Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage. Lizzie Borden was an American woman who was accused of the 1892 axe murders of her father and stepmother in Fall River, Massachusetts.
Lizzie had kept a number of secrets from her husband, including a secret affair with an actor, and evidence suggested that she had been plotting to kill her father for some time. She also had a very strained relationship with her stepmother and her father, who mistreated her.
The tragic outcome of this case was due to the secrets Lizzie kept from her husband, and the fact that she was not able to confide in him about her problems. Those deaths could have been averted if she opened up to her husband!
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage
Your spouse is a support system God has created to help you out, but how do you get this support when you are secretive and averse to regular communication?
Marriage is a sacred bond between two people, and the foundation of that bond is trust and transparency. In the book of Genesis, we read that “the man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame” (Genesis 2:25).
This passage highlights the importance of being open and honest with one another in a marriage. It is a call for couples to be naked, in the sense of being vulnerable, with each other.
However, in today’s world, many couples find themselves hiding things from one another. Whether it’s a secret phone or an affair, keeping secrets can have a devastating impact on a marriage. The truth is, it takes a lot of effort to keep a secret, and that effort is often directed away from the marriage. The more you hide, the more you are opening the door to the devil to come in and destroy your marriage.
David, the king of Israel, is a prime example of this. He was a man after God’s own heart, yet he fell into the trap of adultery and murder. If he had been open and honest with his wife about his struggles, this tragic event could have been prevented.
Singles, too, should be mindful of this in courtship. If your partner is already hiding things from you, it’s a red flag that should not be ignored. Marriage will not change them, and it’s important to address these issues before taking the next step.
Honesty and transparency are key in any relationship. As a couple, it’s important to make a conscious effort to be open and sincere with each other and to seek help when needed. Remember, the devil’s greatest weapon is deception, and the more you hide, the more vulnerable you become to his attacks. Don’t let the devil come between you and your spouse, work on your relationship and be close to each other.
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage
Here are five steps that one can take to deal with keeping secrets in marriage:
Acknowledge the problem: The first step in dealing with keeping secrets in marriage is to acknowledge that there is a problem. Recognize that secrecy can be harmful to your relationship and that it is important to address it.
Identify the reasons: Identify the reasons why you are keeping secrets from your spouse. Are you afraid of their reaction? Are you ashamed or embarrassed? Understanding the underlying reasons can help you address the problem.
Communicate openly: Talk to your spouse about the secrets you are keeping and why you have been keeping them. Be honest and open about your feelings and concerns. Communication is key to building trust and intimacy in a marriage.
Seek professional help: If you find it difficult to talk to your spouse about the secrets you are keeping or if you need help addressing deeper issues, consider seeking professional counseling or therapy. A therapist can help you work through any issues that may be affecting your relationship.
Take action: Once you have identified the reasons for your secrecy and have communicated openly with your spouse, take action to address the problem. It could be something as simple as changing your behavior or it could involve making more significant changes in your life. The most important thing is to work together with your spouse to find a solution.
May God grant you strength and understanding to do the needful!
Say this Prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come to you today to ask for your protection over our marriage. We know that keeping secrets can be harmful to our relationship. We ask that you would give us the strength and the courage to be open and honest with one another. Help us to identify the reasons why we keep secrets and to address them with love and compassion. Give us the wisdom to seek professional help when needed. Guide us to take action to address the problem and to work together to find a solution. We trust in you and ask that you would protect our marriage from the devil’s attacks. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants. The love between Mr. and Mrs. Johnson has started waning! Butterflies have stopped flapping their wings in their tummies, no more anticipation and goose pimples! What are they missing? Love is the foundation of any relationship, but what does it really take to make a relationship thrive? In this devotional, we will explore the essential wants of couples and how understanding these needs can lead to a fulfilling and long-lasting partnership.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants.
1. Love
1Co 13:13 (GNB) Meanwhile these three remain: faith, hope, and love; and the greatest of these is love.
Love is one of the most important things that couples want from one another, as it is the foundation of any relationship. This kind of love is characterized by patience, kindness, selflessness, and forgiveness.
How do you show love?
a. Actions: Examples are cooking a meal for them, doing a household chore, or planning a surprise date. b. Words: Expressing your feelings, and giving compliments deliberately c. Listening: Giving them your full attention, and practicing empathic listening.
2. Respect
Eph 5:33 (GNB) But it also applies to you: every husband must love his wife as himself, and every wife must respect her husband.
This means treating one another with kindness, consideration, and dignity and not belittling or speaking down to each other.
How do you show respect?
a.Words: Use polite language, avoid name-calling, and speak kindly. b. Actions: Ask for their opinions, and value their ideas and feelings. c. Boundaries: Not invading their space during work deadlines or intense studies and being sensitive to special moments.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants.
3. Support
Pro 31:11-12 (MSG) Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. [12] Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.
This means being a source of strength and encouragement, helping each other when needed, and being willing to listen and understand feelings.
How do you give support?
a. Actions: Being there when they needed, helping with tasks, and being a sounding board for ideas and feelings. b. Words: Tell your partner that you believe in them, that you are proud of them, and that you will be there for them. This can be very powerful. c. Active listening: Listening to your partner when they talk, not interrupting, and being understanding.
4. Honesty:
Proverbs 12:22 Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.
Couples want to be in a relationship built on trust, and for them to be honest. This means being truthful in words and actions, and not hiding things or keeping secrets.
How do you show honesty?
a. Words: Being truthful in what you say, not hiding things, and being transparent in your actions. b. Actions: Being consistent in what you say and do, and being accountable for your actions. c. Transparency: Being open about your thoughts, feelings, and actions and being willing to share information with your partner.
5. Faithfulness:
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Everybody wants their partner to be faithful to them. This means remaining committed to the relationship and not engaging in physical or emotional infidelity.
