We started this amazing topic yesterday and we will be concluding this morning.
To know and experience God you need to be still. There is a level of stillness required to be able to relate and know God for who He is.
When you are still, you most likely can trust more. Especially if it is stillness in your mind and body too. When we make haste and are in a hurry, we are not still. We make mistakes.
In a state of stillness, God can perform His glorious works in our lives.
God had to put Adam to sleep when He was to make Eve.
Is 30:5a ‘In quietness and confidence lies your strength’
We exchange our weakness for His strength when we are quiet and still, trusting in God.
Dear SIngles, learn to be still. There is an intentional quietness to know Him. Quietness and stillness that come from a place of brokenness. A place and state of total and absolute surrendering to God’s will.
The partner is not yet around. Yes, it is NOT YET. He or she that will come, will come. Enjoy yourself, relax, get to know God more, and put your mind at rest. God is in control. Be still and know that God is God.
Let’s search the scriptures. In Isaiah 46:10 ‘ Be still and know that I am God.
All married couples, listen. You cannot afford to have sleepless nights over some issues. Avoid that temptation. God is never in competition with man. The Bible says He never sleeps nor slumbers. If God is awake then you are protected
You know God on your knees and in worship. It is when you are still that you can see the wonders of the Lord. He will always take charge and be in control of every situation we commit into his hands.
Place your husbands, wives, children, parents, and in-laws into His hands and leave them there.
Don’t worry about that situation that is causing you sleepless nights.
Be still today.
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Introduction: What does a woman want from her husband? It’s pretty straightforward: she wants to be heard, supported, respected, and loved. She’s looking for a partner who’s there for her, really listens when she talks, and stands by her side no matter what. It’s about being teammates in this big game called life, sharing laughs, tackling problems together, and having each other’s backs.
Being Heard One of the key things a woman wants from her husband is to be truly heard. This doesn’t just mean listening to her words but understanding the feelings behind them. It’s about giving her your full attention, showing interest in her thoughts and concerns, and responding with empathy. When a woman feels heard, she feels connected and valued in the relationship.
Support Support is another cornerstone of what a woman seeks from her husband. Whether it’s backing her career moves, helping out with household tasks, or being there emotionally during tough times, your support tells her she’s not alone. It’s about being her cheerleader, her confidant, and her safe haven.
Respect Respect is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. This means valuing her opinions, acknowledging her contributions to the family, and treating her with kindness and consideration. When a woman feels respected, she feels safe and esteemed, which fosters deep trust in the marriage.
Partnership Marriage is a partnership. It’s about sharing responsibilities, making decisions together, and supporting each other’s goals and dreams. When you work as a team, you build a strong foundation for a lasting and fulfilling relationship.
Love and Affection Beyond everything, a woman wants to feel loved and cherished. Small gestures of affection, kind words, and quality time together go a long way in keeping the romance alive. It’s about showing her she’s special, not just on special occasions but every day.
Conclusion The keys to what a woman wants from her husband are quite simple: listen, support, respect, partner, and love. These fundamental actions create a nurturing and joyful marriage. By focusing on these aspects, husbands can build a stronger, more loving relationship with their wives, filled with mutual respect and deep connection.
Ask every couple, things get busier after the wedding!
Dear singles, you will never have “free” time like you do now as a single! Enjoy it while it lasts!
Instead of rushing into marriage, fasting, and praying for a wedding, relax and calm down, and serve God with all your energy now!
The reality remains, that nobody can marry your own! Let there be a million weddings daily, nobody can marry your spouse!
Let go of the pressures, because pressures take away all the pleasures. Moreover, pressures don’t get prayers answered quickly, if anything, it brings delays.
Pressures make you lower your standards, become vulnerable, and entertain nonsense!
Take a look at the scripture.
