by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Sep 16, 2022 | Singles and Married
Reading Time: 2 minutes
How To Get Out Of The Prison. Sally and Bode were so much in love, or so, Sally thought. She was looking forward to the wedding and settling to raise a family with Bode. Sadly, Bode had other plans. He led her on, to the edge of nowhere and led her soul hanging to nothing. All the while Sally thought it was a romantic journey, she ignored all the warning signs and now she has been lethally thrown into a dungeon of sadness and bitterness. Bode got married to another person!
On the day she saw the wedding pictures on Instagram, Sally lost it all. Her praise vaporized into thin air. Bitterness settled and she became angry at God.
The case of Mrs. Johnson wasn’t different. Ever since she discovered her sweet loving Christian husband was cheating on her, she couldn’t easily forgive. Her trust bowl was shattered, her fragile heart was ruptured, her gait was wobbled, her dancing feet were frozen, her laughter became a dirge and her praise was gone.
The devil had Sally and Mrs Johnson where he wanted them. Soul imprisoned!
David in the Bible was there too. He said in
Psa 142:7 (KJV) Bring my soul out of prison, that I may praise thy name: the righteous shall compass me about; for thou shalt deal bountifully with me.
Every time you find it hard, difficult or impossible to praise God, the soul is in the prison. Every time your lips become heavy to praise God, the soul has been caught and shackled in the snare of the fowler. And when the soul is in that position, bountiful blessings will be impossible to receive.
Just like it’s impossible for a prisoner to have maximum benefit that life has to offer. His movement is restricted and he cannot meet great people. His choices are limited and his will are controlled and he must be under servitude. He can’t go on vacation and he can’t choose what he wants to eat. His life became regulated with force.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
Psa 142:7 (MSG) Get me out of this dungeon so I can thank you in public. Your people will form a circle around me and you’ll bring me showers of blessing!”
The dungeon of life is where you have ceased to give thanks to God.
How To Get Out Of The Prison
You must purge your soul of hurts, unforgiving spirits, bitterness, wounds, or just anything that hinders you from praising God continually.
You must find a place of forgiveness for those who dealt with you badly, cheated, jilted, deceived, and despitefully used you. You must find forgiveness for an erring spouse, and allow God to do His work. Hurts must not be allowed to hunt you down and wounds must not build mounds over your destiny.
Don’t allow anything to take your praise away! This is How To Get Out Of The Prison
May God grant you more understanding.
Your relationship will not crash. Your marriage will not suffer a mishap!
Good morning!
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Sep 15, 2022 | Singles and Married
Reading Time: 2 minutes
5 More Deepest Desires Of Your Babe.
6. I need tender loving care (TLC)
Yes, believe it!
I might look like this super amazon of a lady that has everything figured out, but there is a little girl in me that wants to be tantalized!
She wants you to be caring!
She needs you to be tender.
She doesn’t like it when you shout at her.
As singles in courtship, you must be careful that the TLC does not lead to bedroom! Keep the bed undefiled!
7. I want a lover-boy, not a lecturer or sermonizer
When she is tinkering with her moods, she needs you to lovingly find out what is happening and not lecture or sermonize!
It is not a classroom or church.
You are supposed to be a lover boy, not a lecturer or a pastor!
Sometimes, what your wife needs is just to know there is a husband who shows some understanding because she sometimes doesn’t even understand herself!
If you are still single and you have a lecturer or sermonizing lover, that is what will likely continue in the marriage. If it’s not something you like right now, it is in the order for you to go for counsel. Don’t walk down the aisle thinking all will just change overnight because you are now married.
8. I need you to whisper in my ears and taunt me lovingly
Your wife loves that a lot.
You just try it out.
Most husbands are too serious about reading Bible all the time or doing some office work at home.
Office work should be left at the office.
Have some family time and some “wife” time.
It would improve a lot of things.
Singles, no need to whisper anything, for now, you need more prayer whispers than ear whispers!
9. Concerning sex, make sure we both finish
This is strictly for married couples. Singles can just skip…lol
She doesn’t want to be abandoned along the mountaintop!
Sex for a man is a sure arrival.
For your wife, it is a gradual ascent, a mountain climbing, multi-orgasmic experience.
This requires a lot of skill and patience on the part of the husband to take it slowly and guide his wife to arrive before him!
10. I need you to find out my love language and speak it
Every lady has a love language.
Find out what it is and your wife’s peculiarity and simply stick with that language.
That way, you will be able to cultivate your love more effectively.
Singles, go ahead and do online tests to find what your love language is. It will stop all the language confusion at Babel of Tower and bring you into understanding one another as in the Pentecost experience.
