Best Ways To Fall In Love Again As Couples. I watched a video sent by a friend. It was about a couple having a slight argument. In fairness, the husband was cool and handled the situation well. The wife on the other hand was almost losing it probably out of frustration.
What happened was that the wife was to use a blender and it wasn’t working fine. She asks the husband to come and have a feel of the frustration she goes through in cooking a single meal without his appreciation. He rather gives her a cold shoulder with a complaint that the salt is not enough, the food is too dry, too oily, etc.
The video was very hilarious and I had a good laugh with my husband.
We should always remember and not lose sight of the fact that whatever happens, during the good and the bad times, we are still believers. We do things the word way and have the word result.
A lot of things could be responsible for causing frustrations in couples.
1. Increase your time of study
We should boost our love walk with each other and much more, with God. Increase your time studying the word. Let the Word dwell in you richly not sparingly.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. Col 3:16
2. We should increase our time of prayer
Pray without ceasing. – 1Th 5:17
3. Meditate on God’s Word
This is different from reading or studying. This is muttering God’s word.
But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. – Psa 1:2-3
4. Sing in psalms and hymns and new song
Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
5. Walking in love and confessing the word
Love is very important. When we walk in love, we are actually the better for it. Our own heavens are opened and God works mightily in our lives.
And if I give all my goods to the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it is of no profit to me. Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride; Love’s ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil; It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true; Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things. – 1Co 13:3-7
It is my prayer that God keep us in His love in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to fall in love again and again.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
Four Ways To Guard Against Adultery. There are steps you take and your destination can be predicted. It is just a matter of time. Every step you take, whether good or bad, is meant to lead to a destination. You cannot be on the path that leads to the house of ‘Mr. Marital Wrong’ and expect to find yourself in ‘Mrs. Marital Bliss apartment.’ It does not work that way in natural things; so don’t expect it to work out in your marriage.
There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. (Pro 14:12 KJV)
Here are some steps you avoid taking if you don’t want to find yourself in adultery.
1. Guard your mind
Adultery starts in the mind. The seed first makes its contact with the mind where it is just a seed of simple admiration. You toy with a first glance and then a good look. It is still a ‘secret’ admiration. But like every seed, it has the potential of growing and becoming a forest. Wise men and women guard their minds and kill the seed of adultery. Don’t give it space, suffocate it, it is unnecessary.
You can admire anybody but desiring someone that is not your spouse is simply uncalled for. Simple innocent admiration can lead to an emotional affair and eventually adultery. At this stage also, you begin to wonder if he/she admires you too, finds you attractive, and enjoys your company. You desire to see him or check him out and consciously make yourself attractive to him/her, you even flaunt your admirable qualities for his/her observation.
2. Guard your heart
The second step into adultery after an unguarded mind is an unguarded heart. The heart is deeper than the mind and at this stage, you develop deeper emotional bonding. You deceive yourself that nothing is going on but in actual fact, this person begins to occupy your thoughts, you even imagine and fantasize your being together, you desire and work out a time to spend together without hesitation.
At this stage, the thoughts of him or her becomes an obsession despite knowing that it is wrong. You start acting it out in your heart. The seed begins to sprout, in no time the fruits will spring forth.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to-do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
In our many years of counseling married couples, we have had to handle different kinds of issues in marriage. Some of the issues, simple and direct while others are pretty complicated and not direct at all.
The Holy Spirit helps us handle these issues. Some of these issues have their root causes in some generational issues, a complex parental issue, a background issue or a habit that was developed while growing up.
Some husbands are good with silent treatment to their wives. There could be a lot of reasons responsible for this kind of treatment but it takes digging into the issue to get to the root cause.
It will be good to note that there could be different things responsible for such actions. The husband could be frustrated at the wife nagging. The husband could be having issues at work. The husband might have difficulties communicating his deepest feelings. The husband might grow up seeing his dad do the same to his mum. The husband may be involved in extra marital affairs, thus his cold actions. The husband might be dealing with issues that the wife knows nothing about. It could be an act of wickedness on the husband’s part.
