8. Guard Against Worldly Influences The world often promotes values contrary to God’s design for love and marriage—selfishness, lust, materialism, and independence. To remain two lovebirds who love God, you must intentionally resist these influences. Romans 12:2 urges us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Solution: Surround yourselves with godly influences—friends, mentors, sermons, and resources that reinforce biblical principles. Avoid media or activities that promote sinful behaviors or undermine your commitment to Christ-centered love.
9. Dream and Plan with God at the Center As you envision your future together, include God in your plans. Whether it’s career goals, family planning, or ministry aspirations, seek His will and trust His timing. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.”
Solution: Pray about major decisions and evaluate them against Scripture. Ensure that your dreams align with God’s purposes, knowing that His plans are always greater than anything you could imagine (Jeremiah 29:11).
10. Enjoy Each Other While Honoring God Loving God doesn’t mean neglecting romance or fun—it means enjoying each other within the boundaries of His design. Song of Solomon celebrates marital intimacy and affection, showing that God delights in our enjoyment of one another.
Solution: Create space for laughter, adventure, and romance. Plan date nights, write love notes, or simply spend quality time connecting. Keep physical intimacy pure and sacred, reserving it for marriage if you’re not yet wed.
Final Thought: Becoming two lovebirds who love God requires intentionality, humility, and a steadfast commitment to putting Him first in everything. As you prioritize your relationship with God, serve others together, communicate openly, and extend grace to one another, you’ll find that your love deepens and flourishes in ways that honor Him.
Remember, Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” When you add God as the third strand in your relationship, you create an unbreakable bond that reflects His love to the world.
So today, recommit yourselves to loving God wholeheartedly and loving each other sacrificially. Let your relationship be a testimony of His faithfulness and goodness, shining brightly in a world desperate for true love. After all, “Love is patient, love is kind… It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)—just as God loves us.
A relationship that thrives isn’t just about two people falling in love—it’s about two people growing together in love for each other and for God. When Christ is at the center of your relationship, you create a foundation that withstands life’s challenges and reflects His glory. Here’s how you can become two lovebirds who not only adore each other but also passionately pursue God as a couple.
1. Prioritize Your Relationship with God First Before you focus on loving each other, ensure that both of you are deeply rooted in your individual relationships with God. Jesus said in Matthew 6:33, “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” A strong spiritual connection with God enables you to love one another selflessly and faithfully.
Solution: Spend time daily in prayer, Bible study, and worship—individually and together. Encourage each other to grow spiritually and hold each other accountable to stay close to God.
2. Pray Together Regularly Prayer unites hearts like nothing else can. When you pray together, you invite God into every aspect of your relationship—your joys, struggles, dreams, and decisions. Acts 4:24 says, “When they heard this, they raised their voices together in prayer to God.”
Solution: Make prayer a regular habit. Start by thanking God for your relationship, interceding for each other’s needs, and seeking His guidance for your future. Even short prayers throughout the day can keep your bond spiritually vibrant.
3. Serve Others as a Team Serving others shifts the focus from yourselves to reflecting God’s love to the world. It strengthens your unity and deepens your shared purpose. Galatians 5:13 reminds us, “Serve one another humbly in love.”
Solution: Volunteer together at church, mentor younger couples, or participate in community outreach programs. Serving side by side fosters teamwork and gratitude for what you have as a couple.
How to Become Two Lovebirds Who Love God will be continued tomorrow.
For the next 4 weeks, we will be looking at what it means to be one flesh. To make it easier, I have made this article into a series, and today, we will start with the first part.
Part 1 – The Mystery of Oneness
When God said in Genesis 2:24, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh,” He wasn’t just talking about physical union or romance. He was revealing a divine mystery — one that reflects His own nature of unity, love, and purpose.
Marriage was God’s idea, not man’s. When He created Eve out of Adam’s rib, it wasn’t because Adam was lonely and needed company. It was because God saw that His creation was incomplete without a counterpart who would complete, not compete. Eve was not another version of Adam — she was the missing piece of his wholeness. Together, they reflected the image of God more fully.
To be one flesh, therefore, is not simply to live together or share responsibilities. It means to be joined in spirit, in purpose, and in destiny. It means that what affects one affects the other. It means there’s no “his” and “hers” — it’s “ours.” Our dreams, our struggles, our wins, our calling.
