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Here are some reasons why men often delay or develop a sore foot when it comes to getting married.
4. They don’t want to lose all the attention they get from girlfriends
He may just still be that handsome boyfriend that all other girlfriends are doting over.
So he wants to enjoy the attention and he feels the marriage will take that attention away.
5. They still want to have fun
He is a party freak and he knows that marriage will ‘imprison’ him.
So, he prefers to stay acquitted and discharged.
He has a warped view of what marriage really is.
He might still want to also stay in touch with his ex or exes for sexual gratification.
6. They are not really in love
He may not really be in love with you. He may just be holding unto you because of the fun he gets constantly.
As far as he is concerned, marriage is all about sex
Since he can get it now, then there is no need to take it to the next level with deeper commitments, especially when finances would be involved.
7. They don’t want any commitment yet
He is just not interested in having any commitments because he believes he wouldn’t have that ‘time’ to himself again.
8. They are just not sincere
He may just not be sincere with you.
So he keeps postponing and postponing when in reality, he is not going to get married to you.
This is nothing short of designer wickedness!
9. They have not made up their minds on who they want
He is still unsure of who the best is among his numerous girlfriends.
And that is where the problem is, double dating and pre-maritals bring confusion into the soul.
The more girls he gets involved with in his bid to decide, the more confused he becomes.
The more he looks, the less he sees until he can see nothing in the midst of everything!
10. They don’t really understand the biblical concept of marriage
When a man doesn’t have a relationship with God, he would not really understand the true purpose of marriage and that would eventually inform his actions and decisions.
That is why as a marriage counselor, I often say that it is unwise to get involved with a man that doesn’t truly love God!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not experience a marital delay.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalm 32:8 (KJV) I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Forgive those that have hurt you
We all need help at some point or another. Needing help just shows that we are only humans and there is nothing to be ashamed of when we need help.
Some couples out of shame and not being sincere have sabotaged their marriage. In the physical, we have hospitals and Doctors to the sick. What of if the sick is ashamed and refuses to open up or go to the hospital? He simply die in his sickness.
Help is always available to whosoever will seek the necessary help when necessary.
In marriage too, we need help at different times for different reasons.
Your marriage may need help if these 5 signs are obvious in your marriage but of cause, it is not limited to these 5 things.
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1. If the wife is always denying her husband sex either to punish him or get her way. The need for sex in man is so enormous that this need has to be met. A man is satisfied and optimal condition when he has regular Jerusalem trips.
Yes, the wife could have a lot of reasons why they deny them but please this has to be talked about. Seek help through books or counselor. Don’t keep quiet, as this could be detrimental to your marriage.
2. When there is regular misunderstanding and strife that lingers. Find the source of your constant quarrels and prayerfully get to the root of it. Obviously, you will marry someone opposite of you. Your spouse will be of a different temperament to you. Try and accommodate your spouse excess while you grow up to maturity together.
To be continued…
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I seek the needed help when I need it.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord surround me with my helpers and let me recognize them.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 20:2 Send thee help from the sanctuary, and strengthen thee out of Zion;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY I will sincerely look into my marriage and identify areas where we need help
I have often been asked why guys often delay in marriage. From ladies’ expectations towards court marriage, church marriage, or traditional marriage, there have been so many disappointments and sudden cancellations.
Oftentimes, people enter relationships without marriage counseling of any form. These days, there are many good and godly marriage therapists especially in form of online marriage counseling.
The single, as well as the married, are supposed to take advantage of all these in order to ensure that mistakes are avoided.
Here are some reasons why men often delay or develop a sore foot when it comes to getting married.
1. They are actually not ready Most of the time, the guys are not ready. So when you start talking about marriage, they hear you with one side of the ear and allow it to escape through the other.
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They will usually ask you to wait or even get angry when you bring up the subject. Don’t waste your time trying to beg him, he is simply not ready. If you successfully push him into marriage, he would complain for a long time at any slight pressure.
2. They are scared of responsibilities Another reason is that an average man is just scared of the responsibilities involved especially if he has gone through the trauma of being raised in a broken home or by a divorcee.
It all has a way of influencing his perspectives on marriage. Only God’s word can bring renewal of mind and a balanced outlook to what marriage really is.
