The opposite will always attract in marriage. You fell in love with your spouse because he/she is different from you. This is so not to encourage disagreement but to bring a different viewpoint into your covenant relationship.
Your love should move from being emotional to being intentional. This is where commitment, maturity, and understanding come to play.
You don’t do marriage because of feelings, you do because of commitment and respect to God who instituted marriage
Emotional love is when you have butterflies in your belly. When your spouse is so nice, loving, caring and he/she is just dope. No faults. No flaws. Everything is just right about them.
But you move to a point of maturity when even though you don’t feel loving towards your spouse because of what they have done or what they have not done, you are intentional and committed to doing those things that keep the love alive.
You don’t kill the embers of the fire of love. You keep on servicing love. Serving and maintenance is an important part of anything we hold dear and anything of value to us that we use.
We maintain our cars, clean up and repair things in our houses so also we should be ready to service our marriage.
Just because things are broken in your car or house doesn’t mean you throw them away. You are committed to spending your money and time fixing whatever needs to be fixed.
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Remember, marriage is till death do us part. You are not going anywhere. You stick with it until you have a breakthrough.
Don’t wait till everything breaks downtown beyond repairs. Just like you don’t wait till your four tyres are flat before repairing and changing them
May God grant us more understanding in Jesus mighty name.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am intentional about my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me wisdom
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NIV)Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a logical conversation with your spouse
Take a look at your family. Find out the greatest source of income for your family. Focus on it and add your strength to that.
Don’t get competitive with yourselves, you are one! A competitive heart will hinder your prayers.
Love each other genuinely and be committed to your spouse’s success. The success of the husband belongs to the wife and vice versa.
It is so important that you rally around yourselves.
Trying to be successful in other to “show” your spouse is nothing but yielding to the flesh.
Oh, Pastor, what am I supposed to do? You sure don’t know my spouse! Well, my dear, you are supposed to walk in love.
Love will always bring victory.
Be committed to doing it in God’s way.
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Obviously, some things did not work beforehand. Some ways of doing things did not work. They are not likely to work this time as well. So, you need to make changes. Adjustments.
What is family altar like? Do you pray together daily? It’s so important. Those are some changes you need to make.
Take a look at your family. Make those changes and expect the best from God.
I pray that every marital storm be abated in Jesus’ name.
God will extend peace to you like a river in Jesus’ name.
May God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR TODAY The Lord is our strength
PRAYER FOR TODAY Father teach us to walk in love
THOUGHT OF THE DAY By their fruits, ye shall know them.
ACTION PLAN OF TODAY Make a decision to leave old unprofitable habits today.
We know money is a major part of our lives as married couples. In fact, we make about 70% of our decision based on finances.
The house we live in, the area we stay, how many kids we have, what school they go, the type of clothes they wear, the type of food they eat, how comfortable the house we live in is, do we rent an apartment or buy one, what work we do, where we work, what part of the country we live in, what type of friends we have, the type of car(s) we have, what church we attend, our spiritual level…and it goes on and on.
Money is so important that it appears in the Bible 123 times.
The only thing that can compete with God in our hearts is mammon or finances. Every sin of covetousness especially of material things is traceable to Financial issues.
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Most adulteries and fornications are basically traceable to money. For example, a beautiful lady or handsome guy who you get attracted to is attractive because she/he can afford expensive things that make her/him beautiful.
No one is attracted to an ugly and poor fellow.
Money is a defence. It can defend our spouse and marriage from falling if properly used
For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it.
Ecc 7:12 [KJV]
So, as couples, it is important we talk about finances and guard against its adverse effect on our marriage. We can make money serve us at whatever level we are in. Finances will answer and solve the majority of our marital problems.
A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things.
Ecc 10:19 [KJV]
Tomorrow, I will show you some pertinent areas to discuss the issue of money with your spouse.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY We have money. Money doesn’t have us. We are rich.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give us the wisdom to know how to multiply whatever amount of money we have in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discuss the points with your spouse
It’s a generationwhere husbands and wives are cheating on each other, even within the church. People have a lot of excuses why it had to happen.
It’s all sounding as if God has revised the scriptures and is now accommodating such lifestyles, but truthfully, the scripture remains the same. God still frowns at it!
The devil is a master strategist. From the very day you are married, he begins to plot and twist, all in a bid to bring you against your maker. You must do well not to slide into his slimy descent of deception.
As couples, you have to stay chaste and stay faithful no matter the pressures!
Have you found yourself where you ought not to? Here are three simple steps you can take to exit!
God wants you to exit, not try to edit the whole thing!
1. God Exit You have to settle with God first. Your relationship with Him which has been damaged as a result of disobedience has to be repaired. This is done with a genuinely repentant heart.
“But if we freely admit our sins when his light uncovers them, he will be faithful to forgive us every time. God is just to forgive us our sins because of Christ, and he will continue to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
(1Jn 1:9, TPT)
God forgives!
However, you must make up your mind not to go back into that sin again.
After settling with God, the next is your spouse.
2. Spouse Exit This is the difficult part but very much necessary. You need that openness to demonstrate your honesty and resolve to change. Remember, however, that after disclosing it, you may be relieved, but for your spouse, a cycle of pain, and struggling with forgiveness just began. It might take a while to earn trust back. You must be careful not to break that fragile trust again.
3. Counsel Exit Here you need someone you are going to be accountable to who will also help you navigate the terrain of rebuilding trust and staying true to your resolve not to dabble into the murky waters of adultery again!
May God help you indeed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to cooperate with my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to cooperate with my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 John 1:9 (BBE)If we say openly that we have done wrong, he is upright and true to his word, giving us forgiveness of sins and making us clean from all evil.
This Is What Happens To Couples Who Don’t Cooperate
The home was hot, and yet it was really cold outside. Sad miens, sadistic motions, palpitating hearts resulting from acute bitterness serenaded the house. Music has disappeared from their hearts and in its place is a dirge composing itself.
Mr. and Mrs. Jebolade are at it again. The usual bickering have ensued. This will lead to unending quarrels, exchange of bitter words, reclusion into their shells, and eventually strife and animosity that will last for days.
Both of them would feel they were right and would insist on their rights. As they continue in this cat and mouse tantrums, they are actually losing a lot in their marriage without knowing. They are limiting God from blessing them in fullness.
The scriptures says
Psa 78:40-42 (KJV) How oft did they provoke him in the wilderness, and grieve him in the desert! Yea, they turned back and tempted God, and limited the Holy One of Israel. They remembered not his hand, nor the day when he delivered them from the enemy.
Continually provoking God, grieving Him with your refusal to forgive each other is like tempting God and limiting Him from blessing you.
Discarding the marital vows you said and recited on your wedding day because of some disagreement or differences is tempting God and limiting Him in your marriage.
In marriage, it takes your agreement from both sides for anything to work. The devil knows this, so he tampers with your agreement, just to stop the flow of the blessing. You have to be wise, therefore, to ensure that the devil is kept at bay in your marriage.
It’s something deliberate that both of you have to do. You work at your marriage and trust God for the best by simply cooperating with each other. Full cooperation with each other!
I pray and declare that your marriage is blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is blessed in Jesus’ name.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to cooperate with my spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 78:41 (ERV)Again and again they tested his patience. They really hurt the Holy One of Israel.
