Some people are deeply spiritual. So spiritual they probably wanted God to help them propose or answer a proposal. Well, it is not as complicated.
And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. (Genesis 2:22 KJV)
What God will do is that He will present you with opportunities and guidance, but He will always allow you to make up your mind. That is why the scriptures says:
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22 KJV)
Whoso findeth… this is talking to men. Men are the ones that do the finding, not the ladies.
Right now, look around you. Your friends, church folks, classmates, relationships around you, those are all the people God has presented to you. You are to prayerfully choose once you are at a marriageable age. You are to be led by God’s Spirit, because when you ask Him, He will lead you and you won’t have to be proposing to several people. God still leads. You don’t need to have a dream or vision or hear a voice, it could just be inner witness or even circumstantial leading.
I am very certain that God’s design for a good relationship is not to start having boyfriends or girlfriends all over the place and be toying with your emotions in experimental relationships. God certainly wants to lead, if you allow Him.
And do you know one thing? God will not lead you wrong!
Now to the couples. If you are already married, presentation opportunities are over. Stay with your spouse and enjoy the wife of your youth, the scripture advises. Focus on God and then on your spouse. That is the secret to a successful marriage.
You can only admire people after your wedding, you should not desire them. In other to enjoy God’s blessings and favour maximally, you will need to focus on your spouse with all your heart! After God, the next person is your spouse!
Take a cue from Adam, it was when Adam slept that God was able to perfect the presentation of his wife. You have been too noisy and too mobile, go and sit down somewhere and let God do His work! Think about it, upon all your sweet mouth and relationship skills, where is the loved one?
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; (Genesis 2:21 KJV)
Learn from Adam, and go to sleep.
The responsibility of God is to cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; the responsibility of Adam is to sleep. Adam could say, “No way, I am not sleeping!” But the scripture says he slept!
When he slept, God went to work.
No wonder the scriptures say:
Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. (Psalms 46:10 KJV)
Yes, be still. Stop sampling around! How can one brother propose to seven sisters in the same church? Who is leading you? Each time, you keep saying, “God said..” Are you sure God said?
Be still, then you will see God in your relationship or marriage. Ladies, stop being suggestive and stop spending your money to buy things for him. Let God help you by calming down! How I love the Message Translation:
“Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.” (Psalms 46:10 Message)
Yes, step out of the traffic. Focus on God and you will surely see His salvation in your relationship and marriage!
To married men, you are not only to sleep, you are to die! The Scripture admonishes that you are to love your wife as Christ loves the church. How did Christ love the church? He died for her. In the same way, loving your wife appropriately involves dying to your preferences sometimes, dying to your desires sometimes, and prioritizing her needs! May God give husbands understanding!
I started yesterday on this topic. Will continue this morning.
2. For man, work came before marriage And the Lord God took the man and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. (Genesis 2:15 KJV)
God gave Adam work before ever giving him a wife. God’s order is not coincidental. It is a deliberate order that is meant to communicate wisdom that work is the first thing to get before getting a wife. Speaking in tongues alone will not feed your wife; you’ve got to work. If you are jobless, you can create work for yourself.
To be without work is to resign yourself to fate. While you are busy waiting for that dream job, find work to do. Volunteer somewhere, and that might even get you a job!
Without work, your wife will not likely show-up! Don’t let your life stop because you haven’t gotten that job. There is a creativity packaged inside you that needs to be discovered. Joblessness is an opportunity to discover work; the gifts of God embedded in you that will bring you to your wealthy place. Discover your gifts, develop them, and simply deploy them.
3. There is a difference between aloneness and loneliness And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18 KJV)
Man was alone, but not lonely. When you are lonely, you are not ready for marriage yet. When you are alone, you are ready!
Marriage or courtship will not cure loneliness. If you don’t agree, ask some married people ‘is it possible to be married and be lonely?” They will give you a resounding Yes!
Many wives see their husbands daily and yet very lonely! So, as a single, you need to understand that loneliness cannot be eliminated by marriage or by sex. You increase the emptiness by trying to fill it with sex. Only Jesus can fill that emptiness.
Signs of loneliness in your life are an indication that there is still a void to be filled by your maker. It is an indication that you need to pay attention to your spiritual life and you need to go on a journey of identity discovery in the scriptures! Don’t ignore it, rather go on a spiritual adventure through reading, studying, and meditating on God’s word. You will come up stronger and better and ready to face life!
God’s word has solutions to all problems on earth and in heaven. Nothing else will be done or given to men that will improve upon God’s word. It is the complete counsel of God.
You can find a husband in God’s Word.
You can locate your wife in God’s Word. The scriptures teach us how to have a good home and family life.
The scriptures contain the wisdom required to rule in this world’s affairs. People seek love, husbands, wives, and relationships in all the wrong places.
Online dating sites are not the best place to go! Nightclubs and gatherings are not the locations to look for meaningful connections. Where shall I go, pastor? Go to God’s Word! Your response is waiting for you there.
When you are perplexed, God’s word is available to help you deal with it and fill your heart with light, which will dispel all confusion. When you are depressed, God’s word is available to destroy your depression and replace it with the joy of the Holy Spirit.
When you are hurt, wounded, and offended, God’s word is there to heal every wound and give you recompense of all deeds.
When you are filled with unforgiving tendencies, God’s word is there to give you the inner strength to do the godly and the needful.
This morning, what can Singles and Married Couples learn from Adam and Eve?
1. Man was made from the breath of God. And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7 KJV)
You will never be able to achieve much in your marital endeavors without God. God is the source of your life; He will also be the sustenance of your relationships and marriage.
You will never be able to achieve much without Him. There is no point wasting your time by ignoring Him or by kicking against His instructions. The earlier you flow with God and not with man, the better!
The earlier you learn to converse with Him on a personal basis and quit looking for some prophet, the better. Most of the so-called prophets are prophets for profit; they will collect your money and tell you lies.
You are the prophet of your own life, so develop a deliberate relationship with God and take charge of your destiny!
God was the one who created Adam in His likeness and image.
Looking at the Godhead, we will know that God created man to be like Him. That is why we have God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. They are in perfect harmony, yet different in personality and functionality.
Genesis 2:18 CEV [18] The Lord God said, “It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.”
Genesis 2:21-22 CEV [21] So the Lord God made him fall into a deep sleep, and he took out one of the man’s ribs. Then after closing the man’s side, [22] the Lord made a woman out of the rib. The Lord God brought her to the man,
God knew perfectly what He had created and knew how best it would function. He knew the man would not be optimally efficient, so He made the woman solely for this purpose. To complement and complete the man.
The woman was custom-made for the man. She is the help needed, fit, suitable, adaptable, meet, right for him, sufficient, complementary, perfect, complement to him, companion he needs, one just right for him, one who balances him, a counterpart who is suitable and complementary to him, companion suitable for helping him, a suitable companion he needs…
All these qualities are what describe the help God provided for Adam.
Can you trust God in all His Almightiness that the helper He has given you, is the best for you?
Can the helper trust God enough to believe she possesses all these qualities? And that God packaged her, with all her gifts to help the man?
Husbands and wives, can you trust God enough that you are fulfilled and complete with each other? That all you will ever need is packaged in your wife.
She may not look like it. He may not look worthy of your companionship.
Your wife was never meant to be exactly like you. Rice and stew are complementary but very different.
Enjoy your wife, she is God’s best for you.
Wives, be satisfied with your husband, that is the one you were sent to.
Let’s begin to trust God afresh.
Dear single guys, every lady around you is to be protected and not violated! An understanding of this will start preparing you to become that man that God wants and can trust!
