Avoiding Distractions As Lovers And Couples

Avoiding Distractions As Lovers And Couples

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Avoiding Distractions As Lovers And Couples.

We live in a world where it is so easy to be distracted.

It becomes increasingly difficult to focus on particular things per time not to talk of focusing on a particular person.

We get distracted by our changing desires, the information available to us, and the influence of social media.

We are confronted daily with making choices or remaining steadfast to the choices we have made.

Our relationship is not left out in the battle for our focus.

Lovers find it more difficult to commit to the pledge to love each other and end up as husband and wife.

The level of trust is gradually diminishing.

Relationships do not seem to have the old-time solid foundation of trusting each other.

Here are five ways to avoid distractions and focus on the one you love.

1. Celebrate yourselves

Remember the good virtues you first cherished in the one you love.

What you celebrate will increase in value.

If you keep talking about how lovely your boo or bae is, it helps you to be more endeared to him/her.

2. Avoid emotional attachments

Don’t enjoy the company of the opposite sex to the extent that you are getting emotionally attached.

Avoid all forms of emotional attachment no matter how enjoyable it seems. The emotional attachment is a distraction.

3. Avoid seeking pity

Don’t report your boo or bae to the opposite sex to engender pity or sympathy.

A relationship or secret affair may start

4. Stay on the Word

Keep focused on the word God gave you before you started the relationship.

That word becomes the anchor of your soul.

That word is strong enough to keep you away from every form of distraction and keep you focused.

5. Be sensitive

Avoid all forms of unsolicited care, attention, and kind gesture from the opposite sex.

Any gift given by a secret admirer can lead to distraction soonest if not tamed.

Learn to say No, to certain unnecessary kind gestures.

Know how to discern between favor from God and the devil’s trap to distract you from your God-given relationship.

As a guy don’t be unnecessarily kind to a lady who is not your bae especially if you are already in a relationship!

May God give us more understanding!

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Mindful Ending: Going Into New Year

Mindful Ending: Going Into New Year

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Mindful Ending: Going Into New Year  

Hello everyone, today we’re diving into five areas that deserve your contemplation as we approach the final day of the year. These insights aim to guide your reflection, helping you make the most of the remaining time before we usher in the new year.

1. Reflection:

As the curtains draw on this year, seize the chance to step back and ponder your accomplishments and goals. Evaluate your progress with an honest lens, identifying areas for improvement. This self-reflection isn’t just a trip down memory lane; it’s a tool for personal growth, laying the foundation for new aspirations in the year ahead.

2. Gratitude:

In the hustle and bustle, it’s crucial to pause and express gratitude. Take a moment to appreciate the people, experiences, and opportunities that have added joy and fulfillment to your life. Cultivating gratitude isn’t just a nice sentiment; it’s a proven way to enhance overall well-being and maintain a positive outlook.

Has God been good? Have you taken the time to express your gratefulness and appreciation?

3. Family and Friends:

Amidst the year-end rush, reflect on whether you have allocated quality time for your loved ones, especially family and friends. Strong relationships serve as pillars of support and fountains of happiness. Plan activities that create lasting memories, strengthening the bonds that make life richer.

4. Spiritual Growth:

These closing days of the year offer a prime window for spiritual reflection. Engage and practice God’s presence, basking in His glory and enraptured in His grace to endow and endue you for the coming year! Have you gotten a word for the coming year yet? It’s not too late! Spend time in His presence!

5. Giving:

Have you given enough back to your immediate sphere of influence as God blessed you? Were you faithful in tithing and honouring God? Have you helped others around you that you are better off than? Contributing to the community not only has a positive impact on others but also brings a profound sense of fulfillment and purpose to your own life.

