Sometimes, life can just get too much—not because you’re lazy or ungrateful, but because you’re human. You’ve been showing up, holding it together, trying your best, and now, you’re tired.
This was the point exactly where Moses found himself. He wasn’t asking for a promotion or a reward; he was begging for relief. He’d been leading, listening, sacrificing, and still, people kept pulling at him. And he reached that point we all hit at some stage: “God, I can’t do this by myself anymore.”
I cannot carry all these people by myself; the burden is too heavy for me. Numbers 11:14
And you know what? God didn’t scold him. He didn’t say, “Be stronger” or “Try harder.” Instead, He stepped in and helped.
God knows our limits, He knows your heart, and He never asks you to carry more than the grace He’s willing to give. That means if it’s getting too heavy, it’s not a sign of failure; rather, it’s a sign that it’s time to pause, check in, and lean into Him more deeply.
We each have different strengths, different gifts, different capacities. What drains one person might not even bother another, and that’s okay. You’re not called to do life like anyone else. You don’t have to keep apologizing for not being able to handle what was never yours to carry in the first place.
We’re not called to burn out in the name of “being responsible.” We’re called to be faithful—to show up as God made us, not as who people expect us to be. And when the pressure starts to choke your peace, that’s your cue: Go to God. Let him help you. Let Him show you a better, healthier rhythm. He’s not just your provider, He’s your sustainer too.
God never meant for you to break under the weight. He meant for you to bring it to Him. And when you do, He will help you find a rhythm that honors your health, your peace, and your purpose.
I Want to Love My Spouse: Steps to a Deeper, God-Centered Love
Loving your spouse isn’t always easy—it requires intentionality, grace, and a willingness to grow. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I really want to love my spouse, but I don’t know how,” you’re not alone. Marriage is a journey of learning, sacrifice, and leaning on God’s strength. Here are five biblical steps to help you cultivate a deeper, more authentic love for your spouse.
1. Pray for Your Spouse Daily
Love begins in the heart, and prayer opens the door for God to work in both your life and your spouse’s life. When you pray for your spouse, you invite God to soften hearts, heal wounds, and strengthen your bond. 1 Peter 3:7 encourages husbands to treat their wives with understanding, adding, “so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” Prayer aligns your heart with God’s purposes for your marriage.
Praying for your spouse shifts your focus from their flaws to their needs. It helps you see them through God’s eyes and fosters compassion.
2. Choose Love Over Feelings
Feelings of romance may ebb and flow, but love is a choice—a daily decision to act in kindness, patience, and selflessness. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 reminds us that love is patient, kind, forgiving, and enduring. Even when feelings fade, you can choose to love your spouse through actions that honor God and reflect His character.
Feelings are fleeting, but intentional love builds trust and security. Choosing love, even when it’s hard, demonstrates commitment and faithfulness.
3. Communicate with Grace and Humility
Healthy communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. Speak words of encouragement, listen without judgment, and address conflicts with humility. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Loving your spouse means valuing their perspective and seeking resolution rather than winning arguments.
Communication creates connection. When you communicate with grace, you create an environment where love can flourish.
4. Serve Your Spouse Willingly
True love is expressed through service. Jesus set the ultimate example of servant leadership when He washed His disciples’ feet (John 13:15 ). Serving your spouse doesn’t mean keeping score or expecting something in return—it means meeting their needs with joy and humility.
Acts of service show your spouse they are valued and cherished. Small, consistent gestures of kindness can reignite affection and deepen intimacy.
5. Pursue Growth Together
Marriage thrives when both partners grow spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. Spend time studying Scripture together, attending church, or engaging in activities that draw you closer to God and each other. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us, “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.” Growing together strengthens your bond and keeps your love vibrant.
When you pursue God as a couple, you build a partnership rooted in eternal values.
Love isn’t built in a day, like we desire it to. It’s planted, watered, nurtured, and pruned. Four hard tasks. In other words, love actually screams work!
