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5 Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. Bode and Sade got married a few years back. Bode was the quiet easy going gentle giant while Sade is the vivacious hard laughing babe! And that was the attraction. Bode wanted an exciting wife to complement his inward introvert nature.  And he got that for a few days only after their wedding.

Today, Sade is a shadow of herself. Bode is frustrated and Sade is hurt and bitter. What happened? Well, life happened, temperamental weaknesses visited and hibernated reactions came to life.

What really happened? They both came into the marriage with high expectations. They’ve had their fair share of quarrels here and there, but those were just child’s play compared to what they are experiencing.

Sade didn’t like harsh words because she was raised in a family where one single abusive word was never used.

Bode grew in an environment where he was cooked with negative utterances and vituperations.

Bode gave what he had. Sade reacted by withdrawing into her shell. Every excitement which Bode liked disappeared. Bode was frustrated and dished out more of the only thing he knew, harsh words.

He didn’t understand why just “stating the facts” can affect his wife. He believes his wife didn’t want to hear the truth!

He obviously forgot the scripture that says

Eph 4:15 (KJV) But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:

The truth must be spoken in love! Do you think your fiancee is reacting? Is your wife no longer talking and she is withdrawn? The reason might not be far-fetched.

Here are five examples of words you should not say to your wife or fiancee

5 Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage

  1. I thought I married a joyful wife. You are obviously a sadist
    The priest of the house should not say something like this.

  2. I don’t like the way you make stupid mistakes. I am having doubts about this wedding/marriage 
    She would make more mistakes if you are not careful

  3. You are too slow for me. With the way we are going, we won’t last in this relationship/marriage 
    You might end up having exactly what you said. Words are powerful.

  4. What is wrong with you? You keep making mistakes every day. Are sure you are okay?
    She would lose her self-esteem and have self-doubts.

  5. I am not sure you are well brought up. My mum is not like this. She is not lazy and she took care of my dad! 
    Comparison in marriage is sacrilege!

These are just a few examples of Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage. These kinds of statements will be like piercings of the swords in the heart of your wife. Sometimes it is the other way around and it is the husband on receiving end.

Whichever way, you are where you are today because of the words you have spoken. Start changing your vocabulary and let them be aligned with God’s word!

May God grant you grace to be a gracious person, whose tongue is bridled in your relationship or marriage.

I will speak healthy words.

Lord, bridle my tongue and take every pain away in my heart 

Eph 4:15 (GNB) Instead, by speaking the truth in a spirit of love, we must grow up in every way to Christ, who is the head.

Don’t talk when you are angry

Eph 4


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