We must have heard someone telling us to mind our business. We have always thought it to mean focusing our attention on our own business. Well, there is more to this than just focusing on your own business.
I will like to give attention to engaging our minds in unleashing the unlimited power embedded in our minds. I once read a caption many years ago that read, ‘The mind is a terrible thing to waste’. This caption is very true and we need to find ways of putting our minds to help us in achieving our expected goals as it relates to our marriage.
Our minds seats our thoughts, and our thoughts have a lot to do with the outcome of our marriage. No matter how loving your spouse is and how much they are trying their best to make you happy, your thoughts can work against you.
The difference between what you are experiencing now and what you desire to see in your relationship is in the way you have been using your mind.
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Check out the kind of conversations you have with yourself. What is your monologue like?
If you have thoughts like ‘I will never be happy in this marriage’, ‘ My spouse does not understand me’, I will end up heart-broken”, we can never be happy together, ‘I am trying so hard to please him/her but we are so different’, and so on, such thoughts will never make you enjoy the bliss of marriage.
You have to replace these thoughts of defeat with that of winning and victory. Be intentional about living. Focus and reprogram your mind to have that marriage of your dreams. Focus on a specific vision, be committed to it, pursue it, and be resolute because it is achievable.
Purposeful living is engaging your mind to live intentionally in your marriage.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will give attention to my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for Grace to ‘mind your marriage.’
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 12:2 [KJV]And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your thought pattern in light of the above.
The main focus and intention of God for marriage is that the couple bond. Bonding is a strong word and we need to take note of it.
The whole essence of marriage is that the husband and wife bond together, spirit, soul and body.
That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.
Gen 2:24 CEV
Bonding is both a spiritual act and a process.
It is God that takes care of the spiritual aspect. The process aspect of bonding is our responsibility to fulfill.
Both the husband and wife have various and different role to achieving bonding – a state of becoming one flesh, as a person.
I will like to mention 3 secret that helps us in becoming one flesh continuously.
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1. Proximity 2. Jeru trip 3. Food
1. Proximity If bonding and one flesh is to be achieved, then couples will have to be close to each other. The first step to bonding is ‘leaving to cleave’. There must be a physical cleaving. Husband and wife should be close to each other.
Every opportunity to be together should be maximized. Couple need to fight against whatever might want to keep them separate.
Some jobs are anti marriage. They don’t value or respect your marriage vows.
You have to make choices and honor what God honors. Some promotions and transfer should be rejected and God will honor us for choosing God rather than wealth or riches or the worlds standard.
My mum had opportunity to travel out for a nursing job, but she refused. She said she would rather stay with her young family than leave us vulnerable and exposed.
Thank God for her sacrifice then, we are a product of her sacrifice.
As couples, we have to pay the price for proximity.
There are some transfer or staying apart that are very necessary. You must be willing to make sacrifices and go the extra mile to ensure you are close. (Just be led by God’s Spirit.)
You must be willing to spend more money on calling each other everyday, do video calls.
Some couples are near yet far from each other. Be on the same page with your husband. Don’t take each other for granted. It is a continuous working to keep both husband and wife together.
Let our aim in our marriage be ‘to become one flesh’ and the Lord will help us in Jesus name.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I become one flesh with my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me understanding to take this up as my priority above all else.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 2:24 CEV That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to work at being close with each other.
My husband wrote the first part of this devotional yesterday. I will be concluding on the other part this morning.
And I am excited because today is my birthday! God has been faithful to me.
Let’s get into the devotional….
If you missed the first part written by my husband yesterday, you can read HERE
1. Let God be your foundation
Luk 6:48 He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
2. Choose with God
Psa 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
3. It takes more than love to make a success of marriage
There are many ingredients that make a good marriage. Love is just one of them, find the other ingredients.
4. Get informed about marriage
Pro 4:7 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.
5. Don’t sweep any character flaws under the carpet
6. No sex and all forms of sexual compromise before marriage.
7. Do not double date. It is a rehearsal for adultery in marriage
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8. Do not plant wrong seeds because you will really reap what you plant
9. Respect each other right from courtship days
10. Be a whole person before marriage. Marriage doesn’t make you whole
11. Be open and sincere about your past with each other. Open your baggage and discuss with each other.
12. Be friends and relate with each other as friends.
God bless your relationship.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate myself today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Ask that God will prepare you for marriage.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In 22 Years – Part 2
My husband wrote the first part of this devotional yesterday. I will be concluding on the other part this morning.
And guess what? Today is my birthday! God has been faithful to me.
Let’s get into the devotional….
If you missed the first part “Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In 22 Years” written by my husband yesterday, you can read HERE
1. Marriage is done by the mercy of God
Rom 9:16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
There is a part where you work at it from both end, but at the end of the day, it is wise to constantly surround your marriage with the mercy of God.
2. Marriage is highly spiritual. You must engage in all spiritual activities in other to stay at par. Marriage can often be warfare and you have to be prepared for it.
3. You have to be a woman of prayer You cannot afford to be prayerless. A prayerless wife is a careless wife. The devil is out to ruin marriages. Learn to wake up at night to pray as well.
4. Learn to let go of issues. Don’t enforce your right. Be flexible. This goes for husband and wife. You have to close your eyes and ears to certain things.
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5. Be quick to forgive and don’t be revengeful. Be a quick forgiver. Marriage is all about forgiving 7 X 70 times! Practice advanced forgiveness
6. Be free to express your true feelings Be ready and willing to express your true feelings, and the spouse should allow for expression of true feelings.
7. Laugh at each other and laugh with each other Laugher is like medicine, so says the Bible. Let your home be filled with laughter.
8. Be an open book. No secrets Be open about everything. Don’t keep secrets.
9. Don’t insist on your own opinions. Respect each other. Respect is mutual in marriage. Your wife has things to offer.
10. Be a helper. Be supportive, submissive and be ready and willing to make sacrifices
11. Always seek to keep your love ablaze
Have a great day!
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate my spouse today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In Twenty Two Years
Today is our wedding anniversary! It has been God o! Literarily.
And the way the years moved so fast? Like it has been twenty two years! Twenty two long years!
Even though, it kind of looked so fast, I can assure you it has been a long marital road. However, I can also tell you this of which I am sure of, the long road of our marital journey is laced with mercy!
GOD’s loyal love couldn’t have run out, his merciful love couldn’t have dried up.
Lam 3:22 (MSG)
We travelled on mercy. We had junctions of His favour! We had stops where angels ministered to us. To God be the praise!
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Here are a few things things I have learnt that may help you in your marriage
1. Pray a lot as married couples. Do everything in prayer. The battle is intense, but God has all the power.
2. Stay close to each other. Do not allow a third party to break your bond.
3. Get a marriage mentor that you can speak to from time to time. Very important.
4. Be open and honest with each other. Avoid unnecessary secrecy.
5. Be faithful to each other. Avoid emotional affairs. Do not starve your spouse emotionally.
6. Be quick forgivers. Forgive quickly and avoid strife like a plague
7. Be friends. Laugh a lot. Play with each other. You need that to live long
8. Do not allow anything to steal your joy. Keep your joy intact.
9. Do not deprive each other sexually. Satisfy each other and never refuse yourselves. Sex is never a tool of punishment or a reward system. It is simply an obligation
10. Decide to be sacrificial. Live to please each other. That is what marriage is all about.
11. Never stop communication. Do not give each other silent treatment. Crack jokes a lot and play together
12. Give a lot. Work hard and trust God for His favour upon the works of your hands.
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate my spouse today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
