by Praise Eniolorunda | May 25, 2025 | Singles and Married
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You Are More Than Enough
We are in a world that constantly pushes us to prove ourselves. Whether it is stepping into a new role at work and silently battling imposter syndrome, or trying to serve in ministry while feeling unqualified and spiritually unworthy. Sometimes, it shows up in our relationships—we question if we are lovable, if we bring value, if we are too much or not enough for the people around us, or those moments where you are trusted with responsibility, but deep down, you wonder if God picked the wrong person. So it’s very easy for us to sometimes feel that we are inadequate or unworthy. But God sees beyond our fears and doubts. He reminds us that our worth, our strength, and our ability do not come from ourselves but rather from Him.
“Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think anything as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God; who also hath made us able ministers of the new testament…” 2 Corinthians 3:5–6 (KJV)
The Bible reminds us that our sufficiency does not come from us; it comes from God. Paul, who preached to nations and wrote much of the New Testament, said clearly:
“Not that we are sufficient of ourselves… but our sufficiency is of God.” (2 Corinthians 3:5).
This means that you do not have to be naturally gifted to be used by God. You do not need all the answers before you obey. You do not have to feel ready to be called.
Just like Moses, who said, “O my Lord, I am not eloquent… I am slow of speech” (Exodus 4:10), or Jeremiah, who cried, “Ah, Lord GOD! behold, I cannot speak: for I am a child” (Jeremiah 1:6) or Gideon who said “My clan is the weakest… and I am the least.” (Judges 6:15–16)
Gideon was also hiding when God called him a “mighty warrior.” He saw himself as small, but God saw His potential. God told him, “Surely I will be with you.”
In God’s eyes, Gideon’s weakness was the perfect platform for victory. God is not limited by your weakness. He chooses the weak to show His strength because he knows you are more than enough.
How, then, do you overcome inadequacy starts? Here are 4 truths to consider:
1. Acknowledge the feeling, but anchor in Scripture.
Feelings are real, but they are not always right. When you feel like you are not enough, declare:
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)
2. Remember that God equips the called.
If He gave you the assignment, He will provide the ability.
“Faithful is He that calleth you, who also will do it.” (1 Thessalonians 5:24)
3. Walk by the Spirit, not by pressure.
“The letter killeth, but the Spirit giveth life.” (2 Corinthians 3:6)
4. Do not live driven by external expectations.
Live led by God’s Spirit. Trust His strength, not your own. Your weakness is not a limitation—it is a platform for God’s power.
“My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)
Conclusion:
God is not looking for those who feel ready, He is looking for those who are willing. When you show up in obedience, He shows up in power. So yes, you may feel like you are not enough—but God is more than enough. Let the same God who empowered Moses, Gideon, and so many others empower you, for your sufficiency is not in yourself but in Christ.
by Ogbonnaya Akpoke | Apr 5, 2025 | Singles and Married
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Trying to Prove You’re Worth Loving?
Some people are constantly trying to earn love. They over-give, over-explain, and overcompensate—just to be seen, heard, and chosen. They do beyond what they naturally would have done simply because they want to prove they are worth loving. Maybe they grew up in a family where love wasn’t freely given—everyone worked to receive love. When you do right, you’re loved; when you make a mistake, love is withdrawn. And so that’s all they’ve known all their lives—working just to earn love. Well, here’s the truth: You were never meant to beg for what should be freely given.
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 [NKJV]
You see that? Love is freely given.
For singles, if you constantly feel the need to prove your value to someone, that’s not love—it may well be a performance. Love doesn’t make you walk on eggshells. Love doesn’t manipulate you with silence or keep you in confusion. If you always feel like you’re “not enough” unless you do more, give more, or become someone else, step back and ask: Is this love or emotional slavery? You still have time to walk out of that relationship. The right person will recognise your worth without needing a presentation.
This is not a stamp of approval to remain the way you are—weakness and all. Work on being a better version of yourself, keep growing, etc., but don’t do these things simply because you are trying to buy someone’s love.
This can also creep in subtly in marriage. In such situations, you start feeling invisible—like your efforts go unnoticed, like you have to compete with work, children, or even social media just to get your spouse’s attention. And you can start feeling empty and all. But remember this: You are valuable, even when you’re unseen. And sometimes, the healing starts when you stop trying to earn love and start receiving it the way God intended—freely, confidently, and without fear.
See Romans 5:8 again: “…while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” That’s love—undeserved, unearned, unconditional.
Let’s stop shrinking ourselves to fit into someone’s frail idea of love. And you absolutely don’t have to fight to be loved.
Shalom.
by Ogbonnaya Akpoke | Mar 31, 2025 | Singles and Married
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“Love” Won’t Heal You
Many people enter relationships expecting “love” to fix them. They think a spouse will erase their insecurities, a partner will heal their past wounds, or marriage will suddenly make them whole. But I bring you the truth today: love (Eros) won’t heal you—only God can.
Singles, hear me: the worst thing you can do is place the weight of your happiness or wholeness on another person. If you feel empty, unloved, worthless, or broken, a relationship won’t fix it—it will only expose it. Two incomplete people don’t make a whole relationship; they make a wounded one. It is two whole people that come together to make a whole relationship.
