Focus on your marriage to make it work at all costs and against all odds. Lay the bed on your marriage well, so you can enjoy all the beauty in your own marriage. Learn all the principles you need to learn, drop all bad habits you need to drop. Break all pride, cockiness, selfishness, deception, and let your own marriage work.
If you are already separated, decide what you want, walk with God, and let him show you what next to do. Whichever way, God loves you and still wants the very best for you.
How to focus on your own marriage
1. Focus on yourself You are a vital part of that marriage. Discover yourself. Who are you? What are your desires, what makes you come alive, what makes you enjoy living? Love yourself. Be a happy you.
2. Focus on your spouse As a married person, the most important human being on earth is your spouse. Begin to treat him/her as such. Let nothing absolutely come in between that. Let the whole world know, your spouse is so important to you.
Some people treat their wives like ‘one kobo’ and expect her to treat them like ‘ a million dollar’, it ain’t gonna work that way.
Seize every opportunity to let everyone know this one human being is number one on your list.
3. Focus on God Now, it will be very foolish to want to focus on yourself and your spouse and leave God out. It can not work. God is the center that holds the pieces all together. God is the vital force that crowns all our efforts with success.
4. Focus on your strength You have strengths. Whether it’s your beauty, your home-making skills, your intellect, your being jovial, whatever it is, focus on it. It’s your selling point in your marriage. Don’t let go of your strong points.it is what will make your spouse keep coming back to you.
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5. Focus on minimizing your weaknesses Don’t ever make the mistake of pretending your weaknesses don’t exist. Don’t ignore them. Your weaknesses have the potential of destroying the marriage you are building, so destroy your weaknesses before they ever destroy your marriage.
6. Focus on satisfying yourselves Why should you spend your energy, time, money on trying to please or satisfy another man’s wife? That’s called wastage.
Don’t go into an unprofitable venture. Ask yourself, if I satisfy her, how does it add to me or make my own marriage better?
Tend your own garden. When it’s harvest time, you won’t go and harvest on another man’s farm. It is not your own, so focus and build your own marriage.
He that tilleth his land shall be satisfied with bread: but he that followeth vain persons is void of understanding.
Pro 12:11
God bless you and bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is blessed
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to embrace your love
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 49:16 (GW) I have engraved you on the palms of my hands. Your walls are always in my presence.
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Recently at our church, I taught on “What It Really Means To Jeun Soke! Below is a two-minute snippet from the message, which is a summary of today’s devotional. Kindly watch in two minutes before reading.
Why would these two women decide to boil their children and eat? What could lead to this?
And the king said unto her, What aileth thee? And she answered, This woman said unto me, Give thy son, that we may eat him to day, and we will eat my son to morrow. So we boiled my son, and did eat him: and I said unto her on the next day, Give thy son, that we may eat him: and she hath hid her son.
2Ki 6:28-29 (KJV)
There was a loss of all sense of decorum and the norm, all because of intense hunger and famine. The reality is that a good man can easily become a nasty individual as a result of a famished soul.
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Dear husband and wife, it is not just wrong, but it is risky to be without food in your soul. It can lead to boiling of posterity. May that never be our portion in Jesus name!
The reason we often relate with our spouse without mercy or compassion is because we have not eaten well. Our spirit man is famished and it is causing us to misbehave and freely explore the absurdity.
Make up your mind as husband and wife, to eat well. You have to. It’s a decision you have to make. Your spiritual diet will often decide whether your seed or children will survive or not.
Dive into God’s word and Jeun Soke! Not just once daily and but as many times as you can. Keep eating that word, because that is where life is!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not starve my spirit man
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for strength to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jer 29:11 [AMP]For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
There is something personal about that. “The Lord is my…” It didn’t say the Lord is “our shepherd.”
“He is my….”
He will attend to me personally. He does not deal with me generally. Only God can do that. He attends to billions of people with billions of requests in billions of places at the same time without missing a beat or wiping sweat off His brow. He doesn’t make mistakes. He would not mistakenly give me a bicycle when my request was for a car.
The shepherding grace of God then is what I enjoy when I have a personal relationship with God, not just by being a member of a church.
The first thing I need to do then is to develop a conscious relationship with God, who is my shepherd.
No wonder Jesus Christ said:
I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine.
John 10:14
There must of necessity be a personal knowing, a connectedness, a relationship with God upon which every successful courtship and marriage will stand.
He will personally attend specifically to my marital needs. He knows who I am, who I need, and who I don’t need!
He is my shepherd!