How do you show faithfulness?
a. Words: Tell your partner that you are committed to their relationship and that you will be loyal. b. Actions: Avoid situations that may lead to infidelity, such as spending time alone with someone you are attracted to, and being physically and emotionally intimate only with your spouse. Note that physical intimacy is not for singles! c. Boundaries: Setting clear boundaries for what is and isn’t acceptable in the relationship, and being aware of potential temptations.
I will stop here this morning! I hope you are blessed.
What are the new things you learned? Drop comments and let me know!
Infidelity Types You Might Not Know. I throw families into disarray. I bring chaos and agony into marriages. I alter the trajectory of destines of children within the families. My name is infidelity!
We looked at physical infidelity yesterday. This morning, we take an excursion into Infidelity Types You Might Not Know
Physical Infidelity We already explained this yesterday
Emotional infidelity: Emotional infidelity occurs when a partner forms a deep emotional connection with someone other than their partner. This type of infidelity can be just as damaging as physical infidelity because it involves a betrayal of trust and intimacy.
The scripture equated it with the actual infidelity
Mat 5:28 (KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Cyber infidelity: Cyber infidelity is when a partner engages in online sexual or romantic relationships with someone other than their partner. This can include sexting, messaging, or video chatting with someone they are attracted to.
Most people do this on their phones and it is equally damaging to any marriage
Financial infidelity: Financial infidelity occurs when a partner is dishonest about money matters or engages in financial deception. This can include hiding financial assets or spending money without their partner’s knowledge or consent.
This is so common and people often have different excuses for indulging in this type of infidelity, however, what is wrong is wrong!
Infidelity Types You Might Not Know
Sexual addiction: Sexual addiction is considered as a form of infidelity, where one partner is compulsively seeking sexual gratification outside of the relationship.
This obviously requires no explanation.
Fantasy infidelity: Fantasy infidelity occurs when a partner engages in sexual or romantic fantasies about someone other than their partner. This can include fantasizing about someone they see in real life or online, or engaging in virtual relationships that are not real but still emotionally damaging.
Fantasy infidelity seems safe because it is mostly in the realm of thoughts, but don’t forget we always move in the direction of our most dominant thoughts.
Workplace infidelity: Workplace infidelity occurs when a partner forms a romantic or sexual relationship with someone they work with. This type of infidelity is common and can cause problems both at work and in the relationship.
Pornography addiction: Pornography addiction is also considered as a form of infidelity, where one partner is compulsively seeking sexual gratification through watching pornography, this can lead to emotional disconnection and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
Social media infidelity: Social media infidelity is when a partner engages in romantic or sexual interactions with someone through social media platforms. This can include flirting, sexting, or messaging with someone they are attracted to.
Religious Infidelity: This type of infidelity occurs within a church or mosque. The one being looked upon to care for the souls of men and women decides to desecrate their bodies. A form of manipulation is involved, drawing God’s wrath like no other.
Mar 9:42 (MSG) “On the other hand, if you give one of these simple, childlike believers a hard time, bullying or taking advantage of their simple trust, you’ll soon wish you hadn’t. You’d be better off dropped in the middle of the lake with a millstone around your neck.
Having identified Infidelity Types You Might Not Know, how does one get out of infidelity?
Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity. Infidelity is a family destroyer. This morning, we begin to attempt to save families by breaking down different kinds of infidelity and then attempting to explain them while also enumerating steps to be taken to stop infidelity.
We begin with physical infidelity. Physical infidelity is when a partner engages in sexual activity with someone other than their partner. This type of infidelity is considered the most traditional and recognizable form of cheating.
Here the line has been crossed and sexual activity is involved. What are the pointers that physical infidelity might be going on?
Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity
Before I go on, be reminded that our meetings will be taken place today on SINGLES and COUPLES Hubs respectively on WhatsApp. If you are not yet on our WhatsApp Community, join HERE to be able to participate tonight,
Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity, Here are pointers.
1. Radical changes in behavioral pattern A partner may start to act differently, such as becoming more secretive or distant, if they are engaging in physical infidelity.
2. Changes in physical appearance A partner may start to pay more attention to their physical appearance or dress differently if they are trying to attract someone else. A sharp contrast in general appearance may be a pointer.
3. Unusual spending habits A partner may start to spend money on new clothes, jewelry, or other gifts for someone else if they are engaging in physical infidelity.
4. Unexpected lateness or absconding A partner may start to make excuses for being away from home or stay away longer than usual if they are engaging in physical infidelity.
5. Suspicious phone or computer activity A partner may start to receive more calls or messages than usual or be secretive about their phone or computer activities if they are engaging in physical infidelity. Chats may be deleted and calls may be taken away from partner.
Please note that you cannot just take one or two scenarios and then jump to conclusion that your spouse is involved in infidelity.
Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity. Let’s take a look at a few ways to stop infidelity.
1. Establish trust and intimacy Building trust and intimacy in a relationship can help prevent infidelity from happening.
2. Communicate openly and honestly Communication is key to understanding each other’s needs, feelings, and concerns.
3. Set boundaries Setting clear boundaries and expectations can help both partners understand what is and isn’t acceptable in the relationship.
4. Seek counseling A therapist or counselor can help couples work through underlying issues that may be contributing to infidelity.
5. Work on the relationship It’s important to actively work on the relationship by spending quality time together, understanding each other’s needs and showing appreciation for each other.
6. Be aware of potential temptations Being aware of potential temptations and avoiding situations that may lead to infidelity can also help prevent it from happening.
7. Be willing to forgive and move on If infidelity has occurred, it is important to be willing to forgive and move on.
It’s important to keep in mind that infidelity can be a complex issue and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Each couple’s situation may require different steps, some may take time and effort to rebuild trust and intimacy, while others may need to seek professional help.
All in all, pray a lot and pay attention to your marriage.
The Most Incredible Article About Infidelity You’ll Ever Read. Most homes have been thrown into disarray! Things have fallen apart in most families, and the center could not hold, because a man or woman would not hold their “center” in check!
Sex, which is one of the greatest gifts God has given to man, has been misused, abused, and has become a tool for manipulation, and witchcraft in the quest for man to satisfy his lust.