3. They are not ready to raise a family They may just not be ready to raise a family. In his mind, someone is still raising him as far as he is concerned. He is still Mummy’s boy.
If you marry a mummy’s boy, the mummy will rule your home, in reality, or by proxy.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will marry rightly. I will not meet with men who will delay me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, deliver me from men who want to delay me.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 30:21 [KJV] And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.
The Bible says husbands enjoy the wife of their youth. This means enjoying yourself while you have strength as a young couple. Don’t be too serious at home and learn to live together as best friends. Don’t allow the pressure of finances, raising children, in-laws, and others to destabilize your togetherness.
Your spring water is for you and you only, not to be passed around among strangers. Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose — don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted! Why would you trade enduring intimacies for cheap thrills with a whore? for dalliance with a promiscuous stranger?
Prov 5:17-21 [MSG]
Between the two of you, one person will be more playful. Let the playful one take the initiative and the other follows suit.
The Holy Spirit knows what He’s saying when He says enjoy the wife of your youth. Be deliberate in making each other happy. Do not make others outside your home or marriage happy at the expense of your spouse.
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Read books together and discuss them. Invest in each other.
I pray your marriage will be beautiful and filled with new wine.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse and we enjoy life together
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord help us to enjoy ourselves now
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecc 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
The ability to enjoy whatever God has given to us despite imperfections is the maturity that takes for happiness in life and marriage. It is in loving our spouse unconditionally that makes marriage beautiful and fulfilling. We all have so many buts, we can choose to or choose not to consider in our spouse.
The Bible says love covers a multitude of sins. It means if we choose to walk in love, we can ignore or better still, hand our spouse’s flaws to God.
This prayer becomes handy; Lord give us the Grace to change the things we can change and the courage to leave the ones we cannot.
When we hand over such things to God, we should know that God is capable of handling them in His own way. Once in God’s hands, we should rest and trust in His love.
What most people do is that they give God and then collect it back. God knows what best to do to change a man. There is no overnight transformation. Even God appreciates the process of gradual change or transformation.
Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of God—what is good and is pleasing to him and is perfect.
Rom 12:2 GNB
Am I asking us to keep quiet and suffer in silence? No. Neither am I justifying wrong behaviors or any character flaws or defects. Most of the character flaws we see in marriage were already there as singles. It only became amplified in marriage.
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An irresponsible man had always had those tendencies. It was only fully expressive in marriage.
If we will not focus on the temperamental differences of our spouse, we would have done well.
So far as what we complain about are our differences, fear not. God will always see us through. The opposite will always attract. You found yourself attracted to your spouse and eventually married him/her because he was different from you.
If you are a fast person, you will be attracted to a quiet, easy-going person. A serious person will marry a playful person. It is these same differences that later repels, annoys and, gets us aggravated.
Some couples say, I love my spouse but she talks too much, but she is lazy, but she is careless. I love my spouse but he is aggressive, but he works too much, we can’t even go for vacation….and on and on.
What we should do is appreciate and thank God for the difference. Know that God put the differences there so you can accomplish much in your marriage. Try and let love, understanding, and patience have their full course in your lives.
You have to understand that neither you nor your spouse is correct or wrong, it is just about being wired differently, having different opinions, and seeing things from different viewpoint and perspectives.
So if you are hoping and thinking, ‘I love my spouse, but…’, you have to begin to remove the ‘but’ from your marital dictionary and begin to love your spouse despite their faults. Learn to forgive and forgive fast. Never allow issues to linger for long before seeking to forgive. Don’t allow ego or pride to finish your marriage.
I know a couple whose marriage is fast heading for the rocks. The wife has chosen to believe she is right and is waiting for her husband to come rolling on the floor begging. The husband too is unwilling to bend, saying she is fond of doing that and that he is tired of begging.
The wife has refused to listen to counsel. It is their differences that the devil wants to use to scatter their marriage. We are to walk through our differences allowing God to mature us.
May God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse and my sin covers his/her flaws
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me enjoy the wife of my youth
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 12:2 GNB Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of God—what is good and is pleasing to him and is perfect.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Study your spouse and learn to accept your differences
