I call these mistakes foolish errors because we appear to want a better end, but our actions and judgments, whether good or poor, decide our fate.
Every time, universal law applies. Whether we are aware of it or not.
Seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, will continue as long as the earth exists.
Gen 8:22 As long as the earth continues, there will always be a time for planting and a time for harvest. There will always be cold and hot, summer and winter, day and night on earth.”
This rule applies to everyone. This scripture’s seed symbolizes everything and anything. Every action we take is a seed. This is a harsh reality that must be endured. But we must swallow it since it is the truth that will set us free.
If we understand that every action we take is a seed, we will be more careful not to plant the incorrect seeds in our marriage.
Five Mistakes Men Make in Marriage
1. Failure to recognize the power of unity
Because the husband is the head of the marriage, he is responsible for the family’s orientation.
A husband and wife walking and working together as one have tremendous power. Protect your unity!
2. The blunder of not loving your wife.
Every woman requires wings in order to fly. Every husband should let his wife fly by loving her. You create an environment in which your wife can thrive.
All husbands are commanded by the Bible to love their spouses. It is their obligation to love their wives as Christ loves the church.
1 Pet 3:7 In the same way, you husbands should live with your wives in an understanding way, since they are weaker than you. You should show them respect, because God gives them the same blessing he gives you—the grace of true life. Do this so that nothing will stop your prayers from being heard.
Five Mistakes Men Make in Marriage
3. Making the dumb mistake of engaging in any type of immorality or adultery.
Immorality and adultery are among the destroyers of the marriage covenant. It has the power to bring every marriage to its knees, no matter how high it has risen.
According to Proverbs, it is a dumb sin. It makes no sense because it is preventable and avoidable.
That is why the bible instructs men to drink from their own cistern. Don’t fall for the strange woman’s charm, and don’t let her eyelashes trap you.
In any adulterous episode, the house has been destroyed, and the children have been exposed. It’s pointless.
4. The blunder of failing to be honest, open, and straightforward with your wife.
There is a local adage that claims the dead body does not hide from the one who will bury it.
Your covenant partner is your wife. I’m sure some wives don’t help situations either. They break confidence, cheat, and commit other heinous crimes. But, all else being equal, the spouse should be aware that he is expected to be completely honest.
Five Mistakes Men Make in Marriage
5. Making the blunder of oppressing your wife.
I am against the oppression of spouses and women.
Your wife was not given to you in order for you to oppress her. She should not be trampled beneath your feet. God created a lady from a rib taken from the husband’s side. God designed her to fulfill your most pressing need. She plays an important role in your life.
She is supposed to be your assistant. Most husbands have no financial, spiritual, emotional, or physical support. When you oppress your wife, she is unable to carry out her duties as a helpmeet. Every husband requires assistance. Your wife can provide the assistance you require.
If you treat her with decency and honor, she will protect you and your destiny will be safeguarded.
She will be the best wife, function in her calling, and fulfill destiny if you love her, adore her, honor her, appreciate her, and you are sensitive to her.
Here are some errors to correct as you prepare for marriage.
1. My money is mine.
This is a mindset you must abandon as you approach marriage. You, as a person, no longer have absolute control over how your money is spent. It is now a shared decision.
You must be frugal with your money as a wife or future wife. You can no longer buy everything that catches your fancy. You must first inform your partner before giving gifts or making major financial decisions.
The same is true for the husband. You may wind up in financial trouble if you are reckless with your expenditures. It is no longer just you, you now have a family to cater for.
Correct These Errors Before Wedding
You must actively participate in covenant principles such as tithing and giving to enjoy the fullness of God’s blessing over your finances.
Correct These Errors Before Wedding
2. Marriage is like a Restaurant
Many people have the erroneous belief that marriage is something that can be entered like a store, boutique, or restaurant.
The food in a restaurant is already prepared and ready to be served. People are waiting for you. If the dish does not taste good, you may complain or place a different order. You owe no one a compliment if the dish is nicely prepared. After all, that is why they exist.
You get up and depart once the meal is finished. You don’t even pack your plates. You are unconcerned about the dishes or anything else.
Marriage is more like a garden in which you only reap what you sow.
You can’t expect to harvest roses if you didn’t plant them. So it would be best if you were deliberate about not planting thorns through offenses, bitterness, and unnecessary tantrums.
When both partners are committed to making the marriage succeed, it becomes enviable.
Here are a few reasons why you should not leave your marital bed.
Son 2:15 Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.
I want us to take note of three points from the preceding scripture.
