50 Ways To Love One Another. Pastor, what is this thing with 50 this, 50 that? Don’t mind me. It’s not easy to be 50, It can only be God. So bear with me on my idiosyncrasies in this season.
So our topic this morning is 50 Ways to love another, and this is for singles and married. I will write 25 today and conclude tomorrow.
Just before I go on, I want to appreciate you all for the calls, the messages, and the gifts on my birthday! God bless you massively. You will live long in Jesus’ name!
1. Love with sincerity. A major key in marriage.
2. Do all you can do to build trust. Broken trust breeds insecurities.
3. Be creative in loving your loved one. Boredom can lead to exploring the forbidden.
4. Sex should be kept in the hood for singles while it should be on top of the table for couples.
5. In Couples, the frequency of your intimacy in the bedroom shows how healthy the marriage is.
6. Singles, love each other with prayers. Pray more than any other thing you will do in courtship
7. Don’t stop the wooing process and the pursuit games. Continue that after the wedding and thank me later.
8. Singles, go after God with all your energy. God will be committed that you don’t get it wrong
9. God is committed till it is completed. So, don’t back out on God
10. Love is like a story, what type of character will you be?
11. Going to Cinemas is good, going for the supernatural should be pursued too.
12. Surprise each other every time.
13. Don’t take each other for granted. Be sensitive to your needs.
14. You can’t bring selfishness into marriage. It won’t last
14. Seek to please each other after pleasing God and you will minimize offences.
15. Forgiveness is a decision. It has nothing to do with who is right or wrong
16. The most mature is the one that says sorry first
17. The husband and wife actually get angry. One shows it, the other internalizes it. There is nothing like he doesn’t get angry. So apologize to one another.
18. In marriage, you are both right and wrong. It takes two to tango
19. Do not give sex to get love as singles. You never get the love, and he gets the sex.
20. Take everything to God in prayer rather than argue your eyes out.
21. Both of you have your weaknesses. One may show, while the other is subdued. But it is what it is
22. The devil hates you passionately. Don’t do Tik Tok on his terrain. Give him no space
23. Guys, you are her protector. Stop seeing her as a sex toy
24. Ladies, you are his helper, stop seeing him as ATM Machine
25. Read the Bible daily without fail. You will know how to love properly.
50 Things I’ve Learned in 50 Years. Well, as you may be all aware, today is my 50th! I feel like 20! With all gratefulness to God, I want to appreciate God for keeping me alive this past fifty years! God has been good!
What song should I sing now? I want to sing all the songs together. God is good!
This morning I will share briefly with you on 50 Things I’ve Learned in 50 Years
1. You will eventually marry. Nobody can marry your spouse.
2. God qualifies the called. He does not call the qualified.
3. God will communicate to you in a pattern. Study that pattern.
4. Do not be in a hurry. When God speaks to you, a burden comes. There is a burden to prepare and a burden to perform. Find out which is which.
5. It is foolishness for you to fight your spiritual father or pastor.
6. Never gossip. It slows things down.
7. Never venture out without a spiritual covering.
9. Find your tribe or your spiritual lineage for that is where your inheritance is.
10. Nothing kills anointing like being in the wrong environment.
11. Never stay around people who talk against what your calling is.
12. Be a voracious reader.
13. Your first call is unto God. Stay with God and develop your faith muscle.
14. You cannot combine sin with the ministry.
15. Do not get into comparison traps.
16. As a lady, never ask a man out.
17. Do not spend nights or weekends in a man’s home until after the wedding.
18. Do not go into a relationship experimentally
19. If your lover says he or she wants to move on, let them move.
20. In God, some rejections are directions.
21. Do not be in a hurry.
22. Courtship time is an alignment of the mind, not the interlocking of bodies.
23. Your service and time spent for God in the church cannot cover or compensate for sexual disobedience.
24. Every single act in your courtship is a seed into your marriage and home.
25. If you build with lies, deception, and compromise, it is a courtship built on sand and not rock.
26. A relationship or courtship that is isolated and disenfranchised from mentorship will not always last.
27. Build your self-esteem. If you don’t, you will keep attempting to use your outer beauty to cover your inner struggles.
28. Be careful with a person who gives with a motive to defile you.
29. You have a responsibility to love yourself before any other person can love you.
30. Without God, sweet bread turns fast into gravel in the mouth and the mastication process becomes a mess and a pain.
31. Do not start playing small Mummy for anybody before the wedding
32. Being a virgin is good, but you must also have the right attitude and relationship skills.
33. Lastly, know that God has a plan for you. His thoughts towards you are thoughts of peace. Not of evil. God knows what He is doing. He is not confused
34. Focus on your spouse and spouse alone!
35. Wives, be a holy wife but don’t form holiness for your husband in the bed.
36. Wives, be a “naughty” girl. That is what he wants! Lose your inhibitions and give each other unforgettable experiences.
37. Singles, Why would you want to hold a night vigil together and alone? That way, it is not the devil tempting you, you are the one tempting him.
