Were we attracted to each other? Yes, and certainly! A lot of deeply spiritual folk will tell you that attraction doesn’t matter, but I am telling you right now, it matters.
Marriage is truly made in heaven, but it is lived here on earth. You can receive your spouse from heaven, but both of you will eventually tabernacle here on planet earth!
After marriage, all other people will not suddenly become ugly. That is why people who have no fear of God still go into extra-marital relationships.
Attraction Factor In Relationships and Marriages
I have had to counsel people who are in a relationship and would say they didn’t really like their partner but since God said he or she is the one. You see, something is obviously missing here. God is not an author of confusion, and He would not lead you to somebody you dislike forever.
Yes, it is possible you do not resonate with a particular person God leads you to when you are busy looking elsewhere, but the moment you embrace God’s plan, you will indeed love the person.
But there would never be a situation where God forces you to marry somebody you don’t like or somebody you hate.
A situation where you get depressed over how your spouse looks three days after the wedding needs not happen!
You won’t believe that the reason a lot of people are scared about asking God for who to marry is that they don’t want God to lead them to somebody they will hate. God is intelligent, much more intelligent than all the intelligence of the entire brains of the human race combined!
Attraction Factor In Relationships and Marriages
It is only God that knows the person who will be attracted to you and you will be attracted to, not just today, but also in some ten and twenty years’ time. People change over time.
Beyond physical attraction, therefore, there must be an inner attraction. Beyond the fact that she is thin or slim or lepacious, you must love her because, over time, a lepacious woman can become orobo! Figure eight can fast become figure football! What happens after that?
The reality you must accept is that your spouse will not look the same after twenty or thirty years of marriage. Attraction must be deeper than physical appearance because appearance changes over time!
For me, I have remained slim like I used to be, I only added a little and my tummy has been trying to come out, but I have been casting out all the calories. My wife is more rounded, but she has been trying to lay aside the weight as well.
Attraction Factor In Relationships and Marriages
As married couples, do not look on when you see the weight is traveling to where you don’t want to camp. Follow her to the gym if you have to. Take precautions. Do not eat late. Reduce taking “swallow” if you have to! Stay with each other and walk the walk together.
As married couples, keep the attraction on fire. Keep dressing for him within and without the home. He is moved by sight! Never forget that! Good morning
I am carried! You are carried. How many times have you spoken against God because of some little pressure? How many times have you had emotional outbursts at God because you don’t understand what you are going through? Watch the short video below before you read on. Respond accordingly to the prayers if you need to do so before you read on!
Look at the scripture again:
Isa 46:4 (AMPC) Even to your old age I am He, and even to hair white with age will I carry you. I have made, and I will bear; yes, I will carry and will save you.
Gid promised to carry you! No wonder at those times you went through the most difficult times, the times you were suicidal, the times you were sure you would die, the times you fell so deep into the dark pit with no flicker of light, the times you went through grief that seemed to lead to the grave, and yet, you came out alive…it is because you are carried! I am carried!
God has been carrying you all along! The Message translation says God will carry you on His back! Wow!
A quarter of what you went through sent others six feet below and you are thinking it is because you are strong? No, you are carried?
And you know what? God isn’t the one to drop you! God is not like the Nurse that dropped Mephibosheth!
2Sa 4:4 (KJV) And Jonathan, Saul’s son, had a son that was lame of his feet. He was five years old when the tidings came of Saul and Jonathan out of Jezreel, and his nurse took him up, and fled: and it came to pass, as she made haste to flee, that he fell, and became lame. And his name was Mephibosheth.
Oh yeah, men will dop you! They are not designed to be able to carry you for long! Sugar Daddies can’t carry you for long, they are only looking for the Sugar in you. Like the nurse, they will drop you at the last!
The only one who will carry is God. Like an eagle, He would bear you up! I am carried!
Deu 32:11 (MSG) He was like an eagle hovering over its nest, overshadowing its young, Then spreading its wings, lifting them into the air, teaching them to fly.
I only have one piece of advice for you this morning, dear singles and married!
Don’t jump off his back! So many things will endear you in order to entrap you, don’t jump! Hold him tight! Let His love radiate and envelope you. Let His glory surround you!
Don’t jump off at the beckon of the mammon spirit. Don’t jump off at the lure of lustful spirits.
Let Him carry you! And while at it, give Him thanks! Stop complaining and let God do His work in your life! I am carried!
I pray for you, God will intervene in that situation in Jesus’ name! If you need some repenting to do because you’ve spoken against Him, use the video above!
Good morning! I am carried! Did you get blessed? Hit the share button! Send to WhatsApp too and reach others! God bless you as you do so!
Who are you voting for? The Batists, the Artikulates, or the Obidients? In Nigeria’s political landscape today, we have three main contenders and they have creatively given themselves brand names, as derived from the names of the presidential aspirants.
The populace is divided into these three camps, and sentimentally too.
So, Who are you voting for?
Whoever you vote for or whoever has the most votes will become the president of this nation. His ideas would be foisted over 200 Million people.
His policies will be given the time of day! He will decide for us. He will rule over us.
The populace will leave through his ideas and policies. We will be constrained by his intellect and thought patterns.
He will decide for us. He will sign papers that might be beneficial or detrimental to us and our generations!
Before you vote, think!
But that is not where I am going this morning, the Nigerian political landscape is just helping me to arrive at a spiritual landscape.
Who you vote for takes control of your life via police and decisions at the National level.
So this is where I am going. Who are you voting for?
Rom 6:12 (MSG) That means you must not give sin a vote in the way you conduct your lives. Don’t give it the time of day.
