As singles, we need to know who to fall in love with. As couples, we need to keep falling in love with the person we have chosen.
Let’s talk to singles first. I frequently remind people that there are some questions for which they do not need to pray. Certain situations do not need seeking God’s face. Certain concerns should not be brought up with your pastor.
God is an orderly God! So, when He created us, he gave us brains so that we could think. In addition, He gave us His word to instruct us. His principles are clearly stated in His word.
So, when it comes to receiving guidance from God regarding relationships and marriage, there are some issues we don’t need to ask God about again because He has already informed us in His word.
As a single individual ready to marry, you cannot marry everyone and everyone. Some people should be avoided. You see, when you fall in love with the wrong person, there’s no need in asking God about it because His word already tells you not to.
That is why we never receive responses to some of our prayers because His word clearly provided the solution.
This is why, according to James, we sometimes ask the wrong question.
Jas 4:3 AMP [Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures.
Loving Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul
So, who are you not supposed to fall in love with?
Don’t fall in love with someone who despises God!
That’s all there is to it.
You cannot love someone who despises God. Hear me, and hear me clearly. Do not consider him if he has not been born again and does not fear God. Don’t bother asking God whether it’s okay. His word is already clear: don’t do it.
2Co 6:14 MSG Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark?
Loving Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul
Light and darkness cannot be united in marriage.
Now comes the tricky part.
A God-hater can appear to be pleasant. A God-hater, like Nabal, can amass wealth, but that wealth will harm them.
Pro 1:32 KJV For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them.
Think carefully before falling in love. Watch your hormones and sentiments before they take control of your spirit! Watch it before your thinking is dismissed and your sensibility is blunted by “love.”
It is explicitly stated in the scriptures. A person who does not know God cannot adequately love you. God is love, and you must first know God in order to genuinely love another.
The majority of what is professed as love is simply lust!
What if you’ve already fallen in love with someone who doesn’t know God and has stated his disinterest in God? Simply rise above the love you’ve fallen into! No more.
You fell in love, didn’t you? Simply get up and leave the love to save your life and destiny. Your life’s mission and purpose should not be buried and forgotten in the kitchen of a God-hater!
Deliver yourself and go off!
Pro 6:5 KJV Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
What if you are already married?
The first thing to think of is not divorce or separation. The first thing is how to save your marriage. Unless of course, you are being abused and your life is threatened. If your life is not threatened, then you want to pray and seek counsel and find ways to initiate changes and improve the marriage. Ultimately, the relationship with God has to be prioritized by the couple and then all others will fall in gradually.
How to Spot a Faulty Love Life . There are signs that show a friendship probably won’t lead to marriage.
There are signs along the way that a relationship will end or crash.
Most of the time, these signs are clear, but when we are “in love,” we don’t notice them.
The man who will end up hitting you would have given you hints when you were dating.
He would have given you a few hits and punches here and there, but you probably let him off the hook because you thought he would change.
The woman who will bother you all day and night probably gave you hints, but you must have just thought it was her personality.
How to Spot a Faulty Love Life
If a woman didn’t care about your goals and dreams, she would have shown it, but you were so in love with her that all you could see were her hot legs.
The Holy Spirit will often try to guide us and let us know when something is wrong in a relationship. But if we think, “I know everything,” then there’s nothing God can do.
Because He is fair, God will always let you choose for yourself. He won’t change what you want. If God can stop us from doing what we want to do, then everyone should be made to be born again and accept Jesus Christ into their lives.
How to Spot a Faulty Love Life
God won’t do that, though. But if you ask Him and listen to Him, He will always lead, direct, and help you.
I’ll talk about one area where problems often show up, but we don’t pay attention to them: spiritual life.
You need to be very careful with him if his spiritual life is weak and nothing to write home about.
If she doesn’t care about God, she should just watch it.
If he or she doesn’t value God’s word by reading and studying it regularly, there is definitely something wrong.
If he or she doesn’t go to church often, that’s a very bad sign.
Don’t let love make you lose your mind.
He only drinks when he is upset. Really?
He doesn’t use hemp to calm down. Instead, he smokes a few cigarettes. Really?
She is always busy, so she doesn’t go to church.
You are dating, but only both of you know about it. Nobody else! There’s something wrong with that.
You’re dating, but he or she doesn’t call much, sometimes for weeks. Well, if you go into marriage like that, you should already know what you’re getting into.
I’ve always said this: Marriage doesn’t make anyone different.
Already married and bad issues are cropping up? The you want to see help quickly in marriage counseling. The issues you ignore are waiting and brooding into more complex issues, so its better to address them as they show up!
