Every once in a while, we always fill in certain gaps in our marriage created consciously or unconsciously. As couples, we are a team and should see ourselves as such.
As a team, our goal must be to work together to achieve a common goal. Every family is unique and we have different desires in our hearts we want to be fulfilled.
We are to complement each other. As a couple, the husband’s strengths should be the place of weakness for the wife and vice versa. That’s why it is good for each one of us to develop our unique strengths.
Let the husband not fight the wife over their strengths but celebrate each other’s differences. Our differences are there to create a balance, like the breaks in a car or the speed breakers are meant to control the speed of a car.
We are meant to fill in the gap created by our spouse without being critical or judgmental. If your spouse does not pray as much as you pray, don’t waste time pointing out his or her weakness. The ideal thing to do is just step in and get the job done.
Well, I know it is not every weakness we should step in and fill. This could breed irresponsibility. Based on the uniqueness of each family, each member should be given a particular task to do. There should be a division of labor and responsibility.
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I don’t subscribe to an individual doing everything in marriage. Each person should have something to bring to the table. But when there are lapses on either part, please let us receive Grace to step in and do the needful and the Lord will help us.
For example, if your husband does not talk that much, you talk without complaining and he will also learn from you. The Bible admonishes us not to be weary in well-doing.
Gal 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
We will only reap if we faint not. Let us always put in mind our harvest. This will keep us from being discouraged.
There are seasons of waiting and it is my prayer that God will strengthen us and keep us from being discouraged in our homes as we keep up the good work in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I step in and fill the gap for my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to fill in the gap for your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gal 6:9 [AMP] And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint.
This is a few days gone in the new year. What will happen at the end of this year starts now. Our everyday steps, moving in the positive direction are so important.
As couples, let us think ahead. Let’s have a projection of what we want to achieve in our marriage. We have to get certain principles right.
There are a lot of things we do consciously and unconsciously that frustrate our marriages and are detrimental to the bliss of our marital journey.
Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? – Luk 14:31[KJV]
As we begin a new year, we should sit down in retrospect and cast a vision for ourselves.
You need to ask yourself what exactly do I want from my spouse and marriage. Put it in one or two sentences; something you can put before God and aim at.
Also, know that it takes two to tango. Just as you have certain expectations from your spouse, your spouse too has expectations. Break those expectations into smaller bits and have a vision for this year.
For example, I want my spouse to be more Godly this year. Find out all you need to know about being godly. Let that be your focus. Your spouse can tell you they expect you to be more homely. Humbly, accept that and keep working towards it through the year.
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Let each one of us be committed to doing what our spouse demands of us. Stay focused to this. Do all you can this year to become a better person!
Read books that will show you and help you be a better and happier person. Commit your ways into God’s hands and make sure you talk to God about this. Measure your progress weekly. Don’t get discouraged in your pursuit and don’t become critical of yourself or your spouse.
May God strengthen us!
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a better version of myself this year
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be a better spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Luke 14:31 [ERV] “If a king is going to fight against another king, first he will sit down and plan. If he has only 10,000 men, he will try to decide if he is able to defeat the other king who has 20,000 men.
We started this instructive devotional yesterday. If we will be successful, get it right and gain speed in 2022, we need to take these points seriously.
Not striving to be super couples only slows us down. We move in circles and we achieve very little. Whereas, God’s intention for us is to multiply grace and do ten times our normal capacity.
We looked at the following yesterday:
1. Worship 2. Understand your spouse 3. Excellence
Today, we will continue from where we stopped.
4. Forgiveness
If you can’t forgive, don’t bother getting married. Forgiving in marriage is a compulsory course. You only slow yourselves down if you find it difficult to forgive.
Some couples hold their spouse and refuse to forgive because they feel their spouse doesn’t deserve the luxury of their forgiveness. They want to hold on to wrong because they feel they are punishing their spouse.
How humorous that is. I have always said it. Not forgiving is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. You cannot afford it.
Be like a duck that water doesn’t stay on its back. Let nonforgiveness fall off your back like a duck.
Deal with every form of hurt, malice, bitterness, strife et cetera. These are Satan’s most common arsenal.
Forgive because God says to forgive and trust God to reward you.
And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. – Mat 18:34-35
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5. Fun
Be fun-loving. Don’t be too serious. Have a child-like approach to life and cast all your care upon the Lord once and for all.
Casting your care is like throwing your care on God. Don’t pick it back, drop them and leave them with the Double-breasted one.