The Most Incredible Article About Infidelity
The abortion tables remain red, the surgeon’s scalpels active, and most lives snuffed out before seeing the light of day. Destinies wrecked by traumatic sexual encounters and unmentionable types of sexual abuse before the age of accountability! Marriages are in limbo because man has failed to be satiated with their spouses.
Infidelity is as common as humanity but equally as dangerous as it comes! Ever chew gravel before? This is what the Holy writ likens infidelity to!
Pro 20:17 (MSG) Stolen bread tastes sweet, but soon your mouth is full of gravel.
The sweetness of that which lies in the regions of the waist is never denied, but also the pain and agony which is morphed from the sweetness are laid to bare!
This morning, I am not here to judge you in any way! I am not God! But I will attempt to show you types of infidelity in case you are trapped without “knowing”
I want to talk about ten types of infidelity from today and the coming days! The list is not exhaustive, though!
Physical infidelity
Emotional infidelity:
Cyber infidelity
Financial infidelity
Sexual addiction
Fantasy infidelity
Workplace infidelity
Pornography addiction
Social media infidelity
Religious Infidelity
The Most Incredible Article About Infidelity
God actually calls infidelity something “stupid!” Why? I guess because of the chaos, agony, pain, loss of peace, and many more that it brings to your spouse and the children! Yes, it is that intense!
Take a look: Pro 6:32-33 (KJV) [32] But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. [33] A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
Oops! This is is punchy and biting! But it’s the truth!
Look at the choice of words:
Lacks understanding
Destroys his own soul
Wound and Dishonour gift
Persistent reproach!
Sure you don’t want all these!
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Pro 6:32-33 (MSG) 32] Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; [33] Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.
Now, think deeply about this. The word of God has life, so as you think on this, a conviction will set in and when it does, take action!
Quit with the side chick! Stop taking calls from that man! Stop the fantasy journeys of the mind!
Disconnect from that man or woman! Physical or emotional infidelity, God equates them as the same!
Remember, it is soul-destroying! In other words, it’s like a person wants to destroy himself or herself!
Tomorrow and the next few days, I will attempt to show you the types of infidelity that occurs in marriages. Perhaps, you don’t even know it’s infidelity and you are just having fun? Well, jump in from tomorrow! Don’t miss them!
Ensure you use REVIVE prayers below especially if you are dealing with any type of infidelity!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose. There are no two ways to it, you are either a joyful being and you keep winning or you like traversing the land of depression and discouragement and you lose by default!
You will not lose! You have to decide to enjoy this journey while on it and stay joyful!
The regular happenstances seemed to be designed to bring heartaches; jilting experiences, heartbreaks, disappointments, quarrels, betrayals, emotional affairs, full-blown affairs, side chick matters, habitual cheats, and so on…
So you might seem justified to have a lousy day…but listen to me, staying sad will make you lose more, can affect your health, and steal your progress!
Decide to be happy and fun to be with!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose.
You will not lose! We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we will be looking at the last one which is Fun!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose.
Even God wants you joyful! You see, that joy is your strength! Looking morose draws tiredness and weariness!
God commands you to get up and be joyful! Take a look:
Isa 60:1 (KJV) Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee.
Now you need to read this in the Amplified version!
Isa 60:1 (AMPC) ARISE [from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you–rise to a new life]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you!
Arise! Yes, you went through this and that! You are not alone in that bracket!
Don’t let the devil push you into a corner of regret where your destiny becomes immobilized!
Decide to enjoy your relationship instead of it being riddled with daily quarrels.
Couples, your own can even be funny! You are married to that guy or lady!
Why build your family home on depression street, sadness avenue?
It just doesn’t make sense!
Have fun in that marriage! It’s a choice!
Forgive quickly, don’t quarrel over everything, don’t be a sadistic person, and don’t allow your past to cripple your present moment!
Learn to draw joy from God’s word!
Learn to dance all by yourself when things seem they are going awry!
Learn to slot in some music and dance all any yourself to your victory!
Stop sulking. Stop murmuring. Stop complaining. Start living! Learn to laugh, dance, and praise God in the midst of crisis! You will come out in victory when you learn to do that!
Pro 5:18 (GNB) So be happy with your wife and find your joy with the woman you married
Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life. Dear husband, when you kneel before that beautiful lady and proposed to her, either literally or otherwise, what do you think you were offering her in totality? It was your commitment!
Dear wife, when you decided to walk down the aisle, forsaking your father’s name and taking another man’s own, joyfully and with indescribable ecstasy, what do you think you were giving him? It was your commitment!
Dear handsome single guy, when you kept wooing that lady and won’t leave her alone, what do you think she is actually looking for? Your commitment!
Dear beurry potato! What do you think you will give him that will bind you together in an unflinching manner? Your commitment!
Today we are talking about commitment in relationships and marriage!
We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Commitment! Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life
Let’s see how commitment makes all the difference in creating a strong married life and some tips on how to stay committed to yourselves.
What Does Commitment Look Like?
When considering what being truly committed looks like in a marriage, one must consider aspects beyond loyalty and love – factors such as trustworthiness; communication; joining each other’s interests; appreciation of family members; standing up for each other during challenging situations; spending quality time together – regardless of routines imposed by society or culture…all of which strengthen bonds within any type of relationship! When couples commit to these principles, they create an atmosphere where differences cease to exist because respect keeps everything from crumbling down.
God wants you and your loved one to be forever committed to each other and warned any intruder from pulling you apart! That is how much God wanted it! You can rightly say that God is committed to your commitment!
Mat 19:4-6 (MSG) [4] He answered, “Haven’t you read in your Bible that the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female? [5] And because of this, a man leaves father and mother and is firmly bonded to his wife, becoming one flesh—no longer two bodies but one. [6] Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate his art by cutting them apart.”
Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life
Committing fully to your marital partner will significantly improve relationships on many levels including mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
What are Tips For Developing And Maintaining Healthy Marital Commitment
Make time for yourself – It takes energy to remain constantly focused on others so it is important for couples to create intentional “me time for reflection, recreation, and relaxation.
Celebrate small wins. Rejoice with the wife of your youth. Be grateful for who God has given you as a spouse or lover
Stop focusing on the negatives, rather focus on the good things and good qualities of your spouse.
Do not attack one another. Be quick to appreciate yourselves and be slow to criticize yourselves!
Stay faithful and focused. Avoid distractions and do not desecrate your marital covenant knowing that God is the ultimate witness in your marriage!
These tips help in staying committed to one another!
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage. Two people cannot walk together or work together unless they are in agreement, alignment and cooperation! Nobody plows a farm with one ox going forward while the other is going backward. In every facet of life, cooperation is needed to succeed.
We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Cooperation.
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
Whether married or in a relationship, it’s important for couples to work together as one unit if they want their marriage to last. Here’s how cooperation between you and your partner can help strengthen the bond of your union:
Support Each Other Through Difficult Times
During challenging times, spouses should lean on each other for support rather than competing against each other. Even though couples may sometimes disagree over certain issues, being able to talk things through calmly and rationally is key when trying to get back on the same page after an argument. Supporting each other during difficult times will make any couple stronger in the end.
During difficult times or when you are having challenges, don’t blame each other! You are already going through some difficulties, don’t add more to them but rather harness the power of agreement and pray together! You’ve got to cooperate!
Mat 18:19 (MSG) When two of you get together on anything at all on earth and make a prayer of it, my Father in heaven goes into action.
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
2. Get Involved In Each Other’s Tasks
Couples should collaborate with each other on both domestic tasks like cooking dinner, taking care of children, or doing chores around the house and also spend time enjoying activities together such as going out for date nights every week/month or watching movies/shows that interest them both at home etc. This type of involvement not only shows appreciation toward one another but leads to a better understanding of what matters most for them. You must be deliberate in cooperating with one another and shut out the devil from your marriage!
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
3. Set Aside Disagreements For Mutual Goal Accomplishment
Do not allow continuous petty disagreements to mess up your family and financial goals. You don’t have to reply to every statement made by your lover or spouse and you don’t have to answer every question bluntly! Remember what the scripture says about soft answers?
Pro 15:1 (KJV) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Take a look at The Message Translation
Pro 15:1 (MSG) A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
Ensure that your overall goal is not tampered with and that no strife or animosity is retained.
Cooperate together at all times so you that can enjoy yourselves together!
Good morning!
Cooperation is A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage. Use REVIVE Day 17 prayers below!
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse. I often wondered which planet my spouse came from after my wedding! Interestingly, there is this thing that tells you before the wedding that you know your loved one through and through! Ha Ha Ha! I laugh in the Holy Ghost. Wait till you are married! Don’t believe that thing o!
I will attempt to address both single and married. The subject of understanding one’s spouse is so key in any relationship or marriage!
Why do you even need to understand one another? It’s simple, you are so different from one another. Opinions, perspectives, leanings, and preferences will be so diverse you will often wonder how your significant other is thinking!
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
When God wanted to stop the progress of super brilliant humans while building the Tower of Babel, of which God Himself testified that they will achieve their goal, He went for their “understanding!”
Gen 11:7 (KJV) Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not UNDERSTAND one another’s speech.
When the devil wants to tinker with your relationship or marriage, he tries to touch your “understanding!”
You must make effort to understand one another!
You need to understand that your lover or spouse wants to be understood. There is a need for everybody to be understood.
Oh yeah, most women don’t even understand themselves, and yet they want their husbands to understand them, is that not unfair?
Well, you need to know that all your wife wants is to feel that you are willing to understand her.
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
In other to understand one another, you must have a listening ear! You must be able to put yourself in the shoes of your spouse!
Stop saying you already know what they want to say! Are you the Holy Spirit? Let them talk! And Listen!
Listen with eyeball-to-eyeball contact. Put your phones aside. Show that you care!
After your lover has spoken, regurgitate the words back to show you really got the message!
Make sure you reply with sentences explaining what you thought they have just said.
Don’t just say ok!
Ok? Lol…
God bless you today!
Use REVIVE prayers below to pray on Understanding your lover or spouse!
Assignment For How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
Ask your spouse to list three ways they feel you don’t understand them or three ways they feel you need to understand them more.
How To Be Honest With Your Spouse. Honesty! It is one of the secrets of a successful relationship and marriage! Are you aware that most relationships broke, and most marriages are terminated because one or both spouses were not honest? Oh yes!
Why is this so crucial? I will tell you! It is because honesty strengthens marriages by strengthening trust!
Trust is so pivotal to any successful marriage, that you can’t trifle with it! What makes trust real is honesty!
We have been looking at ten qualities that all singles and couples will need in their relationship or marriage
Trust
Communication
Respect
Love
Affection
Honesty
Understanding
Cooperation
Commitment
Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Honesty! How To Be Honest With Your Spouse
For singles, the greatest blessing you can have is to be in love with someone who is honest! It will eliminate unnecessary hassles and heartache. If you have not met anybody yet, you can begin to pray for this quality! God answers prayers!
You won’t have to discover shocking things after the wedding because your lover would have opened up to you before then.
It can be frustrating to keep discovering some new funny things every other day in marriage.
For couples, be honest in every area! Take a look at this scripture.
Eze 45:10 (MSG) Use honest scales—honest weights and honest measures.
A scale is a system used to measure. The weight is what you measure. The measures are the units that express weight!
God said everything must be honest! What this portends is that there should be total honesty in every area of your life.
There shouldn’t be honesty in certain areas while other areas are shrouded in mystery.
The problem with that is that one day, every secret will be discovered and at that point, hearts are broken, trust is shattered, and these are not good experiences for any relationship or marriage.
Php 4:8 (KJV) Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest…
Let this scripture regulate your relationship and marriage and you will have less heartache!