38. Sexual compromise will bring confusion to the soul. It happens all the time.
39. Each time you compromise, something dies in you. Avoid the traps.
40. No matter how far you think you have gone, God’s mercy is always there for you in repentance
41. Avoid dating married people. It is not only sinful, it is sowing a bad seed into your own marriage.
42. Adultery will adulterate your destiny. Avoid it.
43. Never lift your hands against your wife. Things will go south when you do that.
44. Be open to each other in marriage. Be recklessly sincere.
45. After pleasing God do all you can to please each other.
46. There may be a delay, but there won’t be a denial. His words will not fall to the ground.
47. Keep your marriage romantic. Keep doing all you were doing before the wedding
48. Look into each other’s eyes during sex. Soak in yourselves and merge as one.
49. Avoid strife like a plague. Pray together.
50. Forgive each other in a hurry. Never habour inhibitions against each other!
50 Things I’ve Learned in 50 Years
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These Four Things Will Bring Regret. Regret is one of the sad things that can happen to anyone. It is a terrible feeling that leaves one feeling guilty, depressed, and sometimes despondent. It is a feeling of, ‘If I had known it will turn out this way, I would not have done it’. It is a feeling of wishing things never turned out the way they are. A feeling of wishing one can turn back the hands of time.
A feeling of hopelessness. What makes regret bad is that with all these feelings, really you cannot change what has happened. It is like crying over spilled milk. My prayer to a lady out there this morning experiencing great regret is that God will turn things around for your good. He will show you great mercy and bring a testimony out of the trial. Most of the time, the things that will later cause sorrow or regret don’t look like it and that’s what makes it painful.
You never thought in your wildest imagination he can jilt you, you never thought after promising you heaven and earth he could sleep with you, abandon you for another lady and accuse you. The list could be endless. But for every blow of the devil, God has more than enough grace and mercy to heal. However, I believe prevention is better than cure and God will have us move into maturity while we know what to do and what will bring regret later and avoid doing them. Particularly ladies, they get to bare the brunt and feel the heat of hurt most of the time, May God help us in Jesus.
These Four Things Will Bring Regret 1. Becoming emotionally attached to someone who is not ready to marry you
Emotional attachment is a dangerous place to be because at that time you are not ready to reason nor willing to hear advice, direction, or instructions even from God. When emotions are involved, it’s like going on a sloppy, slippery road, descent is easiest and becomes unavoidable. Don’t be quick to get your emotions involved, do your findings first, pray, and ask questions. Be slow to get emotional. Don’t give your emotions the lead or the driver’s seat in your relationship, it will lead to an accident.
On the other hand for the married, emotional attachment is necessary, as it also reflects the one flesh principle in marriage. This emotional attachment with your spouse helps you to relate on a deeply emotional level and that connectedness helps your marriage and even your prayer life. Anything that will threaten that connection should not be allowed.
I will stop here this morning and conclude tomorrow with “These Four Things Will Bring Regret”
CONFESSION The Lord is my strength today in all I do
PRAYER Lord, give me the wisdom to avoid regrets in Jesus’ name
THOUGHT Wilt thou not revive us again: that thy people may rejoice in thee? Shew us thy mercy, O Lord, and grant us thy salvation (Psalms 85:6-7 KJV)
ACTION Decide to live above regrets and focus on the future
Overcoming Rejection After Breakfast Is Served. Sally was head over heels in love with George. Everything was looking great with all the butterflies flapping their wings. It was not for long however, George served Sally breakfast! Sally was heartbroken. What would she do?
All of the time, I tell people like Sally, it is not time to cry, it is time to move on. You cry when there is a loss of a loved one. That is understandable. But when somebody decides to leave you and move on, yes, you can cry a little, but you need to shake yourself into reality and understand that rejection is not always a disappointment, rejection can actually be a direction from God!
Love is two-way, it is mutual. But when one party decides he or she is no longer in love, don’t break your neck over that!
As a child of God, if you pray a lot, and you serve God with the integrity of heart, and then you fall in love with a guy who is deceiving you and who will eventually harm you one way or the other in the future, what do you think would happen?
God Himself would orchestrate a breakup because He doesn’t want any evil to befall you.
It is a reality that as humans, one can fall in love with a person that will eventually hurt you. Sometimes, you even know and you can see the signs. You can see the uncontrollable anger. You can see the unrepentant heart. You can see a penchant desire for pre-marital sex without any sense of guilt. You can even see that he or she is cheating on you, and yet you still hold on, believing that you will change him.
If you are a child of God and God loves you which I know He does, that kind of relationship will break up. You see, there are some relationships that break up and the next thing you should do is thanksgiving!
What do you do in Overcoming Rejection After Breakfast Is Served? You should just go ahead and thank God for saving your life! There are some strange ladies out there you get involved with and after a breakup, you thank your God, not getting into some pity party! You see, you thought you love him or her? Not really? It is because you have been embroiled with sex. You have tasted the stew before it was ready and now your tongue is burnt. When you get involved with sex before the wedding, confusion enters the soul.
