Back then, as a young man in the university, I had just fallen in love. It all looked so unique because that would be my first and incidentally, the last. I remember how I was giggling all over the place, because I was in love.
Next thing I felt like doing and which I did was to introduce her to all loved ones, friends, family and all who matter to me. It was just a natural course of action.
If you are in a relationship and your partner is reluctant to introduce you to family, then something might not be at par.
“Oh’ let’s keep it between ourselves for now.”
“I don’t want anybody to know about us now.”
“Give me some time, I am not ready to let my family know anything now.”
“I will take you home when we are close to wedding. For now, let’s keep it low.”
While some of these statements might be genuine, a lot of them are symptomatic of non-commitment in the relationship.
You see, falling in love is not supposed to be like joining a secret cult. I believe it’s a joyful thing and whenever anything joyful happens, you want people who matter in your life to know about it.
The moment things are hidden and coded and you are just been shielded from family despite repeated promises of wedding, care need to be taken.
It is even more intense if your relationship is hidden from your pastors! The person who is hiding usually have issues with accountability or has ulterior motive and is not ready to really be committed.
The person knows telling more people will make it difficult to pull the carpet off when it is time to take off.
So, when he or she is getting secretive, you might need further counseling to get to the root of it.
Have a great day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I choose to do it right and not secretly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to make the right choice.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1 Cor 14:40(NKJV) Let all things be done decently and in order.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Be careful of any lover who wants to love you secretly.
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
1Tim 2
I am committed in making the right choice so help me God.
Amen