Many people enter relationships expecting “love” to fix them. They think a spouse will erase their insecurities, a partner will heal their past wounds, or marriage will suddenly make them whole. But I bring you the truth today: love (Eros) won’t heal you—only God can.
Singles, hear me: the worst thing you can do is place the weight of your happiness or wholeness on another person. If you feel empty, unloved, worthless, or broken, a relationship won’t fix it—it will only expose it. Two incomplete people don’t make a whole relationship; they make a wounded one. It is two whole people that come together to make a whole relationship.
So, instead of searching for someone to “complete” you, let God make you whole first. That way, when the right person comes, you’ll love from a place of strength, not desperation.
So, my friends, heal before you deal. Become whole before you become entangled with another. Stop being desperate for “love” as a way of completing you—search out where the insecurity is coming from and allow God to heal you.
For married couples, expecting your spouse to be your healer is quite a heavy burden. Yes, love/marriage brings comfort and support, but no human can fill the void only God was meant to fill. If you’re struggling with insecurities, past trauma, or deep emotional wounds, don’t look to your partner as the solution—bring it to God.
Come vulnerable before God and find healing. A healthy marriage isn’t about two perfect people; it’s about two surrendered people who continually allow God to shape them.
It is God who heals. It is God that binds up the broken-hearted, not any man/woman.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
Love is beautiful, yeah, but it is not a substitute for healing. So before you search for love—or while you’re already in it—ask yourself: Am I expecting a person to do what only God can? Because wholeness isn’t found in a relationship. It’s found in Him. Reach out to Him today. He’s waiting for you.
There are a few things that add spice into your marriage. Apart from praying and doing all the spiritual aspects, the things you do physically matters too.
We need to remind ourselves of some of these things. They are so simple; in fact, some of us vowed to do these things while single, but life happens to us, and then we get overcome by events.
There is no way you can start doing these things and stay committed to doing them that your marriage will not be better and grow intimately.
Let’s take a look at some of those things.
1. Take time to touch daily
a. Hugs – aim at 3-4 hugs per day for atleast 20sec
b. Hold hands for at least 10 mins per day
c. Cuddles – at least 30 mins everyday
d. Massage – at least 10-15 min per day
e. Intimate touch – kissing, caressing & lovemaking.
Physical touch reduces stress and anxiety. Oxytocin release hormones of bonding. It promotes feelings of attachment, closeness & bonding
2. Find something to laugh about daily
a. Schedule laughing time – Set aside time to see a movie
b. Find the humor, laugh at yourself
c. Be playful – playful activities & games that bring laughter & joy in your relationship
d. Share funny stories: funny stories about your past.
These tips are simple yet practical and profound.
God bless our marriages in Jesus’ mighty name, amen.
Love is a beautiful thing. It teaches patience, sacrifice, and the art of meeting in the middle. Any healthy relationship requires compromise here and there because two people will never agree on everything all the time. Sometimes, you have to choose peace over being right. You make adjustments, small sacrifices, and little shifts to create harmony, and that’s actually a good thing.
But here’s where it gets dangerous. You see, compromise is healthy until it starts making you lose YOU..
“Love your neighbor as yourself.” — Mark 12:31
You’ve probably been there, saying “yes” when your heart was screaming “no.”Compromising your standards because you were scared of being alone. Pouring into someone who only left you drained and empty. Changing who you are just to be “enough” for them.
The thing is, it happens so slowly that you don’t even notice at first. You adjust your schedule, your preferences, and your way of expressing yourself, all in the name of love. You tell yourself it’s normal, that this is just what relationships require. And to some extent, that’s true. But compromise should never feel like erasure.
It should never mean suppressing your voice, constantly dismissing your own needs, or walking on eggshells to keep someone else happy or just to fit into someone else’s idea of who you should be.
What does the Scriptures say?
The Bible teaches us that love is selfless but not self-destructive.
Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Notice that Christ loved sacrificially, but He never lost His identity in the process. His love uplifted, purified, and made the Church better and bigger, not smaller.
Mark 12:31 says, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
This verse is often quoted, but notice the balance: You are to love others as yourself, not instead of yourself.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23
Guarding your heart doesn’t mean closing yourself off, but it does mean setting healthy boundaries. If a relationship is draining your spirit and pulling you away from who God made you to be, it’s time to evaluate if it is truly love or control.
