Living with imperfection in your marriage requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to embrace the reality that both you and your partner are flawed human beings. Here are some strategies to help you navigate imperfections in your marriage and foster a healthy, loving relationship:
1. Accept the Humanity of your spouse
Understand that no one is perfect, including yourself and your spouse. Embrace imperfections as part of being human and learn to accept each other’s flaws without judgment.
2. Be Grateful for little things
You can learn intentionally to focus on the little things your spouse does. Never take them for granted. They will not always do the right things, but for the good things don’t let ‘thank you’ escape your mouth
Turning Marriage Flaws into Fabulous Moments
3. Communicate with Compassion:
Don’t be known for being always harsh with your tongue. Pass your message across loving and in a meek tune. Choose your words carefully, knowing your spouse is your partner and not your maid
4. Share Responsibilities:
Imperfections may sometimes affect certain aspects of your marriage. Be willing to share responsibilities and work as a team to manage challenges together.
5. Set Realistic Expectations:
Part of your realistic expectations is giving allowance for your spouse’s mistake. He/she will not be perfect in timing, thinking, talking etc. Manage your expectations of your spouse well
Turning Marriage Flaws into Fabulous Moments
6. Invest in Emotional Intimacy:
Building emotional intimacy can strengthen your connection and understanding of each other. Share your feelings, dreams, and vulnerabilities with your partner to deepen your bond.
7. Forgive and let go
Holding onto grudges or dwelling on past mistakes can create resentment. Practice forgiveness, not only for your partner but also for yourself, and learn to let go of the past.
Practice these and the Lord will help you and give you more Grace in Jesus mighty name
Life is never delivered on the platform of ease! Yes, we will have victory as God’s children, but it’s not victory until there is a fight!
How far are you willing to fight for your relationships and marriage?
How willing are you to hang on to life and refuse to yield to the whims and caprices of the evil one?
Paul summarized his life as a “fight” by saying in 2Ti 4:7 that “I have fought a good fight…”
Again in in 1Ti 6:12, we are instructed to “fight the good fight of faith…”
David also said in Psa 144:1 “Blessed be the LORD my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight!”
So there is a fight, but we know through Jesus we already have the victory!
You are not fighting to lose! You are a winner already!
What is that path that must be avoided that leads to the place of hopelessness where you don’t even want to “fight” again?
How To Fight Against That Habit.
Below are the stages that lead to where you stop fighting.
1. Mistake
Everyone makes mistakes. We all do. Making a mistake is not the end, God said He will forgive!
2. Habit
When mistakes become repeated, it morphs into a habit! You are no longer being trapped here, you are the one designing the trap!
3. Denial
At this stage, you simply deny the habit when confronted and blatantly refuse to admit there is an issue to deal with. When you keep denying, you can’t be set free. At this stage, you can’t be helped at all.
4. Self Deception
At this stage, you offer all kinds of excuses for your habit. You say things like, “Everybody does this” If God disproves it, He should have killed me”
This is the stage the devil gets you to where you decide to keep living with the habit rather than fight it. At this stage, you are not interested in being helped.
5. Hopelessness
The last stage is where you lose hope and stop fighting!
You simply personalize the issue and tell yourself you can’t help it. You see yourself as defeated and there is no way out! You start telling yourself God is not wicked to punish you for whatever it is!
How To Fight Against That Habit
Can I tell you something this morning?
Don’t stop fighting! Fight with prayers. Fight by building capacity through reading, study, and research. Fight by seeking counsel.
Fight for that relationship and marriage and do not accept nonsense into your life!
Never accept the timetable of the devil for your life!
If you stop fighting, you won’t be able to fulfill God’s purpose for your life!
Like Apostle Paul, you must keep fighting and be able to say at the end, I have fought the good fight of faith!
How Not To Lose Your Spouse Before Losing Them. A lot of folks actually lose their loved ones before losing them in relationships and marriages.
Crisis doesn’t just show up from the blues. Storms don’t just erupt from nowhere, no, they have been brewing and getting ready for a long time, we don’t just pay attention to them or we just ignore them.
Every issue we ever face, either as singles in relationships or couples in marriage, would always give us warning signs!
We never fall into the marital pit in an instant, it’s always a descent, a gradual slide, and sometimes foolishly, an obvious one!
Our ego and pride would always conflict, seeing things are going down the drain and yet trying to prove a point that is really unnecessary
How Not To Lose Your Spouse Before Losing Them
Do you want to know how?
Do not under any circumstance stop communicating!
If you can keep talking, there is hope of resolving whatever situation or storm that might be raging!
The moment you keep quiet, you open the doors for the devil to come in with his assumptions, and we all know that assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge.
When you stop talking, you open your thought life to all kinds of suggestions, which are mostly untrue.
When you stop communicating, you begin to judge every movement, every body language and the reality is that you are mostly wrong at such times!
Once the devil gets you muted and shut out, know he has you exactly where he wants you!
So, what do you want to do? You want to keep talking! You want to keep talking till you eventually resolve that issue! That is how not to lose your spouse before losing them!
Hope you are blessed this morning.
God bless your relationships and marriage! Have a fantastic day ahead of you in Jesus’ name!
Love is usually described by burning flames. When we are really in love with that special someone, our love is burning. Like anything burning, if we don’t want the flames to go down we have to keep it rekindled or burning. We have to fan the coals of our love.
Here are some practical and helpful tips to help us achieve this.
Fanning the Embers of Love
1. Express gratitude
As simple as it may appear, failing to express gratitude can quickly undermine affection. Don’t take love for granted; be grateful for everything. Compliment each other frequently.
2. Spending Quality Time
Make time for each other outside of your busy schedules. It’s just the two of you now. Plan date nights and activities that both of you like. It restores and strengthens your bond.
3. Interaction
This is quite crucial. Discuss your feelings and worries openly with one another. Honest communication aids in understanding each other’s wants and requirements.
4. Resolve Problems
Constructively address unresolved issues or areas of contention. Make an effort to make your relationship healthier and happier.
5. Share happy memories
Laughing over and sharing happy recollections with one other is beneficial. Reminding each other of the good times brings back fond memories.
Fanning the Embers of Love
6. Physical Closeness
Physical contact can revive love. Hold hands, kiss, and hug on a frequent basis.
7. Patience and dedication
Be patient and committed to your partner and your marriage. It may take some time to fan the flame of love.
8. Avoid Monotony
Let your relationship be spiced with fun. Break free from the monotony. Avoid boredom by making your relationship more enjoyable.
Rekindling your love for each other is important. When we value our relationship we will want to keep it from going down and becoming obsolete. Commitment to each other’s needs, feelings, mutual respect, and understanding are also crucial