Remember, these last hours of the year present a unique opportunity for introspection, growth, and positive transformation. Embrace the time that remains, and let it be a stepping stone to a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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Five Consistent Acts for Great Lovers 

Five Consistent Acts for Great Lovers 

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Five Consistent Acts for Great Lovers 

Alright, lovebirds, if you’re sailing the single seas and eyeing that potential forever mate, here are five things you should be doing consistently. Trust me; these will lay the groundwork for a rock-solid marriage. If you are already hooked, these are the things you should keep your eyes on as well.

1. God at the Center

First things first, folks. Let’s not kid ourselves; if it wasn’t for divine intervention, you might not have crossed paths. Keep that God factor intact – it’s the glue holding you together. Follow the divine playbook, hit those church services, dive into your Bible, and throw in massive rivers of tongues, meditation, and confession. Make sure your love story is anchored in something more profound than just looks or deep pockets.

Five Consistent Acts for Great Lovers 

2. The Power of Prayer

Prayer – the unsung hero of relationships. Pray together, pray separately, just pray. Even if you’re miles apart, thanks to smartphones and social media, you can still make it happen. Share your prayer points, download some powerful confessions, and let your prayers become the secret sauce that adds favor, mercy, wisdom, and understanding to your relationship. Trust me; it’s a game-changer.

3. Forgive, Don’t Forget

In the courtship phase, you’re learning the ABCs of each other. And let’s be real, clashes are inevitable. The key? Forgive early and forgive often. You’re dealing with different temperaments here, folks. Misunderstandings are par for the course, so keep that forgiveness flowing. Marriage, they say, is for two great forgivers. Don’t let strife, malice, or bitterness set up shop – forgiveness is your secret weapon.

4. Knowledge is Power

Ever heard the phrase “knowledge is power”? Well, it holds in courtship too. Read, read, and read some more. Educate yourselves about the intricacies of courtship and marriage. Books are your best friends in this journey. Dive into the wisdom of authors who’ve been there, done that. Tim Lahaye’s “Spirit-Controlled Temperament” could be your marriage Bible. Trust me; it did wonders for us. Understanding our differences became a breeze and the quarrels? Drastically reduced.

Five Consistent Acts for Great Lovers 

5. Mutual Respect

In the game of love, it’s a partnership. Respect and honor should flow both ways. Yeah, God put the man as the head, but let’s not forget the neck – just as crucial. It’s not about superiority; it’s about complementing and respecting each other’s God-given roles. Courtship is the breeding ground for this respect. Ladies, no need to play the role of a small mummy before marriage. Let your virtues speak for themselves. And guys, lead with love, earn that respect – don’t demand it.

So, there you have it, love warriors. As you navigate the courtship waters, remember these consistent acts. May God grant you the wisdom and understanding to make your journey from courtship to marriage a joyous one. Cheers to love!

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Breaking the Chains of Vengeance In Marriage

Breaking the Chains of Vengeance In Marriage

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Breaking the Chains of Vengeance In Marriage

Let’s talk about a marriage that’s dancing on the edge – a tango of revenge and retaliation. It’s a twisted tale where love and respect take a backseat, making room for a toxic brew of fear and animosity.

In this scenario, couples aren’t motivated by love or mutual respect; it’s the fear of being crushed that drives their behavior. It’s a roller-coaster of bitterness, hurt, strife, and a cocktail of justifiable evils.

Emotional Chaos Unleashed

Here, emotional tantrums are not just tolerated; they’re practically encouraged. Outbursts of anger are the norm, creating a battleground within the supposed sanctuary of marriage.

The Unbalanced Power Play

Picture this: the man demands reverence and the woman? Well, she better worship him, or life becomes a living nightmare. Love, agreement, and cooperation – all held hostage by the looming threat of punishment.

Love Withdrawal Tactics

Trouble arises when love becomes a bargaining chip. The woman, in a bid to retaliate, withholds love, intimacy, agreement, cooperation, and goodwill. It’s a silent but potent form of punishment, casting a dark cloud over the relationship.

A Cycle of Retribution

What follows is a dangerous tit-for-tat game. The man, feeling the sting of emotional and sexual starvation, retaliates by flexing his authority as the man of the house. It’s a never-ending cycle, a destructive loop of retaliation.