For singles, this truth invites deep preparation. It’s not enough to desire marriage; it’s important to become the kind of whole person who can merge with another whole person under God’s authority. Emotional maturity, spiritual grounding, and purpose clarity are vital. You cannot merge into one flesh if you are still fragmented within yourself.
For the married, this oneness is a lifelong journey. It doesn’t happen automatically after the wedding; it’s cultivated daily through understanding, forgiveness, communication, and prayer. It’s about consistently choosing unity even when differences arise. One flesh means we win together, we grow together, and we heal together.
The Dangers of Sexual Sins in a Relationship or Marriage
The bible makes us understand that God created sex as a beautiful gift, meant for reproduction, intimacy, and bonding within the covenant of marriage. Furthermore, we know that our bodies are not our own; they belong to God and are temples of the Holy Spirit.
When we use our bodies in ways that dishonor Him, we grieve His Spirit. Over time, if we normalize sin, our hearts can grow hard, and the consequences are grave.
God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done.Romans 1:28 (NIV)
If you’ve struggled with an addiction for years, it may feel impossible to stop, but Jesus, the Light of the world, can break even the strongest habit.
If you are a believer and find yourself trapped in sexual sin, the enemy will whisper, “It’s normal… everyone does it.” That’s a lie. Your new life in Christ is pure and righteous.
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul (1 Peter 2:11, KJV).
No sexual sin is harmless. It wars against your soul, dulls your spiritual senses, and hinders intimacy with God.
Take a moment to ask honestly: Why do I indulge in sexual sins?
Boredom or idleness? Then fill your time with purposeful activities like Bible study, prayer, service, exercise, or learning new skills.
Pornography or sexual media? If you’re trying to break free from sexual sins, yet consume sexual content, you’re feeding the very habit you’re fighting. Jesus said, “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off”. That means removing triggers without compromise.
Here are practical ways to be free from sexual sins
1. Run to Jesus first: Only He can cleanse, forgive, and give you the strength to walk in purity.
2. Replace bad habits: Read Scripture daily, join a prayer group, serve in your church. Idle hands and minds are the devil’s playground.
3. Remove triggers: Delete sexual content, unfollow tempting accounts, and get rid of romantic/pornographic books and media.
4. Confide in someone mature: Accountability is powerful.
5. Stay persistent in prayer: Victory is often a process. Keep leaning on Jesus daily.
If you are single, you need to guard your mind and eyes, use your single years to grow spiritually and in purpose, not to indulge lust, and above all, learn self-control. It’s the same discipline you’ll need in marriage.
And to the married, understand that sexual intimacy is God’s provision against sexual temptation. If you struggle with sexual sin in marriage, it may signal a deeper intimacy or communication gap. Address it together prayerfully. Also, protect your sexual bond by keeping your desire directed toward your spouse, not self-gratification.
In Ephesians 5:22-33, the Apostle Paul provides profound guidance on marriage that reflects Christ’s relationship with the Church. For husbands, the call is clear: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
This command challenges men to lead not through authority or control but through sacrificial love—a love so deep it mirrors Jesus’ ultimate sacrifice on the cross. Loving your wife means putting her needs above your own, serving her with humility, and nurturing an environment where she can flourish spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
For wives, Paul writes, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). Submission here does not imply inferiority or blind obedience; rather, it reflects trust in God’s design for order within the home.
Just as the Church submits to Christ’s leadership, a wife’s submission involves respecting and supporting her husband’s role while trusting God to guide their shared journey.
It’s important to note this mutual submission is rooted in love—both partners are called to honor one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).
These roles might seem challenging, even counter-cultural, yet they point us back to the Gospel. Husbands are reminded that true leadership looks like laying down your life—not demanding respect but earning it by loving selflessly.
Wives are encouraged to embrace submission not out of fear but from faith, trusting God’s wisdom in His design for unity and harmony.
Ultimately, these instructions aren’t about power dynamics but about reflecting God’s love story.
When husbands love sacrificially and wives submit respectfully, they create a picture of Christ’s covenantal love for His bride, the Church. As Colossians 3:14 reminds us, “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
Let us pray for marriages to reflect this divine model—that homes may be places of grace, joy, and testimony to God’s unchanging love.
Whether you’re a husband striving to love well or a wife seeking to submit faithfully, remember that God equips you to fulfill His purpose when you walk in obedience to Him.