So, in the scenario above, let’s assume we are in the shoes of the wife, we have to be tactical in finding out the real cause of our husband’s coldness. E.g if he is cold because he is having an affair and we treat it as having issues at work or overact believing he is mean, we would have ended up majoring on the minor and minoring in the major, and not dealing with the issue.
That is why we have to depend on the Holy Spirit in handling issues in our marriage. Some issues may be complicated while some are not as complicated.
Let’s try to be more patient and think deep through the issues that may arise in our marriage.
Let’s also be prayerful, asking God for the spirit of wisdom and revelation. We also need discernment to discern the root cause of issues.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a discerning spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Husbands should endeavor to pray for their wives daily. This may sound religious but I have found it to work. Apart from the fact that it draws the husband to God, making him take his rightful place as the priest, it takes the pressure off the wife also.
Everybody now looks up to God who is able to transform our marriage and make us better people. The focus shifts to God. The husband sees God as the One who will answer his prayers and he’s patiently waiting on God.
It also affords the husband to pray for those virtues he likes to see in his wife. Praying together brings God into the scene where He becomes a partner with us. He sees to it that there are changes and our marriages become better.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:25 – 28
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The husbands should be responsible in the transformation process of their wives. They should be committed to seeing their wives transformed to what they want them to be.
So dear wives, a little trick that works is to always ask your husband to lay his hands on you and pray for you. It gives your husband a feeling of your being submissive to him and a willingness to want to please him. It will also reduce quarrels. You can’t be fighting and your husband praying for you.
Note that the devil will try and fight this. He hates this kind of unity and agreement because of the power it generates. Even when there is a fight, make sure you apologize and ask your husband to pray for you.
For example, if your husband is always complaining that you are slow, let him begin to talk to God about it. So he prays for you that God should make you faster or quicker in doing your things.
Two things will likely happen. It is either he begins to see himself as complaining and begins to see the good side of your being slow, or he accept you that way and work on being more patient. If he still complains, you tell him, Senior, we have prayed about it.
In this way, the wife takes the pressure of performance off her and allows the process of change to take its course. You could use this method to kick start praying together for those who don’t pray together at all.
May God give us victory, Amen!
God bless our homes and marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I cooperate with my spouse to have an award winning marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:25 [KJV]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
How To Fall In Love Again With Your Spouse. During the pandemic, it was recorded that in some places in China, there were more divorce cases than ever before.
Why was this? Husbands and wives were not used to being at home together. They were simply flat or roommates who just shared the house and essential commodities together.
The truth is that we may be used to our own space, being alone doing our own things, and being in control of our own time. It may first of all be awkward being home with the kids and your spouse, not just for a few hours but for weeks, so you have to learn to be very patient and determined to enjoy the time spent with your spouse.
When both spouses are at home with the kids, it is also a good time to bond well, so I am pointing out few ways to bond with your spouse and kids.
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1. Depending on what age your kids are, the younger ones will do well with playing around. Be creative and invent plays, do hide and seek, trust God for strength to roll on the carpet with them.
2. Cartoons are good. You can unwind with them watching and enjoying their world with them. Don’t let the cartoons be too much.
3. Do some intellectual talks and ask personal questions about their friends and special friends. Attend to their many questions.
4. Take time to teach your girls new dishes. For the boys, let them use their energy to help out in the house.
5. Play games with the whole family and it is the best time for drawing the quiet ones from their shell.
6. Be happy and content with what you have. Create fun out of what you have. Do a lot of teasing and rough plays. Never allow any member of the family to be moody
7. Be pleasant to your spouse and don’t do things that will spark up arguments.
8. Make sure you have sex as often as possible. This will keep the bond between you and your spouse. The tension will also reduce between the two of you.
9. Be very patient with your spouse as it may take some time for them to adjust to being with you. Pray for the Holy Spirit to help you and teach you to meet your spouse’s needs.
10. Give attention to your spiritual bonding. Take time to play together and read your bible and have bible discussions together.
11. Ensure finances don’t cause you to get frustrated. I know it’s difficult but please try. Trust in God together for open heavens. Do a lot of cuddling and please help each other do house chores.
I hope these few tips will go a long way to help you bond well with your family.
God bless you family
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a loving spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