So, instead of searching for someone to “complete” you, let God make you whole first. That way, when the right person comes, you’ll love from a place of strength, not desperation.
So, my friends, heal before you deal. Become whole before you become entangled with another. Stop being desperate for “love” as a way of completing you—search out where the insecurity is coming from and allow God to heal you.
For married couples, expecting your spouse to be your healer is quite a heavy burden. Yes, love/marriage brings comfort and support, but no human can fill the void only God was meant to fill. If you’re struggling with insecurities, past trauma, or deep emotional wounds, don’t look to your partner as the solution—bring it to God.
Come vulnerable before God and find healing. A healthy marriage isn’t about two perfect people; it’s about two surrendered people who continually allow God to shape them.
It is God who heals. It is God that binds up the broken-hearted, not any man/woman.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
Love is beautiful, yeah, but it is not a substitute for healing. So before you search for love—or while you’re already in it—ask yourself: Am I expecting a person to do what only God can? Because wholeness isn’t found in a relationship. It’s found in Him. Reach out to Him today. He’s waiting for you.
Let’s pray.
Shalom.
by Ogbonnaya Akpoke | Mar 22, 2025 | Singles and Married
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I hate to be the “killjoy” right now, but I’m just helping you. Listen. Sometimes, what we call “love” isn’t really love. It’s just a craving for attention that is being met. You’re screaming “You’re in love with so, so, and so” but it may just be you enjoying the calls, the sweet messages, and the compliments. The attention creates a mirage that makes you believe you’re in love. But my question to you is: if the attention disappears, would the love still remain? Is the love hanging on any other thing aside from the attention?
My dear singles, it’s easy to mistake affection for true connection. Someone gives you attention, and suddenly, you feel special and in love. (And the bad guys know this; so if they want to get you, they give you attention.)
But be careful, my dear—are you really in love with the person or just the way they make you feel? Attention is temporary; true love is built on character, shared values, and commitment. If you strip away the sweet words, is something real between you two? Do your values align? Do you like his/her character? Are they godly? Today, I dare you to strip off the feelings and sweet words, and see if you will find something deeper in that relationship. This is one way to know if you truly love this person or if you are just falling because of the attention you’re receiving.
And for my married couples, attention from outside your marriage can be dangerous. Very very dangerous! Extremely dangerous! A simple compliment from someone else might feel exciting, especially if things at home feel a bit dry. But don’t allow a simple moment of attention to make you forget the love and home you’ve already built. Remember your covenant. A stranger’s admiration is never worth the destruction of a covenant. Oh, I hear you say there’s nothing physical between you two. Well, it’s called an emotional affair. Even Jesus warned that you don’t need to get physical to get physical—once your emotions are entangled and lust is birthed, you’re already in it.
It’s time to flee! Instead of seeking attention elsewhere, invest that energy into your spouse—flirt with them, appreciate them, and rekindle the excitement within your own marriage.
This is a call for us all to guard our hearts, just as the bible instructs:
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Proverbs 4:23
Not every form of attention is good for you. Don’t ever mistake temporary excitement for lasting love.
Singles, don’t marry just because of attention. Couples, don’t dishonor your marital covenant simply because of attention. Real love isn’t about who makes you feel special for a moment—it’s about who stays and chooses you, every single day. Look inward and work out your marriage with fear and trembling.
Shalom.
by Praise Eniolorunda | Mar 19, 2025 | Singles and Married
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You Are Enough
It’s easy to get caught up in seeking validation. Whether it’s through relationships, social media, career success, or the approval of family and friends, we often feel like we need someone else to confirm our worth. I am here to tell you that you are enough!
When you start seeking validation from people, you unknowingly give them control over your self-worth. Their compliments make you feel high, but their silence makes you question yourself. It’s like chasing the wind. No matter how hard you try, you’ll never catch it. And let’s be real: people are fickle. One day they’re cheering for you, and the next, they forget you exist. If Jesus the Son of God was praised by the crowd one week and crucified the next, what makes us think people’s opinions about us will stay consistent? This is why your worth must come from God alone.
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” — Galatians 1:10 (NIV)
As a single, this pressure can feel even stronger. Society tells you that love from another person is what makes you complete. You hear comments like, “When will you settle down?” or “Don’t you want someone to share life with?” And before you know it, you start questioning if you’re missing out or if something is wrong with you.
But here’s the truth: You don’t need anyone else’s approval to be enough, you already have God’s. Your value was never meant to be placed in people’s hands.
Jesus Himself was single, yet He lived the fullest, most purpose-driven life possible. He never chased human validation. Instead, He was secure in the love of the Father. And because of Christ, you are already fully known, fully loved, and fully accepted.
The world tells you that your worth is based on how many people admire you, but God says:
“I have loved you with an everlasting love.” (Jeremiah 31:3)
“You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
“The Lord delights in you.” (Isaiah 62:4)
If God, the Creator of the universe, delights in you, why waste time seeking approval from people who constantly change their opinions?
Your singleness is not a sign of lack, rather it’s a season of purpose. Instead of searching for validation, rest in the truth that God has already called you His. Live in that confidence. Walk in that security and know that you are already enough, just as you are.
You are not waiting to be loved, you are already loved beyond measure. Live in that truth today.
You are enough!
