What do you mean, Pastor? I received a phone call from a lady a few years ago. On the phone, she began to bemoan God’s failure to answer her prayers for a suitor and marriage. She went on and on about how she sought God’s face but received no response. She stated that she had been on a seven-day fast even as we spoke, with no success.
Then she threw in a sentence that exposed her folly and ignorance. “Even this man I’m with now hasn’t said anything about marriage!” she exclaimed.
“Which man?” I inquired, curious. “I’m in his house now, and he’s just sleeping with me; he hasn’t said anything about the wedding!” she explained.
Wow! She is fasting and praying, and yet she is sleeping with a married man! God will not be mocked! That is nothing but adultery! God frowns upon it!
Don’t Frolic With Married Folks
God expects you to dedicate your life to Him. You can’t locate the correct person if you’ve already found the wrong one. You cannot consistently pray for God’s guidance while engaging in sexual sin.
Rom 6:14 (KJV) For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.
See it in another way:
Rom 6:14 (TPT) Remember this: sin will not conquer you, for God already has! You are not governed by law but governed by the reign of the grace of God.
Consider how the Good News Bible puts it:
Rom 6:14 (GNB) Sin must not be your master; for you do not live under law but under God’s grace.
Let me simply mention two things concerning sexual offenses, particularly adultery.
Don’t Frolic With Married Folks
An adulterous affair is a form of cheating on your destiny.
Why is this the case? It is a clear breach of God’s values, and as a result, you do not have God’s backing and favor in your life. It’s not worthwhile. Why would you deprive another person of something that is truly theirs while hoping for the best for yourself?
Adultery is a bad idea.
That was said by God, not me. I’m simply repeating what God stated.
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. (Proverbs 6:32 KJV)
This is also true for the lady in question. Now look at that in Message translation because the KJV appears to be really nice there.
Adultery is a brainless act, soul–destroying, self–destructive; (Proverbs 6:32 Message)
Brainless! That is not good, but it is the truth!
The passage is saying that if we can think profoundly, we would not engage in adultery for everything in this world.
We can see the connotation of adultery right there.
Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good. For jealousy detonates rage in a cheated husband; wild for revenge, he won’t make allowances (Proverbs 6:33-34 Message)
Don’t Frolic With Married Folks
The next time someone tries to convince you into making a compromise, tell them that’s a bad idea.
As a single, avoid overly pleasant married folks because there is usually an objective behind all the presents you are given. Intention manifests and becomes a reality through time.
It is acceptable to communicate your feelings for your fiancée, but you must not allow verbal expression to escalate into romantic antic. You certainly understand what I mean! There is a distinction to be made between expressing love and expressing lust. The former leads to regret and sorrow, whereas the latter leads to healthy partnerships.
For couples, keep expressing love to one another, and don’t let it be during bedroom affairs alone!
Take Note of These Facts, Singles
2. In terms of Beauty
Ladies who are not yet in a relationship should recognize that they will not appear attractive to everyone.
If someone thinks you’re ugly, that’s their view. You will be stunning to your spouse! According to the Bible, you are ‘fearfully’ and ‘wonderfully’ constructed. So it is acceptable to feel ‘fearful’ to some people. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
When your spouse sees you, you will be the most beautiful lady on the planet. So don’t stress yourself out unnecessarily.
Take Note of These Facts, Singles
3. Having a Sleepover
Things your parents should not hear and your preacher should not know are primarily inappropriate. It is not the time to spend the night at your fiance’s house cooking and washing singlets and boxers! This is not the goal of courtship. Every sexual compromise leads to confusion of the soul!
Take Note of These Facts, Singles
4. Concerning Group Prayer
Avoid praying together in the middle of the night. Don’t put yourself in a trap. You’re praying together in his room at the evening, and the power goes out, and you’re still looking for a touch light? That is the moment to flee for your life.
It’s not so much that he’s a Christian or a prayer leader as he’s a guy and a human being.
All those prayers you say while wearing something seductive are slowly killing the guy. His eyes are red, his tongues are shifting, and you believe that is because of the anointing? No way, the man is on fire! And the bible states that you cannot carry fire in your bosom without being burned.
For couples, do not stop praying together, especially in the night! Never stop praying!
When you take stock of your life, you will see some ups and downs. You will become aware of several difficulties that almost pushed you or your relationship and marriage off balance.
You may have faced health or financial difficulties, emotional difficulties, feelings of neglect and uncared for, and so on.
As we move on this year, whatever has happened in the previous months should not be utilized to predict what will happen in the following month.
Take a look at what God says.
Psa 81:13-14 KJV (13) Oh that my people had hearkened unto me, and Israel had walked in my ways! (14) I should soon have subdued their enemies, and turned my hand against their adversaries.
Follow The Directions On The Map
In the preceding verse, Jesus just asks for two things from you.
to pay attention to him;
to walk in his ways
Let us consider another translation:
Psa 81:13-14 MSG (13) “Oh, dear people, will you listen to me now? Israel, will you follow my map? (14) I’ll make short work of your enemies; give your foes the back of my hand.
Follow The Directions On The Map
Will you stick to the plan? You’ve always done things your way, and all you’ve gotten is grief and heartache.
