One cannot emphasize this enough. Prayers are crucial. When a family prays collectively, they stay together. The family that doesn’t pray as a unit will become the devil’s prey.
2. Avoid hanging out with coworkers or people who have been making overtures toward you.
What will you be doing at ungodly hours in a guesthouse with a person of the other sex? Although you are aware that this individual has been ‘eyeing’ you, you accept his or her invitation to ‘hang out’ in a hotel. Be honest with yourself. If you think you can’t manage it, stay away from such people and talk to your spouse about it. Openness kills the power of iniquity.
Five Things Couples Should Remember
3. Don’t empower your housekeeper with complete control.
Let her “assistance” be defined. Allowing your housekeeper to cook and serve your husband, regardless of her age, is reckless. What she wears inside the house and outside should be approved by you. Do not believe that because your husband is so spiritual, he will simply speak in tongues and solve all of the problems. What men see affects them. Your responsibility is to safeguard your spouse; it is not to trap him and then wait for him to bluff his way out.
4. When required, seek assistance.
The reality is that there are many issues that cannot be resolved all by yourself. Be vocal. Have mentors you can turn to occasionally.
Don’t die quietly. You might only need a few words from a reputable person to get out of that pickle. Leant to talk to trusted people.
Five Things Couples Should Remember
5. Flirting is identical to adultery
Don’t lag behind. Do not believe that because you are married, you have escaped. Put your spouse first. Enjoy your youthful wife or husband. Do not give attention to those designed to distract you. They will come in their numbers, but you must be smart to evade them prayerfully.
Five years into their marriage, Mr. and Mrs. Scott are both dissatisfied.
They both adore God, are born-again, and have a strong bond with one another.
But with time, that affection seems to have diminished. The affection they had shared seemed to vanish into thin air.
The butterflies that had gathered inside their stomachs to form the shape of love appeared to have left.
Mrs. Scott’s eyes, which had given her husband an adrenaline boost, now seemed to be the source of annoyance.
“I just love your eyeballs, they are heavenly,” became, “Please don’t stare at me so irritably!”
Mr. Scott’s broad shoulders, which used to make his wife’s knees buckle in adoration, no longer affect her. In fact, she feels that his chest is overly big. Does he believe that when he was conceived, “chests” were sold on earth?
What?
What took place? Well, soon after their wedding, The Scotts set out on a quest to transform one another.
They were singing the song into each other’s ears nonstop.
“You must change.”
“You are the cause of all the problems in this house.””If you could only change.”
Well, they remained the same.
And in a marriage, that is the truth you will inevitably encounter.
Lord, Change My Spouse Now!
If you anticipate a dramatic transformation in your spouse over night, you will be quite disappointed.
When either spouse is an unbeliever, that is another thing entirely. Change in that sense is possible and can be anytime.
However, it may take some time when it comes to habits, attitudes, and behavioral patterns.
Lord, Change My Spouse Now!
Patience
You’ll need to be patient, though! It takes some time.
Let’s say that when you got married, your partner was 25 years old.
It implies that for 25 years, he or she has been molded into a specific shape.
Expecting your spouse to change quickly after you preach to or lecture them will not result in any change within a few days of becoming married.
If you keep hoping for a speedy change, you can be let down.
1Co 13:4 (CEV) Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud…
I believe that in marriages, you always learn what the virtue of “long-suffering” really means.
How You Can Rise Above Perversion. Tope sobbed bitterly as she described her story because of what she had gone through. Despite having grown up in a godly household, she ended up living a strange lifestyle. She was simply unable to believe it. She previously decried and strongly resisted this way of life, but sadly, she fell victim to what she detested. She detested this way of life, yet she was unable to give it up. She caught herself in prostitution for cash. She disliked the way of life, but she adored the cash.
Dele is a womanizer. He came from an affluent family, so he lured unwary women in with his money. He tried to stop, but he was unable to. His resolve to stop would not hold. He was unaware that the spirits of mammon and depravity were controlling him.
Pastor Johnson is a young man=. He is chosen, appointed, and called. He still doesn’t know how he got started compromising. He leads people to his room who he is supposed to lead to Christ. Johnson is anointed, but he is also bound by a religious mentality, believing that God must be endorsing his way of life based on the ‘result’ and the anointing he possesses. He has no idea that he is a walking corpse!
How You Can Rise Above Perversion
In the same way, pornography, masturbation, lesbianism, homosexuality, and other sexual perversions are practiced by some of God’s children.
Today I present to you God’s message. God is not angry with you, nor does he condemn you! But He would not tolerate any sin! Is there any reason He wants you to lose your soul? No! This is due to the ultimate price that has been paid on your behalf!
