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Top Ten Ways to Show Appreciation to Your Spouse

Showing appreciation to your spouse is essential to build a strong and healthy relationship. Here are the top ten ways to show your love and gratitude, backed by scripture:

Singles and couples can employ these, with the exception of those involving intimacy for couples. 

1. Verbal Affection

Show your appreciation through words. Express your gratitude by saying “thank you” or “I appreciate you” regularly. For example after a good meal, compliment verbally. 

Ephesians 4:32 – “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

2. Surprise Gifts

Surprise your spouse with small gifts or tokens of appreciation, like their favorite snack or coffee. It doesn’t have to be expensive to be consistent. 

1 John 3:18 – “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

3. Quality Time

Spend quality time with your spouse doing things they enjoy, like watching a movie or playing a game together.

Genesis 2:24 – “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

4. Acts of Service

Show your appreciation through actions, like cooking their favorite meal or helping with household chores. The works powerfully especially if your partners love language is acts of service.

Philippians 2:3-4 – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

5. Physical Touch

Show physical affection like holding hands, hugs, or cuddles to release oxytocin, the love hormone. These should be employed richly as husband and wife! 

6. Written Notes

Write love notes or appreciation letters to your spouse, expressing your gratitude for their presence in your life. Don’t let the poet in you die after wedding! If your writings Brough smiles to her face while in courtship, it would bring more laughter after the wedding.

7. Support and Encouragement

Be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader, supporting and encouraging them in their goals and dreams. Be their Number one fan!

Hebrews 3:13 – “Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.”

8. Date Nights

Plan regular date nights to recreate the spark and romance in your relationship. Use the 7-7-7 rule. A time together once in every seven days, an outing together once in every seven week and a major date once every seven months!

9. Listen Actively

Listen to your spouse actively, giving them your undivided attention and making them feel heard. 

James 1:19 – “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

10. Gratitude Rituals

Create a daily or weekly gratitude ritual, sharing three things you appreciate about your spouse. 

1 Thessalonians 5:18 – “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”


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