We have been looking at this topic building to last in marriage for some time now and I will be taking the concluding part of the same topic.
I pray and sincerely hope this message will bring couples to ways they can discuss this together to find their own way of implementing the points. There may be ways based on their peculiar situation, they could adapt the points discussed here.
8. Never talk bad about your spouse to anybody
Respect the covenant between you. Let no one be able to come between you. Don’t betray trust. Defend each other. Don’t fight with each other but fight for each other. Don’t fight your spouse because of any other person. Don’t give any other person the privilege of being more special than your spouse. It will backfire. What is between the two of you cannot be compared with any other relationship.
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9. Love jeru trip
Enjoy Jerusalem trips. It is pleasure to both of you. Never get tired of each other. Give yourself to one another unhindered
10. Keep the word ‘divorce’ out of your dictionary
Remember your marriage vows. It is till death do us part. There are no problems without solutions. There are issues, challenges but there are ways of handling them. We may not be patient enough or seek God’s face enough to find a lasting solution. God has promised us a way of escape.
Jesus said in John 14:6, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life
Have a bulldog approach to your marriage. Whatever happens, God can restore and make all things new. That doesn’t mean staying in an abusive relationship and environment. Seek all the help you can get for your marriage to be better.
11. Understand each other’s love language
Your love language is like your native mother language, you are most comfortable speaking it and have a free flow with it. Just like you speak the language your spouse understands, you must be willing to learn and understand your spouse’s love language. Don’t insist on your own way of expressing love.
Try to please your spouse. Do whatever he/ she likes and best expresses that you love and care for him/her.
It is either it is gifts, words, touch, actions, or quality time. If it is words, learn to speak tender and kind words to your spouse. Don’t be harsh with your words. Don’t correctly sharply.
If gifts, surprise each other with gifts, do this frequently.
If actions, help to do the dishes, throw the garbage out, wash the car, etc, just offer to do something.
12. Spice up your marriage with little gestures.
Surprise each other with gifts, kisses, and sex. That shows you are thinking of your spouse. Let your spouse know that you are still in love with them.
Kiss passionately, hold hands, cuddle and show public display of affection. Look into each other’s eyes when talking. Be deeply concerned about each other. Look out for yourselves and ask whatever may be happening to your spouse emotionally, physically, or otherwise.
May God bless our marriage as we put these things into practice.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse wholeheartedly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to trust my spouse in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; 1Ti 2:1
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to show genuine love to your spouse.
In life and in our various situations and circumstances, there are times when our calculations fail us. We planned for certain things to work in certain ways but they end up not turning out the way we planned.
Every one of us hoped that our marriage will be ‘happily ever after’. Every bride had such beautiful dreams as they walked down the aisle. After the wedding, our eyes are opened to a rude shock.
Most of the time, we never bargained for the speed breakers, the potholes, turnings, speed limits, traffic lights, and bends in marriage. Life just happens and we learn to cope with whatever comes our way.
Being a believer is so good because we know that the promises of God are yea-and yea Amen.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
Even if our plans do change and things go in the opposite direction, Jesus is still Lord.
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As couples, we must learn the unforced rhythms of Grace
“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. – Mat 11:28
From this scripture, I will show us what to do.
1. Find time to worship Him
2. Spend more time in His presence studying.
3. Speak out the promises of God
4. Ask God for His peace
5. Patiently wait for wisdom that will guarantee your way out.
Always do these, any time anything overwhelms you.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know what to do.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask God for his peace
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matthew 11:28 [ESV]Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray for God’s direction for your home
We are in a very significant year as I have heard so many people say a lot of things about this season. This year, we have to prepare to walk into greatness. There is no accidental success and no growth is a coincidence.
We have to prepare our ways if we must see any significant positive changes in our lives and families. Twelve months is a lot of time. You could start this year having nothing and in twelve months, have kids, have a business of your own, move into your own house, and be doing something significant in the nation.
All these come as a result of the blessing (if it must be true prosperity). The blessing however has to be activated. We activate the blessing by walking in certain principles of the kingdom.
As couples, you have to make up your minds and do so early enough. You cannot continue to do things you used to do and expect a different result. There must be significant changes in your approach and attitudes.