May your marriage be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I love my wife genuinely
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, destroy every wrong spirit in our marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1Pe 5:7 (KJV) Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Plan a surprise for your spouse / lover
BIBLE READING
2 Peter, Jude
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Sep 14, 2022 | Singles and Married
Reading Time: 3 minutes
5 Deepest Desires Of Every Woman. The desires of ladies, women, and wives can be so amazing to men because of the male-female differences. Are you aware that men and women think and process differently?
1. Read My Body Language
Women love it when you can pick up everything about them. “How am I supposed to do that, when I am not the Holy Spirit?”
Well, it is about being sensitive and studying the one you claim you love and adore. Ladies are not sometimes good with words, but they are experts in non-verbal communication, so it can be painful when the husband in question is just insensitive!
A woman loves her husband to be able to sense her needs without having to communicate them!
So, husband, you’ve heard o!
However, ladies should communicate when it is obvious your husband is not picking up anything, it is better to talk than to suffer in silence.
5 Deepest Desires Of Every Woman
2. I need more foreplay
Now, this is specifically for MARRIED women!
Husbands, learn to slow down so that your wife can always look forward to sex.
The lady requires more time for foreplay, much more than a man requires.
She may not say it, but that is the probable reason she is not enjoying the whole show as much as you would have wanted to. She needs an average of twenty minutes to be ready!
Singles ladies you don’t need foreplay for anything! You don’t need any play!
Follow this advice here:
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
It is clear from that scripture. Don’t stir anything up. All those making out, kissing, and smooching are nothing other than afflictions.
3. Tell me I am beautiful and mean it from your heart
By the time your wife asks you, “Am I beautiful? She had needed it so badly, she couldn’t help it.
As a good husband, part of your responsibility is to keep verbalizing and affirming your wife by telling her how beautiful she is and why you think she is beautiful.
Don’t just admire her in your heart, say it!
For singles in courtship, it is okay to use good words and proclaim what you want to see in your future wife. Words are powerful, so use them to your advantage.
4. Surprise me with gifts or outings
She loves gifts, especially shiny gifts.
A surprise from time to time will go a long way to show your love for your wife.
The gifts don’t have to be expensive, but consistent. This is applicable to both singles and married
5. Pray for me and fill me with confidence
Every lady loves a praying man. A lady’s confidence and assurance that all will be well, skyrockets when her husband prays for her regularly.
There is this rest that will surround her like a shield and give her assurance for the future.
So, dear husband, pray for your wife regularly.
Singles, pray more that have fun all over the place. The cinemas, the beach visits, the outings, and the Ice creams are all good, but they should not be done at the expense of spiritual exercises like praying!
These are the 5 Deepest Desires Of Every WomanMay your relationship and marriage be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I love my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, teach me to love my lover/spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1Pe 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
ACTION PLAN
Surprise your wife
BIBLE READING
Hebrew 11 – 13
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Sep 13, 2022 | Singles and Married
Reading Time: 2 minutes
I Will Always Love You, Dear. When you met that special one, butterflies were dancing Buga in your tummy. The exhilaration was palpable. Ecstatic moments jumbled into one another.
Few months after, all the butterflies were almost dead! What? What happened? The few butterflies that were barely alive, their wings were broken and alas, they could no longer fly! Their colours have turned monochromatic, the rainbow has disappeared. Cute little smiles and romantic chuckles that sent shivers down the spine have given way to frowns and snappy nasty body language and responses.
No more poems. The poet in him died and all inspiration simply expired. Flowers are no longer sold, and chocolates have been banned. Ice cream is now dangerous to health and no more time for Cinemas and romantic outings. No more candlelight dinners. The bulb was sufficient. No more car-door opening, and little kisses here and there. Chai!
Her dimples have melted and the smiles went a mile!
Singles alike in courtship were all over themselves but these days, one call per week is a luxury! What happened? Networks are misbehaving and salaries have not been paid. “I love you” became scarce and expensive, almost unavailable. What is going on here?
Well, every couple ought to have commitments to each other. These commitments should be verbalized, documented and recounted to each other from time to time. Consciously, deliberately!
What are some of these commitments?
Eph 4:2 (AMPC) Living as becomes you ] with complete lowliness of mind (humility) and meekness (unselfishness, gentleness, mildness), with patience, bearing with one another and making allowances because you love one another.
Here are a few of them
I will always love you, dear
It should not just be something you say to fill in the gap of boredom, it should be a commitment that emanates from the heart.
This love should be unconditional. Love does not depend on attitudes, assumptions, or behaviors.
It is simply a commitment from a heart that is made up.
I will never cheat on you
This particular commitment will advance your life and marriage in no small measure.
Adultery itself is a killer. It is a stupid sin because you are simply working against yourself in the event of an adultery.
