Sometimes, our husband hammering on our weakness may be what we need to continually draw us to our knees to talk to God.
Our husbands, most of the time, their aim is never to hurt us but maybe their approach is the best for us based on our temperament.
Whichever way, two things are important:
1. Be wise enough like the old cow to eat the hay and spew the straw.
Look beyond his method and pick his wisdom in correcting you.
Grow beyond the hurt and embrace his wisdom.
2. Be teachable, humble, and meek.
The Pharisees couldn’t benefit from Jesus because they were unteachable and too full of pride. Humbly accept his correction and rebuke.
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We all had parents whose approach in dealing with us was not totally correct, but once we accept their method, we are better for it.
So, wives, you are not alone. It’s all part of the package. Sometimes, we may not be appreciated or understood. Never mind, our reward is sure. And you know what? God, Himself is our shield and exceeding great reward.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a faithful wife, humble, meek, and teachable
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to humbly receive my husband as my head and submit to him
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:28 For we know that all things work together for good for those that love the Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Accept your husband as God’s gift to you
This is a woman at the top echelon of her career, so she can often become prideful if care is not taken.
The husband should be secure enough to let his wife go for the best and ultimate in her career.
There are husbands who can be so threatened with the progress of their wives. This is a wrong heart. Let her be, and let her go for the best.
The keyword here is honor. As long as the wife does not get proud.
2. The Stubborn Wife Who Will Not Budge
Some wives can be stubborn o! From counseling experiences, I have seen wives that would stand on their opinion even when you show them the scriptures. There are stubborn men as well o!
How do you know a stubborn wife?
Stubborn wives don’t talk much, they just won’t budge. They will just be looking at you like Lucozade, but what they will do is what they will do.
This is not good as well. It is not beneficial for the prayer life of the couple.
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3. The Manipulative Wife Who Is Dextrous
The manipulative wife has several weapons in her arsenal including crying, throwing tantrums, withdrawing, talking endlessly, refusing sex, nagging, until she gets what she wants.
She always wants the man at her beck and call.
This may go on for a while especially if the husband is on the calm side, but one day, he would definitely react.
4. The Insistent Wife Who Is Not Meek
The insistent wife is hard, difficult, and doesn’t listen to anything apart from what she knows or wants. Her major weapon is anger.
She always wants to be told what she wants to hear and she picks up a quarrel with anybody that dares go against what she feels.
Her husband lives in perpetual fear of what could happen next.
This is a wrong attitude that could be detrimental to the marriage. The problem is that what she knows is limited and what she wants can often be a wrong desire.
We are all work in progress and nobody knows it all. Meekness or being teachable is a great virtue in marriage.
Husband and wife should strive to live considerably with one another. Put yourselves in one another’s shoes. This is where maturity is.
May God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good woman to my husband.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, take away from me every iota of pride.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:11 [NLT]Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What kind of wife are you? Make amends where necessary
We started this topic a few on the things that the husband will want his wife to do for him days back. We looked at
1. Lovingly ask your husband what his present needs are and how you can meet them.
Today we will look at
2. Be ready to offer him help.
I know some women could be saying, I need help also let him help himself, is he a baby?
And yes, it could be overwhelming. When you work at a job, care for the house, the children, go to the market, do the laundry sometimes, there seems to be no time to take care of yourself, let alone help him out.
I always tell people, God is asking you to be everything. He is asking to be all that is needed par time with the strength He supplies.
This help could be as simple as being a good listener, who offered support.
There is capacity inside every woman to function as a helper. This is an unselfish role. You must be willing to the embassy this role and put on the garment of a helper.
Remember: you want to be a wife that will be celebrated, whose rewards will be obvious to all.
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3. Pray for you husband
Some people believe that when you pray you are being fanatical. Well, try functioning without oxygen and see how far you can go. It’s almost impossible.
You pray not only because you have a problem. Develop a relationship with the Father. In that case you learn to talk with Him about everything, especially about your husband.
Pray for his protection in this evil world. Pray for his job. You can make use a daily praying guide.
Remember, when you are praying for your husband, you are praying for yourself.
4. Submission is a vital part of the deal
The word submission have been abused and it’s intention has been reduced to merely that of the lord and servant.
Submission and love go hand in hand. A wife that is loved, will definitely be submitted.
