I have had to ask myself this question at some points in my life: “Who am I, really?” Because if we’re not careful, we start measuring ourselves by the things we’ve achieved — the goals we’ve hit, the image people have of us, the progress we can point to. And when those things are missing or shaky, we feel like we’re missing too. But then God keeps pulling us back to this truth: our life is hidden in Christ. That’s where our identity is, not in the boxes we’ve checked or haven’t checked yet.
Paul understood this. In Philippians 3:7-8 he said, “Whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ.” That’s a heavy statement, especially when you remember who Paul was. He wasn’t small. He had status, he had influence. But he looked at all of it and said, “Without Christ, it’s empty.” He wasn’t saying achievements are bad; he was saying they’re not strong enough to define who you are.
And isn’t that the trap for many of us? We’re so quick to wrap our worth around what we do, how much we earn, or how well people clap for us. But the truth is, those things are fragile. Jobs can disappear. Titles can fade. Applause always dies down. Even relationships can shift. But identity in Christ? That’s untouchable. It doesn’t reduce with age. It doesn’t get weaker when you fail. It’s eternal.
For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:3 (NIV).
That realization has set me free. We can chase goals, pursue dreams, and give our very best, but whether we rise or fall, whether people notice us or overlook us, one thing stays the same: we are still God’s children. That truth doesn’t shift with achievements. Our value isn’t hanging on the next milestone; it’s already secure in Jesus.
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works. Ephesians 2:10.
Did you see that? It doesn’t say your worth comes from the works. It says you are His handiwork. The identity comes first. The works simply flow out of it.
In conclusion, achievements are good. They can open doors, create opportunities, and even bless others. But they were never meant to define us. Christ is. When we make Him our real identity, we stand on a foundation that doesn’t shake. Nothing we gain or lose in this life can change the fact that we are fully known, fully loved, and fully secure in Him.
There are moments in one’s life where nothing is obviously wrong, but everything feels… off. You’re not making reckless choices; you’re showing up, doing your best, and staying faithful. Yet, somehow, beneath all that, something just feels unsettled.
One day you’re steady, the next you’re overwhelmed. Yesterday you felt confident in what God told you, today you’re second-guessing everything. It’s not that you don’t have faith—it’s just that things are shifting, and you notice it.
“I have set the Lord always before me. Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” – Psalm 16:8 (NIV)
The bible didn’t necessarily promise a quick fix. What it gives us is something solid to hold onto. David didn’t say, “I won’t be shaken because everything’s going my way.” He says, “I have set the Lord always before me.” That’s a deliberate choice, not just a passing feeling. He’s saying, “God, You’re my focus. You’re at the center.”
It’s not about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about not letting God fade into the background. Where you set your attention shapes the way you see and respond to everything else.
And don’t skip the second part of the verse: “Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” That right-hand place means God is close—He’s not distant or detached. He’s right beside you, present, ready to keep you steady when life feels off-balance.
That awareness changes everything. Instead of reacting to every emotion or thought, you can pause, reset and not because you have all the answers, but because you know who’s holding your hand.
So, what can you do when life feels a little unsteady?
1. Refocus your attention. Ask yourself honestly: “What have I been putting in front of me lately?” If it’s stress, pressure, or distractions, no wonder you feel unsteady. Look to Jesus—not just because it’s the “right thing to do,” but because it’s what truly works.
2. Slow your pace. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fix everything—fast. But often, feeling shaky comes from moving too quickly. Whether you’re making decisions or just trying to get through the week, pause. Invite God into the space your hurry wants to fill. Clarity usually comes in the quiet, not in the rush.
3. Go back to what God already told you. When life feels unsteady, it’s tempting to look for something new—a new word, a new sign. But revisit what God has already said. He doesn’t change His mind just because you’re having a rough week.
4. Let truth lead, not your emotions. It’s okay to feel deeply. But you don’t have to let feelings run your decisions. Let God’s truth guide you, even when your heart feels loud or uncertain.
Let this sink in: You’re not unstable—you’re just learning to stay grounded. God isn’t far away. He’s close enough to steady you. You don’t have to answer every doubt or fear. Just stay anchored to Him. If God is before you and beside you, you can never fall apart—even if life feels a little unsteady right now.
A snare is a device or trap employed to capture or confine an animal against its will. Historically, fowlers (bird hunters) utilized snares to capture birds.
In Psalm 124:7-8, the term “snare” is employed metaphorically to convey a situation characterized by peril, oppression, or confinement.
Psa 124:7-8 (AMPC) We are like a bird escaped from the snare of the fowlers; the snare is broken, and we have escaped! [8] Our help is in the name of the Lord, Who made heaven and earth.
The psalmist is comparing God’s rescue to a bird escaping from a hunter’s snare.
In a broader sense, the snare can represent any kind of trap, temptation, or bondage. The passage expresses gratitude for God’s deliverance and protection.
Guess what? This is exactly your story!
You’ve escaped!
Not only did you escape, but the trap was invalidated, rendered useless, null, and void!
You’re free!
Jesus has done something incredible for you and me. We’ve been freed from all sorts of traps, temptations, and bondages! Praise be to God!
You’re meant to live a triumphant life, not a defeated one like you’re still trapped!
And guess what? The next verse says your help comes from the Lord!
