Gentlemen, buckle up because we’re about to dive into the heart of every woman’s secret desire. Picture this: a marriage counselor spills the beans that, for the ladies, hearing “I love you” is like getting a surprise bouquet on a random Tuesday.
One woman, frustrated with her love-deprived relationship, voiced her concerns. But, oh boy, did her husband take it to the next level! He hit the recording studio, creating a love symphony, a 70-minute ballad of “I love yous.” A CD was born, a declaration of affection on repeat.
Proudly presenting it to his wife, he said, “My pepperento potatoe,” play this anytime you need my dulcet tones.” And then, like a tragic romance novel twist, she shattered it and sent it airborne. The lesson here? A CD can’t replace the real deal.
Dear husbands, take note. Compliments from others should never outshine your love notes at home. Especially after childbirth and as the midlife roller coaster hits, your wife needs your affirmations more than ever. Mirrors might be close, but your words should be closer.
2. Hand in Hand, Heart in Heart at Church
Let’s talk about spiritual unity, where the bond is as unbreakable as a hymn sung together. As the head, you’re not just the CEO of your family but also the spiritual guide. Forget the separate pew routine; attend church, grow, study, and pray together for heaven’s sake.
It’s not just a Sunday thing; it’s a build-a-strong-marriage thing. Your responsibility? Spiritual leadership and direction. This isn’t about denominations; it’s about creating a sanctuary within your marriage.
3. Love, Don’t Lift Your Hands
Now, gentlemen, a crucial piece of advice: Never, and I mean never, raise your hands against your wife. This isn’t a suggestion; it’s a commandment in the Book of Marriage Wisdom.
“Yeah, but my wife is like a whirlwind of stubbornness, rudeness, and annoyance!” I hear you. But let me be crystal clear—violence is not the answer.
In the sacred scripture of 1 Peter 3:7, it’s written: “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife…” Make a sacred vow, a covenant, that you’ll never harm her.
Commit to honoring, protecting, and cherishing her. As you do, watch God weave wonders into your marriage. May His blessings rain down on you, turning your love story into an epic tale of honor and fulfillment.
We explored the importance of not rebuffing your partner’s advances in our last discussion, and now, we delve into another vital aspect – the essence of respect.
1. Embrace the Power of Respect
The breakdown of numerous marriages can be attributed to a lack of respect from wives. Here’s a road map to infusing respect into your marriage.
Respect Within and Without
Extend your respect for your husband beyond the walls of your home. Let him feel honored and valued, reinforcing the notion that he is your king. This respect should be evident in your actions, words, and even disagreements.
Uphold His Honor
Even when faced with disagreements, supporting your husband sends a powerful message. Avoid undermining him in the presence of friends and family. The goal is to “finish” him with respect, creating an environment where he hesitates to offend.
Drawing inspiration from Ephesians 5:22 (AMPC), wives are encouraged to be submissive to their husbands as a service to the Lord. This underscores the importance of aligning marital dynamics with spiritual principles.
Avoiding vulgar language is a fundamental aspect of showing respect. Disparaging terms can erode the foundation of a relationship. Wise communication involves understanding your husband’s sensitivities and steering clear of derogatory remarks.
Decode His Language of Respect
Respecting your husband doesn’t imply living in fear; rather, it involves recognizing his preferences and understanding his interpretation of respect. This could range from small gestures to deferring to his decisions.
Defer and Allow
Letting your husband have the final say doesn’t diminish your role; instead, it establishes a healthy balance. Avoid constant arguments and the temptation to assume the role of the dominant partner.
Deliberate frustration, through tactics like silent treatment and mood swings, can strain a relationship. A husband who feels consistently respected is more likely to reciprocate with honor. Avoid gas-lighting and stonewalling.
8. Express Respect in Every Dimension
Respecting your husband isn’t confined to words alone; it permeates your actions, body language, and attitudes. Balancing respect for your spiritual leaders with the reverence you show your husband at home is pivotal.
Pleasing Your Husband Over Others
Never prioritize pleasing others at the expense of your husband’s happiness. Understanding and respecting his desires while staying true to your values fosters a harmonious relationship.
10. Prioritize your admiration Men experience the greatest pain when they discover you are admiring somebody else over them. Naturally, a woman is not moved by sight as much as men are. So when a woman is moved by the sight of another man or other men, it’s a deep wound for any man who loves his wife. Admire your husband and focus your emotional energy towards him.
In conclusion, 1 Peter 3:1-6 (AMPC), emphasizes the impact of a godly life on a husband. It encourages women to embody inner beauty and a gentle spirit, illustrating this with the example of Sarah’s submission to Abraham.
Mastering the art of respecting your husband is an ongoing journey.
May divine intervention guide and enrich your marital journey.
Love Beyond Emotions: The Power of Guiding Principles
Let’s pick up from where we left off yesterday, delving into a crucial aspect of successful marriages.
7. The Nexus of Love and Principles
In the realm of matrimony, love is not an isolated entity; it’s intricately woven with principles. Contrary to the notion that emotional feelings suffice, it’s essential to recognize the distinction between love and fleeting emotions.
Love lacks a substantial foundation without principles. It is these guiding principles that provide the bedrock for a lasting and resilient love. In the tumultuous storms that inevitably hit every marriage, principles become the anchor, ensuring survival.
Life, with its unpredictable twists, affects us all. Drawing inspiration from the biblical perspective, we are declared more than conquerors through Christ. The battles will come, but adherence to principles becomes the pathway to victory.