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No more compromises! No to living life haphazardly! No to prayerlessness! No to the works of the flesh, works of unrighteousness! No to not paying of tithes! No to lack of intimacy with God!
You decide to say yes to a life that honors God! Yes to living to please God! Yes to seeking to know God! Yes to hearing the voice of God! Yes to a life of Obedience!
If you do all these, you will be preparing your way into significance.
Remember, God has a purpose for you and your marriage. Carry your spouse along and you will see yourself walk into Glory.
May God grant us grace in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY No more compromise. No, not me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me Lord to be faithful to my marriage covenant
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 6:2 [NKJV] You are snared by the words of your mouth; You are taken by the words of your mouth.
This is a few days gone in the new year. What will happen at the end of this year starts now. Our everyday steps, moving in the positive direction are so important.
As couples, let us think ahead. Let’s have a projection of what we want to achieve in our marriage. We have to get certain principles right.
There are a lot of things we do consciously and unconsciously that frustrate our marriages and are detrimental to the bliss of our marital journey.
Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? – Luk 14:31[KJV]
As we begin a new year, we should sit down in retrospect and cast a vision for ourselves.
You need to ask yourself what exactly do I want from my spouse and marriage. Put it in one or two sentences; something you can put before God and aim at.
Also, know that it takes two to tango. Just as you have certain expectations from your spouse, your spouse too has expectations. Break those expectations into smaller bits and have a vision for this year.
For example, I want my spouse to be more Godly this year. Find out all you need to know about being godly. Let that be your focus. Your spouse can tell you they expect you to be more homely. Humbly, accept that and keep working towards it through the year.
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Let each one of us be committed to doing what our spouse demands of us. Stay focused to this. Do all you can this year to become a better person!
Read books that will show you and help you be a better and happier person. Commit your ways into God’s hands and make sure you talk to God about this. Measure your progress weekly. Don’t get discouraged in your pursuit and don’t become critical of yourself or your spouse.
May God strengthen us!
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a better version of myself this year
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be a better spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Luke 14:31 [ERV] “If a king is going to fight against another king, first he will sit down and plan. If he has only 10,000 men, he will try to decide if he is able to defeat the other king who has 20,000 men.
How To Get Fresh Wine For Your Marriage. Every once in a while, it is important to attend a place where other couples are sharing their experiences.
We all experience burn out and we often get tired of the whole daily routine of house chores, taking care of the children, wives tending the home and taking care of the husband, going to the market, husbands going to work daily looking for money to pay bills and so on.
All these routines day in day out leave us sometimes frustrated and just getting along.
However, the wine of marriage must be kept renewed from getting stale because of the imminent dangers.
There are marriage ministers and ministry set aside and instituted by God to help us. Marriage could be the greatest blessing and as well the greatest regret of one’s life, depending on how it is handled.
Marriage is highly spiritual and it takes spiritual principles to have a blissful marriage. For example, you cannot be selfish and expect your spouse to live joyfully with you. Because it is spiritual, we often need men of God to speak into our lives and marriage and break satanic strongholds off our marriages.
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Obviously, one of the aims of the devil is to destroy homes, families, and marriages, but thank God He came to give us life and to give it to us in abundance. This life is the very life of God that gives us the capacity to function in the class of God.
Such couples’ program is what we have put together to help your marriage experience the new life and new strength to carry on.
This year’s KHC Marriage Bootcamp is not to be missed. We will be discussing issues like communication, conflict Resolution, spicing your sex life, parenting, finances, health Talk, and lots more.
The venue is the Redemption Camp and it starts today.
Friday, 17th – From 4 pm
Saturday, 18th -All Day
Sunday, 19th – Departure by 5.00 am
Amongst many things, we will be looking at Communication, Conflict Resolution, Spicing Your Sex Life, Parenting, Finances, Health Talk, And lots more!
You don’t want to miss this wonderful opportunity. Plan and prepare to attend. Your marriage is worth all the sacrifice.
Remember, pour into your marriage and invest in it and you will enjoy the dividends thereof.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make plans to renew and refresh my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me understanding and wisdom in the affair of my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
ACTION READING FOR THE DAY Register for KHC Marriage Bootcamp
