The Crazy Thing About “I Do”

The Crazy Thing About “I Do”

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The Crazy Thing About “I Do” The day you walked down that aisle and said “Ido,” something happened. It’s almost crazy! Your body is no longer your own, it belongs to your spouse. 

A fusion takes place in the realm of the spirit, which is so strong that God proclaimed, “let no man put asunder!”

God becomes the witness of this union, and any attempt to drive a wedge in between this union is coming against God Himself. 

As couples who are believers, and well-grounded, the weapon of the devil against you is strategic.

If you are a weak believer with no firm resolve, he can easily bring adultery and infidelity to the table and you will be swept off your feet if you are far from God.

But with those who may be grounded, the devil still has strategies. His weapon is to keep you divided, torment you in your thoughts, and keep you perpetually in strife. 

You are not in adultery, but in your mind, you are probably worse off.

This will affect the whole family because your thoughts are magnetic and will determine many things around you.

How will you pray and agree together when the mind of one of the spouses is riddled with doubt, contempt, and dislike for the other?

This is the devil. And you get to know this in little things.

Your spouse is easily excited talking to others but irritated when you are alone. 

The friend you saw in your spouse as courting sweethearts has evaporated into thin air!

Sometimes, this shows up as singles in courtship too. Unexplainable and perpetual irritation from one party could be an indication of deep-seated issues. 

Before you start blaming him or her, you should take responsibility first for where you find yourself, humble yourself and ask God to help you.

It is another problem entirely when you keep blaming your spouse for your own actions, neglect, and carelessness. That can be unfair and you will never change that way.

It is like a General Manager who keeps blaming his employees for losses and the employees who keep blaming the Manager for their ineffectiveness. That organization is in a quandary!

Stop the blame game! It is a trap of the devil.

See, there is no point wasting your time, there is much to do!

Why would you fast forty days and then use four days of strife to rubbish everything?

Why would you sow seeds for years and then pull them out with careless, selfish thoughts and words?

Common, get on the same page and combine your weapons against the enemy of your soul.

From the day you got married, you can no longer do it alone!

So, get over trivial issues, be it husband or wife, and be on the same page so that you can both enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings in your life.

As singles in courtship, you are simply dissipating a lot of power when you entertain strife continually!

May God bless your relationship, marriage, and home.

I will cooperate with my spouse

Devil, take your hands off my marriage in Jesus name

Rom 14:16 (KJV)  Let not then your good be evil spoken of

Write down what you love about your fiance/spouse and thank God for those things. 

Job 24 – 28

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Know These And Know Peace In Marriage

Know These And Know Peace In Marriage

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Know These And Know Peace In Marriage. I want to talk about two crucial things in marriage. They are pivotal to a smooth relationship as couples. Let’s dive into it.

Know These And Know Peace In Marriage

1. Renewal and Recharge Junctions

In marriage, you must learn to take breaks from work and relax. You have to have time that you spend together as husband and wife.

You need to go back to what used to excite you before the wedding and do those things again and again.

Apart from reading your Bible and praying in the Holy Ghost which refreshes and recharges your spirit, you should also learn to be relaxed once in a while.

2. Mentoring  

Every marriage must have a mentor to whom you defer and seek wisdom.

There is something that a couple that has been married for thirty years knows that a three-year-old couple is oblivious of.

It is plain wisdom to seek counsel.

Most issues that lead to serious strife and possible separation and divorce could easily have been resolved by seeking knowledge.

That is why I am a little scared of couples who talk to nobody! Something is not quite right with that.  Part of having a marriage mentor is being humble.

3. Sincerity and Openness 

Finally, this is so crucial to the survival of any marriage! Be open

Marriage is not a secret cult! Talk about everything and anything.

Hiding things and allowing your spouse to discover will only lead to mistrust and suspicion. The rule of the game is to talk about everything. That will go a long way to establishing trust. Know These And Know Peace In Marriage

If you keep talking exactly how it is, it would be difficult to go into adultery, because adultery is perpetuated in the platform of insincerity and deception. May God help us all. 

I have God’s wisdom in my marriage 

Lord, give us a humble heart  

Psa 51:10 (KJV) Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

Discuss on mentorship and agree

Mark 7

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The Commitment Of Marriage

The Commitment Of Marriage

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The Commitment Of Marriage. God is our creator, He made us and we are the sheep of His pasture. He also created the marriage institution and knows how best it is to be worked. He didn’t just leave us clueless but gave us His guidelines.

The Bible is our manufacturer’s manual. It becomes our road map to doing marriage well. God has promised the days of heaven on earth in our marriages. We can only achieve this when we live according to the dictates of the Bible.

Any diversion from the commands of God’s injunctions leads to a negative experience. God may lead us around but He definitely will not lead us wrong. 

There are instructions for living individually because it is two whole individuals that make a good marriage.

We are to study the Word of God for living. The Word is to transform us. 

Let’s look at one of the core instructions to married couples in Ephesians. It speaks specifically to husbands and wives. This is The Commitment Of Marriage

Husbands and wives are to pursue these instructions with the whole of their hearts. They are to study it in different translations of the Bible and ask the Holy Spirit for Grace to do it no matter what. 

That is how to follow God. The rewards are for the Word practitioners. Talk is cheap, quoting the scriptures is cheap but being a doer of the Word is where the real work is.

Ephesians 5:21-33 TPT
And out of your reverence for Christ be supportive of each other in love.

For wives, this means being devoted to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, for the husband provides leadership for the wife, just as Christ provides leadership for his church, as the Savior and Reviver of the body. 