If trust is broken already and there are crises, take time to start building trust back by being honest!
Each lie told after a broken trust is like an arrow being thrown into a festering wound!
Decide to be truthful, particularly when you think about the spiritual implication!
Pro 6:16-17 (KJV) These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: [17] A proud look, A LYING TONGUE…
Joh 8:44 (KJV) Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
Notice the connection between lust and lies here!
Say with me, I am of God, and God is my father! I speak the truth at all times and I have a honest heart!
This is How to Be Honest With Your Spouse. Have a great day and may your week be blessed!
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We have a great time yesterday on the Singles’ hub and Couples’ hub! The compilation will be available soon!
The Hidden Benefits of Affection. The word “affection” naturally comes across as something tender, desirable, and with an air of fondness. I remember back then in high school when you use the word “affectionate” for a girl, you really love that girl.
You can’t be in love with someone without being affectionate, but you can be affectionate without being in love!
We have been looking at ten qualities that all singles and couples will need in their relationship or marriage!
Trust
Communication
Respect
Love
Affection
Honesty
Understanding
Cooperation
Commitment
Fun
Today we are looking at the next one which is “Affection!” The Hidden Benefits of Affection
Before I go on, a quick announcement. Today is that exciting weekly meeting for singles and married on WhatsApp!
Below are details of the meeting, kindly help us send fliers and community links to as many as you can so we can reach more people! Last week, was such a blessing from the feedback we got! And guess what? I will personally be taking both singles and couples’ sessions respectively. Below the page, you will see a youtube link to last week’s edition.
Find details and materials below:
SINGLES HUB
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Back to our devotional. The Hidden Benefits of Affection
We looked at love yesterday. Is there a difference? Yes, there is. Love is very deep and it’s a commitment. Love is at the very foundation of any successful relationship and marriage.
However, affection can be described as love displayed. Affection is the resulting feeling arising from love.
For example, you should not fall in love with a same-sex, as you fall in love with your spouse, but it is possible to have affection towards the same sex. You can also have affection for siblings and parents. See an example
2Pe 1:7 (AMPC) And in [exercising] godliness [develop] brotherly affection, and in [exercising] brotherly affection [develop] Christian love.
Now bringing this into our relationship and marriage, we are supposed to have affection for our fiancé or spouse!
Affection will help you demonstrate your love to your loved one.
Affection is a gentle feeling of fondness and likeness, caring and kindness towards your spouse.
So, notice here that affection is a behavioral display.
For example, a parent disciplining his child is showing love, even though the child can’t see any love because he doesn’t understand. It is called tough love. However, in other, for this discipline or reprimand to be effective, affection must be displayed in the midst of that tough love.
This is what couples have to understand.
I learned this too. There must be a melange of affection and tough love before correction can be effective.
Start showing affection by fondness, playing, gisting, talking, touching, hugging at every opportunity, smiling, and whatever you can do!
Affection is needed to keep the fire burning! These are some of The Hidden Benefits of Affection
Start today by asking your loved one to list five ways they want affection shown to them. Use REVIVE prayers below to pray Affection into your marriage.
Am I In Love Or Not? Love is so powerful in its attributes, sacrifice, indescribable kindness, and benevolence that God adopted it as His nomenclature.
There are different kinds of love, Eros, Philos, and Agape. Agape is the unconditional love upon which marriage is based. Only this unconditional love can guarantee a marriage that will last. In another way, you can also say there is lust, passion, and commitment.
Why is agape or unconditional love the ultimate? It is so simple, the frailty of man will ensure that your partner will often offend you or step on your toes, sometimes deliberately, sometimes ignorantly and sometimes to prove a point. It takes Agape to keep forgiving.
We started looking at ten qualities that should be in every relationship some days back.
1. Trust 2. Communication 3. Respect 4. Love 5. Affection 6. Honesty 7. Understanding 8. Cooperation 9. Commitment 10. Fun
Today, we continue with the next which is Love
Am I In Love Or Not? How do you even love?
I will attempt, in an inexhaustive way to highlight some qualities that show love and that do not show love. This will go for singles and married except in a few cases, which will be noted.
Am I In Love Or Not?
Pray for each other
Do you pray for that loved one? Do you pray rather than condemn? Your deep-seated love will often be expressed in committing that loved one regularly to God. You become each other’s intercessor and genuinely watch out for one another. When you forget to pray or you don’t even pray for your loved one, that love needs “servicing!”
Am I In Love Or Not?
Pay for each other
Love gives! The one you love is really the one you want to spend for, sometimes at your expense! Love is so much interested in making the other person comfortable. Do you say you love that person and you never bought anything for them? Your love is in doubt nine, not cloud nine!
Am I In Love Or Not?
Play with each other
Love wants to stay in fun with that loved one. Love wants to talk, gist, play, laugh together and spend time with each other. When you detest communication, when you hardly laugh, when you claim loneliness right in the midst of your loved one, that love is contaminated, that love has been compromised and that love has been negotiated.
When last did you laugh together? That is one of the expressions of deep-seated love. That childish, innocent, hard belly laugh, till some drop of tear come out of the corner of your eye! That is love.
1Co 13:4-8 (MSG) [4] Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, [5] Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, [6] Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, [7] Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. [8] Love never dies.
Signs there is no more love
Am I In Love Or Not?
The butterflies are no longer found
When the wings of the butterflies have been broken, their jokes that used to make you reel in laughter now irritate you. The once-creative jokes are now dumb and stupid. Love has flown away to a far far land!
Am I In Love Or Not?
When the bedroom fire dies
For couples, sex used to be explosive and satisfying, but now you could be reading a novel while at it. The love is evaporated.
For singles, when it is all about sex, with some sprinkles of manipulation that “there is nothing wrong, everybody is doing it” then you know that it is not based on love, but on sex and such relationships will not last.
3. When love is based on money
This love can’t endure. What happens when he or she goes broke? Love evaporates.
Heb 13:5 (CEV) Don’t fall in love with money. Be satisfied with what you have. The Lord has promised that he will not leave us or desert us.