Make the decision to follow God. Get rid of your own agenda. Allow God to guide your life, relationship and or marriage!
Some of the things God will advise you to do may seem counterintuitive, but they will shape your future!
Isn’t it wise to follow the one who sees today and knows what will happen tomorrow? Isn’t it good to follow the one who has given hundreds of Saints and Patriarchs a map over the previous 6000 years?
I believe this is an excellent moment to make that decision. Make the decision to do things God’s way.
I pray for you that God would give you inner strength today and always. God will honor you as you choose to honor Him in your life and relationships.
I call these mistakes foolish errors because we appear to want a better end, but our actions and judgments, whether good or poor, decide our fate.
Every time, universal law applies. Whether we are aware of it or not.
Seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, will continue as long as the earth exists.
Gen 8:22 As long as the earth continues, there will always be a time for planting and a time for harvest. There will always be cold and hot, summer and winter, day and night on earth.”
This rule applies to everyone. This scripture’s seed symbolizes everything and anything. Every action we take is a seed. This is a harsh reality that must be endured. But we must swallow it since it is the truth that will set us free.
If we understand that every action we take is a seed, we will be more careful not to plant the incorrect seeds in our marriage.
Five Mistakes Men Make in Marriage
1. Failure to recognize the power of unity
Because the husband is the head of the marriage, he is responsible for the family’s orientation.
A husband and wife walking and working together as one have tremendous power. Protect your unity!
2. The blunder of not loving your wife.
Every woman requires wings in order to fly. Every husband should let his wife fly by loving her. You create an environment in which your wife can thrive.
All husbands are commanded by the Bible to love their spouses. It is their obligation to love their wives as Christ loves the church.
1 Pet 3:7 In the same way, you husbands should live with your wives in an understanding way, since they are weaker than you. You should show them respect, because God gives them the same blessing he gives you—the grace of true life. Do this so that nothing will stop your prayers from being heard.
Five Mistakes Men Make in Marriage
3. Making the dumb mistake of engaging in any type of immorality or adultery.
Immorality and adultery are among the destroyers of the marriage covenant. It has the power to bring every marriage to its knees, no matter how high it has risen.
According to Proverbs, it is a dumb sin. It makes no sense because it is preventable and avoidable.
That is why the bible instructs men to drink from their own cistern. Don’t fall for the strange woman’s charm, and don’t let her eyelashes trap you.
In any adulterous episode, the house has been destroyed, and the children have been exposed. It’s pointless.
4. The blunder of failing to be honest, open, and straightforward with your wife.
There is a local adage that claims the dead body does not hide from the one who will bury it.
Your covenant partner is your wife. I’m sure some wives don’t help situations either. They break confidence, cheat, and commit other heinous crimes. But, all else being equal, the spouse should be aware that he is expected to be completely honest.
Five Mistakes Men Make in Marriage
5. Making the blunder of oppressing your wife.
I am against the oppression of spouses and women.
Your wife was not given to you in order for you to oppress her. She should not be trampled beneath your feet. God created a lady from a rib taken from the husband’s side. God designed her to fulfill your most pressing need. She plays an important role in your life.
She is supposed to be your assistant. Most husbands have no financial, spiritual, emotional, or physical support. When you oppress your wife, she is unable to carry out her duties as a helpmeet. Every husband requires assistance. Your wife can provide the assistance you require.
If you treat her with decency and honor, she will protect you and your destiny will be safeguarded.
She will be the best wife, function in her calling, and fulfill destiny if you love her, adore her, honor her, appreciate her, and you are sensitive to her.
Here are a few reasons why you should not leave your marital bed.
Son 2:15 Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.
I want us to take note of three points from the preceding scripture.
1. Take these little foxes.
2. The foxes are little, insignificant issues.
3. Our vines, (marriage) have tender grapes.
Marriage has the ability to produce tremendous results when we operate it with biblical principles.
I want to emphasize that godly ideals are not always easy.
Why You Shouldn’t Leave Your Matrimonial Bed
The following are some legitimate reasons why either the wife or husband would leave their marital bed:
1. My spouse snores and sleeps restlessly. I can’t function without a decent night’s sleep.
2. My wife has just put to bed. She requires ample space to nurse our child.
3. Because I require privacy, let us have separate rooms.
4. I need to teach my wife or spouse a lesson because we haven’t spoken in a long time.
5. My wife is having her monthly period right now. I’ll return when she’s finished.
God’s principles, on the other hand, demolish all forms of this logic.
Why You Shouldn’t Leave Your Matrimonial Bed
You become one flesh after marriage. Leaving your “flesh” in one room is not an option. Accept the person you married, since love is patient.
Do not leave your wife alone to raise your baby. Keep an eye on her, especially at night.
You will not have any privacy if you leave your spouse in one room and go to another. Such actions as a matter of fact leave doors for the devil to invade your so-called privacy.
You deal with your problems by talking about them. Separate quarters will only cause you to drift apart.
Her monthly period is natural. You were aware of this before marrying her, so stick with her. If you can’t stay with her for 5 days in a month, you won’t be able to stay with her for the rest of your life.