In the same way, the church is devoted to Christ, let the wives be devoted to their husbands in everything. 

And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God. All that He does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw.

Husbands, have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self. 

No one abuses his own body but pampers it—serving and satisfying its needs. 

That’s exactly what Christ does for his church! He serves and satisfies us as members of his body. 

For this reason, a man is to leave his father and his mother and lovingly hold to his wife, since the two have become joined as one flesh. 

Marriage is the beautiful design of the Almighty, a great mystery of Christ and his church. 

So every married man should be gracious to his wife just as he is gracious to himself. 

And every wife should be tenderly devoted to her husband. This is The Commitment Of Marriage.

This remains the core of the marriage relationship. Couples having issues in their marriage should come to a point where the Word becomes the final authority they both submit to.

Each couple should embark on a personal journey of doing everything possible to unravel this instruction. Study, meditate and confess this scripture.

Any teaching that is outside these instructions is not the Word. 

Let me leave us all to study this scripture. May the Lord grant us understanding

Our marriage will thrive

I live by the word. I honor the Word. I humble myself under the mighty hand of the Word. As I obey the Word, my life and marriage is transformed.

Father give me your wisdom to honor my spouse in Jesus name 

So every married man should be gracious to his wife just as he is gracious to himself. And every wife should be tenderly devoted to her husband. Ephesians 5:33 TPT 

Study this scripture until you have understanding and revelation on it.

Eph 5

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Oil for Today: Day 383

Oil for Today: Day 383

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Oil for Today: Day 383 – Prayer For Relationship And Marriage

Prayer 1

Let’s begin to thank for His mercy

Ps.136.1 – O give thanks unto the LORD; for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever.

Prayer 2

Lord, I speak mercy to my marriage/relationship.

Job 22.28 – Thou shalt also decree a thing, and it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon thy ways.

Prayer 3

Lord turn every evil counsel of the wicked over my marriage/relationship to foolishness

2Sam.15.31b – And David said, O LORD, I pray thee, turn the counsel of Ahithophel into foolishness.

Prayer 4

Lord Jesus take over the building of my marriage/relationship

Ps.127.1(MSG) – If GOD doesn’t build the house, the builders only build shacks. If GOD doesn’t guard the city, the night watchman might as well nap.

Prayer 5

I receive wisdom and understanding for my marriage/relationship.

Prov.24.3 (MSG)- It takes wisdom to build a house, and understanding to set it on a firm foundation;

Prayer 6

Wealth and glory accompany my marriage/relationship in the name of Jesus.

Prov.8.18 – Riches and honour are with me; yea, durable riches and righteousness.

Prayer 7

My marriage/relationship is fruitful in the name of Jesus.

Gen.9.7 – And you, be ye fruitful, and multiply; bring forth abundantly in the earth, and multiply therein.

Prayer 8

Appreciate God for the answered prayers.

Eph.3.20 – Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,

Prayer For Relationship And Marriage


My marriage/relationship is blessed. I will not lack wisdom and understanding in this marriage/relationship because I have made Christ the foundation. Negative words or counsel will not prevail over my marriage/relationship. The wine therein is fresh everyday and will not end. God is sustaining us with wealth and honour in the name of Jesus. Amen

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Father, Why Have You Forsaken Me?

Father, Why Have You Forsaken Me?

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Father, Why Have You Forsaken Me? It is noteworthy to find out that a large number of juvenile prisoners or even men in prisons scattered all over the world either had absentee fathers or had no fathers at all.

We often underestimate the power of a father’s presence in the home! It’s powerful. Growing up without the benefit of a man in the house can be emotionally defective for the child.

Fathers are needed.

When Jesus was on the cross, God looked away from Him at the moment he was carrying the sin of humanity because God wouldn’t behold sin. Jesus felt that separation and cried out; Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? He couldn’t bear the father forsaking him, even the earth reacted by welcoming darkness all over the earth, yet it was afternoon! All because the Father turned his back on Jesus!

The father looked away! Father, Why Have You Forsaken Me?

As children of God, we make mistakes, we often disappoint God and we outrightly disobey especially with sexual sins. When this happens, we usually think God forsakes us!

But He doesn’t! We are actually the ones that run away from Him as a result of guilt!

We quit reading our Bible, quit going to church, we feel we have disappointed God, we feel less of ourselves and we just run away from anything spiritual. Well, the devil has you right where he wanted, when you do any of that!

When you have messed up, that is the time to run into the father’s embrace and bury yourself in the river of mercy that flows in His bosom.

The devil wants you guilt-ridden, full of regret, caught in the web of your errors, blaming yourself endlessly, and feeling God won’t have you back. This in turn drives one more into the trenches of iniquity! You see, no place is safe when you are away from his presence!

Father, Why Have You Forsaken Me? The father never forsakes us, we are the ones that forsake His presence!

My point this morning? Get back to Him. His loving arms are well spread to embrace you and cleanse you from all errors! Never doubt the father’s love!

Gal 4:6-7 (MSG) You can tell for sure that you are now fully adopted as his own children because God sent the Spirit of his Son into our lives crying out, “Papa! Father!” [7] Doesn’t that privilege of intimate conversation with God make it plain that you are not a slave, but a child? And if you are a child, you’re also an heir, with complete access to the inheritance.

The Father loves me. I dive into the embrace if the Father

Lord, open my eyes to your love

Gal 4:6 (TPT) And so that we would know for sure that we are his true children, God released the Spirit of Sonship into our hearts—moving us to cry out intimately, “My Father! You’re our true Father!”

Take a step of action today 

Gal 4

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