2. He wants your submission and obedience
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures:
He wants you to lie down and feed on His Word, and He doesn’t want you running around all over the place. Adam couldn’t get a wife until He slept. Some of us are just too awake. Sometimes, you just need to be still and know that He is God and that He is your shepherd.
It is not only your toasting skill that will get you a spouse, sometimes it is just your ability to be still and follow His direction. It is not all about the dressing and the perfumes alone, there is a place for His fragrance which comes by His favour!
Psalm 46:10Be still, and know that I am God:
Message translations says, “Step out of the traffic…”
That is why He calls you a sheep, even though you might not like that particular creature. You probably prefer a lion. But the sheep actually shows the true vulnerability of the Homo-Sapien. However, the sheep that stay with the shepherd is even more powerful than the lion!
Stay obedient to Him!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, guide me with your shepherding grace to find the right spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalm 46:11The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read and meditate on Psalm 23
Good morning, married folk out there. God bless your marriage. God is committed until your marriage becomes all it has the potential to become.
Your marriage can work out beautifully well. You can enjoy and have that dream marriage you always desire. Don’t for once ever feel it can never happen.
If you believe it can never happen, gosh, you just announced it won’t happen. Don’t give up, but be willing and obedient to do and give your marriage all it takes to make it work.
You know married couples should begin to have this attitude of ‘my marriage is personal and I got to make it work’.
You know while growing up, my dad will always say this proverb, ‘ as you lay your bed, so you will lie on it’. Then, I would wonder, why is he worried about how I lay my bed?
I don’t have a care about how my bed is, once I hit the bed, I don’t have enough time to notice how it is, I just sleep.
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Later, I realized it’s not just about my physical bed, but it’s about life generally. Talking about our physical bed, it’s very good to learn to make our beds well and train our kids to do so too.
Someone said, laying your bed before leaving the house every morning gives you a sense of achievement. It may look small, but somewhere in your sub-conscious you feel good, you have at least a good, well laid bed…lol
For us married, the bed is also very important.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Heb 13:4
My husband will jokingly say, the bed is the most important furniture to the couple. I want to agree with that.
The bed is the legalized furniture for love making. Of course not the only furniture, several others have joined in the quest for ‘orgasmic’ love making.
Now, talking about focusing on your marriage, you have to decide what you want your marriage to look like. No doubt there are a lot of factors that may want to stand against this but you have to stand your ground. Stand your ground to live a worthy legacy for your children and generation yet unborn.
How exactly do we focus on our marriage?
I will show us tomorrow.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is blessed
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to embrace your love
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 49:16 (GW) I have engraved you on the palms of my hands. Your walls are always in my presence.
One of your roles as a wife is to take care of your husband. In some parts of the country, young ladies preparing for marriage are often taught some of these skills. Others watch their mothers or older women as they perform this all important role of taking care of their husbands.
You can become a wife a moment you sign the wedding register. It takes a minute to earn the title of ‘Mrs’, the moment you sign the dotted line and say ‘I do’. But to function as a wife requires knowledge and skills.
This skill of taking care of one’s husband is fast becoming obsolete. Wives, no longer see it as a priority and responsibility. Our present society is not helping matters. Husbands are left in the hands of maids to take care of while the wives go on in pursuit of their careers.
Some wives don’t know how to take care of their husbands. Meanwhile, taking care of your husband is the key to marital bliss. When you treat your husband like a king, he reciprocates back treating you like his queen. It is honor to take good care of your husband and there are blessings attached to it.
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You take care of your husband in the following ways:
1. Cook him variety of dishes I know most wives are working class women who probably have maids. You can supervise what the maid cooks for him.
2. Serve his food Some wives are not even there to see to what their husband is eating. There is a lot of power in food. And she who feeds your husband is important.
3. Serve him in any and every aspect he requires Be there to assist your husband. Treat him as a king, there are some things you don’t just allow your husband do. Not because he is handicapped, but because you want to show him honor
4. Be involved in what he does Part of being an help meet is showing interest in whatever your husband does. Be it business, career etc. Ask questions about what you don’t know.
5. Be his friend and emotional ally There is nothing a man needs more than a friend. Someone to gist with. Be that friend
6. Meet his sexual needs Jeru trip for your husband is very important. Don’t leave that aspect of your duty unattended to. Satisfy his needs as often as he requires it. Your role is not complete until this aspect is fulfilled.
7. Pray for your husband When you pray for him him you engage the power of divinity to step in, in areas where your humanity can’t reach. You can pray for his protection, provision and whatever he may be dealing with.
If wives can try and fulfill all these, there will be less quarrel in homes and marriages.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive Godly wisdom
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me by your Holy Spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 14:1 (KJV) Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
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