that the way they lead their wives matters. You are not to dominate or shout out commands and rules. You are to guide lovingly.
The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. – Eph 5:23 (MSG)
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Eph 5:23 (KJV)
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 1Co 11:3 (KJV)
In a marriage relationship, there is authority from Christ to husband, and from husband to wife. The authority of Christ is the authority of God. -1Co 11:3 (MSG)
I will stop here and continue tomorrow.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Thank God for the victories He has granted you so far.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 (KJV) In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
Nation/Church
Pray for success for your nation and the church
Acts 4:12 (KJV) Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved
Pastors/Parents/Mentors
Pray for God to bless your pastors, parents and mentors
Numbers 6:24-26 (KJV) The LORD bless thee, and keep thee: The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.
Finance
Pray for success for the work of your hands
Proverbs 10:22 (KJV) The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.
Family
Declare salvation over your family
Zephaniah 3:17 (KJV) The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing.
Warfare
Come against the devil that wants to devour your success
1 Peter 5:8-10 (KJV) Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.
Desire for the Month
Pray for your desires this month
Psalms 37:4 (KJV) Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
Psalm 91 Declaration
Psalms 91:16 (KJV) With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation.
Blood Declaration
By the Blood of Jesus I have success
1 John 1:7 (KJV) But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.