That is why the scripture says that he that commits adultery lacks understanding
I will always be there spiritually
What a blessing it is to have a spiritual spouse! A spiritual spouse is not just a prayer machine, but a quick forever and one that does not harbour and pile up hurts and wounds.
Nothing in this world can replace a spiritually sensitive spouse who can pick signals from the frequency of heaven and who can feel the heartbeat of God.
How blessed are you if you are married to a spouse who is a God-chaser? I Will Always Love You, Dear If you above three qualities and commitments, the butterflies will keep on flying!
Have a great day
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will love my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to value and appreciate my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 4:2 (MSG) And mark that you do this with humility and discipline—not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Make the right decisions today
BIBLE READING
Ephesians 4
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Sep 12, 2022 | Singles and Married
Reading Time: 3 minutes
Why You Might Be Failing As A Couple
Husband: Hey dear, you look so beautiful
Wife: Wow
Husband: You are the best
Wife: Uh, tell me more
Husband: But I wish you could change
Wife: Hey, you spoiled it all
Husband: Wait now?
Wife: Ok, change what?
Husband: I wish you can still smile the way you used to smile when I first met you
Wife: I am smiling now
Husband: You were happy before
Wife: I have one wish as well
Husband: There you go, is it a competition?
Wife: You said yours, let me say mine too
Husband: Ok, say it, but I already know what you want to say
Wife: That is the problem. How can you say you know, dear? Are you the Holy Spirit?
Husband: oh sorry, say it
Wife: I don’t feel like saying it again
Husband: Ah ah… oya feel now?
Wife: I can’t even remember what I want to say again.
Husband: Na wa o
Wife: You have spoiled the mood.
Husband: Lord deliver me
Wife: Yes, you need deliverance
Husband: You nko?
Wife: Yes! I remember what I want to say now
Husband: I am all ears
Wife: But you are pressing your phone
Husband: Let me quickly reply to this text
Wife: Oh, that phone or whoever you are replying to is more important than me?
Husband: Ah! Lord God Almighty
Wife: What concerns Lord God Almighty in all this one now?
Husband: I need help ni o
Wife: You really do. Very unromantic husband
Husband: Ah, you told me I am romantic o! Was that not one of the reasons you married me?
Wife: You USED to be romantic
Husband: It is still in the blood
Wife: It is not needed in your blood.
Husband: Okay, I promise to work on that
Wife: Too many promises
Husband: Now let me hear what you wanted to say
Wife: Hmmm… I have forgotten it again. You just confuse me
Husband: I confused you? You are too much in love ni
Wife: With who?
Husband: Me now
Wife: I wish
Husband: So who are you in love with?
Wife: There is one man…
Husband: Eh, see my life. Who is the man?
Wife: His name is…
Husband: So you have been cheating on me?
Wife: Yes
Husband: Okay, who is the man?
Wife: Jesus
Husband: You are not serious. I am in love with Jesus too
Wife: Yes I remember what I want to say now. Thank you Jesus
Husband: What is it?
Wife: You have not been spending time with me
Husband: That’s not true
Wife: Nothing but the truth
Husband: For example, I have spent three hours with you today
Wife: Me ke? No oh.
Husband: We’ve been sitting here together, dear
Wife: Yes we’ve been sitting here together, but you spent most time with your phone
Husband: It’s for us now…to make money for us
Wife: And while making the money, you lose your marriage in the process?
Husband: God forbid
Wife: You are losing me dear
Husband: Never, you are too precious
Wife: Prove it, talk is cheap
Husband: I will prove it
Wife: How? In your gadgets?
Husband: From today, there will be a rule
Wife: What rule?
Husband: When we are talking or we are together, no gadgets!
Wife: No football matches too
Husband: Ah, can’t I just check the scores?
Wife: You can check, I will give a two minute break in a one hour window
Husband: Jesu! Ok, I have heard o!
Wife: But you are still checking this phone!
Husband: I bind this phone…
Wife: No need to bind it, just switch it off
Husband: what if I have an important call?
Wife: No call is as important as our call. If it is necessary, the call will come again
Husband: ok, dear iPhone, you are dying for some time….
Wife: Good
Husband: So we can talk now? So what do you want to say?
Wife: Nothing! I just want your undivided attention.
Husband: For how long?
Wife: You want to spoil the mood again?
Husband: Sorry…I mean..hmm, I just love you
Wife: Yes, that’s the spirit….
Husband: (thinking) I don enter today!
Wife: (Thinking) I don catch you today!
This simple conversation shows Why You Might Be Failing As A Couple or even as Singles.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am a good listener
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God gives you a listening heart
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Pro 25:12 (MSG)
And a wise friend’s timely reprimand is like a gold ring slipped on your finger.
ACTION PLAN
Have a heart-to-heart talk with your spouse
BIBLE READING
Acts 20
