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The Husband You Should Not Be. He is the wife-beater. He is the cheating husband. He is the Mummy’s boy. Someone once said the word husband means “He that binds the house together! House-Band! There are a lot of things to learn about how to be a good husband! Sadly enough, we were only taught animal “husbandry” in school.

Here is a list of The Husband You Should Not Be

1. The Wife beater

The wife-beater is the violent husband. He is short-fused, and so gets violent at any little provocation.

He is impatient and believes so much in using his fist. Somewhere in his mind, he believes a good slap is more effective than a conversation.

He probably grew up watching his dad beat his wife!

His wife lives in perpetual fear, not knowing when to talk or when to shut up.

If he has an equally aggressive wife, their home is always in chaos, settling one quarrel after the other. After a while, the neighbors don’t bother again. It becomes a usual ritual.

If he has a docile wife, he would feel he is being effective while in effect, he is losing it.

If he is a churchgoer, he blames his antics on the devil every time. Even the devil is amazed at how somebody can lie!

This cannot continue. God demands a change. That woman God gave you is to be cared for and cherished!

“Pastor, you don’t know my wife!”

“You are right. I don’t know her, but I do know the scripture! You are to love that woman!

Say Amen!

2. The cheating husband

The cheating husband, for whatever reason, has been enraptured in stolen waters. He is relishing in another man’s bread, and the scripture aptly says, it is indeed sweet for a while, but in a moment and without warning, it turns into the gravel in his mouth! He is bouncing on a bed that doesn’t belong to him and he would soon land where he never envisaged.

Pro 20:17 (KJV)  
Bread of deceit is sweet to a man; but afterwards his mouth shall be filled with gravel.

The cheating husband will soon know that that there is a lot of shit in the cheat!

Adultery is the game of the foolish because of the obvious consequences involved.

Pro 6:32 (KJV)  
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.

The Message Translation says
Pro 6:32-33 (MSG)  Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;  [33]  Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.

It is simply not worth it

If you are a young lady involved with a married man, please, stop it. Such will always end in tears. Don’t slow yourself down. If you don’t know how to go about it, please call me and let me pray for you.

3. The Mummy’s boy
The Mummy’s boy does nothing unless he tells his mum first. This can be very annoying to the wife.

There is nothing wrong with having a strong tie with your mum, but it is wrong when your mum comes between you and your wife.

It is absolutely wrong to discuss personal issues with your mum that your wife knows nothing about.

Mummy’s boy needs to change. Your mum is another man’s wife, and you are to focus on your own wife.

This can be a little bit challenging if the man is the only boy raised by his mum, the tie will be strong and the dependence will be massive. But lovingly, patiently and without any rash actions, there should be a gradual disconnection, not to abandon your mum, but in terms of prioritizing relationships.

Your wife comes first. And that is the Bible truth. Above is a list of The Husband You Should Not Be

I will stop here this morning.

May your marriage be blessed!

I am strong in the Lord 

Lord, take every indecison away from my life 

Pro 6:32 (GW)  Whoever commits adultery with a woman has no sense. Whoever does this destroys himself.

Apologise to your spouse if need be  

Rev 20


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