1. Take these little foxes.
2. The foxes are little, insignificant issues.
3. Our vines, (marriage) have tender grapes.
Marriage has the ability to produce tremendous results when we operate it with biblical principles.
I want to emphasize that godly ideals are not always easy.
Why You Shouldn’t Leave Your Matrimonial Bed
The following are some legitimate reasons why either the wife or husband would leave their marital bed:
1. My spouse snores and sleeps restlessly. I can’t function without a decent night’s sleep.
2. My wife has just put to bed. She requires ample space to nurse our child.
3. Because I require privacy, let us have separate rooms.
4. I need to teach my wife or spouse a lesson because we haven’t spoken in a long time.
5. My wife is having her monthly period right now. I’ll return when she’s finished.
God’s principles, on the other hand, demolish all forms of this logic.
Why You Shouldn’t Leave Your Matrimonial Bed
You become one flesh after marriage. Leaving your “flesh” in one room is not an option. Accept the person you married, since love is patient.
Do not leave your wife alone to raise your baby. Keep an eye on her, especially at night.
You will not have any privacy if you leave your spouse in one room and go to another. Such actions as a matter of fact leave doors for the devil to invade your so-called privacy.
You deal with your problems by talking about them. Separate quarters will only cause you to drift apart.
Her monthly period is natural. You were aware of this before marrying her, so stick with her. If you can’t stay with her for 5 days in a month, you won’t be able to stay with her for the rest of your life.
Something is certainly wrong with Vivian. She’s not getting younger. Her biological clock seemed to be not only ticking but also sprinting. She wished she could find a pause button.
The story has been told numerous times. She has seen her relationships crumble in front of her eyes like a pack of cards. Nothing appears to work around her.
The tale has always been the same: she will start a relationship today and everything will appear to be normal, then everything will come crumbling down around her. Then it happens again and over again.
She now goes into a new relationship with prayers, not for guidance, but for the relationship not to fail
How do you get out of this mess as a God’s child?
Giving up all offenses
Yes, as easy as it may appear, this is the key to your success. Get rid of all forms of resentment and offense. Frolicking with bitterness is an intentional attempt to prevent anything pleasant from coming your way.
Heb 12:15 (KJV) Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
It is referred to as a root in the Bible. Every plant has a root that you cannot see.
That is the nature of bitterness. It can be submerged in the stomach for months without revealing its poisonous fruits until the damage is done.
Yes, your “Ex” hurt you and did things to you that were inconceivable and unprintable. That is insufficient cause to put your life on hold. Your parents did this and that to you.
Your closest companion had deceived you. Someone stabbed you in the rear and then in the front! Don’t let that put a stop to your progress!
Allow God to take over. Do not let hatred and resentment get the best of you. Allow no one else’s folly to become your own folly.
Bitterness is referred to as a root in the Bible. When it appears, it will pollute many other relationships, possibilities, and doors!
When John the Baptist became enraged with his spiritual head, his physical head ease decapitated.
Don’t allow your head to become one of the prizes on award day!
Bitterness and iniquity are close relatives. They collaborate. The sooner you tackle it, the better.
Act 8:23 (KJV) For I perceive that thou art in the gall of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity.
Solicit God’s assistance. He is more than happy to do so. In Jesus’ name, you will fulfill your destiny! God bless you with further understanding!
This may seem unimportant to guys, but it is a major issue for women.
Saying “I love you” could be the solution to the crises raging in your home. She wishes to hear it from you as frequently as possible.
As a lady, she will undoubtedly receive compliments from others. The issue arises when the compliments she receives from others outnumber those she receives from her spouse at home.
Women go through a lot and battle a lot with their emotions, which is why they constantly have a mirror with them everywhere they go. Be her mirror!
Learn to affirm your wife as much as possible as a man. It’ll go a long way toward making her feel cherished.
Three Things Every Man Should Be Aware Of
2. Attend church together.
The Bible instructs us not to abandon the meeting of the brethren.
Take the initiative as the man and seek out a Bible-believing church to attend.
It is critical that you and your wife are hearing the same thing.
Attending different churches while in the same location is not the way to go.
Grow with one another.
Study together.
Pray as a couple.
It will fortify the marriage.
Three Things Every Man Should Be Aware Of
3. Never raise your hands to beat or hit your wife.
Refrain from hitting your wife. For whatever reason, never do it.
That is what distinguishes men from boys.
Yes, she can be rude, obstinate, haughty, or whatever.
Hitting her will not get you out of this situation.
1Pe 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Make the decision to never physically assault her.
Decide to honor her, protect her, and look after her.