Live in the reality of the help that God has given you.
In your relationship and marriage, celebrate what God has done for you!
Soar like an eagle and don’t get caught up in the messes of this world.
We have a similar promise in Psalm 91, which says the same thing we have in God!
Psa 91:3 (KJV) Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.
Effective immediately, embrace the reality of that freedom and accept all the divine assistance that God bestows upon you in the name of Jesus.
The spiritual husband will put the things of God first place. He takes charge of the family in the place of spiritual oversight and knows how to hear from God.
A man that doesn’t know how to hear God can make the whole family suffer because of wrong decisions.
Every day, a man is making decisions, but the consequences of his decisions go beyond him, they affect the whole family.
However, ladies don’t just want a spiritual husband. They also want a romantic husband.
4. The Romantic Husband
If he is spiritual but unromantic, he will be a bore!
Ladies would be like “Is it only Bible reading and speaking in tongues all the time? Going to the movies once in a while nko?
Ladies want a man that knows his onions when it comes to being romantic.
Every wife wants a man that can read the Bible but can also read their moods. They want a man who can interpret tongues and can also interpret non-verbal cues. They want a man who is sensitive to the Holy Spirit and is also sensitive to their needs!
Abi ladies, is that not what you want?
5. The Humorous Husband
Every lady loves her husband who can make her laugh! What is the point of frowning all over the house throughout the day?
Pastor, is it when there is no money that we would be laughing? Well, read your Bible very well.
At destruction and famine thou shalt laugh… – Job 5:22 (KJV)
Laugh about it and stop looking like Lucozade!
Make your wife laugh!
Those times when your wife is not really happy for whatever reasons, sometimes they themselves don’t even know why you should know what chords to strike that will tickle her.
If all you do is make that lady frown and sad, your relationship or marriage is at risk the day one colleague starts making your wife laugh!
You must know her password. You must learn her love language and learn how to deploy the words strategically to get her out of any pit of depression!
Laughter is like medicine! So, husbands, loosen up.
Guys in courtship, all this frowning all over the place because you are trusting God for money to get a house and settle down is not the way out. Get into God’s word, eat them and let it become a joy and rejoicing of your heart!
As you stay joyful, God will give you ideas that will bring more income, will favour you, and cause an in-flow of funds that will position you to experience God’s supernatural supply system!
I pray that God will give you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will go after wisdom. Knowledge is pleasant to my soul. I enjoy reading God’s word. Discretion will preserve me. Understanding will keep me.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, flood my heart with the light of your word.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And here’s why: GOD gives out Wisdom free, is plainspoken in Knowledge and Understanding. (Pro 2:6 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start searching for knowledge of God’s word now.
As couples, there are areas we need to make improvements with our lives because we have the capacity to do and be more than it presently is. We need to grow so we can accomplish more and become more fulfilled in life especially in our marriage.
1. Spiritually
As a couple, we should grow together in the Lord. Our spiritual growth is of utmost importance and we should take it as such. Even Jesus Christ grew and waxed strong in spirit.
And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel. – Luke 1:80 [KJV]
You need to strive at growing spiritually first on a personal level.
Some husbands are of the opinion that their wives are supposed to grow more than they and be their intercessors. They go around and commit all manner of sins and expect the prayers of their wives to cover them. This is not right. Every husband should be the head of his family in every ramification.
We grow together spiritually when we are able to hear, walk and work with God on the same frequency in our marriage. Not that God is asking your husband to do a particular thing and you don’t have the slightest clue because you are still a babe in Christ.
We grow spiritually when we give attention to the things of God. Daily study of the Bible, prayers, meditations of God’s word, et cetera, all sum up our spiritual growth. Let couples be seen serving God together. It’s such a blessing when husband and wife hold hands to pray and wreak havoc to the kingdom of darkness together.
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This year, we should make it our priority to serve and know God more. Let us give time to seeking and searching for the Lord. Wisdom is the principal thing we have to seek before anything.
2. Mentally
Our mental health is so important and we need to pay attention to it. Why we need to aim at this development as couples is that, if we don’t grow together, we will not be able to relate well to our spouse on the same level. We have mental capabilities that are yet untapped and we need to explore this aspect of our lives.
Our mental capacity is our ability to think well and process events well. It is the creative part of us. It is also our intellectual capacity. Some couples have the husband further his education and develop his mental capacity while the wife remains at the school certificate level.
We should as couples grow together and be on the same mental level so we can discuss issues together without the fear of losing our spouse in the discussion. The wife or husband should stop feeling intimidated whenever one spouse is discussing intelligently with other people of the opposite sex.
We should be able to engage our spouses mentally. Mental development is essential especially since men are logical. We can develop our mental capacity by going back to school (if need be), taking online courses, engaging in brain-stimulating events, learning new skills, reading news and other intellectual pieces, being current through reading and learning.
Don’t be rigid and old school. Learn new things and new ways of doing things.
The world has gone digital, don’t be analog in your mind. Don’t become obsolete or you will be laid aside by your contemporaries.
Let’s work on this aspect of our lives because it has effects on our marriage.
God bless our marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I develop every aspect of my life because Jesus died for every aspect of it.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to give attention to every area of my life.
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY Lk1:80 And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start developing these areas of your life