Here are some of the signs you are losing yourself in love:
You constantly suppress your own feelings to keep the peace.
You adjust your personality to fit what your partner wants.
You feel exhausted, as if you’re always giving but rarely receiving.
Your dreams and goals have taken a backseat to the relationship.
You stay even when you’re no longer happy, out of fear of being alone.
Conclusion:
Love should never cost you your peace, joy, or identity. If a relationship is slowly stripping you of who you are, then it is not love; it’s bondage, and you need to get out of it quickly.
God’s kind of love always builds you up, it never tears you down. If you have to lose yourself to keep someone, then maybe they were never meant to stay.
Love isn’t just about sweet words or fleeting gestures—it’s about consistent actions that demonstrate true commitment. The Bible reminds us in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind… it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” These verses highlight the essence of what it means to be truly committed in a relationship.
Here are 10 signs that reveal if he’s genuinely committed to you.
1. He Chooses You Daily :
A man who is truly committed doesn’t take your presence for granted. He actively chooses you every day, even when life gets tough. This daily decision reflects his unwavering commitment.
Deuteronomy 7:9 “Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.”
True commitment mirrors God’s faithfulness.
2. He Speaks Respectfully About You :
A partner who is truly committed honors you in public and private. He speaks highly of you, showing pride in your character and your relationship. Ephesians 5:33 reminds husbands, “Each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself,” which includes treating her with dignity and respect.
3. He Invests Time in You :
When someone is truly committed, they make time for what matters most. If he prioritizes quality moments with you, it’s a clear sign of his dedication. Psalm 37:5 encourages us to “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.” Commitment requires intentional effort and trust.
4. He Works Through Conflicts Maturely :
A truly committed man doesn’t run from challenges. Instead, he faces conflicts head-on, seeking resolution because he values the relationship. Matthew 5:23-24 teaches us to reconcile quickly when there’s conflict, showing how important it is to preserve unity.
5. He Supports Your Growth :
Whether it’s personal, professional, or spiritual, a man who is truly committed encourages you to grow. He sees your potential and stands by you as you pursue it. Proverbs 27:17 reminds us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” A committed partner helps you become the best version of yourself.
6. He Plans a Future Together :
Words like “we” and “us” become natural for someone who is truly committed. If he talks about building a future with you, it’s proof of his long-term commitment. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, “For I know the plans I have for you… plans to give you hope and a future.” A committed man aligns his plans with yours.
7. He Protects Your Heart :
A truly committed partner shields your emotions. He avoids saying or doing things that hurt you intentionally, showing his care and devotion. 1 Peter 4:8 says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” Love protects and nurtures.
8. He Sacrifices for You :
Commitment often involves sacrifice. If he willingly puts your needs ahead of his own, it’s a powerful sign of how truly committed he is to your happiness. John 15:13 declares, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” Sacrifice is the ultimate expression of love.
9. He Stands by You in Tough Times :
Life’s challenges reveal true colors. A man who remains steadfast during hardships shows he’s truly committed to sticking by your side no matter what. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us, “Two are better than one… for if they fall, one will lift up their fellow.”
10. He Shows Consistency :
Love may have ups and downs, but a truly committed man demonstrates consistency. His actions align with his words, day after day, proving his loyalty. Hebrews 10:23 encourages believers to “Hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” Consistency reflects faithfulness.
Passion is often described as a strong feeling of excitement, love, or dedication toward something. It can be a deep interest in an activity, a cause, or even a person. Passion fuels motivation, keeps people pushing forward, and inspires hard work.
But is passion alone enough to live a truly fulfilling life?
Many people excel in their fields, achieve great success, and gain recognition. Yet, deep inside, something still feels missing. The joy isn’t there, and neither is the fulfillment they once expected. Why? Because passion without purpose is like running a race without a destination.
God never created man just to exist; He designed each person with a divine purpose.
“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10).
Your purpose is the reason behind your existence. The very plan God had in mind when He formed you.
This is why discovering your purpose must begin with seeking God.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart” (Jeremiah 1:5).
Just as no one understands a product better than its manufacturer, no one knows your purpose better than your Creator.
Beyond personal ambition, our lives should reflect God’s image and serve His kingdom.
So, dear friend, beyond chasing passion, seek God’s purpose for your life. Life finds true meaning, and fulfillment follows when passion meets purpose. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.”
At the end of the day, you will be in a place of balance. Seek passion, but never neglect purpose.
