Gossip is dangerous! If gossip can tear apart a whole church, then think of what it can do for a marriage.
As couples who are children of God, it is good to make an early decision that gossip will not be allowed in your family, either from friends who have itchy mouths or between yourselves as couples.
Here are few reasons why gossip is dangerous.
1. It is a wound
The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.
Pro 18:8 (KJV)
Gossip permanently blemishes our view of the person being discussed. It births wrong thoughts about that person. Once that picture gets into our minds, it’s very hard to erase it.
2. You will be judged.
For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.
Mat 12:37 (KJV)
Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”
Mat 12:37 (MSG)
As a result of the above, you really want to be careful about the words you say!
3. It is destructive and can cause its victim to be suicidal
but the tongue is not able to be tamed. It’s a fickle, unrestrained evil that spews out words full of toxic poison!
Jas 3:8 (TPT)
Gossip is a wildfire gone out of control. We try to put it out. We try to control it. But the gossiper keeps pouring gas on the fire. Gossip takes on a life of its own. The story grows and changes. The story even grows within the mind of the gossiper.
4. Gossip is the language of those who have rejected Christ This can be seen in the fowling scriptures:
And because they thought it was worthless to embrace the true knowledge of God, God gave them over to a worthless mind-set, to break all rules of proper conduct. Their sinful lives became full of every kind of evil, wicked schemes, greed, and cruelty. Their hearts overflowed with jealous cravings, and with conflict and strife, which drove them into hateful arguments and murder. They are deceitful liars full of hostility. THEY ARE GOSSIPS who love to spread malicious slander. With inflated egos they hurl hateful insults at God, yet they are nothing more than arrogant boasters. They are rebels against their parents and totally immoral.
Rom 1:28-30 (TPT)
God bless you. Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I refuse to be a gossip or busy body
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to focus on your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 26:20 [MSG] When you run out of wood, the fire goes out; when the gossip ends, the quarrel dies down
At every point in time, we will always need people around us. We need people to do certain things for us. No one was created to be an island. We were made to live and work with people.
Kings are surrounded by chiefs and elders. Governors are surrounded by advisers and special advisers. Some special advisers also have special advisers, who will critically look at situations and proffer solutions.
In the bible, we see a scene between two kings, which ought to have ended well, but for those around one of these Kings.
The king of the children of Ammon died and David, king of Israel, sent his servants to pay condolence to this son of the late king.
Naturally, this wouldn’t have been an issue, but for those surrounding the king.
But the chiefs of the children of Ammon said to Hanun their lord, Does it seem to you that David is honouring your father by sending comforters to you? has he not sent his servants to go through the town and make secret observation of it, and overcome it?
2 Sam 10:3 [BBE]
This goes to tell you that you can’t allow just anyone into your space. You can’t submit your destiny to just any random guy.
All through marriage, you will be making decisions, so you want to be careful who you align with because a wrong decision can affect you for the rest of your life.
A supposedly harmless condolence visit led to two bloody wars, loss of lives and properties.
Another scenario we see is in the life of King Ahasuerus. He gave an instruction that Queen Vashti should come out and entertain his guests. For reasons best known to her, the Queen refused.
Now Ahasuerus was a good man. He probably would have forgiven her, but for those surrounding him.
If it pleases the king, let a royal decree go out from him, and let it be recorded in the laws of the Persians and the Medes, so that it will not be altered, that Vashti shall come no more before King Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal position to another who is better than she.
Est 1:19 [NKJV]
What is my point this morning?
Watch those who surround you. Watch those you allow into your personal space. Watch your association. They will influence you in the long run.
That is why the bible says light and darkness cannot walk hand in hand.
You cannot claim to be Christian and be moving freely with unbelievers.
You cannot claim to be a child of light and be surrounded by sons and daughters of baal. It doesn’t work that way.
To you, who need to make the right decision as regards who to settle with, receive illumination!
To you, who need to pull out of that wrong relationship, receive strength!
Shalom!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not end up with the wrong man/woman
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will lead and put you in the right association.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 15:33[KJV] Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
How do you know a potential spouse that will be unfaithful when you are not married yet? There are tell-tale signs. When you double date, you are simply in a rehearsal for adultery. Simple!
Why is this so? You see, it takes the same heart! The heart that can accommodate and justify double dating will also glide into the dangerous terrain of adultery and extra-marital affairs effortlessly!
Adultery is a killer. It looks sweet initially, but the consequences are undesirable.
Now, let’s look at some scriptures in the book of Proverbs.
When Solomon starts talking to you about adultery, you had better listen. He had it all and you will never be able to break his record! He had so many women in his harem that he must have used tallies or numbers to identify them.
Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.
Pro 9:17 KJV
Adultery seems sweet, but what happens afterwards?
Bread of deceit is sweet to a man; but afterwards his mouth shall be filled with gravel.
