The scriptures talk about the way of a serpent upon the rock, right in the church! How did something so sinister find its way into something so good?
Let’s look at some dimensions of lust hidden or masked in love this morning. You think it is love, but it is actually lust! What a contradiction!
1. The Fainting
Oh! Give me something refreshing to eat—and quickly! Apricots, raisins—anything. I’m about to faint with love!
Son 2:5 (MSG)
Ladies are enthralled by attention and non-verbal expressions of love.
Their goals are different. The lady wants care, attention, and love. The guy wants sex, period!
The contradiction of goals results in confusion of the soul. Two cannot walk together except they be agreed…
2. The Cradling
His left had cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist!
Son 2:6 (MSG)
In no time, his manifesto begins in aggressive fulfillment of intentions.
The left hand that should be busy with the meals travels to the head and cradles it lovingly or “lustingly?”
The right hand in daring progression surpasses the timidity of the left hand and encircles the waist. Desires travel into blood veins.
The heart races and gallops like a horse who just sighted waters! A rush of adrenaline colliding with dopamine!
Hey! Destinies are about to be ruptured. Glorious futures are about to be tainted. Promising ministry hopefuls about to morph into miseries!
3. The Stirring
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Son 2:7 (MSG)
Oh, there comes a warning Don’t do it. Don’t excite love!
In a moment, his voice and words are so gentle and caressing, the next moment, his biceps pins you to the wall in a wicked hold, because love has been excited. Be warned!
Eh, the time is not ripe. You are not ready!
Don’t let the “glee” take over the “flee!” It is time to flee!
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer…
The gazelles and the wild deer know how to run from the enemy!
Run! Flee! Don’t go to that guest house again. Don’t follow him to that hotel again. Don’t go and meet him on campus again. Don’t frolic with him in the office again. Don’t take his money again, because his money controls you.
Take a cue from the gazelles and the wild deer. When they see the lion crouching, they take off. They are not ready to be preyed upon.
Don’t be a prey! Don’t even follow him home!
As a father, I say to my daughters, don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Have a great day!
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love genuinely. I am not filled with lust
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love genuinely.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship
We will be looking at finding and keeping the love of your life.
1. Where to get a good wife
House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord.
Pro 19:14 (AMP)
A good, wise, understanding and prudent wife can only come from one source and that is from the Lord, period.
It won ’t come from clubbing around. It won’t come from sampling ladies around. It will only come from the Lord.
It is simply logical then, that a deliberate, conscious relationship with God is a must to have a good family and make a good choice.
How else can you ask God for a prudent wife without having a relationship with Him?
In essence, you want a good spouse? Go after God first, since a prudent wife comes from Him.
If the Bible says there are prudent, wise women, then it means that there are wives that are foolish and not prudent. Trust me, you want a prudent wife!
Your choice of a life partner will either make you or mar you, a delight or a disaster. Your choice will make your home a haven or an oven.
What if you are already married and you feel your wife is not prudent? Of which you may be wrong! But let’s assume that is how you feel.
What you do is to go back to God and retrace your steps. He will tell you what to do, He will give you wisdom on how to go about it.
The solution to the imbroglio you are facing in your home and marriage now is with God. Take time to find that out before you take rash decisions.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God will lead me to a prudent wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 19:14 (KJV) House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.
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We started on this yesterday!
4. Blame Shift
You are constantly blamed for their woes, problems, difficulties, lack, failure and unhappiness.
You are told that you are the reason for any misfortune in their lives.
You are constantly reminded that everything with them was okay until you came into their lives.
5. Withdrawal
They are adept in withdrawing into their shells in order to punish you and demand your attention. They disengage and use neglect, abandonment, and measured withdrawals to punish, frighten and intimidate you.
6. You are always in the wrong
They make you feel that they are always right, and you are wrong. They would arrange facts and sentiments to prove that to you over and over again until you start thinking there is a curse on you, or that some people are fighting you spiritually from your village.
7. Control over you finances
They try to control your finances and how you spend money. Your credit card is permanently with them.
