How To Make Progress In Your Marriage. Your past is your past because it happened in your ‘yesterday’. That yesterday could be 20 years, 30 days, 12 years and it could be a day ago. It becomes our past the moment we consciously put it behind us.
The past before our marriage too has to be dealt with in this manner. These include past relationships, past habits, those friends you used to have late night hang out with. Any thing that you know will be detrimental to your new status as a married man or woman.
The pains, hurts, challenges, shortcomings and weights of yesterday must be laid at the feet of the cross of Jesus. If we must experience the marriage that God has in mind for us.
Some people are holding so many people in unforgiveness. Some wives are holding so many people in their minds. Even people who they have no business holding in unforgiveness. Some are unfruitful because of holding unto the past.
In your marriage, you have to let the past go. The past is too heavy a weight to carry with your today. Your spouse will offend you not on purpose most of the time. But the onus is on you to let go of the past.
We must learn to embrace the truth of how to let go of the past like the prodigal son did.
And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! – Luk 15:17
The Bible says, he came to himself. We must come to ourselves every now and then about our past hurts and offense.
And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. – Luk 15:20
He arose, he took step in dealing with his past. He didn’t leave it as an intent, he did something, he took action.
Until you take action to deal with your past, don’t expect God to grant you the freedom He has in store for only those who let go of the past.
But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet: – Luk 15:22
May God help us to let go of our past in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My past does not slow me down
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, heal me from my past
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use.
Now that you are married, all your attempt should be to make your marriage worthwhile. You want the singles out there to look at your marriage as what they will love their marriage to like. Your marriage should be an inspiration and a model to both married and the singles.
When I mean deepening your relationship, I don’t mean reading your bible for more hours, going to church for more hours, and certainly not screaming in tongues all over the house. I also don’t mean being in more activities in church, going for evangelism and being more active in church.
Even though all these are good in themselves, they don’t show you have a deep relationship with God. Deepening your relationship with God has to do with having conversations with God that are honest, sincere and vulnerable. You could be doing all the motions and not have a real relationship with the Father.
These heartfelt communications with God is a heart to heart thing, where despite God knowing you through and through, you tell him who you really are. You tell him where it really hurts, you tell him how desperately you need him, how you will fall flat on your face if He does show up. This is bearing yourself before Him openly without hiding anything. Naked and not being ashamed
It is like when you see your life like a big house with several rooms and you open up all the rooms for God to be involved and come in. When you don’t treat God like a guest who is only allowed into the sitting room, don’t get official with God.
God wants to be our God and Father who want to be involved in our everyday activities. David knew God. He knew him as Shepherd, as a high tower, a rock, a defender etc He had a deeper relationship with God than most people.
Having this relationship with God is very important because this relationship will help you in relating better with your spouse. You would be used to open communication and conversations with your spouse. You learn to appreciate your spouse, to be vulnerable with them, develop intimacy and express gratitude for every little thing they do. There will be no hidden secrets kept from your spouse. You won’t hide your deepest feelings. You will say it as you are thinking about it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am deepening my relationship with God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to stay with the word
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Josh 1:8[NET]This law scroll must not leave your lips! You must memorize it day and night so you can carefully obey all that is written in it. Then you will prosper and be successful.
We started looking at the topic of what every husband must do to their wives a few days back. We’ll conclude on this topic today…
5. She wants you to know that she expects that you give yourself to her.
This has to do with sacrifice. The husband must be ready and willing to sacrifice for his wife. He must sacrifice emotionally, financially, spiritually, or socially. A wife that sees and knows that she has a sacrificing husband will go to any length to submit to her husband.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; – Eph 5:25 (KJV)
And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself – Eph 5:25 (TPT)
And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage. – Ephesians 5:28 (MSG)
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6. She wants to be sanctified by you
Sanctify – Greek – to make holy, purify or consecrate; to venerate:
A wife needs her husband to sanctify her, to through communication, make her what he wants her to be. She needs the husband to talk to her all of the time because she thrives on his words.
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, – Eph 5:26 (KJV)
Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, – Eph 5:26 (MSG)
All that he does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw. Husbands have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self. – Eph 5:27-28 (TPT)
Let’s ensure we put these points to work.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
Marriage is an institution that has existed for thousands of years. It’s a union between two people who commit themselves to one another in the most intimate and personal way possible. The fact that it’s lasted this long suggests there is something about marriage itself that we value. But what, exactly?