Too many people want the flowers of love—the romance, the connection, the companionship, the communication, the oneness—without committing to the gardening. But gardens don’t bloom because we wish them to. They bloom because someone gets their hands dirty.
In relationships, planting looks like intentionality—choosing someone, showing up consistently, building trust. You have to be intentional about your relationship—right from choosing someone.
Watering looks like kind words, small acts of service, listening, and forgiveness.
Pruning? That’s probably the tough one. It means removing habits, attitudes, and even friendships that threaten the health of your love. Why are you still chatting with your ex and hiding it from your spouse? Why are you still hanging out with him/her without your spouse? That relationship has to go! That’s pruning.
So, gardens need work. Neglect a garden long enough and weeds grow—resentment, silence, pride, selfishness. And soon, something that once had promise becomes overgrown with pain.
If you’re single, ask yourself: Am I becoming someone who knows how to garden love, or just someone who wants to enjoy its beauty?
If you’re married, ask: Have we been nurturing our garden, or have we let weeds grow unchecked?
The best gardens aren’t the ones with the rarest seeds. They’re the ones who were cared for every single day. They had the best gardeners who did the work.
So today, tend your garden.
Pull out a weed. Plant a word. Water with prayer. And trust God for the increase.
How Understanding Grace And Law Can Transform Your Relationship
The age-old conversation between Grace and Law is one every believer must understand. Are they at odds, or are they two parts of God’s redemptive story?
“For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ.” (John 1:17 KJV)
The Law, given through Moses, was holy, just, and good. It set a divine standard, revealing God’s nature and exposing man’s weakness. However, it could not make us righteous. It was like a mirror, able to show us our flaws but powerless to cleanse them.
Grace, on the other hand, came through Jesus. It doesn’t lower the standard, it empowers us to meet it. It’s not an excuse to live in sin, but the divine enablement to live above it.
“For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.” (Romans 6:14 KJV)
Under the Law, there was demand without supply. But under Grace, God supplies what He requires. Through the finished work of Christ, we are no longer striving to earn God’s favor, we already have it.
“For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world.” (Titus 2:11–12 KJV)
Dear believer, don’t see Grace and Law as enemies. The Law was our tutor, pointing us to Christ. Grace is our inheritance, drawing us to walk with Him. Jesus didn’t abolish the Law; He fulfilled it, and now He lives through us.
Prayer
Father, thank You for the gift of Grace through Jesus Christ. Teach me to walk daily in the freedom You have given, not by legalism, but by the Spirit. Help me to honor You, not out of fear of punishment, but through love empowered by Your grace.
“When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.” Isn’t that what they say?
But what if you aren’t tough enough, or not tough at all? Every human being encounters a season in life when breaking through feels impossible. Those seasons come in waves. It’s rarely just a one-time thing. Yet, in those moments of weakness and fragility, one thing remains true: we are made strong through God’s strength.
God understands exactly how you feel in your moments of frailty; the hopelessness and confusion when you’ve been believing Him for a good job, or trusting Him for the right partner. He knows, and that’s the truth.
If it weren’t true, the Bible wouldn’t highlight the weaknesses of our heroes of faith. We wouldn’t know that the man after God’s own heart made major mistakes. We wouldn’t read about how Peter was right one moment and rebuked the next. Those stories were recorded because God wanted you to know that, at the end of the day, we are all just human and we always need Him to make things right.
Hebrews 4:15 [NLT] This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin.
That’s your turning point. God is always a million steps ahead. He figured it all out before you were even conceived. He sent you a Helper: the Holy Spirit. I mean, who needs help if they already have it all figured out?
So yes, it’s okay not to know what to do, because you don’t always have to. The Bible tells us not to lean on our own understanding. Why? Because even when we think we have the answers, God always knows best.
Bottom line: You need to be vulnerable before Him and always seek His face, because His strength is made perfect in your weakness, and you can always lean on Him.
