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Cultivating Emotional Intelligence Through Self-Awareness


Marriage is a beautiful journey, but it can also be challenging. One key to a successful and happy marriage is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognise and understand emotions in yourself and others and to use this awareness to guide thought and behaviour. In this blog post, we’ll explore the importance of self-awareness in emotional intelligence and how it can benefit your marriage.

The Scripture says in Proverbs  13:15, that Good understanding giveth favour: but the way of transgressors is hard. Understanding or wells awareness is crucial in marriage and relationships. 

What is Self-Awareness?

Self-awareness is the ability to recognise and understand one’s emotions and how they impact one’s thoughts and behaviour. It’s the ability to step back and observe oneself, one’s thoughts, and feelings without judgment. Self-awareness is the foundation of emotional intelligence, and it’s essential for building a solid and healthy marriage.

How Does This Help Emotional Intelligence in Marriage?

Self-awareness is vital in marriage because it helps you understand your own emotions and needs, as well as those of your partner. When you’re self-aware, you can better communicate your feelings and needs clearly and respectfully. You’re also more likely to be empathetic and understanding toward your partner, which can help build trust and strengthen your relationship.

The scripture says in First Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge…

What are the Benefits of Self-Awareness in Marriage?


1. Improved Communication: Self-awareness helps you communicate more effectively with your partner. When you understand your own emotions and needs, you’re better able to express them in a way that your partner can understand.

2. Increased Empathy: Self-awareness helps you understand and empathise with your partner’s feelings and needs. You’re more likely to be supportive and understanding when seeing things from your partner’s perspective.

3. Better Conflict Resolution: Self-awareness helps you manage conflicts more effectively. When you understand your emotions and needs, you’re less likely to react impulsively or aggressively.

4. Greater Intimacy: Understanding yourself leads to a tighter bond with your partner. When you’re in touch with your feelings and wants, you’ll be more real, vulnerable and open with your partner.

How to Develop Self-Awareness in Marriage.

5. Keep a Journal: Writing down your thoughts can help you spot patterns and understand your emotions.

6. Ask for Feedback: Don’t be afraid to ask your partner and pals what they think about your actions and talk. It’s a way to level up your self-awareness game.

7. Take a Class or Workshop: Consider taking a class or workshop. Check out a class on understanding emotions or self-awareness. It’s like adding more tools to your relationship toolbox.


Self-awareness is a crucial component of emotional intelligence, and it’s essential for building a solid and healthy marriage. By developing self-awareness, you can improve communication, increase empathy, manage conflicts more effectively, and build a deeper and more intimate connection with your partner. Remember, self-awareness is a journey, and it takes time and effort to develop. But with practice and patience, you can become more self-aware and build a happier and more fulfilling marriage.


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