Marriage wine can often dry up, turn sour, or simply lose taste. Relationships can lose the spark, the fun, and the glee!
Love can wane, can grow old, and can fast dissipate. Feelings are fickle, never with a forever status.
What do you do when love seems to wane, when the tummy butterflies have all rested their wings, love birds have no more songs, when his or her words evoke no more feelings, and the blushing, the dimples, and the smiles have all gone?
What do you do at such times?
You are in courtship and everything seems intense, but of recently, you are no longer excited.
You don’t even look forward to hearing from each other and yet you still have peace that you are in the right relationship.
You are married, and the marriage bed has gone cold.
Intimacy used to be a trip but right now it is a complete bore. You could almost be reading a novel while you are at it. And yet the Bible unequivocally advises that Pro 5:19 (KJV) Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
What happened?
Here are a few things that could steal the wine off the marriage shelf, that could sap out and zap off every fun in the union.
What To Do When Love Wanes
1. When you allow pressures to stifle the pleasure
There will always be pressures, especially pressures from work. Wise husbands and wives learn to leave office pressures at the office and not bring them home.
For those in courtship, do not allow work pressures to swallow up fun communication times, times of bonding, and times of aligning the souls.
Decide to enjoy your courtship through vibrant communication and unhindered flow irrespective of the pressures that be
What To Do When Love Wanes
2. When you allow the hustles and bustles of life to steal your rest in God
Whether you like it or not, there will always be issues to deal with.
You must have a commitment to each other in a relationship or marriage to put each other first place after God.
3. When you refuse to spend quality time together
Love will wane when you don’t spend time with each other.
Nothing will ever replace quality time spent together enriched with destiny discussions and plans for the future.
Those times of fellowship can never be replaced with any other thing
For singles in courtship, this quality time must not be tainted with sexual sins.
With compromise, quality time will become dangerous time, bringing with it, damnation and guilt.
But essentially, it’s no longer about you alone, it’s now the two of you!
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2. You must be responsible
Marriage life requires responsibility. It’s a life of being responsible.
You don’t live for yourself alone. You think about your spouse and your family’s well-being.
You think and carry the thoughts of your family everywhere you go.
That will inform your decision at the time. You don’t just wake up one morning and decide to travel for three weeks.
Your life as a married man or woman must reflect responsibility in all areas.
That’s why society frowns at it if a married woman or man dresses seductively because that is not expected of him/her. A married person is expected to be responsible.
God bless you this morning! Have a fantastic day ahead!
Marriage is a lifelong journey and you want to be sure you travel light.
You don’t want to carry unnecessary baggage that will make your journey strenuous and unpleasant.
There are stuff that are anti-blissful marriage.
Someone once said if you want to travel by flight you go light.
That is why your luggage is weighed at the airport before you board the plane.
If the purpose of God for your marriage and home is going to be accomplished, you must decide to let go of certain habits or mindsets.
They may not necessarily be sins but the Bible talks about laying aside the weight that easily beset us.
Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.
Your marriage is the race set before you and you must be prepared to run it with patience. You will not make a shipwreck of your marriage in Jesus’ name.
I’ll be writing to the men today as they are the leaders of the house.
Loving your wife doesn’t sometimes come naturally, especially if you have been married for a while. To love your wife, you have to learn it and practice it from time to time.
Here are practical ways to love your wives as recorded in the scriptures.
Eph 5:25-28 MSG – Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor–since they’re already “one” in marriage.
Strategies for Loving Your Wife Like Never Before
1. Go all out for her: This is the first instruction given in the passage above. Go out of your way. Go all out in your love. Don’t hold back in expressing your love for your wife. Love your wife deeply. Love her with your substance. Love her with your commitments.
Love her genuinely and be interested in her progress, all around. Express that love both in action and in words Do not give your emotional space to any other except for her. Go all out for her even in your emotions!
Be there for her emotionally. This means being there to listen, understand, and comfort her during both the good times and the challenging ones.
Strategies for Loving Your Wife Like Never Before
2. Give, don’t just get: As a husband, let your love be marked by giving, not just by getting. Be a giver. That’s the way things are done. Give your time. Give your attention. Give your love. Give them to your family, not to a strange woman out there. Provide for the family. Go the extra mile to make her happy. Let your family be your priority.
Marriage is sacrifice. Let your wife see your love, commitment, and sacrifice.
Give her your time! Sacrificing time for meaningful, quality moments together is crucial
What else can you give? Thoughtful gestures will go a long way! Surprising her with a treat, leaving romantic notes, or having date nights can make her feel cherished and loved.
Don’t just get intimacy, give her too. Give her a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on, she will need it when she is down
You Will Be Joy-Full!. Happy New Month! Welcome to October! It will be a great month for you in Jesus’ name!
This month is our month of JOY-FULL! Your joy will be full in Jesus’ name!
Joh 16:24 (KJV) Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, THAT YOUR JOY MAY BE FULL.
1Jn 1:4 (KJV) And these things write we unto you, THAT YOUR JOY MAY BE FULL.
God wants your joy to be full!
The question is, “What is that thing that God will do that will cause your joy to be full this month?
In your relationship or marriage, business or career, what is that thing that God would that will cause your joy to be full?
Get ready for it to be done! You Will Be Joy-Full!
Hitherto, you have asked nothing, go ahead and ask now! Hitherto, you have not really been in faith because you think it can’t be done. Well, go ahead and ask now, because God is going to do it!
I pray for you according to the word of the Lord, this month your joy will be full.
Something great, something beautiful, something extraordinary, something that will make you laugh, rejoice, and dance, that thing will be a reality in your life in Jesus’ name!
So what do you do?
Start rejoicing before the rejoicing!
There is always a dance before the dance! You Will Be Joy-Full!
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