There are more but I will stop here this morning! Use REVIVE prayers below to intercede true love back into your relationship and marriage.
Respect Can Turn Your Marriage Around. Relationships and marriages thrive because those involved are deliberate. Nothing just happens, as Bishop T.D. Jakes would always say. There is always cause and effect A dating and courtship situation doesn’t just morph into marriage like in a painting with strokes of the brush. A good marriage is not automatic.
We started looking at ten qualities that should be in every relationship
1. Trust 2. Communication 3. Respect 4. Love 5. Affection 6. Honesty 7. Understanding 8. Cooperation 9. Commitment 10. Fun
Yesterday we looked at the first two. Today, we continue with the next!
3. Respect
Respect Can Turn Your Marriage Around. Mutual respect is key in every marriage! I usually tell singles, that man that they can’t respect is the man they should never marry!
Respect should be both ways in marriage, but respect is more of an issue for the man!
Do you know when you respect your spouse, you won’t dabble in emotional affairs, not to talk of full-blown affairs?
It is disrespect to your spouse and the marriage covenant, and ultimately to God when you harbour, nurse, and pursue feelings, leading to affairs with anybody aside from your spouse!
Heb 13:4 (CEV) Have respect for marriage. Always be faithful to your partner, because God will punish anyone who is immoral or unfaithful in marriage.
Some ladies have perennial issues in marriage because they simply don’t understand what respect is in marriage.
They were never taught growing up. All they watched growing up is parents fighting and mum talking down at dad every time.
The modeling they saw growing up becomes tattooed in their brain and they unwittingly treat their husband even worse. They come into the marriage with attitudes, always defensive and unable to cooperate in marriage. Within, they struggle and feel that cooperating, adapting, and submitting to one’s is servitude or stupidity.
Conversely, some husbands are also unable to respect their wives. All they observed growing up is dad ordering mum around like a slave. All they saw was dad barking out instructions and sometimes “decking” mum with fatherly blows!
They come into marriage, with that notion. God help them if they marry a wife who is equally stubborn and recalcitrant! That marriage will not last!
The only hope then is a renewal of mind from the scriptures! Respect Can Turn Your Marriage Around
Both parties have to follow the word. They have to die to themselves! They have to be “stupid” for things to work sometimes.
It is not every statement that must be replied to. It is not every angry word you match fire for fire. That is why the Scripture says
Pro 15:1 (MSG) A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
It is not every utterance you must meditate on and expand till it explodes your relationship and marriage!
Let me stop here this morning! I will continue tomorrow. Use REVIVE video below to pray on what you’ve just read! Good morning!
Ten Undisputable Qualities You Must Have. The qualities we imbibe in our relationship or marriage in deliberate ways are what will be responsible for our overall health in that relationship or marriage! I want to quickly identify this morning ten qualities that should be in every relationship and marriage! They include:
1. Trust 2. Communication 3. Respect 4. Love 5. Affection 6. Honesty 7. Understanding 8. Cooperation 9. Commitment 10. Fun
Let’s discuss this briefly! Ten Undisputable Qualities You Must Have
Trust
This is the backbone of every relationship and marriage
Pro 31:11 (MSG) Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it.
Trust should be both ways in marriage! Protect that trust by not violating it repeatedly! Once trust is broken repeatedly, it becomes a loophole for the devil to initiate more chaos! Our relationships and marriages will not be chaotic in Jesus’ name!
Ten Undisputable Qualities You Must Have
2. Communication
How can I emphasize the importance of this one? It is so crucial!
Marital communication can improve the health of your relationship by bringing you and your spouse closer together.
Also, on a personal level, talking to your partner about your problems and wishes can help reduce your stress. It can help you sort out your feelings without worrying about the future.
Don’t bring temperament into marriage and then keep saying you are the quiet type. So who is the talking type? Relationships and especially marriage should be a place where you are excited to share and talk constantly.
Also, it is communication that will help you build trust eventually.
Stop thinking your spouse or lover will just know things without talking! It is only the Holy Spirit that has that capacity and your lover or spouse is none of that! Laugh together! Rejoice together! Talk freely with one another!
When you communicate, conflicts are resolved! When you internalize, you are a breeding ground for offense because the devil will ensure he expands the issue in your thought realm till you actually come into a place where you begin to hate and get irritated at the one you are supposed to love!
Don’t allow that in your relationship or marriage! These are two of Ten Undisputable Qualities You Must Have
3 Tips for Finding and Keeping True Love. This is for both single and married. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to the question of how to find a spouse, but there are some things that everyone should keep in mind when looking for love.
First, it is essential to be open to the possibility of love. Secondly, it is important to meet new people and to get out of your comfort zone. Finally, it is essential to be patient and prayerful.
How to Find a Spouse: 3 Tips for Finding and Keeping True Love
If you’re wondering how to find a spouse, you’re not alone. The search for true love is a journey many people go on, and it can be difficult, especially without God But, if you keep the following three things in mind, you’ll be well on your way to finding the partner of your dreams.
3 Tips for Finding and Keeping True Love
1. Be open to the possibility of love.
Too often, people get caught up in finding the perfect partner and end up closing themselves off from the possibilities that are right in front of them. It’s important to be open to the idea of love, even if you don’t think the person you’re currently with is the one. You do this without being emotional or suggestive. You never know when love will find you. Most often, we have allowed our past love failures, broken relationships, and broken hearts, to close up the fact that true love exists. You have to be open and believe in God without compromise. Allow God to do a new thing!
Isa 43:19 (MSG) Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands.
As married couples, let go of past mistakes and errors and be open to the possibilities of a new day in your marriage! Don’t dig up the past all the time for that will surely hinder your love from growing!