They tell you what to buy and what not to buy. You are told that you are a careless spender and and you cannot mange money well.
They end up emptying your account from month to month and keep threatening you that they will leave you and you will not be able to survive.
You know what?
God has made you free from such manipulative relationships!
Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped.
Psa 124:7 (KJV)
The snare of the soul has been broken by the Lord Jesus Christ. Do not subject yourself under any weak and beggarly element again! You have been made free!
I pray for all who might be in an emotionally draining and abusive alliance. I break the power of such deceptions and manipulations in Jesus name and I proclaim you free in Jesus name!
Whosoever the son of man has made free is free indeed! You are free from today in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The eyes of my understanding are opened to see these signs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship when
Emotional abuse is a weapon normally used to control and bring dominance upon the other person. This is often because the abuser has past childhood wounds and insecurities that are still fresh, mostly because they were abused themselves.
Do not cope with an emotionally abusive relationship. At the end of the day, it is never worth it.
Emotionally abusive relationships end up damaging your self-esteem and dignity. It often involves a consistent pattern of verbal attacks, threats, bullying, and unending criticism, using tools like manipulation, intimidation, and shaming.
In an emotionally abusive relationship, a form of deception is involved. This is because the victim usually would not see the experience as abusive. Coping mechanisms of denial are developed in order to subdue the attack.
However, the effects of long-term emotional abuse will cause emotional trauma and upheaval resulting in several dysfunctions and complications.
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Emotional abuse can be debilitating and traumatic. God wants you free from emotionally abusive relationships.
Look at the scriptures:
Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped.
Psa 124:7 (KJV)
Now, let’s identify some sure signs that you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.
1. Your Individuality is in question You are viewed as an extension of themselves rather than as an individual. Your opinions are disrespected and you are constantly reminded that without them, you are nothing. Your suggestions and ideas are trampled. When you find yourself in such, it is time to walk away.
2. Unending Chastisement You are corrected or chastised for your behaviors, almost all the time and publicly too. There is nothing you do that is right. Every word you speak is an error.
3. False Accusation You are dubbed “over-sensitive” in order that you can continue coping with the unending abuse and manipulations. You are constantly told to “grow up!”
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The eyes of my understanding are opened to see these signs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 6:5 (KJV) Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship when you see these signs.
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1. Words like arrows
A sign of emotional manipulation is when you are called names, given unpleasant labels, derogatory nicknames, and the use of biting cutting remarks. Words are powerful and you are what you hear every day.
A guy goes to Medical school and listens to medical classes for seven years and then becomes a Medical Doctor. The same thing with a lawyer. Invariably, you are what you are hearing.
You should therefore not allow anybody to constantly pull you down and trample on your esteem all in the name of love. Love will not constantly put you down! Love will not crush your esteem day after day.
If one or more of these signs are prevalent in your relationship, you may need to pause and review it.
Listen to me, marriage does not change abusers. It is better to remain single and wait for the right person than to rush into a marriage with an abuser because of the pressures around you.
When the abuse takes a toll, all the people putting pressure will not be seen around you. The last day you would see most of them is on your wedding day to eat your food!
As my wife would always say, you will live with your choice!
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2. The Use of Personal information
Abusers can often resort to using your personal information and secrets against you and to control you.
This is why you have to beware of people who are always asking for your nude pictures. Why would a person who claims to be a child of God be asking for your nude pictures? There is something perverse about that. Is it to masturbate or what? Or to sell the pictures?
Young ladies, don’t ever send you nude pictures to anyone in the name of love. He would eventually use your pictures to manipulate and control you, and when you call his bluff, you would find your nude pictures all over the internet.
Several young girls have committed suicide when they couldn’t bear the shame of having their nude pictures and videos all over the internet. So, don’t ever make that mistake.
Your soul has escaped like a bird out of the snare of the flower! Fly away from all demonic and manipulative relationships.
Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
Pro 6:5 (KJV)
Cut off that relationship where you are being oppressed. Let the wrong person go so that the right person can show up!
I pray that God will grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The eyes of my understanding are opened to see these signs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 6:5 (KJV) Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship when you see these signs.
