A Happy marriage happensby consistent deliberate efforts from both spouses. Marriage is an important part of our lives which is meant to last all of our adult years. That is we are meant to be in a marriage with our partner till death do us part. And for most of us, that’s a long time.
One thing we don’t want to do is to be unhappy throughout our married life. We want to be sure we are happy with our spouse and happy with ourselves.
Here are 10 tips that will help us achieve this.
1. Never bring up the mistake of the past.
In marriage, there will be issues. We are all still a work in progress and still in the days of our flesh. There are bound to be resolved issues (issues in the past), present issues and, some issues to deal with in the past.
Bringing up past issues is like digging a grave and exposing things that should have been buried. It shows you have not fully forgiven your spouse.
Forgiveness is so important in marriage, you cannot afford to joke with it.
You cannot be digging at the past and expect to move forward or be happy.
Get rid of the past as much as possible. Make sure you resist the temptation of shaming your spouse by referring to things of the past, no matter how difficult it seems.
It takes a lot of maturity to keep your mouth shut and not refer to past mistakes.
What goes around comes around. You might be the one that needs to be forgiven next. There might be a mistake you will do in the future that also requires forgiveness. Remember, to err is human. To forgive is divine.
Let’s include some divinity in our marriage.
2. Never neglect each other. Focus on each other.
The issue of focus has now become so obvious in marriages that it needs to be addressed squarely. You see couples that prefer others to their spouse.
When they go out with their spouse, they are not used to themselves. There is no connection. They are just like any other person to them, apart from the fact that they are living together, bearing each other’s name and probably wearing the same clothes.
There should be a heart-to-heart connection. A connection that is beyond words that keep drawing you close to one another.
We have to consciously work on focussing on each other. That focus is essential to our marriage.
Avoid all forms of distractions, emotional affairs, wandering thoughts, that prevent us from focussing on our own.
Let our spouse ever catch our attention spirit, soul, and body. Let us work on focussing our minds on our spouse. No matter what anyone wears or their physical attributes, our spouse is our spouse, period.
It is about our heart. Let work on having the integrity of heart.
I will stop here this morning.
May God grant us more understanding in Jesus mighty name.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage will work.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, give me an understanding for my marriage in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY EPH 5:28 ESV In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a hearty discussion with your spouse today
We took a break from our series on ministering to your husband.
We are back now.
In the past write-ups, I have written about making sure your husband is well fed. As simple as it seems, some homes have been ruined by it. I wrote about keeping your husband’s company, that is being a partner with him in all that he does. I have also written about ‘serving’ the anointing he carries as the head.
This morning, I will be talking about ‘ fighting his battles for him’. Our role as wives is that of being a helpmeet. To fulfill his God-given assignment he will definitely need prayers amongst other things.
Every wife is called to be her husband’s intercessor. We have been equipped by God to pray for our husband.
The story that comes to mind is the story of when Moses was fighting the Amalekite and he had to lift up his hands. As long as his hands were lifted up, Israel won. But when Moses got weary and his hands went down Israel lost until Hur and Aaron helped to lift up his hands.
The same way we are to lift up his hands as he faces the battle of life in his thoughts, words, and actions. The devil is bombarding us through our senses. Through our eye gate, ear gate, mouth gate, our touch, and taste. The battle is intense and every husband needs someone to give him back up.
It is not a battle to be fought alone. You need the cooperation of your covenant helper.
Woe, to him, that lieth alone. Two are better than one for a have a good reward for their labor. (Eccl. ). It takes two to be warm.
The battles of life are better won as a team. God knew what he was doing by bringing the woman to God. The wive becomes the change agent.
Don’t become embittered with your assignment that you don’t fulfill it.
The devil works overtime to make sure women are busy with irrelevancies busy here and there and leaving their major purpose unattended to.
You are supposed to fight his battles. I don’t mean being a thug by fighting physically for your husband. But it also entails defending him. You cannot be around when people are talking bad about your husband and you are comfortable.
You know some of his friends don’t mean well for him. Fight for him.
But more so, the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of stronghold (2 Cor 4:5). You battle in the place of prayers.
You use prayers, fastings, supplications, sacrificial seeds, the blood of Jesus, communion, confessions, the Word. You use every weapon available to combat the devil.
To be an effective intercessor, your vessel (your life) must be kept holy and sanctified before the Lord. You must not be dealing with any hidden sins.
Some wives are still dealing with extramarital affairs, emotional affairs, adultery. You expose your husband to the vicissitudes of life if you are a wife having sexual sin and any other habitual sins.
Constantly repent and ask for forgiveness of sins to be able to stand in your place as intercessor.
May God give us more understanding.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be the best to my husband
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to submit to my husband
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18 KJV.