3 Tips for Finding and Keeping True Love
2. Get out of your comfort zone.
Oftentimes, the people we end up falling in love with are those that we never would have thought to give a second glance. That’s why it’s important to meet new people and get out of your comfort zone. You never know who you’ll meet or where you’ll find love. You can’t be praying for a spouse while you stay in your room all the time. You have to go where you can be found, for example, decent social gatherings, meetings with friends, and so on. Clubs, wild parties, and the likes are the wrong places to look for a spouse!
Pro 13:20 (CEV) Wise friends make you wise, but you hurt yourself by going around with fools.
For married couples, create fun in your marriage. Do new things together. Be creative in the bedroom without toying with perversions. Enjoy yourselves and avoid continual tantrums and quarrels
3 Tips for Finding and Keeping True Love
3. Be patient and prayerful
The right person will come along when the time is right. Just remember to keep your trust in God, and the rest will fall into place.
Stay prayed up. Prayers have a way of protecting you from falling into traps!
Luk 22:40 (MSG) When they arrived at the place, he said, “Pray that you don’t give in to temptation.”
As married couples, never underestimate the power of prayers! Pray in other to keep the devil off your marital turf! Rather than get hurt all the time and stay in strife, learn to have conversations with God!
The Rise of The Watchmen. I come to Kisses and Huggs Club this morning as a watchman, and I speak to some of you as watchmen.
I come this morning blowing the trumpet and sounding an alarm upon this land regarding pre-marital sex and other perversions. There is war upon the land! There is aggression from hell marching vigorously to render the marriage covenant useless and make rubbish of sexual purity.
The enemy is advancing. I hear the sound of the trumpet. The Rise of The Watchmen
Eze 33:3-7 (MSG) and if the watchman sees war coming and blows the trumpet, warning the people, [4] then if anyone hears the sound of the trumpet and ignores it and war comes and takes him off, it’s his own fault. [5] He heard the alarm, he ignored it—it’s his own fault. If he had listened, he would have saved his life. [6] “‘But if the watchman sees war coming and doesn’t blow the trumpet, warning the people, and war comes and takes anyone off, I’ll hold the watchman responsible for the bloodshed of any unwarned sinner.’ [7] “You, son of man, are the watchman. I’ve made you a watchman for Israel. The minute you hear a message from me, warn them.
I am here to warn you. I saw what Daddy Freeze wrote in response to a certain instance on social media and saying the Bible is not against premarital sex.
War in the land! How many people slept with each other and broke their sanctity on the days when this sound was made?
Most of the conclusions on social media are sadly unscriptural and straight from hell. The sound coming from social media is muffled and confused. A deliberate attempt to confuse a generation that is within confusion already. A generation beleaguered with sexual looseness, intricately woven together in a trilogy of lust, power, and mammon spirit.
You cannot draw the truth from social media! Do you want the truth? Go back to the beginning. The law of Moses came with some permissions. Jesus summarized the drama when he said
Mat 19:8 (KJV) …but from the beginning it was not so.
Whatever lapses you see in Old Testament came through the law. To get the truth, we go back to Adam and Eve.
Sex at random, pre-marital sex, one-night stands, and the like will remain a stench to heaven. Oral sex, anal sex, and all the cousins will remain a sin! Technology and AI will not later that!
As a watchman, talking to watchmen, hear the voice of the Lord this day! The Rise of The Watchmen
Eze 33:26 (MSG) You rely on the sword, you engage in obscenities, you indulge in sex at random—anyone, anytime. And you still expect to own this land?’
To own your portion in this land, to fulfill God’s counsel, to preserve your soul, sex at random and other perversions will remain a sin.
I have done my job as a watchman this morning. Do your job as a watchman as well.
Stop sleeping with your fiancée. You are not married yet. Stop desecrating her if you really love her. Stop twisting the scriptures to feed your lust.
Stay faithful to your spouse. Small girls with big gods will end up in regrets, both the gods and the girls.
What does God want? The Rise of The Watchmen
Eze 33:11 (MSG) “Tell them, ‘As sure as I am the living God, I take no pleasure from the death of the wicked. I want the wicked to change their ways and live. Turn your life around! Reverse your evil ways! Why die, Israel?’
Thus saith the Lord this morning, “Turn your life around! Reverse your evil ways! Why die?
You will not die in Jesus’ name, because you will not ignore this sound.
Now as watchmen, go ahead and make the right sound. It is our responsibility to release the right sound from heaven to swallow up every sound of sexual perversion!
Bedroom Matters For Singles and Married. The Johnsons have been married for six years, but their bedroom stories have been unpleasant, to say the least. One thinks the other has too much voracious sexual appetite for a human being, while the other is amazed at how one can be so disinterested in that area. So conflicts arose from the inner chambers that seeped into the living room and even followed them to work, affecting workplace productivity. Oh I forgot, vulnerabilities increased, and along with that came the biting of forbidden fruits, which later morphed into gravels in their mouths. The pain came upon their marital dentition, foaming in the mouth and grinding of teeth resulted from the libido mismatch! Needless to say, their carelessness and ignorance in the bedroom became the pedestal upon which other issues were predicated.
On the other hand, Sally who is single and desperate wanted a wedding so much that she felt for the bait of “you can’t find a man who will not ask for pre-marital sex!”
Who says? When was the census conducted? Bedroom Matters For Singles and Married
Did I hear that a certain man was asking for scriptures that show fornication is a sin? Oh, that is not clear enough? How far and crazy can it get?
Where is the scripture that tells us that we should go to the toilet and poo? Where is the scripture that tells us that we should not use rat poison as an ingredient to cook our food? Where is the Scripture that says we would go to University or college?
We often use the scripture to validate or excuse our bond with iniquity! It is like playing a sport with one’s destiny! Some things are too clear in the scripture!
Fornication will always remain a sin, it will not change. Technology and AI will not change that. The high number of compromisers and end-time teachers will not change that as well.
To the married, you are to enjoy your spouse! Your body belongs to one another! We treated this extensively on our Whatsapp Community yesterday and we will continue in the next meeting! From oral stuff to anal adventures, we treated them yesterday!