8. Marriage: A Spiritual Commitment
Some erroneously perceive marriage solely through the lens of emotions. However, it extends far beyond mere emotionalism.
Assuming all is well because of external factors; job security, good health, and a comfortable life, can lead to complacency. Personal experience underscores the danger of becoming lax when everything seems smooth.
Marriage is inherently spiritual before it manifests in the physical realm. An essential prerequisite for a successful union is a willingness to embrace a serious relationship with God.
Every man is the priest of his family. It goes beyond superficial gestures; leadership entails leading the family towards spiritual growth. Both partners must actively participate in studying God’s word, prayer, fasting, tithing, and other covenant practices.
9. Spiritual Unity
True leadership involves more than romantic gestures. Men are called to lead their families to God, speaking in authority over their wives and children.
Reject the notion that only one partner needs to be spiritual. Both parties must be committed prayer warriors, believers in the Bible, and actively engage in spiritual disciplines.
In conclusion, the journey of a successful marriage requires a fusion of love and principles, transcending mere emotional bonds.
May this insight grant you a deeper understanding as you navigate the intricate path of matrimony.
Entering matrimony means surrendering the notion of individual finances. The money you earn is no longer exclusively yours; it’s a shared asset with your spouse. Decisions regarding expenditures become collaborative, emphasizing financial prudence.
Each spending choice requires thoughtful consideration, and extravagant gestures should involve consultation with one’s partner.
Husbands, too, must exercise financial prudence. Impulsive spending without consulting one’s spouse can lead to financial instability. Transparency in financial matters not only fosters trust but acts as a deterrent against extramarital affairs.
Understanding the principles of tithing and sowing becomes paramount. Neglecting tithing severs the potential for financial blessings. Harmonizing financial beliefs strengthens the marital bond.
While desiring care in a marriage is natural, a skewed focus solely on receiving undermines the essence of matrimony. Marriage is a divine call to serve one another. Being cared for and loved are outcomes, not entitlements.
Marriage thrives on mutual service. Demanding care and love places undue pressure on a spouse. Instead, fostering an environment of love ensures a reciprocal flow of affection and care.
In the marital journey, refrain from demanding love; let it flow organically. By actively showing love, you create a cycle of affection that enriches the relationship.
Dispelling the misconception that marriage is a transactional space is crucial. It’s not a restaurant where services are demanded, nor a supermarket where desires are instantly gratified. Rather, marriage is akin to tending a garden.
The analogy of a garden aptly captures the essence of marriage. The effort invested determines the yield. A Yoruba proverb encapsulates this idea: “If you want a good pot of stew, be ready to spend good money.” In marriage, effort begets reward.
Intentional Effort for Bliss
Marital happiness is a result of intentional effort. You reap what you sow. Much like cultivating a garden, tending to the marriage is a continuous process that demands commitment.
In conclusion, a thriving marriage requires financial unity, a mindset of reciprocal love, and the understanding that it’s a garden that flourishes with intentional effort. May this wisdom guide you toward a fulfilling and lasting union.
May your journey in marriage be blessed with understanding and joy!
In the pursuit of eternal love in marriage, fostering intimacy is a key factor. While some resort to questionable tactics to keep their spouses close, building a genuine connection is the foundation for a strong and enduring relationship.
Recognizing Individual Differences
Understanding that not all men share the same views on fidelity is crucial. Some may perceive relationships as games or sources of entertainment. Therefore, careful consideration before entering into marriage, especially with someone met online, is essential.
Marriage extends beyond fleeting emotions. While feelings may fade, the commitment remains. To ensure a lasting connection, strategic decisions and actions play a pivotal role.
Strategies to Secure Your Husband’s Love
1. Prioritize Intimacy
The Bible emphasizes the role of wives in wooing, winning, and protecting their husbands
Jer 31:22 (AMPC+)
How long will you waver and hesitate [ to return ], O you backsliding daughter? For the Lord has created a new thing in the land [ of Israel ]: a female shall compass (woo, win, and protect) a man.
One impactful way to achieve this is by prioritizing intimacy.
Never Deny His Advances
At the forefront of maintaining a strong connection is never refusing your husband’s sexual advances. Fulfilling his needs day and night contributes significantly to a lasting bond.
Respond positively to his desires, ensuring satisfaction when sought.
Pro 5:19 (KJV) – “Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.”
Timing Matters
Recognize the importance of timing in meeting your husband’s emotional needs. Respond to his desires promptly, especially when he is emotionally vulnerable.
Be attuned to his emotional state and offer intimacy when needed, fostering a healthy marriage bed.
Spontaneity Speaks Volumes
Maintain a spontaneous approach to intimacy. Waiting too long between intimate moments can signal underlying issues within the relationship.
Communication Is Key Address any potential issues promptly to ensure a robust and satisfying marital relationship.
Openly communicate your readiness to meet your husband’s needs at any time. Ensure he feels supported and cherished.
Be vocal about your willingness to fulfill his desires spontaneously, fostering a sense of security.
Create a private vocabulary to communicate desires openly without revealing intimate details in public.
3. Initiating Intimacy
Empower yourself to initiate intimate moments. Be the one to make the first move some of the time, demonstrating an active role in maintaining the marital bond. Take charge of initiating intimate moments to strengthen the connection and satisfy your husband’s needs.
In conclusion, nurturing eternal love requires a multifaceted approach. Prioritizing intimacy, clear communication, and taking the initiative are essential components. By embracing these strategies, you can cultivate a lasting bond that withstands the tests of time. Remember, a strong marriage is built on genuine connection and mutual satisfaction.
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