There are many tell-tale signs that will usually show that a lady doesn’t love you and will not likely marry you. Below I have listed some of them. If you find up to five of any of these in your lover, it’s time to sit down and talk and seek counsel.
1. She will take from you and not give; there will be no mutual giving of a gift 2. She will not introduce you to her Pastor. 3. She will easily snap at you, shut you down, and even scream at you as occasion demands. 4. She will not pray about you or about the relationship. 5. She is comfortable not speaking with you for many days. 6. She shows her preferences for other guys and endlessly compares you to other guys. 7. She is only momentarily happy with you when you buy her stuff 8. She allows you to do all the pursuing without making any efforts to reciprocate 9. She embarrasses you in the presence of her friends 10. She lets you know that she is managing you and that you are not her type. 11. There will be disregard and disrespect 12. If a lady is not interested in you, it will show in her value system towards you. 13. It will manifest in disregard for your person and principles. 14. It will show in her utter disrespect for you. 15. She will deliberately ignore your preferences. 16. She will despise your wisdom and won’t care a hoot about what happens. 17. She will see your missed calls and will not make an effort to call back. 18. She will annoyingly ignore your calls and not pick them. 19. She will not introduce you to her friends or parents. 20. She will show that she is not proud of you and all you represent.
The above are signs that she is disenfranchised from you and only holding on because of some favor she is getting from you or using you as an emotional fill-in-the-gap.
I pray that God will grant you more understanding and give you divine direction as to know the right decisions to take in your relationships.
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not oblivious to the tell-tale signs. My eyes are open.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will deliver you from the person that will not marry you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:5 (AMP)It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your relationship based on the above and be sure the person will marry you.
I love the way our Easternbrothers usually refer to their wives. They will say “My Woman!”
Well, your wife is your woman. She is yours and no other. So you simply take care of her.
“Oh yeah, Pastor, I am taking care of her.’
“Have you really asked her and engaged her to know her definition of being cared for?
It may be way different from what you think.
What a woman interprets as care is often influenced by a lot of factors which may include background, parental upbringing, schools attended, church attended, personality type, temperament, past experiences, and so many other factors.
This is where communication becomes really important. Talk about how she wants to be taken care of.
For some wives, it’s to take them out to eat in some fancy restaurants.
For some, it’s to take them out to see a movie.
For some, it’s to buy a surprise gift.
For others, it’s to discuss the gift to be bought. For example, my wife doesn’t like surprises. She wants to know and be involved in whatever you want to do. Your own wife may be different.
For others, it’s to sit down and talk with them.
For some, it’s to write them a cheque.
For some, it’s to go on a dream vacation.
Whatever it is, ensure you pay the price in the place of pleasing and taking care of your wife.
May God enable us to be good spouses to our loved ones.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know how to take care of my wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for divine wisdom to take care of your wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 19:16 (AMP) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask your wife what taking care of her means to her
Most times, we need to be reminded not just what to do, but what not to do in a relationship that will lead to marriage. God is clear in His word regarding the Don’ts. It is your ability to stay within the parameters of God’s word that will guarantee a great relationship that will lead to a wedding. Here are those things you need to pay attention to.
1. Do not stop praying for each other Hear this again and again, in addition to working on your relationship, you are going to need a lot of prayers. You are going to need that spiritual energy to sustain the relationship. The devil doesn’t want you to get married! He is going to do everything possible to throw tantrums and bring confusion into the relationship. When you pray constantly, you will not enter into his temptation and traps!
2. Do not ignore each other Stay in touch through calls and chats. If there is someone not to ignore, it’s your loved one! Ignoring each other will open the door for the devil to feed your souls with assumptions; and assumptions are the lowest forms of knowledge.
3. Do not stop buying gifts for each other. Gifts should not be one sided. There is nowhere in the scripture where it says it is the destiny of guys to buy gifts while the ladies collect. It should be mutual. You will always be creative with giving gifts to the one you really love.
4. Do not stop sharing spiritual truths. Talk to each other from time to time about your dealings with God. Whatever God is sharing with you in your personal closet, share the same with your spouse. This will enable you to be on the same page. In the coming days when you forget, your spouse is the one that will remind you.
5. Do not discourage each other Don’t wear each other out with criticism and discouraging words. Do not disparage each other. Rather, invest in each other’s esteem and build yourselves up in God. Say good words and prophesy unto yourselves! It works!
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP)Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
There are several beliefs that are so popular and yet very wrong. They are as wrong as they are popular. Believing them is to the detriment of that believer.
This morning, I want to delve into some of them so you can roll them up as they come and throw them in the trash can.
Incidentally, some of them will be fed to us by precious family and friends around us. That is to the extent they know. And that is why we often believe them. However, you need to note, that irrespective of the source of an information, once it is in contradiction to the scriptures, simply throw them away.
Here is one of those beliefs;
Marriage is unnecessary in the real sense, I can just be a baby mama, have a few children and I will be okay.
Well there is nothing okay about the above scenario. It is in total contradiction to the institution of marriage that God Himself established.
Sleeping with a man because he is a celebrity or he has some money is a total departure to the principles and injunctions of the Lord as we know it.
Marriage is necessary. It helps you to contain sexual sins to a large extent.
Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.
1Co 7:2 (MSG)
Marriage is designed to contain sexual sins. Avoiding marriage while wanting to have children will sentence a person to a lifetime of adultery.
This is why a baby mama can often have children for more than one man. What can be more debilitating than that?
I will stop here this morning. See you tomorrow and have a blessed day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am decided for Jesus. I do things right.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the spirit of patience even as you keep on believing.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 7:2 (GNT) But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.
Back then, as a young man in the university, I had just fallen in love. It all looked so unique because that would be my first and incidentally, the last. I remember how I was giggling all over the place, because I was in love.
Next thing I felt like doing and which I did was to introduce her to all loved ones, friends, family and all who matter to me. It was just a natural course of action.
If you are in a relationship and your partner is reluctant to introduce you to family, then something might not be at par.
“Oh’ let’s keep it between ourselves for now.” “I don’t want anybody to know about us now.” “Give me some time, I am not ready to let my family know anything now.” “I will take you home when we are close to wedding. For now, let’s keep it low.”
While some of these statements might be genuine, a lot of them are symptomatic of non-commitment in the relationship.
You see, falling in love is not supposed to be like joining a secret cult. I believe it’s a joyful thing and whenever anything joyful happens, you want people who matter in your life to know about it.
The moment things are hidden and coded and you are just been shielded from family despite repeated promises of wedding, care need to be taken.
It is even more intense if your relationship is hidden from your pastors! The person who is hiding usually have issues with accountability or has ulterior motive and is not ready to really be committed.
The person knows telling more people will make it difficult to pull the carpet off when it is time to take off.
So, when he or she is getting secretive, you might need further counseling to get to the root of it.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to do it right and not secretly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to make the right choice.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 14:40(NKJV)Let all things be done decently and in order.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be careful of any lover who wants to love you secretly.