Don’t give sin a vote! If you do, sin will take control of your life! Sin will dictate the direction of your life and will keep you bound, often leading you to where don’t want to go! You remember “They are carrying me to where I want to go o!”
That is exactly what sin does. It holds you by the jugular and leads you into dark areas of life.
But I want to be free! I want to leave my life! Let me freely vote for who I want.
Well, here is the response:
Romans 6:16 (MSG) Hardly. You know well enough from your own experience that there are some acts of so-called freedom that destroy freedom. Offer yourselves to sin, for instance, and it’s your last free act. But offer yourselves to the ways of God and the freedom never quits. All your lives you’ve let sin tell you what to do.
Voting for sin becomes your last free act, just as voting for aspirants becomes your last free act for the next four or eight years! They take charge after that. That is what sin does!
God wants you back! Will you consecrate yourself afresh this morning? Will you stay away from that sexual sin? Will you focus on your spouse and stop dining with the devil on the adulterous dining table?
Who are you voting for?
I choose to vote for God like Joseph did when Mrs. Potiphar wanted to fry his destiny! He ended up in the palace.
I choose not to vote for sin as Samson did and his freedom was taken when his eyes were gouged out! He ended up taking his life!
Don’t Lose Hope Now! Hey, dear Singles and Couples! So, God has helped us and it has been over two decades of marriage! But to tell you the truth, it has not been one straight road. There have been bends, curves, potholes, and more! But His goodness, love, and benevolence never left us once!
So many crooked ways along the way, but God did promise to make the crooked places straight! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
Isa 45:2 (KJV) I will go before thee, and make the crooked places straight: I will break in pieces the gates of brass, and cut in sunder the bars of iron:
So much heat along the way, enough heat to dry up every ounce of marital ecstasy, but God did promise that the heat will not smite us!
Psa 121:6 (KJV) The sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night.
Marital waters so deep we thought we would be drowned and completely submerged but God did not allow it!
So much fire, so intense and fiery we thought we will come out completely baked into some burnt loaves that couldn’t be served, but we are still fresh like the five loaves, Jesus was still handing us out to be blessings because he said the fire would not burn us! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
Isa 43:2 (KJV) When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
Turns, twists, and meanders that navigated into the wilderness, and all ways seemed blocked, but they were momentary, the GOD GPS system worked right there, and the course was charted!
Isa 43:2 (KJV) When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
I can go on and on, but I am simply here this morning to let you know, that God is with you and will not leave you alone.
The challenges as a single are overwhelming, I know, the situation as a couple is intense and fiery, yes I know, but do not lose hope in Him. His love for you is eternal, His assurance for you is steadfast, His grace for you is unlimited and His mercy is everlasting! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
Heb 10:35 (KJV) Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward.
Call upon Him now! He promised to listen! Yes, He promised to listen! Have a conversation with Him. Consecrate yourself this morning and start over with Him. He will hold you by the right hand, strengthen you from within, and carry you into victory! Don’t Lose Hope Now!
More Causes of Marital Delay. We started on this yesterday and we will continue this morning
3. You have taken over God’s business
Again, you can bring delay when you try to take over God’s job in your decision of who to get married to. God wants to lead but when you decide to lead yourself, you can bring unnecessary delays.
There are some jobs that are meant for Jehovah, but you are human. Only God knows the right spouse for you. It is good to seek His face and then trust His direction because most of the time, what God is telling you does not settle with your reasoning.
This is not to say that God will lead you to somebody you dislike or you hate and you will now be forced to marry somebody you don’t like. There is nothing like that. God is not an author of confusion. You may not like the person God shows you the very first time you set eyes on him or her, because he or she is still a stranger. But as you get close and become friends, you will come to love this person. Don’t ever marry somebody you dislike or you don’t love because God is “leading” you. There is nothing like that.
4. You have unrealistic wishes
When you have unrealistic wishes, it can actually cause delays. Too many romantic novels, Korean movies, Indian films, and all that can actually drive you to a place of wishful thinking and desires that are unrealistic.
Marriage comes with pressures and frictions caused by temperamental differences and personality disparities, which are visible even at the friendship stage. If you keep getting out of relationships out of the slightest provocation, then you are causing delays. Once you are led by God, the person is born again, Spirit-filled, has the fear of God, has a vision and a purpose, and you are attracted to the person, leave the rest to God!
5. You disregard and disrespect people
People are easily turned off when you have a negative attitude, or you are not courteous. It can actually turn away a potential suitor. Nobody wants to marry an angry, negative-attitude person. It is good to work on yourself when your parents, pastor, friends, and siblings have complained about the same thing. They are not all wrong, you are the one that needs to make amend with the help of the Holy Spirit
6. The purpose and sovereignty of God
Finally, there can be some form of delay because of the sovereignty of God. The purpose of God actually transcends your personal desires. Interestingly, the same purpose of God can speed up marriage when you are not even thinking of it.
If it is the purpose of God, what you see as delay will eventually bring smiles to you because you will rejoice at the end.
Conclusively, make sure you are not bringing a self-imposed delay on yourself with the aforementioned.
The other twist is those who are already married and feel God has not answered their prayers about their spouse’s salvation. Let me encourage you, God will answer your prayers. Keep praying, and never give up, until you see the travails of your heart. God is listening to every bit of your prayers and He will answer you with surety.
I pray that God will help you to make needed changes as a single and lead you into His plans for your lives. You will not be confused.
Singles Conference 2022 is some weeks away! Ensure you are around. The spirit causing the delay will be crushed! And we will be teaching you things you need to do from your end as well. The Spirit of Grace will come upon you and make things easy for you. Find links to register below!