Why is that? Because the injunctions of God have been violated.
When there is confusion in the soul, your mind becomes unclear. You continue to love the wrong person. You cannot disconnect from the one that hurt you from time to time. A soul tie has been established and illegal soulical bonding has been effected.
He or she decides to move on but you are wrecked emotionally. Months after, you couldn’t pick up your life. What do you do in such instances?
You run to God. The scripture says in Psalm 23, He restroreth my soul…
When you go to Him, He will heal the hurt, pacify the wounds, and touch you where no hands can reach. He will put the nuts to the bolts, and then you can see clearly, and then you wonder why you were loving a lair, a user, a manipulator, and a cheat in the first place.
So, you let go of such abusive relationships. If the wrong person doesn’t go, the right will not show up.
But why would he or she just leave me like that? Am I worthless? No, you are too much for him or her. Your destiny weighs more, and only the right one can handle your glorious destiny!
Every Abedne-go will eventually go! Let them go. For those who are married, there can also be rejection from your spouse. That is not the time to shut down as if you are a PC.
That is not the time to recoil into your shell like a snail. That is not the time to run into a cave. It is time to communicate with your God and with him or her to know the source of the rejection. Never assume, for assumption is the lowest form of knowledge. Never allow rejection to degenerate into strife. I see a glorious future ahead of you. I see God coming into your situation and bringing help your way and that will be your portion in Jesus’ name! This is what you do in Overcoming Rejection After Breakfast Is Served
CONFESSION I am not rejected, because God has not rejected me
PRAYER Pray that God strengthens you to make the right decisions
THOUGHT Hosea 14:4 I will heal their backsliding, I will love them freely: for mine anger is turned away from him.
O Lord, Where Is My Spouse? From counseling experiences, I know some of us have done all we know to do and yet it doesn’t look like anything is happening. When you find yourself at this point, what do you do? What else is there to do?
I want to write to both singles and married this morning. For singles, It can really be frustrating when it looks like nearly all your friends are married except you. It is even more frustrating to know that some of those who are already married are not as beautiful as you and they are not as spiritual as you!
“If anybody should be married by now, it ought not to be Sister Sube who got born again last year! I have been serving God consistently for five years! What is happening here?“
O Lord, Where Is My Spouse? Here are a few things to know that will help you.
The Covenant
The first thing that you need to know that will help you in this situation where you might be experiencing a seeming delay is that you are a child of Covenant. This knowledge is the foundation of the entirety of your Christian life. It is on this spiritual truth that every other blessing springs. You must have a consciousness of that Covenant.
Listen to me, you are not just here floating to nowhere, you are in a covenant! A covenant is like an agreement that cannot be broken. You are in a certain agreement with God concerning your life, marriage, and destiny! This covenant stipulates that you can never be abandoned by God!
It is not just possible. Its possibility does not exist, that God will abandon you! How do I know? God swore by Himself and put His throne on the line, that all He has promised you, He will bring to pass and that He is committed until it is completed.
Take a look at it:
Hebrews 16 – 19 For men verily swear by the greater: and an oath for confirmation is to them an end of all strife. Wherein God, willing more abundantly to shew unto the heirs of promise the immutability of his counsel, confirmed it by an oath: That by two immutable things, in which it was impossible for God to lie, we might have a strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold upon the hope set before us: Which hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and stedfast, and which entereth into that within the veil;
This is the anchor of your soul. When doubts come, when tests and trials come, when your faith is shaky, when your feet seems imbalanced, when your heart begins to vacillate, what will keep you strong and unshakable is nothing other than the covenant.
If you are a child of the covenant, you are too covered, too blessed, too favoured. This covenant sense and perspective must be there in your life. It is on this covenant that you stand.
How can this covenant be rooted in your heart? You have to understand the terms of the covenant first. The terms can only be found in the covenant document and that is God’s word. Get familiar with it. Get to know and study what rights you have in God.
When you are oblivious to this covenant and the covenant rights, you will be easily depressed and discouraged from time to time.
When you get to know this covenant, it will give birth to something powerful. It will give birth to Assurance!
O Lord, Where Is My Spouse?
For married couples, the covenant consciousness will ensure an infidelity-free marriage. Once the couple recognizes that they are in covenant with each other and the covenant witness is God Himself, it will engender a distaste for sin. Who really wants to offend God in that sense?
The covenant awareness will keep both of you sane. This is why you should strive as couples to be covenant minded in your marriage.
Covenant violation does not come with nice consequences.
Dan 11:32 (AMPC) And such as violate the covenant he shall pervert and seduce with flatteries, but the people who know their God shall prove themselves strong and shall stand firm and do exploits [for God]. Good morning.
CONFESSION I am a child of the Covenant PRAYER Lord, open my eyes to see all that belong to me in the covenant
THOUGHT That by two immutable things, in which it was impossible for God to lie, we might have a strong consolation…