Laugh, make jest of yourselves, play like clowns, behave like little children, pull your husband beards, do funny faces, and so on. Be creative with fun. By all means, play.
I know you are busy, but out of no time, create time. If you were told if you don’t play, you will not live past 2 months, you will take playing seriously.
It takes away the boredom and monotony out of your marriage. It even helps you to forgive better. If you have to pray for God to make you playful, do. Some of us are not naturally playful. We need the Holy Spirit’s help.
Fun in marriage is not complete without doses of intercourse. Let it be regular, spontaneous, creative, and pleasurable.
6. Be the best
This is simply being your spouse’s best friend. Remember when you were younger, how you did with your best friend. Bring the same into your marriage.
Cherish your time with your spouse. Talk about everything with the exception of nothing. Talk, talk, talk, and listen, listen and listen. Be concerned and truly care from your heart.
Think of ways to outdo yourself in being kind.
Being the best spouse to your own husband or wife entails looking into your marriage and finding out the ingredients that are missing.
Remember, you cannot change your spouse. Love your spouse without trying to make him/her conform to your own standard. Who told you your standard is the best?
Best friends never attempt to change one another. At best, they seek to lovingly influence the other person.
Do the above things, and you will be on your way to becoming a super couple. It is the doer that God promises to be blessed in his ways. Don’t just read, be a doer.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I get it right in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of excellence
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:33 [KJV] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
I remember many years ago, as a young Christian, I was praying and trusting God for some things. God answered me very clearly and told me to forgive so and so.
Now, these people really hurt me, and I felt justified walking in an unforgiving spirit. But then God gave me two scriptures and said if I want to move forward in life, I have to forgive.
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” – (Romans 12:19 ESV)
The second scripture God gave me was:
To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices – (2 Corinthians 2:10-11 KJV)
I had to listen to God and it was only then I was able to move forward.
From the above scriptures, a few things are clear.
1. People will hurt you, as long as you are human and you are in the days of your flesh.
2. You will like to get even, born again or not.
3. Don’t get even; don’t avenge yourself.
4. God will avenge you, He will fight for you and that is when it is sweetest.
5. If you stay in unforgiving mode, Satan will use it as a loophole to cause havoc.
6. You are not to be ignorant of how the devil operates.
A third scripture I will like you to see is here:
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses – (Matthew 6:14-15 KJV)
Now, you don’t want to find yourself here. You don’t want to find yourself in a place where God will not forgive you.
And yet, the only way not to get there is to forgive people easily!
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to forgive all who have hurt me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to forgive all who have hurt you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19 ESV)
Being a super couple, I have found out is all about getting it right Spirit, soul, and body. It is about being wholesome individually and extending it to yourselves as a couple.
As a believer, we know all things begin and end with God.
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. – Pro 4:7 [KJV]
God has to come first, then, He gives you the needed strength, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to be all that you can be in 2020 and beyond.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. – Mat 6:33 [KJV]
1. Worship
God demands to be worshipped, and that is the starting point. Let us learn to give our waking moments to God in worship, seeking His help, and looking up to Him as the Almighty.
Worship God because He deserves to be worshipped.
Worship also entails studying your bible and praying. Form the habit of talking to God about every detail of your marriage. Put God first and all will fall in place.
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2. Understand your spouse
Know how to press the mumu key of your spouse. Understand your spouse. Seek to learn and know your spouse. There are things he/she likes and does not like. Know what your spouse cannot resist.
For some husbands, it is jeru trip. For some, it is good food. Understand your spouse’s love language and temperament.
It is foolishness to want to spend the rest of your life with someone and you don’t take time to study them.
In 2022, tell yourself no more foolishness. Be tired of fighting to have your way. It is time to become mature. Sometimes, we need to stoop to conquer.
For example, if your spouse is choleric, you don’t do power tussle with them. A choleric wants to be in charge, a phlegmatic needs gentle persuasion, a sanguine needs fun and a melancholy needs their love tank always full. Understand these dynamics and you are on your way to success.
3. Excellence
No one can resist an excellent spouse. Be an excellent communicator, be an excellent friend and companion, be an excellent provider, excellent support, be excellent in bed, be an excellent cook, be a better organizer, don’t be haphazard with managing the home and children, be an excellent dresser and stop being an embarrassment to your spouse.
In being an excellent person, you may be required to go out of your comfort zone most of the time to learn. Be willing to change, improve and learn better ways of doing the same things you used to do.
God bless your marriage!
To be continued tomorrow by God’s Grace.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I get it right in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of excellence
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:33 [KJV] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