The role of a woman viz a viz that of a man requires her to be submissive.
She is not inferior to her husband, but positionally, she occupies the second position.
For any woman or wife to make the home and marriage worthwhile, she has to be submissive to her own husband.
5. Respect him.
There is no husband who does not like being respected. If you think respect is no big deal to your husband, wait till someone else gives him respect and see what happens.
If your husband is not making a big deal of you respecting him, wait till a few more years. It will be as if your husband has changed from who he was. So it’s better to begin now, practicing respecting him.
Respect can be seen in almost everything. From how you prepare his food, to the way it is served, how you talk to him and talk about him in private and public, all reveal the way you value and respect him.
I believe if we can do these things, we will be loved, cherished and valued more by our husband.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the spirit to know how to meet my husband’s needs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father Lord, teach me to be patient enough to listen to your guidance
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 31:10-11 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start practicing these things
There are so many things you can do as a wife that will earn you high scores with your hubby. We may often get confused as to what we should do as wives. That was my case a few years ago when I just got married to my hubby. I was always reading books on marriage.
All I wanted to be was the best wife and for my husband and me to be so loving. I had that burning desire and I still do. At that time, the numerous books I read left me confused as there were so many things to be done.
I feel there are basic things we should consecrate on as wives. Our husbands have different needs per time. Their needs and what they desire change due to a lot of reasons ranging from work pressure, age, social status, background, financial status, health, spiritual needs, taste, temperamental makeup, emotional strength, and so on.
With all these changes and with the fact that our husbands are not so relational, that they will not necessarily communicate their needs to us as we expect.
That is why the woman should use her God-given ability to perceive and her intuition. Never be presumptuous or emotional in determining your husband’s needs.
Here are 5 helpful things you can do as a good wife.
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1. Lovingly ask your husband what his present needs are and how you can meet them. Even though your husband will not tell you what he needs sometimes because of his ego, he will tell you when you ask him. Men are logical and prefer to be asked how you can help, rather than they ask you to help them. They feel more secure and a little bit protected.
When you do this as a wife, it shows you are not claiming you know him but respect him enough to approach him about how he wants you to best meet his needs.
It also shows humility and a willingness to treat him as a unique individual with specific desires.
We will continue tomorrow…
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a helpmeet indeed to my husband
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask God to help you fulfill your role as a wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above point into practice
This is a very practical topic. Sometimes, husbands do things that annoy their wives and they don’t even know it.
The man may be born again, tongue talking, demon chasing, and heaven-bound. This does not really matter.
We all as believers are trying to walk more and follow the dictates of the spirit. The more we walk and follow the dictates of the spirit, the better and more sensitive we are and the better our relationship with our spouse is.
We are able to apologize on time and forgive easily. Everybody, whether male or female has certain tendencies.
Unfortunately, it is those tendencies that annoy our spouse because the opposite really does attract. When we attract each other and are married, then we begin to repel each other. We must manage these differences if we must live a happy married life.
Here are 10 things husbands do that annoy the wife
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1. Husbands annoy their wives when they spend all their evenings hanging out with their buddies and leave their wives alone.
2. When the husband is glued to the television watching a match or movie and gives his wife monosyllable answers. She is gradually taught to bottle things up.
3. When the husband watches his wife do all house chores without offering a helping hand. She feels like a slave and could be bitter. The husband in turn is frustrated but he caused it.
4. When the husband keeps secrets and hides things from his wife.
5. When the husband does not compliment and appreciate his wife but does that to other women.
6. When the husband doesn’t give enough money for the house keeps yet, expect the most expensive things to eat, wear and expect a beautiful house.
7. When the husband demands respect at all cost without being loving and tender to his wife.
8. When the husband expects a super woman and a ‘lamb’ in the day and a ‘lion’ at night. He expects her to be submissive in the day and aggressive in bed at night.
9. When the husband expects the wife to be near perfect with no flaws when he himself is not in any way near perfect. He excuses his own shortcomings but he is hard on his wife’s weakness.
10. When the husband is not a faithful friend and does not honor the marriage vows but expects his wife to be a faithful covenant partner.
God bless our families
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY As a husband I receive wisdom and I walk in the spirit daily.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me your ways, I humble myself to seek your help.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask for God’s help in the journey of marriage.