The Silent Sufferers

But guess who bears the brunt of this vengeful waltz? Both the man and the woman suffer the consequences. As the Yoruba proverb wisely puts it, “When it is uneasy for the rope, it equally becomes uneasy for the bird.”

A Marriage in Flames

In the heat of this retaliation, the marriage becomes an unbearable inferno for both parties. The burning question: If we make this marriage work, is it for our own good or to save face?

The Bed We Make

Reflect on this – the way you lay your bed determines how you lie on it. If you roughen the sheets, don’t expect a restful night. But invest in your marriage, work on it, and you’ll reap the sweet dividends.

A Call to Change

If you choose the path of reacting to every provocation, insisting only your viewpoint matters, you’re in for a turbulent ride. 

Decide to do it God’s way! Don’t be vengeful! Forgive easily and avoid marital retaliation! Good morning! 

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The Turbulent Waters of In-Law Drama in Marriage

The Turbulent Waters of In-Law Drama in Marriage

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The Turbulent Waters of In-Law Drama in Marriage

Hey there, folks! Let’s dive into the wild world of in-law troubles, a topic that has wreaked havoc on marriages, especially in the vibrant African culture.

The Cultural Conundrum

You know, culture and ethnicity are like the spice of life, but hey, remember, the Gospel isn’t playing favorites with any of that. It’s like the GPS for life, guiding us through the twists and turns.

God’s Guidance

Now, picture this: scriptures standing tall as the beacon of truth, illuminating the path in the chaos of in-law drama. Ignore these divine principles, and you’re basically sending out invites for trouble – and who wants that?

God vs. Chaos

It’s a showdown, my friends. Your cultural beliefs on one side, and God’s word on the other. Who’s going to win? Well, hint: siding with culture might land you in the trouble zone.

Team God or Team Chaos

In the epic battle against in-law issues, husbands and wives, listen up – you’ve got two options. You either roll with God’s playbook or throw your own rulebook into the ring. Your call.

The In-Law Richter Scale

Now, let’s get real. The intensity of in-law challenges is like a rollercoaster, different for every marriage. Brace yourself and tackle it as a dynamic duo, because you’re in for a ride.

God’s Blueprint for Marriage

Enter Genesis 2:24, the ultimate relationship handbook. “A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife.” Translation? Your spouse trumps all other ties.

Leaving and Cleaving 101

Husbands, pay attention. You’re not just physically leaving; you’re emotionally and spiritually detaching too. Your wife is now numero uno. It’s not just a suggestion; it’s a responsibility.

The Naked Truth

Hold on, we’re not getting scandalous here. According to Genesis, being “naked” means being open, vulnerable, without shame, but only with your spouse. No third parties allowed, folks!

No Man Should Put Asunder

Now, to Matthew 19:6, where God drops the mic: “What God has joined, let no man put asunder.” Translation? You’re a package deal now, and no meddling hands should break that bond. Not even in-laws

The United Front

Couples, listen close. In God’s eyes, you’re a tag team, a dynamic duo, one flesh. Anyone trying to split you apart is in for a serious reality check.

Parental Reality Check

Parents, you’re on notice too. No playing favorites, no picking sides. Both spouses are a package deal, and any attempt to treat them otherwise is a big no-no.

Diplomacy 101

Tackling in-law issues requires finesse. Let your parents know, with all the wisdom you can muster, that your spouse is the top person in your life. It’s not disrespect; it’s setting the right priorities.

Wisdom from Above

When in doubt, ask the big guy upstairs for wisdom. Never assume you’ve got it all figured out. Trust me, a bit of divine guidance can go a long way.

Alright, folks, that’s a wrap for today. Navigating in-law drama may be tricky, but with a sprinkle of divine wisdom and a dash of love, you can conquer it. Until next time, stay united and keep the love alive!