Here are a few thoughts on what makes a good marriage.
A good marriage is based on respect
A good marriage is based on respect. Respect is a two-way street. It means that each partner respects the other person’s feelings and opinions, as well as their own.
This doesn’t mean that couples are never at odds with one another. Conflict is inevitable in any healthy relationship, but it should never be allowed to escalate into disrespect of one another.
The partners need to be open to speaking frankly with one another, while also listening attentively to one another and understanding the other person’s perspective or point of view.
Communication is key
It sounds very cliché, but it’s true: communication is key to achieving a good marriage. You have to talk to each other and work on the problems together.
There’s nothing worse than being married and not knowing what your spouse feels like because they don’t talk to you.
One of the most important aspects of a successful marriage is good communication.
There are many ways to communicate, but it’s particularly important for both parties to share their feelings and thoughts with one another.
For example, if one partner feels neglected and begins to withdraw from the relationship, it’s vital that they tell the other person how they feel.
Communication creates understanding and can help prevent problems before they escalate.
To have a good marriage, you need to be committed
The commitment is the key ingredient for a good marriage. Successful marriages are about two people who are willing to commit to one another and work together through the good times and bad times.
It’s also so important that both partners are committed to the relationship. If one person isn’t committed, then it could doom the marriage from the start.
A good marriage isn’t perfect
The first thing to keep in mind about marriage is that it’s not perfect. Even when two people are deeply committed to one another, there will be times where you disagree and times where you might feel unhappy. But with a good marriage, these disagreements are just part of the process.
In fact, research suggests that a marriage can grow stronger after a disagreement has taken place because the couple knows they have each other’s back. This type of relationship is better able to withstand the inevitable challenges life throws at it.
Marriage is work
Marriage is work. It’s not just a piece of paper you sign to make it valid. Marriage takes commitment and sacrifice – but the rewards are worth it.
You have to make time for one another
Marriage is all about commitment, and making time for one another is a big part of it. Too many couples put everything else in their lives ahead of their significant others. That’s not what marriage is about! You need to make time for your spouse or you will lose them.
Love is also an important aspect of a good marriage. If you don’t love each other, get divorced. Marriage should be about more than just living together and having kids. It should be about loving each other unconditionally and doing whatever you can to make the other person happy.
Lastly, take care of yourself as well as your spouse, do things that make you happy without feeling guilty!
This will help ensure that your marriage lasts longer because it won’t feel like a burden or obligation anymore.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is a blessing
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, do a miracle in my marriage today.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Heb 13:4 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to use.
Being a good husband can be difficult. In today’s society, with more pressures than ever, it’s no wonder that some husbands feel like they don’t know how to be good husbands.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:28 (KJV)
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a partner in life because this will help to fulfill your wife’s needs as well as your own. However, you also need to have respect for yourself. This blog post will give you some practical tips on how to be a better husband and maintain your relationship with your spouse.
Important qualities of a good husband
There are 10 qualities that make a good husband. One of the most important is the ability to make your wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a great partner in life.
How to make your wife feel loved and respected
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. One way you can do this is by creating time for your spouse and making sure that both you and your wife have time to pursue your own interests. Another way to make your wife feel loved is by building up her self-worth. You need to show her that she matters and it’s important for her to be able to talk about any problem she may be facing.
How to be a partner in life
It’s important to be a partner in life for your spouse. This means making sure you’re supporting them through both good times and bad. If your spouse has a problem, help them solve it. Don’t shut them down or tell them they’re wrong.
It’s also important to respect yourself as well as your wife. You want to feel like you have a say in the relationship, too. That way, you’ll both feel more fulfilled and satisfied with how things are going.
Don’t always put your wife first; make sure that your needs are met, too. Your wife should be able to depend on you if something bad happens so she doesn’t have to bear the weight of it alone.
Loving someone is hard work and requires effort on both ends. You’ll need to make an effort at all times if you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
Conclusion
If you have read this blog post and agree with these qualities of a good husband, we ask that you share your thoughts with us.
We are interested in what you think about these qualities and if you agree or disagree with any of them. We would also love to know if you could add any more qualities to this list.
Leave us your thoughts in the comment section below!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord Jesus, help me to put to use what I have learnt
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:23 [TLB] Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be a good husband