1Co 7:2-5 (MKJV) [2] But, because of the fornications, let each have his own wife, and let each have her own husband. [3] Let the husband give to the wife proper kindness, and likewise the wife also to the husband. [4] The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband. And likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife. [5] Do not deprive one another, unless it is with consent for a time, so that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer. And come together again so that Satan does not tempt you for your incontinence.
Bedroom Matters For Singles and Married
To the single, keep your chastity! If chastity has been blown apart, retrace your steps and make things right! You cannot be offering your body all over the place and be so generous when you are not an NGO! Keep yourselves. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit!
Why You Can’t Tolerate Bitterness. The Johnsons have been married for six good years! But they have not been good to themselves. Mrs. Johnson got to discover some things about her husband and she became livid with anger.
Different times of confrontations with her husband yielded nothing other than strong denial.
Her anger, attitude, and subtle withdrawal as a result of trust broken and stubborn denial further aggravated Mr. Johnson because he only saw those actions as disrespect.
Mrs. Johnson became bitter as result. She felt “naked” because of the feeling that her husband couldn’t be vulnerable to her as she was to him.
On the other hand, Mr. Johnson felt rattled and was wondering why she delighted herself in digging up what happened in the past, details of which he claimed he could remember all.
Bitterness crept into their marriage and alongside brought its cousins which even added to the damage.
Heb 12:15 (AMPC) Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it—
Take note of the following: Why You Can’t Tolerate Bitterness
Watch out for one another. Be interested in yourselves and love yourselves deeply
Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another]…
God’s grace, which entails favour and blessing can be lost or can fail
…to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing),
3. Bitterness, also referred to as rancour or hatred is a root! Roots are not seen! But the fruits of chaos confusion, losses, bitter torment, and troubles will shoot up if allowed!
…in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment,
4. It defiles many other people including children, families, and sometimes friends!
…and the many become contaminated and defiled by it
Conclusion: Why You Can’t Tolerate Bitterness
Bitterness is not worth it. Don’t allow it in your relationship or marriage. Forgive quickly, love one another, and don’t give the devil a legal ground to afflict you!
Three Ways To Change Your Lover And Spouse. Mr. And Mrs. Johnson have long embarked on an endless journey of changing themselves, as they both believed they were each other’s problems. They also believed that if they were able to change their spouse, then their marriage would become heaven on earth. However, their attempt to change each other was the least feeble, and they constantly met a brick wall that stood like the rock of Gibraltar. Their missions failed woefully! How would they change themselves?
It has been said that you cannot change your spouse! And that is very true. Only God can change anybody. But wait, there are things you can deploy and activate to effect a lasting change in your spouse. Ultimately, it is God that will do the job, but there is a man-ward side to be deployed to enter into that economy of God where true change happens.
I want to quickly show you three such things you can do when you have a difficult spouse or an uncooperative spouse. The kind of change you want can be anything ranging from, “I want my spouse to be romantic” to “My spouse is an unbeliever”
If you are still single, and your lover is an unbeliever, there is no need to pray for any change. Just leave because God’s word is extremely clear on that!
What are the Three Ways To Change Your Lover And Spouse?
Through Your Words
Eph 5:26 (KJV) That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Speak the right words in your relationships and marriage. Keep saying what you want to see and not what is happening. I am not asking you to endorse or endure something wrong, I am saying, rather than sulk, think, get moody, or depressed, open your mouth and declare and activate God’s counsel by the spoken word.
Three Ways To Change Your Lover And Spouse
2. Through Prayers
Jas 5:17-18 (MSG) [17] Elijah, for instance, human just like us, prayed hard that it wouldn’t rain, and it didn’t—not a drop for three and a half years. [18] Then he prayed that it would rain, and it did. The showers came and everything started growing again.
Prayers can do the impossible. Deploy the power of prayers rather than slide into depression. Enter into the realm of God where you can touch the heavens and birth something supernatural in your relationship and marriage!
Three Ways To Change Your Lover And Spouse
3. Through Praise
Psa 149:6 (KJV) Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a twoedged sword in their hand;
High praise in your mouth equals a two-edged sword in your hands. Use it effectively and constantly and you will see God’s power in your life and marriage.
The Child In Your Lover and Spouse. It was first an intense attraction, then it became an unending attrition of the same attraction. The Johnsons loved each other so much, and yes it was evident. However, after the wedding, a lot of hidden issues surfaced and they didn’t seem to know how to handle them.
The stubborn posture of the couple added to their issues. Mrs. Johnson believed her husband did not love her, again! Mr. Johnson believed that his wife no longer respected her. Her disrespectful cycle seems so incessant and makes it impossible to love her, so he said!
She said, “I can’t respect you because you don’t love me.” He said I can’t love you because you don’t respect me. It became a vicious cycle, and they landed on an endless rope of frequent quarrels over their posture.
First, they forgot they are to love one another unconditionally, but they had unwittingly attached conditions.
Secondly, they brought their items of baggage and hard-lined opinions from their past into their marriage and they were unwilling to unlearn to learn!
In the story we have been looking at concerning the boy that Jesus healed of dumbness and deafness, I want you to take note of something. Jesus asked the father of the boy that was healed a very important question and I want you to see his response.
Mar 9:21 (KJV) And he asked his father, How long is it ago since this came unto him? And he said, OF A CHILD.
The Child In Your Lover and Spouse
His affliction, or his inability to speak started when he was a little child.
Dear husband and wife, most of the issues you are dealing with in marriage now have been there since your spouse was a child.
Dear single in courtship, you are not only engaged to that guy or lady, there is a little boy and little girl in everybody!
Marriage then becomes a place of patience, a place of prayers, a place of adapting, and a place of continual forgiveness.
Your spouses’ attitudes, opinions, way of life, dispositions, and many more have been there since childhood.
You may be unable to change them overnight.
Patiently and lovingly humble yourselves and work together. God knows that when you lovingly come together in agreement, you will overcome any issues.
Take note of these three things in dealing with The Child In Your Lover and Spouse