1Co 7:32-35 (GNB) I would like you to be free from worry. An unmarried man concerns himself with the Lord’s work, because he is trying to please the Lord. [33] But a married man concerns himself with worldly matters, because he wants to please his wife; [34] and so he is pulled in two directions. An unmarried woman or a virgin concerns herself with the Lord’s work, because she wants to be dedicated both in body and spirit; but a married woman concerns herself with worldly matters, because she wants to please her husband. [35] I am saying this because I want to help you. I am not trying to put restrictions on you. Instead, I want you to do what is right and proper, and to give yourselves completely to the Lord’s service without any reservation.
Did you see that? The single time affords you to serve God more because there are fewer worries about taking care of your spouse and eventually your children!
Before you enter that phase, enjoy this one you are in. Serve God with all your strength.
For couples, this should never be an excuse to not serve God. God won’t understand that it’s because you are married that you ignore Him and His will.
My dear and most especially, God’s dearest, I bring you a word from the Lord this morning!
Single or married, this word is for you! Please pay attention to the words and take heed of them.
Let’s dive into it!
Psa 95:8-11 (MSG) “Don’t turn a deaf ear as in the Bitter Uprising, As on the day of the Wilderness Test, [9] when your ancestors turned and put me to the test. [10] For forty years they watched me at work among them, as over and over they tried my patience. And I was provoked—oh, was I provoked! ‘Can’t they keep their minds on God for five minutes? Do they simply refuse to walk down my road?’ [11] Exasperated, I exploded, ‘They’ll never get where they’re headed, never be able to sit down and rest.’
Many people, rather than cooperate with God, are putting God to the test, trying His patience and provoking Him with their carelessness and insensitivity!
Thank God He is a merciful God, full of loving kindness and tender mercies!
That is our saving grace!
However, we cannot continue to test His patience and behave like stubborn little kids!
God wants you to keep your mind on Him!
Regarding every decision you make, who to marry, loving the one you have married, staying faithful, avoiding bickering and strife, and so on, God wants you to keep your mind on Him! When your mind is on Him, you will behave!
The punishment for the Israelites in the above text is non-arrival! Their dreams were never fulfilled! They worked tirelessly and struggled with nothing to show at the end of the day! They wandered and meandered and yet never reached their destination!
These will not be our portion!
The scripture made it clear these things were written to serve as our examples! We must not repeat the same mistakes!
Dear singles and couples, decide to cooperate with your maker! Decide to listen to His word and His Instructions. Decide to live for Him and you will find all things working together for your good!
The problems or challenges you face in your marriage or relationship should not inform what your thought pattern is.
Rather you should choose your thoughts despite what you are going through.
The devil has gained entrance into many homes and relationships through their unwholesome thoughts.
What happens in mind, happens in time.
As a single, you cannot afford to fill your mind with thoughts of disappointment. Stop thinking your fiance will cheat on you. Stop thinking your fiancee is a fraud.
As a married woman or man stop thinking the worst of your spouse. Don’t believe the worst of him/her.
Your thoughts have a lot to do with what goes on in your relationship and marriage.
Proverbs 4:23 GNT Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.
Your life, marriage, relationship, future is shaped by your thoughts
When God wanted to give Abraham multitudes as children, God brought him out to count and visualize the stars as his children.
God had to change what he was seeing and thinking.
You must find a way to keep visualizing good thoughts about your home, children, marriage, and relationship.
Once you are sure of God’s leading concerning the person you are engaged with, go ahead and be filled with thoughts of good and not evil.
Yes, you will have challenges but remain positive. Be joyful by having the right thoughts.
Philippians 4:8 GNT In conclusion, my friends, fill your minds with those things that are good and that deserve praise: things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and honorable.
Be disciplined in your thoughts. Keep up the good thoughts and the devil will have no inroad into your relationship or marriage.
Keep visualizing a good home, a good marriage, and a blissful relationship with your spouse. You understand each other. Being kind, being friends, taking care of one another. Being tenderhearted with one another
You have to first think about it, and embrace it. Think of yourself as being very rich. If you have a high earning power you will be valued and appreciated. So think good thoughts.
Don’t think about the problem, think of the solution