Heb 13:5 AMP. ‘Let your character or moral disposition be free from love of money [including greed, avarice, lust, and craving for earthly possessions] and be satisfied with your present [circumstances and with what you have]; for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]’
What you should understand is that the spirits of mammon and perversion are working in tandem. That is why the prostitute gives her body in exchange for money, the man gives his money in exchange for a lady, the student offers her body in exchange for money for school fees, the young man sleeps with older women in exchange for money, and so on.
The scripture teaches that you should allow your character or moral inclination to be free of a love of money [including greed, avarice, lust, and yearning for earthly riches] and content with your current [circumstances and possessions];
How You Can Rise Above Perversion
Never let greed or a desire for money dictate your life’s emphasis. Is it wise to obtain all the money and then lose your soul?
God won’t let you down! He won’t abandon you. He won’t abandon you. Don’t make yourself into a disposable item passed from man to man and from bed to bed for financial gain! Embrace your own worth. Count on him and respect his word. Refuse the operations of the spirit of deceit!
I Have No More Feelings For My Lover. I’m no longer in love with my spouse! No more feelings!
It’s okay, it’s not an issue!
The reality is that the “giz giz” sentiments you felt when you first met your partner are fleeting.
Nothing is as volatile as emotions.
So you’re married and it appears like your affections have faded?
It is not an issue.
It only becomes a problem, and a potentially deadly one, when you begin to seek new “feelings” outside of your marriage.
I Have No More Feelings For My Lover
While feelings may not always be present, one thing that must always be continuous and present is commitment!
Be committed to your partner, regardless of your sentiments.
As long as you stay dedicated, the sensations will return.
Never look for sentiments outside of your own home.
That will not make God happy.
Decide to ONLY FOCUS on your partner.
Every other appeal is a trap designed to tire you out, drain your marital and spiritual energies, distract you, and cause you to forfeit God’s benefits.
That young lady you’ve developed feelings for is a hellish orchestration designed to appeal to and feed your weakness, finally rendering you “unblessed!”
Be prudent.
Don’t let yourself or your family down this year.
That polite and “understanding” coworker or guy is a magnificent plot from Satan to derail your walk with God, and your work on earth, and transform grace into humiliation.
Be astute.
I Have No More Feelings For My Lover
Make “hard” demands on yourself.
Accepting doubtful and unneeded presents from men will weaken your willpower, dim your logic, and confuse your soul.
I am hoping for your continued strength!
Make a decision.
Consider this a litmus test.
Is there anything you’re keeping from your spouse? Are you “reporting” your spouse to your parents, friends, and colleagues, and your spouse has no idea? That indicates a problem that must be addressed.
Make a promise to hide nothing, yes, nothing from your spouse, and you will be shocked at how free and blessed you will become!
Life as a married couple is extremely demanding and requires a lot of wisdom.
There are many areas you should focus on as couples. This morning, I will be identifying just a few of these areas as we all make up our minds to work on our marriages. Singles should learn from this too as a preparation for their wedding.
Pay attention to these details, and your marriage will flourish.
Focus On These Areas In Marriage
1. You should never make your partner feel threatened.
Marriage is a collaboration, not a boss-bondmaid relationship. Nobody is better or worse than anyone else.
Learn to value one another as human beings first. The husband is the head of the household, but it does not make him superior.
The wife is to submit but that does not mean she should be muted and silenced in the home.
Husbands must come into that place of maturity to give wings to their wives to fly while wives must learn to be a help meet indeed by fully submitting to their wives and respecting them.
Focus On These Areas In Marriage
2. Never allow for adultery or infidelity.
It is never worth it, no matter how much you are tempted. Adultery will always be regarded as a dumb sin.
Extramarital affairs are frequently extremely expensive. Nothing compares to the cost of shattered trust.
Stay together and eliminate every emotional interference.
3. Never deny each other.
Don’t deprive your spouse of the enjoyment God intended for sex in marriage. Try various styles. Proper hygiene is also essential.
On the other hand, singles are to keep their bodies under and not indulge in sexual compromise.
The biblical instruction remains the same, sex should be kept till after the wedding! God is not about to change that injunction!
Focus On These Areas In Marriage
4. Maintaining secrets in a marriage is a dead end.
It is likely that you withhold certain sensitive subjects from your spouse for a better time. But no secrets, please. Be open and be transparent with one another. Whatever is covered never heals, and moreover, if your partner had to discover themselves, the trust would have been broken.
If this has happened once, forgive and move on but learn from it!