Dear Babe, What Exactly Do You Want? No matter how spiritual a lady is, there are certain things she wants from her man, single or married.
This morning, we will look at a few of them.
1. She wants someone to play with.
There is a little girl inside every woman who always wants to play with the little boy in her lover.
Learn to play with her in your relationship. Don’t always be too serious. Get her to laugh. Have fun with her. Together, go to the movies.
2. She wants a guide, not a teacher.
Every woman wants to be guided and not told what to do.
There are many big differences between the two.
Don’t tell her what to do, because you are not her teacher.
Don’t give her a sermon; you’re not her preacher.
Don’t use Bible verses to get mad at her, that won’t help.
When a mentor is kind, things go better and faster.
3. She wants a man who is honest.
Every woman wants a man who is honest. Cheating comes from the same heart that tells lies. When you tell the truth, you know you are safe.
Make a promise to always tell the truth, no matter what. A man who tells the truth will have children who also tell the truth. It’s as easy as that.
Don’t walk down the aisle with him if he lies on the spot.
4. She wants a guy who will let her say what she wants to say.
Every woman wants to talk and loves to do it. Let her say what she wants. Don’t silence her. Even if you don’t understand what she’s saying, let her talk.
She feels better when she talks and says what’s on her mind. Let her be.
Don’t make her look like an idiot.
5. She wants a guy who is responsible and capable with money.
Lastly, every woman wants a man who is good with money and not careless with it.
A guy who isn’t good with money is a big source of heartache and frustration for the woman.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy. This morning, let’s talk about some ideas on how to make your husband happy
1. Always show your husband respect and deference.
Respect him as the leader. Regard him as the leader. Respect him in public and in private. Respect him with your words, ideas, and actions. Even as singles, respect is a major issue for your fiancé. However, you shouldn’t hop on the bed because you want to “respect” him.
2. Do not constantly cling to your own point of view.
Allow him to make the final call. Do not usurp his power by making decisions without his delegated authority. As singles during courtship, you start learning how to get your opinion across without coming across as rude.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy.
3. Do not go silent on your husband.
Be upbeat. Don’t be a grumpy wife. Men are rational, therefore do everything you can to communicate yourself verbally. Learn to keep the communication flowing.
4. Have fun.
Every spouse has a young boy inside him. He wishes the small boy would come out and play every now and then, simply to relieve the stress of work and life.
Being cheerful and fun improves your health and frees your thoughts.
5. Do not nag your husband.
Pro 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.
You are pushing your husband away when you nag him.
He will be duped into believing that there is serenity outdoors, away from his wife.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy.
6. Never sexually reject him.
Your hubby enjoys and desires sex virtually all of the time. Don’t force him to beg for it.
Lovemaking should not be viewed as a chore or compulsion. Be eager and ecstatic.
As singles in courtship, sex is a no-go area. Do not give in to a sexual relationship before your wedding!
7. Only God should have precedence over your husband.
Assure him that he is not competing for your affection or attention with anyone else.
No one, not even your children, should take your husband’s position.
Some Ways To Make Your Husband Happy.
8. Pray for your husband on a daily basis.
Please pray for your hubby. Pray for understanding, wisdom, and God’s blessing.
Intercede with God on his behalf.
As singles, in courtship, pray more than have fun all over the place!
Advancing By Caring For Your Lover. The man is always the muscular, stronger gender while his feminine counterpart can be frail, weaker, and vulnerable, physically and emotionally. However, the administrative and justice system of God for any marriage is amazing.
Husbands are to care for their wives. And if you don’t, God is unequivocal about it. Your prayers will be hindered.
Who wants his prayers hindered? Who wants his ways hard? Who wants his life without God’s support? That is not a place to be!
But it is so clear what God wants in the scriptures. Even as singles, you cannot be sowing wild oats all over the place, thinking there would be no consequences. In the ideal dating situation, the guy is the protector of the lady’s body and soul, not the violator of it.
Advancing By Caring For Your Lover
Let’s see how the scripture puts it.
1 Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Let’s consider other translations to see what God is saying here!
1 Peter 3:7 (MSG) The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground.
Who wants his prayers to run aground?
1 Peter 3:7 (GNB) In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
You must relate with your fiancée or wife with the proper understanding that they are more delicate and they are to be treated with respect.
Advancing By Caring For Your Lover
Pause for a moment and see if you are doing this. If not, this is the time for repentance! And O ye wives, don’t sit back and give attitudes making it harder for him to love! If his prayers are hindered, so are yours! May your prayers not be hindered in Jesus’ name!
If you are still single, the way you are relating with your colleagues, roommates, and friends is an indication of what will play out when a relationship ensues. It is therefore time to start working on yourself!