Pro 20:17 KJV
You sure don’t want to be served a plate of gravel for food, but that is what a lot of people are cooking for lunch and dinner!
Unfaithfulness in your marriage will also reduce you. It will reduce you to what can be swallowed by the devil. See it here:
For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
Pro 6:26 KJV
God frowns at adulterous relationships! It is also a stupid sin because the consequences are staring you on your face and you still go ahead. You know it is wrong, yet like the proverbial dog which refuses to heed the hunter’s whistle, you go ahead.
Your conscience pricks you, yet you refuse to unlock yourself from the embrace of the strange woman or the evil man as the scripture aptly puts it. It is simply a stupid sin. See it here:
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
Pro 6:32 KJV
See other translation:
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;
Pro 6:32 MSG
Let’s see one more translation
But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks heart and understanding (moral principle and prudence); he who does it is destroying his own life.
Pro 6:32 AMP
What is my advice?
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Pro 5:18 KJV
See it in the Amplified version.
Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth.
Pro 5:18 AMP
What is God trying to say here? God is trying to identify one of the causes of adultery. What is that? NEGLECT! Don’t neglect your spouse in any way especially where your sexual life is concerned.
The greatest need of a man is jeru trip. The greatest need of a woman is communication and attention. Give this to each other and enjoy each other!
Protect each other by satisfying yourselves. Jeru trip is not a reward system neither is it a punishment tool! According to the amplified version above, when you satisfy yourselves as a married couple, you will be blessed with the rewards of fidelity.
May God grant us more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a wise spouse. I will not shoot myself in the leg.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray against the spirit of lust in your family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 6:32-33 (CEV) But if you go to bed with another man’s wife, you will destroy yourself by your own stupidity. You will be beaten and forever disgraced.
Today is the last day of September To Remember – Day 30. We will still continue with Oil For Today from tomorrow and we will also be thanking God tomorrow. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God!
Scriptures for Prayers Today
September To Remember – Day 30
Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts.
Zec 4:6 (KJV)
Who art thou, O great mountain? before Zerubbabel thou shalt become a plain: and he shall bring forth the headstone thereof with shoutings, crying, Grace, grace unto it.
Zec 4:7 (KJV)
The hands of Zerubbabel have laid the foundation of this house; his hands shall also finish it; and thou shalt know that the LORD of hosts hath sent me unto you.
Zec 4:9 (KJV)
Prayer Points
September To Remember – Day 30
1. Begin to thank the Lord for the thirtieth day of the fast.
2. Begin to pray that the sensitivity of your spirit be heightened to discern the word/instruction of God per season.
3. Pray that the Spirit of God will take away every dependence you have on the arm of flesh.
4. Declare that the mountains in your life (ministry, marriage, career, academics) become a plain.
5. Begin to release grace into every sphere of your life – your finances, relationships, purpose, etc.
6. Begin to bind every spirit that is assigned to stop you from finishing the things you start.
7. Pray that the anointing to complete what you start is released upon you.
8. Pray in the spirit, and make declarations over your life.
9. Go ahead and make your personal requests known to the Lord
10. Begin to thank the Lord for answered prayers
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 30
The word of the Lord will locate me. God’s word will profit me. The word will produce results in my life. The spirit of the Lord will lead me. He will make things easy for me. I refuse to struggle. I activate the covenant of ease in my relationship/marriage. Every obstacle before me becomes a plain. Concerning my finance, I speak Grace unto it. I receive the anointing to complete what I’ve started in Jesus name.
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How much shouldhusbands and wives love themselves? They should be intoxicated with one another! That is how much!
We see this right in the scripture.
Son 1:2 (KJV) Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Son 1:2 (GW) [Bride] Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth. Your expressions of love are better than wine,
Love is to be expressed. And these expressions or actions are compared with wine and even much better.
What does wine do?
It gets you high and intoxicated, makes you feel happy and animated.
Here, the writer says, the expressions of your love is much better than wine.
As husbands and wives, you are to be intoxicated with each other. You should look forward to one another. You should constantly pray for one another from a genuine heart!
And you know what, you can only do this by focusing on each other.
Do not allow anybody to come in between the two of you. Do not allow a third party to sow any seed of discord into your love. Get drunk of each other.
The ploy of the devil is to cause irritations, quarrels, misunderstandings, animosity and the like. You must be sensitive to avoid all these in your marriage so that your marriage will not be hindered in any way.
Let God’s love rule in your marriage, and this will in turn regulate your actions and reactions and bring out the best in your marital relationship.
Demonstrate your love for one another through expression of kisses. Don’t let the wedding kiss be the last memory of a good kiss!
Get drunk with Holy Spirit, and get drunk with one another.
May God grant you more understanding in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse and I focus on him/her
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to focus on your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Song of Solomon 1:2 (KJV) Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Give your spouse a good kiss
