This is a very relevant topic to all people who are married. We all belong to one of these groups in our marriage.
a. Your intimacy is good and needs little improvement
b. Your intimacy is just there and you want a fast revival
c. Your intimacy is bad and you are close to compromising
d. You are enjoying your intimacy
e. Your intimate life is very dry and boring and you are bothered
f. Your intimacy is not good and you don’t care.
g. Your intimate life is bad and you are settling yourself outside.
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Every couple must fall under one of these seven categories. Five of these categories are very bad and need urgent attention.
You must keep the flames in the bedroom red hot. The health of a marriage is largely dependent on the health of the bedroom.
Wives, don’t use love-making as a reward system for your husband, whereby when he is good and you are happy with him, you give him your body. You are not a prostitute who gives sex for reward.
Deal with every issue before they are allowed to cripple your love life.
Intimacy is first of the heart before it becomes of the body. All inhibitions must be taken off your marriage until you both become naked and not ashamed.
Close all doors to the enemy and swallow your pride. You cannot be full of yourself and expect things to work out. Some wives issue out commands to their husbands just so that they can make love to them. They become lord of the rings.
Don’t leave your matrimonial bed. Don’t sleep in different rooms, it will not work. Pray for whatever flaws he/ she has. Don’t judge or criticize your spouse to the point of rejecting them.
Whatever the issue, you are married. Save your marriage before it is too late. Forgive yourselves and embrace each other. Your marriage can still work out beautifully well.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will enjoy my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to satisfy my spouse at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take your spouse to “Jerusalem”
Marriage requires a lot of hard work and focus. You must be so focused that all your thoughts are filled with how to make your home a success through hard work and holding on because the storms of life are real.
And there arose a great storm of wind, and the waves beat into the ship, so that it was now full.
Mar 4:37 [KJV]
Woe to any marriage that does not have Christ in their marriage. Only Jesus is the calmer of every storm of life. When you have Him, the storms of life bow. He is the Prince of Peace and the only one qualified to say peace be still.
Usually, when storms come, their only aim apart from killing and destroying is to distract us.
And he was in the hinder part of the ship, asleep on a pillow: and they awake him, and say unto him, Master, carest thou not that we perish? And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.
Mar 4:38-39 [KJV]
Storms distract us from our focus. A storm is anything contrary to the peaceful state of our marriage. A storm could come in form of a fight, strife, disagreement, sickness, pressures at work, pressure from the in-laws, unpaid bills, children, whatever affects our state of peace is a storm.
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Whenever there is a storm, Jesus is inactive. May Jesus not be inactive in our home!
You have to be together as a couple and avoid distractions together. Your husband and Jesus in your boat are your main focus. Every other thing or person is a distraction.
God has a race set for each of us. That race should be our focus. Whatever will not help us in achieving our goal in marriage is a distraction.
You have to learn to stay by each other. Be a pillar of strength to each other and support yourselves to achieve your divine destiny.
Stand by your husband with your finances. Stand by your husband emotionally, don’t let him be vulnerable. Stand by him with encouraging words. Stand by him with your prayers. Stand by him by being obedient and in agreement or being agreeable with him.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not distracted. I am focused
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help to focus on Jesus and not see the storms
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mar 4:39 [KJV] And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Keep Jesus at the center of your focus in your marriage
Son 2:3-7 (MSG) As an apricot tree stands out in the forest, my lover stands above the young men in town. All I want is to sit in his shade, to taste and savor his delicious love.
Well, born again or not, there is a strong desire that comes with falling in love. If you like, speak in tongues till tomorrow, this desire will not go.
But what can be subdued is lust that often wants to tag along, like Lot tagged along with Abraham.
Yes, the desire will not go, because there is nothing wrong with the desire, it is the fulfillment of the desire at a wrong time that gets us into trouble.
So, all you want when you fall in love is that you want to sit down in each other’s shade, with feelings of wanting to taste and savor the delicious love.
I felt like that. She felt like that. But we waited. You can wait as well.
No matter how intense the desire is, do not taste that love before wedding. Tasting love and consummating your love before wedding is like stealing a hot meat from the pot of stew before it is ready.
Your taste bud gets burnt and you can lose your sense of taste, which ultimately leads to tasting more pot of stew that does not belong to you!
2. The Feasting of the Eye Rather Than On The Meal
Son 2:4 (MSG) He took me home with him for a festive meal, but his eyes feasted on me!
So she followed him home or to some guest house for a meal. Let’s just eat out.
May we not dine with the wrong person. May we not eat up our destinies.
The guy had more plans than just the meal.
Ladies, be careful who buys free meals for you, you might be paying for it soonest.
Rather than for the guy to feast on the meal, his eyes were riveted on the damsel.
Essentially, men are moved by sight.
Men, watch what you see. Ladies, watch what is seen.
I will stop here this morning.
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not fall in love carelessly
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, let my strong desires be for you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship
We started on the topic “How Couples Can Keep Emotions in Check” Yesterday, we started on this anger issue. I told us anger can be used positively, like the case of Jabez, who changed his story when he got angry.
In the context of marriage, however, you can start handling your anger in a positive way by using these 2 methods.
1. Trace back the source of your anger.
Most people’s anger could be traced to something that happened way back in their past. A parent abandoned them, the death of a loved one, something negative that happened, and so on.
We are angry because of pain. Think back and get the source of what makes you angry. Don’t just ignore it, thinking it will pass away.
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2. Admit your anger
What you don’t admit, you cannot take responsibility over. It is until you admit and agree that you have anger problem that is hurting you and your loved ones, it holds its grip over you.
Become vulnerable, admit it as a sin, then and only then can you be free to handle these negative emotions.
Also know that we all express anger for different reasons and in different ways. Don’t judge your spouse. Focus on dealing with your own anger problems before trying to help your spouse.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be an angry spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord help me recognize the source of my anger and deal with it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Register for couples camp meeting
We all have emotions and there’s nothing wrong with having them. What could be wrong is not handling them well.
Whatever God has given us, whether money, relationships, jobs, career, gifts, talents etc, we need to take responsibility over them. Maturity is learning to handle them well, so that they are used to our advantage and not to our disadvantage.
For Example, God gave us all mouths, but do you know that some people have destroyed their marriages by the wrong use of their mouth?
Anger could be used in a positive way if we understand its great potentials. Anger is what makes us desire for things and ourselves to get better. When we get angry over the status quo we find change.
When we get angry at how we are treated by life, we seek something better, a better life for us and our families.
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In 1 Chron 4:9-10 it was because Jabez was angry at why a name meaning sorrow was imposed upon him that he could pray and have a change of name and destiny.
If we didn’t have the ability to get angry, we will remain as we are. Anger shows there is a problem to be dealt with. Even God get angry.
The evil of unmanaged anger like any other unmanaged emotions far outweighs the benefits.
In marriage, we must keep our emotions managed. Some couple react to situations in an explosive way while others react angrily in a quiet way. Whether it is an explosive anger or a silent anger both are destructive.
The silent anger is dangerous because it works like hot magma. It silently gathers strength and then in a moment without warning it explodes causing a lot of havoc.
Tomorrow, I will show you practical ways to handle anger in marriage.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be an angry spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord help me recognize the source of my anger and deal with it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I have to deal with any source of angry but it destroys me
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Register for KHC couple’s camp meeting
